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Posted by: romfive8

hello,
my name is danny and i am only 16, but i feel an amazing connection with a girl. now i want to say though that i am not one to jump into things without praying. so i prayed and pray hard about this and my real request is, prayer for comfort in my time of confussion on God's will, to know God's will, and to those who have an unfailing love for another to please give me what you can. this is just what was on my mind and i hope that those out there who read this will respond
danny


Posted by: JG

Danny it is ineteresting you should bring this up today.
On the front page I had this article posted yesterday.

http://www.annointed.net/modules.ph...order=0&thold=0

Please read it:
Tell me what you think by posting a comment here or there on Posting comment


Posted by: robertcyders

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Originally posted by romfive8
hello,
my name is danny and i am only 16, but i feel an amazing connection with a girl. now i want to say though that i am not one to jump into things without praying. so i prayed and pray hard about this and my real request is, prayer for comfort in my time of confussion on God's will, to know God's will, and to those who have an unfailing love for another to please give me what you can. this is just what was on my mind and i hope that those out there who read this will respond
danny


Danny, my son turns 14 next month and he is not far behind you with this question himself his girl friend just turned 15 ( I led her to Jesus over a year ago). We are reading a book together called

Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello to Courtship
by Joshua Harris



This is a refreshing look at ralationships that are honoring to God and to one another.
He has other titles such as "I kissed dating goodbye" which we will also read together as well.

I am all for my son having a good friend that is a girl. We as parents have set some healthy boundaries for the two of them who have all the indications of "love" maybe infatuation. What we do not want to happen is for the relationship to get physical and light a fire for which has no destination at such a young age. We do not want either of them to get hurt should their hearts change for one another.

Danny, according to what I have read in your post I believe you want to do what it right, honorable, and loving to God. Love for someone else (a girl) can cloud the mind and your judgement. Is this person going to be your wife someday? I do not know. Could she be someone elses? This is possible as well.

Danny what I want most for you is that your love for God to be greater than the love you have for this your friend. I do not want you to get hurt as well. Ask God for wisdom in this relationship. Set for yourselves boundaries that you will not cross until the time comes when you are able to support her and place a wedding ring on her finger. Boundaries in the physical relationship need to be decided now before you find yourself in a compromisisng situation. I remember the first time just holding her hand (my wife). It was overwhelming. A kiss? You seek the Lord on this. Just natural progression will lead from one thing to the next in the physical relationship. A singer-songwriter once wrote that "you can't start a fire without a spark". A warm fire in a fireplace can bring warmth and comfort. Place that fire in the center of the room and it will be destructive. The physical relationship will bring warmth and comfort in the safety and confines of a marriage bond. Outside of marriage it will be destructive as well.

Spend time with this girl in a public setting. Avoid being together alone where any temptation would be easy to give way to. In a room alone? Keep the door open, trust me on this...Keep yourself for your wife someday... Someone else may come along even though this is probably furthest from your mind right now. Is this girl a believer, not just in word but in deed as well? Do not even go there. Her values need to be in line with the word of God just like your need to be. Is she led by the Holy Spirit?
Is the fruit of the spirit evident in her life?

Danny, you are loved and cherished by your Father in heaven. I only mean the best for you in this post.



Galatians 5: 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, 23 Meekness, temperance(self control): against such there is no law.

Your big brother in Christ, Robert Cyders...

The books by Joshua Harris available at you book store or Focus on the Family,
just click below for more info:
http://www.family*****/resources/itempg.cfm?itemid=2349


Posted by: JG

Being godly in a romantic relationship takes work. But it's not impossible. Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello to Courtship, encourages you to take the narrow path. Joshua Harris, best-selling author of I Kissed Dating Goodbye, is now married and writes from the wisdom of his own experience as well as the direction provided by God's Word.
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Robert this was a great suggestion:

Danny if you can not afford the books we will buy them for you.