06-26-2009, 09:27 AM
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marriage & all
Dear God,
Please remove the ex-girlfrnd from my marriage. Please remove my husbands desire to be around her and to talk to her on the phone all the time. I pray she moves on and goes on with her life. Please send your Holy Spirit to intervene and convict my husbands heart of his emotional cheating. Please convict her heart of her trying to destroy my marriage for her personal gain(my husband). I pray that everytime they see or talk to each other that there is an uneasiness. I pray that the Holy Spirit convicts them so they can't be around each other. Please take any hatred, resentment, anger, jealousy out of my heart for her. I am never divorcing my husband and I do not want either one of them to be out of Gods will. Mark 10:9 What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate. Malachi 2:16 For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her,[1] says the Lord, the God of Israel, covers[2] his garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. Ephesians 6:12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. I ask you to remove this evil that is using my husbands sons mother and have her move on with her life. I pray for her. They are playing a very dangerous game. God please continue to touch my sons heart. I see your work in him and I am encouraged. I just pray my husband listens to you. I am waiting for all of these things to be restored and renewed to the fullest extent because you do not do things halfway. You do things perfectly and wonderfully. Ephesians 3:20 Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, So I am waiting on you God direct my steps and open my eyes to what you need me to do or see. 
    
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06-26-2009, 10:18 AM
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Your Will Be Done Lord
Father God, Lord Almighty...I thank you Father that this couple is a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a chosen people of your own possession who will show forth your excellencies as you draw them out of darkness into your marvelous light. Lord..I pray you will enlighten and enable this husband by the power of your Holy Spirit in all spiritual wisdom, knowledge and understanding regarding this issue in his marriage and any other issue in his life. Lead him in your ways Lord. I thank you that your sheep hear your voice and you lead them out out! Father we praise you for all you are doing in the life of this wayward husband and all wayward husbands around the world. We thank you that you are an ever present help in times of trouble. We thank you that you will come with vengeance with terribel recompense to save this praying wife from the schemes of the devil who is using this other woman to cause harm to this marriage. Lord, we thank you that the blind eyes of her husband shall be opened and the ears of the deaf unstopped then the lame shall leap like a deer, and the tongue of the speechless sing for you. For waters shall break forth in the wilderness, and streams in the desert. Lord, I pray you will give this woman the courage to zip her lip where this is concerned and minister and support her husband. I pray she will allow your Holy Spirit to be her Defender...her Deliverer...her All in All. Lord, I thank you that those who trust in you will not be put to shame..In the precious and glorious name of your son Jesus Christ.. May your spirit come down like rain..come down like fire..cleanse them and burn away all that is not of you. We love you and give you all the honor, praise, and glory.
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06-26-2009, 11:40 AM
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Father God, convict this man from this unsavory thoughts he has around this woman dear Lord. Convict this woman from these unholy acts of adultery that she has been proposing towards this married man. Bind and remove these spirits of covets dear Lord. Bind and remove these unholy, unsavory acts that is surrounding this couple dear Lord with the precious blood of JESUS, bring this man back to his wife and have eyes only for his wife. In JESUS' name I claim this petitions in the mighty blood of JESUS. Amen,Amen,Amen... Peace be unto you all.
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In 2010 we're going to WIN in blessed abundance!!!!
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06-26-2009, 02:54 PM
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Christ the King,
Please stretch Your hand in this marriage, and into the life of this beloved husband, and let it be as his beloved wife has prayed. Amen
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O Du Schöpfer des Himmels und der Erde, verbirg Dein Angesicht nicht vor Deinen Knechten, erwecke Deine Kraft und komme uns zu Hilfe. Laß leuchten Dein Antlitz über uns!
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06-27-2009, 10:31 AM
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Dear Blblair,
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Edited.... Dear Lord, You have a beter knowledge of anything than I do. Let Your mercy fall upon me as well. All hope is in You for the regeneration and restoration of this family, according to Your will and goodness. Thank You for continue to guide blbblair through all things and strengthening her in her hour of need. Amen. I Live for This 
Last edited by I Live for This; 06-30-2009 at 06:36 AM.
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06-29-2009, 08:19 AM
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Maybe in my posts I did not explain very well. There is only 1 other woman. She is my husbands sons mother. I say she is the exgirlfriend because they were never married. My husband does pay towards the bills. The reason we are behind is because he was trying to pay both, some of hers and ours. I believe the reason he has not stopped talking to her is because they have been friends since grade school (over 40 yrs). My husband has never been able to completely stop talking to her. I guess my problem is I give too much detail in my postings. I know God is
working in this marriage. I just don't know why his son's mother will not move on. He's even told her in a nice way that they will never be together. She has been in other relationships with married men. She is very persistent. Only cares about herself. This does not excuse my husband's actions. I think he needs to continue going to therapy as I am doing also. I believe we need a fresh new start. Thank you for your comments.
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06-30-2009, 06:32 AM
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Hi Blblair,
I have to apologize, for posting my opinions when really it isnt my place. I knew better .... I think I pretty much projected because of the problems I have been having or had. Please accept my apology. I have lived with an addict for 12 years. Sometimes off sometimes on, and I am a recovery alcoholic. I see my own part of this as being unwilling to kick him out for different reasons, as he has had some benefit to the family in different areas, and still has some normal function. I see how this has affected me, and how trapped I have been by his behavior (And others and fallout from it all) as I have continued to be the responsible person in the relationship. Change has not occured in years, and as I am now attempting once again to make some headway, for my sanity, I dumped these thoughts and feelings into the post I sent to you, as all is very next to me in my situations right now. I Live for This
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06-30-2009, 12:03 PM
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Not a problem. I understand. My husband was sober for 16 yrs and then he started drinking sept 08. He is 3 months sober now. Sept 08 is when everything started happening or maybe a few months earlier. I am a recovering alcoholic too. I haven't drank since sept 1989. I go to AA & Alanon. Also I just started to see a therapist. I am also an adult child of alcoholic. Alcoholism & Drugs run in my family even though 90% are in recovery now. I accept your apology and as I said I can understand what you are going through. It's some comfort to know you are not alone. I will pray for you as you have prayed for me. Thank you.
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07-01-2009, 08:01 AM
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No matter how difficult things have been, God has always covered every aspect of my life. My husband knows what he can do to be clean and sober, (as we were both involved in recovery when we married) he chooses not to, as I choose to remain involved in my recovery regardless of what he does. This has always been a benefit to me, my children and others I come in contact with in life. I honestly pray for Gods will in his life, nothing else. If the Lord wishes to restore this marriage, He knows how He intends to do that as at this time I have no desire for restoration, only separation and peace. When someone does not show love toward me in action, but says it with their mouth, I lose all respect for them, and its like them telling me, "I think you are pretty stupid to be buying what I say when the evidence shows something quite opposite" Everyone has their level of tolerance. I have merely went beyond reaching mine. I can feel for him from a human standpoint. I am hoping for him that he will decide to change, I just do not rely on this happening. Everyone has choices to make, God does offer this freedom. I can only count on the Lord and myself to care about what happens to me. My attempts to separate have backfired in the past. I dont pray for restoration of our marriage, I dont ask for prayer for my husband here. Since about 6 or maybe it is 7 years ago, I have asked God to "make things right" I would like nothing better than to be free from any contact with his behaviors. That is now my goal. God knows my heart, and He knows His plan for my deliverance and His will. I, on the other hand, am not quite sure I know what God has in mind at this point...  Thanks for letting me share, I Live for This
Last edited by I Live for This; 07-02-2009 at 07:48 AM.
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07-02-2009, 07:56 AM
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reply to "I live for this"
As I am learning more about the disease of addiction, it is evident that we all have the same traits. When you said your husband tells you he loves you but his actions show otherwise, is typical of an addict. In his heart he does love you but with an addict there is only one #1 and that is the addict themself. I believe that Satan is the author of addiction because it destroys lives, families and anyone or anything that comes in contact. I believe it is more than a moral issue. You have to figure if you grew up in an alcoholic or addicted home you learned behaviors. Even if you are not using any substance those behaviors and characteristics are part of your being. Doesn’t mean we can’t change them but it takes alot of time and unlearning to become healthy. The most important thing is we have to want to change. As far as the things you have done to be his helpmeet being wasted, God will honor those things because of your obedience to him(God) and your heart. You are Blessed. You are right about God being the only one who truly loves us. I know God is the only one who loves me unconditionally. I try to love my husband unconditionally, it’s a choice not a feeling, because I get very angry with his decisions. One thing I do know is God is in control. He knows the beginning and the end of everything. He has our best interest at hand. As far as your husband going out of the way to help someone outside the family instead of his own family, that is his way of trying to feel better about his using. He knows that his family knows he is using and the shame and guilt he feels keeps him from getting sober. I believe that your praying for Gods will in his life is exactly what you should be praying. That shows that you are giving him, your marriage and everything to God. I am going to pray that your husband has roadblocks put infront of him so that he can only turn to God. With addicts, especially those who have had some time in recovery and then go back out, it seems like we have to have that gift of desperation. We are very clever people and if there is a way to bail out without being sober we find it. We practice that insanity of doing it our way, it always has to be our will. I pray that the Holy Spirit keeps on your husband until he throws up his hands and says God I am sorry and I need you. Being on the outside looking in I see your husbands actions as typical addict behavior. I know its hard not to take them personal. I also get help by going to Alanon. I go to AA too because its been almost 20 yrs since I drank and I believe God removed the desire but my husband is an example of how not taking care of what we need to, such as by going to meetings, staying connected , working on ourselves and constant vigilance. He had 16 yrs and the last 12 he stopped working the program. I believe God put these programs in place to help us. Alanon led me back to the Lord. God can heal hearts & families. God knows what he is doing. Thank you for sharing your story with me. I will continue to pray for you & your family.
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07-03-2009, 08:16 AM
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Please understand, there are more problems in the relationship than the obvious using addiction. I maintain that if a person will not see the wrongs they have commited toward others, with a repentant heart that moves toward change, regardless of the evidence placed in front of them, there is a greater spiritual bancrupcy. The Lord gives us all a lot of time to change our ways and return to him. He does, however, allow us to feel the pain of our sins in order that we might return to him. In this case there has been no deficiency of grace. For me and the Lord, the grace period is over. The Lord has given me the impression that there can be no delay. If I delay, it will fall on my side of the fence, and there will be no excuse when I cry out to God how myself or my children are hurt by something my husband chose to do. This is a spiritual battle, and I do understand the disease of addiction. (I attended school to become a drug and alcohol counselor) Ironic huh? I am not fighting against my husband, (flesh and blood) I am fighting against the darkness that is currently camping out and/or surrounding his heart, that wishes to also consume me and the kids. I just pray to have the courage, strength in the Lord, clear path, ability, and wisdom to make a serious change myself, that perhaps we all might be set free. Blessings to you, I Live for This Last edited by I Live for This; 07-04-2009 at 07:57 AM.
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07-06-2009, 07:28 AM
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I will pray that God will reveal and make a way for you & your children. He is always faithful. His word is truth. Only he knows what the future may bring. We ought to trust in him fully. I am sorry that your husband has not turned to the Lord. Whatever God has told you to do I know you will find the courage to do it. God bless you.
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