Fighting for the restoration of my Marriage too!

[omega1]

Hello Brothers and Sisters
I have not posted here in the last few weeks. But i came across this website again. It is wonderful to see the marriages being restored ,miraculously. I also need have a need for restoration in my marriage. I have been fighting for it to be restored for over 7 months. My wife Maria and I have been married 15 years. Due to hurt I caused her during our time together, she now alleges that is when she bacame unfaithful. Overall she was a good wife, and good mother, but she has been very unfaithful. I have repented and asked God and her for forgiveness. I still love her and earnestly desire to see my wife and marriage restored. But not like it was before but a much better marriage. New in every aspect. We have three girls. Two of them are with her and our oldest is with me. It seems to me, that several of the people here, have a gift of marriage restoration. I just read what happened to Johnsonbyfaith and am amazed at what God did and is doing in her marriage. And also at carchris7 and how the Lord answered her prayers also. I humbly ask all prayer warriors to please agree with me on my marriage to be miraculously being restored. It has been such a stressful time in my life ansd also my daughters, i know my wife is also suffering. Brothers and sisters please dont pass judgement on my marriage. I do not want to divorce, neither do my daughters. He restored Hoseas marriage and she had been very unfaithful. I ask that you pray that God would speak to her tonight in a dream and touch her heart of stone and give her a heart of flesh for God then for me, and then for our girls. That the blinders come off of her and she be repulsed with the persons she has commited adultery. May all ties be severed and the work of the enemy be frustated and destroyed in Jesus name. That she get faith and courage to move out where she is at and call me, repented and desiring to fervently reconcile. I dont know exactly how to pray any more. But if you are of the prayer warriors that prayed for the other marriages please pray for mine, I humbly ask you in Jesus name. May God grant me my request today.
Sincerely Manuel Maria And our three girls.

[Beverlyjoy]

Dear Heavenly Father, I pray for this couple in the name of Jesus.
I ask that you would restore this marriage and bind the enemy of unfaithfulness and adultery.
give them both the real sincerity of repentance and a willingness to really forgive each other and not to pass judgment regarding that which was done in the past.
Strengthen them to come together to seek counciling for the marriage to healed and to become stronger for the future..
Not only for them but for the sake of their children.
Give omega1 the patience to wait on You for repairing this marriage.
Give his wife the will and the desire to leave the situation that she is in, not only for herself; but for her marriage and her children.
I pray in faith and agreement with all other prayers, that this marriage will be restored and renew.

The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit: a broken and contrite heart, O God, thou wilt not despise . Psalm 51:17

Be blesses of the Lord. beverlyjoy aka grandma bunny

[christythompson]

I am so sorry for your pain.
I do not think there is such a thing as the gift of marriage restoration.
Please know that the Lord gives all of us, the freedom to choose
God hears our prayers and when they are in line with his will
He moves upon peoples hearts, but he does not make them
operate as puppets, so its still up to the person to choose.
Lets pray for her salvation that she might put away sin, repent
and have eternal life.

As Jesus is the center of your marriage, you will draw closer together
Look at these lines and picture Jesus at the top /\ or ^
the closer you are to Jesus, the closer you are together
The first step is giving your lives to the lord.
He is the rock you stand on when temptation comes.
This is temptation of many forms not just infidelity, but anger etc...
Please know, no matter what she chooses, God still has a plan
for your life if you would have him.

Jesus
I pray that you open the heart of this wife and this husband
to make you Lord of their lives
God touch this woman to see the emptiness of her life
I pray she repent and put away all adultery and infidelities
remove the comfort she has with this lifestyle
God touch her heart to seek your will in her life
Touch her to realize without you she has nothing
and she will not have eternal life.
Let this husband show her love and speak words of life to her
without condemnation or guilt
May he reflect the love of Jesus to her
I pray he get into a good bible based spirit filled church
(Assembly Of God) is in the phone book
where he can find his footing and be obedient to the Lord
May he be an example for his children raising them in faith and church
I pray that he has the patience for your timing.
Give this woman ears to hear and eyes to see
Let forgiveness fill their hearts
I pray for the restoration of this marriage
Please let her hear the call on her life
for Salvation and for her marriage
In Jesus name

[JeriRose12]

Regardless of the outcome, we have to trust God.

No matter what is going on, there is one area more important than your marriage: YOU, personally, becoming WHOLE in the Lord.

Two WHOLE people make a WHOLE marriage...so make it your goal to work on becoming WHOLE in Christ.

How do you become WHOLE in Christ? Press into Him and seek Him with all your heart, soul, mind and strength.

DO NOT seek marriage restoration with all your heart, soul, mind and strength.

Only if you love God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength, can you love your neighbor (wife and children) as yourself.

Do not give your marriage/wife the place that belongs to God. He alone, deserves and should get ALL your devotion and attention.

Do not try to "fix" your marriage. Leave it alone. Leave her alone. Leave her to God's dealings.

Dear Lord, I pray that You will convict this wife and this husband...so that they will love YOU with all their heart, soul, mind and strength...and, thus, love their neighbor (each other and children) as themselves. Bring them, first, to healing and restoration in relationship with You. I pray they put YOU first in ALL things. I pray they let go of everything they are trying to "fix" or of the relationship they think can bring them happiness and will turn all of these things over into Your hands. I pray that she comes out of this relationship, knowing it can not bring her happiness or satisfy her...that only loving and obeying God can bring true, lasting happiness. Show this couple what they must do to get their marriage back. I pray this husband will let it go...say, "God, I take my hands off; I quit trying to 'fix' it. I look to You and focus on You, instead of looking to my marriage and how to 'fix' it and looking to my wife and how to 'fix' her." Father, only You can bring the personal restoration and healing each of these two need with You. And only after they allow You to fix them can their marriage ever have a hope of working. So, I pray that they will come to You as individuals for the healing and restoration in and to You that is needed. Heal their hurts and hearts and show them how to put their relationship back together, based on a rock solid relationship with You. May YOU be the center of their lives...and not relationships. May they not look to humans for their fulfillment and satisfaction (including each other) but look only to YOU to be all that they need. I ask and pray, in Jesus Name, amen.

[omega1]

Thank you all for praying. I hear what you are saying but there are too many details involved for me to get to specifics. Yes sister I do love God. I am born again. My request was simply a prayer of agreement. Mathew 18:19. Does he not also say in His word Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart? Should I just give up and not fight at all? Does He not say fight the good fight of faith? All I ask brothers and sisters that you to use your faith for someone in need. Believe God for the impossible. Do you know how difficult it is not to have your spouse with you or not have your children by your side day after day? Do you know the pain and suffering someone goes through, day after day night after night? Is our God our not the God of the impossible? Should we not believe God and His word? Is not the kings heart in the hand of God? I thank you for praying, but I thought this was a forum for prayer for restoration of marriage. Does not our God hate divorce? Is He done with miracles? God can reveal Himself, to anyone in dream, vision or otherwise.
I humbly ask for the Prayer of Faith for the restoration of my wife Maria and reconciliation of my marriage. Mathew 18:19. That God would speak to my wife today,tonight. Please brothers and sisters. This is one more soul that needs salvation.
If the Lord came tonight and my wife is still in adultery would she go with Jesus?

[omega1]

Thank you for praying and agreeing.

[christythompson]

Jesus
Open the lines of communication to flow freely
Mend what is broken in this relationship
Open this woman to accept jesus
In the name of Jesus

[FriendOfGod]

O dear Lord, I ask that You would intervene divinely to reconcile and restore this marriage. Please do most graciously soften Maria's heart. Please by no means allow the enemy tear this marriage apart! Please grant this repenant husband the desires of his heart. I ask of You in Jesus mighty name I pray, Amen.

[christythompson]

Do not be discouraged
Of course you want to fix your marriage
What is meant is that the Lord must do the work in her.
Reach out to her, minister to her and show her love
Be firm in your convictions to not tolerate ongoing sin though.
Yet be a witness of Jesus to her
Many times when people have lost a loved one
They only turn to God to plead for the person to come back
So they never take their eyes off of the person gone
to put them on the Lord
God works best when you give him your faith
and that's where taking your eyes off your spouse comes in
I can not look up to God and at you in the same time.
Its one or the other.
I think when someone is in full blown sin, its hard to keep faith when you
see all the attitude, and lack of consideration.
You sink like Peter did when he looked down, so better to look up^
The goal is still the same and that's for restoration
and yes a miracle....
Part of that is the miracle of faith to trust and let go

Jesus
Give this man courage and faith
Be his comfort during trying and rough times
I ask for this wife and this marriage
I pray for salvation and the hope within it
Return his bride as a clean woman
repentant and radiant

[JeriRose12]

But, my friend, the restoration of marriages only happens when people are restored to God. You are an individual before you are part of a couple. And you must focus on the individual relationship with God. That is the only one you can work on -- your own relationship with God. With your eyes so focused on your wife and children, you are not wholley focused on God...and God wants your undevided attention. And, then, when your wife returns, you will be the best you there is to be a Godly husband to her.

Another point and just a truth of life that you must accept: You can not change your wife. You can not fix her. Only GOD can, if she is willing to be fixed. This is why we say to let go and take your hands off. By trying to fix her and your marriage, you will only make matters worse. You will get in God's way, and He will not be free to perform the miracle.

Pray the hounds of Heaven upon her, but don't preach at her, lecture at her, beg her to repent or come back or any of that. You will just push her further away. You are not the Holy Spirit. Back up and let HIM do the work that needs done. That's why I say leave her to God's dealings.

When the man comes together, his marriage comes together. You must become whole in God, by focusing on God and letting Him heal you. Same for the woman, so pray that she comes together in God and gets healed and whole. The point is that WHOLE people make WHOLE marriages. And, obviously, she is not whole if she thinks she need this side relationship to somehow satisfy her.

Don't suggest that we are heartless. Some of us have suffered the pain of divorce or seen family members suffer the agony of it. You have no idea the dark night of our souls in dealing with it...and how we have prayed and prayed over some marriages and people for them and the marriage to be restored. I have seen first hand the devistation and how it puts people into depression. I know the pain it causes (though not personally gone through it, as I've never been married).

And how is this not praying for restoration of your marriage?:

Dear Lord, I pray that You will convict this wife and this husband...so that they will love YOU with all their heart, soul, mind and strength...and, thus, love their neighbor (each other and children) as themselves. Bring them, first, to healing and restoration in relationship with You. I pray they put YOU first in ALL things. I pray they let go of everything they are trying to "fix" or of the relationship they think can bring them happiness and will turn all of these things over into Your hands. I pray that she comes out of this relationship, knowing it can not bring her happiness or satisfy her...that only loving and obeying God can bring true, lasting happiness. Show this couple what they must do to get their marriage back. I pray this husband will let it go...say, "God, I take my hands off; I quit trying to 'fix' it. I look to You and focus on You, instead of looking to my marriage and how to 'fix' it and looking to my wife and how to 'fix' her." Father, only You can bring the personal restoration and healing each of these two need with You. And only after they allow You to fix them can their marriage ever have a hope of working. So, I pray that they will come to You as individuals for the healing and restoration in and to You that is needed. Heal their hurts and hearts and show them how to put their relationship back together, based on a rock solid relationship with You. May YOU be the center of their lives...and not relationships. May they not look to humans for their fulfillment and satisfaction (including each other) but look only to YOU to be all that they need. I ask and pray, in Jesus Name, amen.


With sincere love in Christ,

JeriRose

[omega1]

Brothers and Sisters,
Thank you praying. But this is just of concern. I believe all those coming to the marriage reconciliation thread come for more than just to have a marriage reconciled. We come for help, words of encouragment and agreement. I dont know if I speak for all. I guess what really hurts is that in order for someone to pray and agree we need to hear a sermon, before some will pray for us.
I liken marriage problems, to physical pain. If you were in deep agonizing pain, headache, toothache,bodyache or any other excuriating pain. When would you want your pain removed? Today? Tomorrow? 1 week? 1 month? Six months? Years? How about if someone told you that God would not take away your excruciating pain? Ever. And that you would have to live the rest of your life with that pain. Could any of us really agree with such a prayer? Who could bear it?
All i was asking was for prayer of agreement. And yes for much more than that. For a truly healing on both/all parts and for the true reconciliation with our Creator for in Him we are complete.( I mentioned I did not know how to pray anymore) So that the problems that were there,in at least my marriage, are not there any more. I, in my part, cannot fix anything. Thats why I cam to a prayer website so that we could pray about these matters. Pray and pray to God our Father for help in these dark times. So that He and only He would intervene in our lives and marriages, for my children and my childrens children for generations to come. ( If he Lord does not return).
How about if before anybody prayed for you were given a sermon as to why this or that about your pain and suffering? Would any of us really want to wait to a hear a rebuke of sort, before we were prayed for. Lets say this attack on your physical body was a direct attack from the devil. Wanting to use pain to destroy your life. In which in many cases it is.
We are, or at least me, came here also in deep excruciating pain but of the heart, soul, mind and even body. Then when you see your children suffer also, even more. My wife in my case has been in adultery for the past several months, years. My three girls are seeing what she is doing. And it is very, very painful, excruciating. Only those who have gone through such a thing know what I am talking about. Full blown sin. In my case the details I will leave them to the Lord they. I have prayed that my wife leave these adulterous and perverse........ things, (to say the least) she has done and kept doing for the last few months, and repent before God. Just like I have, repent before God and asked Him for forgiveness.
I have made God the Lord of my life. God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit are first in my life.
When you are rejected by the wife(or husband) of your youth, with whom the marriage covenant was made before God, for a lifetime, it hurts very much.
I last liken my need to any other need. Lets say you needed $200 to buy food for your family. You also came for prayer. But before any body prayed for you, you were given a sermon as to why God might not want to give you the money to buy food for your family. That probably it was Gods will that He never give you, your wife or children food.
How could you possibly feel?
I humble myself before God and before you my brothers and sisters. I came here seeking neither riches nor gold. But according as it is written in Matthew 18:19 a prayer of agreement, for my life, wifes life and childrens lives. If I offend someone by my words it is not my intention. But the pain and suffering has been too great and too long.
In my situation, it has been a lengthy trial.

For those who read up to this point. I offer up my prayers to God, if you are going through a similar situation. I pray that He will reconcile you to Himself and at the same time reconcile you to your wife or husband and children at the same time. And the redemptive work of Jesus work in you and through you,(Isaiah 53:1-12) keeping you spotless till the return of Jesus, for both you, your spouse, your children and your childrens children. That is my sincere desire, prayer and supplication before God our Father. May Gods Holy Spirit perform a work as only He can.
Lastly, I implore to all who come here, to offer up prayers: fervently like children, before God our Father. Lets all pray and agree that each marriage be reconciled to God our Father and at the same time to each other. LETS JUST ALL HUMBLE OUR SELVES BEFORE GOD BELIEVING HE IS ABLE TO PERFORM MIRACLES IN MARRIAGES AND SEE WHAT HE WILL DO FOR HIS HONOR AND HIS GLORY. In Jesus Name and by His Precious Blood.
Thank you.

[Beverlyjoy]

Dear Omega1, I do understand how you feel. My son went through a Gomer situation. The end result she left him for a younger man and for a while it did affect my four grand daughters following the divorce. They were aware of the affair and saw things they should not have seen while he was away at work.
As a mother and grandmother I grieved also.
I don't know if your marriage will be resolved as I pray for you and your family.
But I assure you that in due time God heals and removes all pain.
Divorce hurtsand effects others but people make choices that we all don't agree with.
This occured 4-5 yrs ago.
The girls are doing well. Two have completed college and the youngest is a staight A student in high school.
My third grand daughter is dealing with the affairs of the world, but I have faith in God that He will help her to find herself.
The girls doing this time stayed with the maternal grandmother who was a strong person in their life.
Sometimes they stayed with their dad and sometimes with me.
He has a VERY good relationship with his dts.
It wasn't always this way but they had to deal with all of the negativities of divorce,
Don't lose faith and don't lose hope.
Keep your confidence in God who has good thoughts toward you and your girls.
His love for you is constant (even His love for your wife)
So you take a day at a time.
Give this entire matter to the Lord and know that we love you and we are praying for you.
Be a strong and praying Hosea.
It will be ok in the Masters time.
Be blessed, in Jesus name.

[JeriRose12]

Interesing, you should mention pain on our physical body: I do have pain on my body, ongoing for years. So do many others who post here....and we have prayed and prayed to be free and yet it lingers....If God told me I would have it for the rest of my life, YES, I could bear it. God would give me the grace.

And I might ask the couple who needed groceries if they are tithing....

The Bible is full of good counsel and wisdom and we need it just as much as prayer. Sometimes the counsel can be the answer to the thing we are praying. What if there is a secret in something we said that you apply and your prayer is answered? Would that not then produce the miracle you want us to pray for?

Sorry for giving another sermon...but prayer is dependant on truths of God's Word and that's why so much counsel ends up with the prayers.

My prayer for EVERY marriage is that the spirit of divorce is defeated and can not touch them, and this I will continue to pray.

JeriRose

[Cindy727]

Dear Heavenly Father, I pray that faith, hope and love be restored to this couple so that they do what is your plan and that they care for their children and lead their children to have faith in you Lord. Amen

[Beverlyjoy]

Originally Posted by Cindy727

Dear Heavenly Father, I pray that faith, hope and love be restored to this couple so that they do what is your plan and that they care for their children and lead their children to have faith in you Lord. Amen

Praying again in agreement, in the name of Jesus,