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hello all, how do you find the right girl to marry,
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Posted by: hischild
what should i be praying in terms on finding the right mate.
and how does any one have any testimonys on restored couples or
on how god has , worked in messed up house holds and restored the familiys. thanks , heath
Posted by: JeriRose12
We are having a prayer vigil right now for healing and restoration of marriages (3 days, involving fasting). And, yes, we have a testimony of a restored marriage. It was Kristie--but not sure where that thread went. Her marriage was restored awesomeoly!!! You would need to read ther testimony (I will search for her thread).
In your situation, were you married in the past and now you want to know how to find the right mate? If you're interested in restoration of that marrige, see our pryer vigil thread and join our vigil:
http://www.annointed.net/Community/...40454#post40454
If you are single and just looking for the right person, I strongly urge you to use this guideline:
14Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? 15And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? 16And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you[2] are the temple of the living God.
(2 Corinthians 2:14 & 15)
Too many people on this site are trying to marry an unsaved person. Jesus MUST be #1 in your life, before you even start looking for a mate:
33But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. 34Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble. (Matthew 6: 33-34)
No-one engaged in warfare entangles himself with the affairs of this life, that he may please him who enlisted him as a soldier. (2 Timothy 2: 5)
4Delight yourself also in the LORD,
And He shall give you the desires of your heart. (Psalm 37:4)
24 Then Jesus said to His disciples, "If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow Me. 25For whoever desires to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it. 26For what profit is it to a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul? Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul? 27For the Son of Man will come in the glory of His Father with His angels, and then He will reward each according to his works. (Matthew 16:24-25)
Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth. (Colossians 3:2)
"Again, the kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field, which a man found and hid; and for joy over it he goes and sells all that he has and buys that field. (Matthew 13:44)
45 "Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant seeking beautiful pearls, 46who, when he had found one pearl of great price, went and sold all that he had and bought it. (Matthew 13:46)
34 When He had called the people to Himself, with His disciples also, He said to them, "Whoever desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow Me. 35For whoever desires to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake and the gospel's will save it. 36For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul? 37Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul? 38For whoever is ashamed of Me and My words in this adulterous and sinful generation, of him the Son of Man also will be ashamed when He comes in the glory of His Father with the holy angels." (Mark 8:38)
23 Then He said to them all, "If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily,[1] and follow Me. 24For whoever desires to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake will save it. 25For what profit is it to a man if he gains the whole world, and is himself destroyed or lost? 26For whoever is ashamed of Me and My words, of him the Son of Man will be ashamed when He comes in His own glory, and in His Father's, and of the holy angels. (Luke 9:23-26)
It is not about what we want; it is about what God wants. If you are doing your best to obey the above scriptures, God will bring you the right mate at the right time. It may not be in the time YOU want, but God knows best. The thing breaking my heart is, too few singles trust God to bring them the right mate--His choice. Instead, they pick a Christian who is nominal or a non-Christian. Then, they say "Will you pray he/she gets saved (or serious about the Lord)." What you need to understand is, God has someone BETTER for you than either of those. He will send you someone who loves God and hates sin. You don't have to accept or settle for second best. Hold out for God's best. You might be with that person and think you need them--but you don't. You need the one God wants you with. And a simple test to know if you should be with them is--do they love God as much as you do??? Only those truly passionate for Christ can have good marriages!!!
Think about this scripture:
25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30For we are members of His body,[4] of His flesh and of His bones. 31"For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh."[5] 32This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. (Ephesians 5:25-33)
Now, if the girl you are with doesn't love God, how can you present her to God by the washing of the water of the Word? She is not going to want you leading her spiritually if she is not a Christian. So you need to wait for a girl who wants that. Don't choose a nominal Christian; make sure she does more than attend church. If you want a dynomite marriage, you need to find a girl who is on fire for God. Two on fire people can ignite something!!!
I hope this helps and I will be praying you wait on God in this matter.
(I am 41 and single, been waiting....haven't met him yet).
~JeriRose~
Posted by: jedijeb
Jeri has some great advice there, listen to her. When you pray for a mate you should be praying that God send you the person He would choose for you. Don't pick someone and say " God make this person the right one" that doesn't work. When I started praying " God send me the one You choose for me" that is when I met her. But I also made a mistake of praying " Lord just let me know who she is even if the time isn't right yet" and that one got me in trouble. God answered it and it wasn't the right time yet. Of course then I fell into the trap that many others have of getting ahead of God's timing, (just like Abraham did which resulted in Ishmael being born) I started dating her before God had prepared her for me. I was led away from my walk with God and when she came to know Christ, I was not strong enough to help her grow in Christ as I should have been. Now I am stronger in Christ and she has drifted away, but praise God she is starting to turn back. God has been faithful in His promise, I just should have been more patient. As I heard Charles Stanley once comment on the subject" If you think you need to marry because this person is your last chance, don't, God has your chance" I can tell you that you won't want to marry them because of passion, or love or feelings, but because you know so deep inside it is what God wants. But no matter what, even after you know who it is, wait till God tells you the WHEN also, then it will be wonderful.
Posted by: Womanatthewell
As a young believer, I found that for some reason (most likely my flesh) I kept picking the wrong people to date. One evening the Holy Spirit laid it on my heart to completly surrender to the will of God as it pertained to my search for a husband. I got down on my knees and told God that I believed as he says in His word that he want me to be happy and whole. He had created my mate perfectly to fit only me. I surrendered to the fact that I would not date any longer until He showed me who this was. I told God that I would be ok even if the person did not fit the "mold" I felt was my perfect fit, but that God would have to basically hit me over the head because typically I was too stubborn to see His will.
Long story short, about a year later, I met my husband, 
and you know what, the minute I met him I knew he was the one. I didn't have goose bumps or tingles, or any of that, the Lord just let me know that very minute that he was the one. The amazing thing, My now husband, had said the same prayer shortly before we met, he also knew I was the one. We have an increadible marriage, God lead, God inspired, and God healed.
I hope this is some encouragement for you. Start praying in faith right now that God will be with your future wife. Pray for her to be safe strong and blessed.
Take care,
Prayers and Blessings.