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Posted by: garciadl2

I am asking for prayer for my project paper and presentation.
The other student that I have worked with has barely participated
Today instructor stated that if we present the 2nd part (this Friday) like the last part (last week) we will flunk.
She stated it was obvious that I had done most of the work and since this is a group project (only two of us) the work should be divided up equally.
I didn't go to the instructor because I didn't want to get my class mate in trouble. This class mate has been very hurtful and arguementative with me tellilng me that she knows more than me and that she has a brain and I don't because I am always asking for help from my teacher and that I do whatever she says. This is also a power point presentation and I worked over 8 hours just on the powerpoint. The other student worked 2 hours with me. I have not been expressing my anger appropriately because I just have been holding it in and eating. She is not a Christian so I am doing my best on the outside to be understanding, patient, and forgiving, but in the inside I am angry. I know Jesus wants me to learn how to express anger appropriately and I want to too. I also need wisdom on learning to resolve conflict and communicating with faculty so that I don't come across as gossiping. That is why I don't say anything because I don't want to make it seem like I am complaining or gossiping and part of me states I should be able to work this out on my own without teachers involvement with the knowledge that I have in the Lord. Please give feedback, your prayers are also wonderful ! Donna


Posted by: prayerbear

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Originally Posted by garciadl2
I am asking for prayer for my project paper and presentation.
The other student that I have worked with has barely participated
Today instructor stated that if we present the 2nd part (this Friday) like the last part (last week) we will flunk.
She stated it was obvious that I had done most of the work and since this is a group project (only two of us) the work should be divided up equally.
I didn't go to the instructor because I didn't want to get my class mate in trouble. This class mate has been very hurtful and arguementative with me tellilng me that she knows more than me and that she has a brain and I don't because I am always asking for help from my teacher and that I do whatever she says. This is also a power point presentation and I worked over 8 hours just on the powerpoint. The other student worked 2 hours with me. I have not been expressing my anger appropriately because I just have been holding it in and eating. She is not a Christian so I am doing my best on the outside to be understanding, patient, and forgiving, but in the inside I am angry. I know Jesus wants me to learn how to express anger appropriately and I want to too. I also need wisdom on learning to resolve conflict and communicating with faculty so that I don't come across as gossiping. That is why I don't say anything because I don't want to make it seem like I am complaining or gossiping and part of me states I should be able to work this out on my own without teachers involvement with the knowledge that I have in the Lord. Please give feedback, your prayers are also wonderful ! Donna



Dear Lord, please bring healing to Donna and show her what it is that you want her to learn and grant her YOUR gift of communication. She needs help with this project and is not recieving it Lord. She also needs to communicate with her teachers and is not sure how. Lord I know that you were speaking of witnessing when you said, "Think not what you will say before hand.....the words will be given to you...." approximately....
Lord in this case I ask you to bring your peace to Donna and help her to have the blessing of your holy spirit's presence when speaking with this partner and her instructors. For you say in your word that you care about EVERY aspect of our lives and it is said you wish to walk with us and talk with us through out our day so that we stay CONNECTED to the vine--to you through your holy spirit. So this is our request Lord. In Jesus. Amen

Dear Donna,
School is a preparation for the workforce=life.

1-If you were the boss/instructor here, would you feel good if one of your employees was having a serious problem and doing all the work while another employee did little?

2-How would you want that employee/student to approach you.

3-Would it help your work team to operate better if the employee kept her mouth shut and did not let you know of the problem.

4-Or would you want to be informed that there is a serious difficulty in the ranks that could cause you managerial problems later?

5-What about the other employee who is not doing her job?

6- Would you want to give the boss the opportunity to help this employee learn to be a better team player -- before it is too late and she looses her job.

In my opinion---if you look at it this way, you may see that your anger about this situation is very valid and you have an opportunity to make a difference. While you are a Christian and trying to be very patient...the next person may be very cruel. Even if this teacher lets this student slide [which you have no control over] will this student learn the most vital lesson that school has to offer--how to follow instructions, work as a team member, and hold down a good job.

The only thing you can control is what you choose to do. You cannot control how the teacher will react or how this student will react. But early detection of errors and early correction can save a lifetime of failure in the workforce.

As you said your attitude makes all the difference. You matter too, just as will everyone else on your team at work later. This is a training exercise for you as well. Let the Lord help you with his love and your time with him and let Your valid needs be known.

From my experience, the complaints most heard are spoken with a level head and concern for all --using "I" statements. For example: "I am concerned because I cannot do 8/10's of this project by myself." "I need your active participation." "I need help from you [instructor] to adjust this situation so that it can be successful, because I want to learn the information and do a quality job." "I also want to learn how to deal with a co-worker who is not doing their part." "Do you have any suggestions as to how 'I' can make the needed confrontation effective and helpful?" "Would you help me to speak with my team-mate on this project, because 'I' do not know how to get an effective response and help from her!"

Your tone will be most important. But if you remember that by doing this you will not only be helping yourself, you will be giving both your instructor/boss as well as the student/co-worker the opportunity to help themselves obtain a more favorable outcome for themselves both now and in the future.

sorry so wordy....God bless your every effort. Your heart is right. May the Lord annoint the situation and prepare both your instructor and your team-mate to hear and comprehend the value of what you have concerns about. In Jesus. Amen