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Prayer for Abstinence in my relationship

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Posted by: saved138

Hello all,

I am in a very loving relationship with my boyfriend of 3 months, and we entered in to the relationship putting the Lord first. He is a very loving man, and very suppportive. We pray together, go to church together, and talk about our faith often.

I pray that we can continue our relationship, in Abstinence so that we can strengthen our bond and work toward marriage. It is not easy, as we are both very physically attracted to each other, but we pray for obedience and foresight...

Also, if any of you have any insight or experiences for encouragement and inspiration, I'd greatly appreciate it.

Thanks in advance.


Posted by: JeriRose12

This will be very hard for you to understand, but it is something Josh McDowell says often: Don't pray together before you are married. If you are alone with him and you guys hold hands and pray....there is a bond, there, that goes beyong friendship. It is spiritual. Sex is spiritual. Josh McDowell contends that a couple should not pray together this way. I am not sure about a prayer over the phone or something....but he especially discourages prayer when you two are alone together, holding hands.

Also, my thought: DON'T BE ALONE TOGETHER!!! EVER!!! If you're never alone together, nothing can happen. Period. Point blank. The end. Just be with him IN PUBLIC or with your family. If you two really love each other, no sacrifice is too great to protect each others purity.

6His left hand is under my head,
And his right hand embraces me.
7I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem,
By the gazelles or by the does of the field,
Do not stir up nor awaken love
Until it pleases.
(Song of Solomon 2:6 & 7)

4Scarcely had I passed by them,
When I found the one I love.
I held him and would not let him go,
Until I had brought him to the house of my mother,
And into the chamber of her who conceived me.

5I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem,
By the gazelles or by the does of the field,
Do not stir up nor awaken love
Until it pleases.
(Song of Solomon 3:4 & 5)

3 His left hand is under my head,
And his right hand embraces me.
4I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem,
Do not stir up nor awaken love
Until it pleases.
(Song of Solomon 8:3 & 4)

I bolded the middle one, because it makes the point plainly: Don't "stir up love" until you're married!!! In those days, they took the person they were marrying into their parents tent for the wedding ceremony, so that's what this refers to. If you read the following chapter, it is about their wedding night. You can not have the beauty described there if you have sex before marriage.

I open so many threads on this site from people who want blessings on their fornication. I am so glad you don't want that!!! This is a great prayer request; one I can actually pray for, because it lines up with God's Word!!! Thankyou for the encouragement that some Christians still read their Word and know what's right!!!

Also, I was just in a prayer vigil for troubled marriages, and you do not want to end up with those kinds of problems. By waiting physically, you will have a way better chance at avoiding marriage problems down the road.

Lord, I pray You will keep this couple strong. Make it so plain to them that they MUST NOT give in. And give them the keys to staying sexually pure. Bring others into their lives to help them stay the course. Remind them that hurrying is not necessary; they have their entire married lives for sex. The courtship should not be cluttered with that. Now, they are just getting to know and appreciate each other as people. If the relationship becomes physical, they have quit viewing each other as a human who is interesting and intriguing. The relaitonship becomes focused on sex, and they do not want that. Slow them down. Do not let them rush into marriage because they think they can't wait, either. Please, please, please remind them that it is not about what THEY want; it's about what YOU want!!! Oh, Lord, let them love You MORE. Let them love You enough to avoid the sin!!! Oh, Jesus, if they have to, let them put this relaitonship aside, until they renew it in YOUR time according to Your will and purpose. Show them clearly what You want them to do. Just do whatever You have to to tell them how to reamin pure until marriage. Marriage is Your idea to show the world what Christ and the Church looks like, so I pray this for Your glory and in Your Name, Jesus. Amen.

4No one engaged in warfare entangles himself with the affairs of this life, that he may please him who enlisted him as a soldier. (2 Timothy 2:4)

~JeriRose~


Posted by: StarChilde

right now, am busy here at home- real busy... I am praying in the spirit about this & will post when I get my things done here at home~


Posted by: kasi64

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Originally Posted by saved138
Hello all,

I am in a very loving relationship with my boyfriend of 3 months, and we entered in to the relationship putting the Lord first. He is a very loving man, and very suppportive. We pray together, go to church together, and talk about our faith often.

I pray that we can continue our relationship, in Abstinence so that we can strengthen our bond and work toward marriage. It is not easy, as we are both very physically attracted to each other, but we pray for obedience and foresight...

Also, if any of you have any insight or experiences for encouragement and inspiration, I'd greatly appreciate it.

Thanks in advance.



hi saved138, i am a mom of a 18 year old girl who gave her self away when she was the tender age of 15 and now is on her second relationship and is living with this boy and his family. she has turned her back on her relationship with the lord and has said the bible is outdated and it is okay to try out your boyfriend to be sure that they fit this is hard one for me because i lived with her dad since i was 15, but under extremly diffrent circumstances. i had an abortion when i was 16. i did my best to relay the message that she needed give in to sex but she still made the choice. It is btween her and God now. i now know the meaning of Godly sorrow and repentence watching My baby go through this. because life isnt as easy as she thought. The past few months have been hell for our family too. hold out sweety, I know it is hard but it is worth the wait and i truly believe that God will bless your marriage if you wait. He knew that it was hard to wait because it was put in the bible. every choice you make has concequences, Good or bad, you decide. Turn your desire to GOD!!and he will love you like no one ever will. love kassy


Posted by: saved138

You all have no idea how greatful I am for your posts. I am in tears reading.. and am off to pray more about this.

It has been especially hard because I became a born again virgin when I became born again. Jesus washed me clean, but I have to clean my thoughts too, because I have sinned in this way before; so I know the temptation and know the weakness of my own flesh. But I truly want what God wants, and do not want to damage this relationship by giving in.

I truly do need prayer, and guidance.

JeriRose12,
I never know about NOT praying together, but what you say makes sense. I will have to look in to what Josh McDowell says about it.

Thank you all so much.