Desparate For Your Prayers

[jpv]

Hello.
My marriage, and consequently, my life is in a shambles. My wife Brenda has all of a sudden decided that divorce is the best answer. Most of the time we get along great and there are no problems. But once in a while we argue and she has decided that the arguing is not worth the marriage. I agree. But the difference is that I have gone to get help with my temper and now refuse to argue with her. This seems to anger her even more. I admit, I can be verbally very caustic, and am taking steps to change that. I am afraid that it is too little too late for Brenda. I deeply love her and would be crushed by a divorce.

We are now living apart to "give her space" and I am praying that it works and we will be back together.

I am asking for prayers to help Brenda recognize the change in me, for me to be a better person, and that our marriage will remain intact and be even stronger.

Through Jesus Christ Our Lord. Amen

[Christian Commando]

Lord-

We pray for this marriage to be restored, with both partners getting all required help needed to change thier countenance and interactions, back to thier original love and compassion for each other, along with focus on living only for you Lord. In Jesus Name-Amen!!

[righteousweed]

Father I come against the Spirit of divorce that is running rampant in this nation and around the world. The enemy and his last ditch efforts to kill steal and destroy the most sacred of vows. I bind up the hurt feelings and the wrong thinking that is captivating her thoughts and emotions in the name of Jesus. I speak peace and healing to overcome her. Restore, restore, restore, in Jesus name, RESTORE Father, for Your glory, for we know You hate divorce and though our laws allow for it Father, Yours do not. We stand against this divorce in Jesus name and we declare it shall not be as she is stating, You still sit upon the throne and You still reign and rule, who can stand against you? who can set their hearts against Your will? NOne! And in Jesus name we claim the victory in this marriage and the full restoration of their hearts to You. Amen

[JeriRose12]

Actually, many can and do set their hearts against God's will. We see it constantly right on this prayer board with people praying that what they want will be done...not what God wants. Lucifer set his will against God and was thrown out of Heaven. Adam and Eve had the perfect Father, yet they set their will against God's and rebelled. So, we have to be careful how we think. If this marriage ends, God is still God and he is still on the throne. God can restore this marriage, but if this wife is unbelieving and walks away...he can also heal this man and make him totally whole. I am not in favor of this marriage ending. God hates divorce. Still, even though God hates divorce, man has to make their own choices.

He says his marriage is in a shambles, thus his LIFE is in a shambles. This is not what God would want. If we have God we have everything we need...and if we lose our mate...we are not supposed to be in a shambles. This is not what God would want. This is saying our mate can keep us from being in a shambles but God can not. Our mate and marriage has become our god if this is the case.

I pray with you that the spirit of divorce is bound; it should not be in the church...but unless this woman is willing to rise up against it and reject it, it does not necessarily follow that a divorce won't occur. It gets back to free will. She chose freely to marry him. She can chose freely to leave. God will not force her to stay. And he can chose freely to focus on God and not his mate in order for his life to be successful.

My prayers are for the healing of this marriage, through God convicting by His Holy Spirit both members to do all that is right in order to save the marriage. But both, regardless of anything else they do, MUST put God first, always. I pray they love the Lord their God with all their heart, soul, mind and strength...for then they can love their neighbor (each other) as themselves.

[bond007]

Lord Jesus,

Heal this marriage. Please bring peace and resolve to their problems. I beg you Lord do not permit that they end their relationship like this. All things are possible with you Dear Jesus . Please make all things better in their lives. Jesus your word says ....... " Faith, Hope and Love and the greatest of these is Love". Bless them both, In your most powerful name I pray Lord Jesus Christ Amen. --- Jim

* Pray, Hope, and Don't Worry --- St. Padre Pio

[Christian Commando]

Well, let us all remember, God does allow for divorce, therefore, we cannot ask for God to remove it completely from the church. But, we must keep this in context to God further as well.

Divorce, for God, is allowable to an offended mate, of a couple where the other had strayed and committed adultery. Otherwise, should a couple divorce for other reasons outside of this, God still declares they are still married in His eyes. Why?

God tells us, if a couple, where both spouces are True children of His, should divorce, it can only be as mentioned above, otherwise, if they divorce for other reasons, neither one is free to remarry. For if they do, now that one to remarry, has committed adultery against thier original mate.

This tells us right out, God still sees that "ex couple" as still being married in His eyes. Otherwise, remarrying would not constitute "adultery."

Now, if a couple are married who are "unequally yoked"- (saved/unsaved), then the unsaved one, if should wish to end the marriage, can leave freely and the saved partner is free once more to remarry. Why is this now?

Because, God is against His Children- (saved), marrying and unbeliever- (unsaved) partner. Even tho the unsaved partner is covered under the blood of christ while married to the Believer, if should want to leave it, they can freely, leaving God's True Child, now free to marry who God really wants them to- (another saved partner).

People have asked about Old Test. followers of God marrying partner's outside of thier group. Yes, quite true. But... if read closely, you'd find, those partner's outside of them, were actually believers in God, even tho were not Jewish- (God's First chosen), thus were pagans. so, God did allow for such marriages because of this. This is why in the New Test., an unbeliever can be covered then too, by the blood of Christ, so long as married to a Believer.

But regardless, only God knows, if He can reach the heart of a mate whose chosen to leave a marriage, because Satan has already influenced them by troubles/worldly attractions happened, to leave it to start with. And as such, there is no assurity, both partners here are saved and reborn either.

another situation is, where is thier main focus, on God or each other for thier joy/happiness? If looking only to each other alone for this, its no wonder the marriage failed. If looking to God thru Christ and by the Holy Spirit for that fulfillment, it would've held together and lasted.

God shows and tells us, we are all equally born in sin and falable. So, if we look to another in that same shape, to fulfill something that goes far beyond what we can deliver, we and our attempts, fail. but... if we seek God, who is perfect, all knowing and all powerful for this, He can fulfill what no falable person can.

As such, He can open up a joy and happiness we can find in a mate, we can only see ourselves thru temporary excitement to start with, but are let down later by seeing failings in them. those "shortcomings", are now overlooked, when the Holy Spirit is viewing our mate thru us and we are receptive to His view of them. As such, what God sees as being the best in a mate for us, is also seen by us, because we see what the Holy Spirit sees in them. Thats how it should be.

When God brings two people together for marriage, they are a Blessing of God to the other. What was seen that attracted the two together by God at the start- (first love), should always be kept in the forefront, of keeping a marriage relationship between partners strong. the other part, is always keeping God as thier focus to follow, seek and let guide them in all things. thats why God speaks so often about "returning to our first love".

BTW- the "two parts" I mentioned- 1- what first attracted us to a mate. And 2- Keeping God first as well, both make up the "First Love". This refers to repentance and forgiveness. Why? because, both partners must realize they each are falable and have failings. thus are no better or worse than the other.

2nd- Forgiveness- This comes from recognizing the first point, that we will stay meek and forgiving, allowing for shortcomings," thus mistakes in our mates.

I pray this helps.

God Bless!!