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14 years apart

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Posted by: The_Philster

I met this girl at the football games this year. She comes with guys I've been tailgating with for 8 seasons now. When I met her, she was 17 so I felt kinda ashamed that I thought she was cute. I turned 32 in September. In October, she told me she was turning 18 and we had gotten to joke around a bit and of course, I made a little joke about what kind of birthday gift I would give her. Later on that day, we had kind of a heart to heart about how a lady I had had a thing for was treating me. She was stretched out across my lap in the car cause there were three of us in the front seat talking. I barely thought about it until the next game which was the day after she turned 18. Of course, we started joking around and that...asking a buddy if we could borrow his back seat. We started flirting a lot that day and joking around until after the game when she told me she liked me...had since the first time she saw me. I didn't know what to say to that but I had to admit that she was fun and she was very attractive. I gave her my number and she called me that night. We talked for a bit and we talked about her trip out to Washington she was about to take to see her b/f. While she was there, we talked on the phone a few times and she told me how she thought about me most all the time she was there...even almost called out my name during sex. The next game came around and we started flirting more and it was driving her and me crazy because she was already involved...neither one of us thought it was right but we were really getting interested in each other. We even started kissing..a lot...which drove us even crazier. We talked on the phone every day for the next two weeks and all that time, her b/f was treating her terribly and she made up her mind that it was me she wanted. I wasn't going to start jumping for joy until she was single though...as I'm used to girls choosing the jerks over me. Then, on Friday morning, I got a call from her. They had been on the phone and she had finally had enough and told him they were through. She was in tears about it until we talked for a while and she seemed to feel better after that. She told me that talking to me always made her smile. One of the other things she liked so much about me was that, unlike guys her age, my mind wasn't on sex 24/7. We joke about it a lot but we understood together that it would be a while before we even thought about it. We wanted to take things slow so that we were sure...and didn't hurt each other.
This past Sunday came around and we exchanged Christmas gifts and were together almost the entire day. She was sitting with the buddy of mine that brought her but he vacated the seat at halftime for me and again went up to a luxury box near the end of the game when I came down with some hot cocoa for her...and we sat together the rest of the game. All day long we cuddled and hugged and kissed...and, unlike before when we felt guilty about it, we didn't feel like hiding it from anyone. She kept breaking the kisses before they got too hot and heavy...I'm guessing because she was afraid we would lose control. Upon leaving, she told me she'd call me today. She did and we talked for about an hour. She's talked about not wanting to get involved anytime soon..probably because of the recent breakup as well as wanting to take things slowly. It kinda sucks though because I'm really wanting to be with her and was hoping we could go out for New Year's together...which she's not sure on...cause her best friend wants to do something. Another thing that's really bugging me is that her ex-bf is coming home for the holidays from the Navy and they will be spending some time hanging out and even having one last date. She's made it clear to him she wasn't taking him back but I'm so used to seeing girls take back the jerks that it makes me nervous. I can't really say anything about it because we aren't officially dating as of yet and acting jealous is a sure way to lose her. She and I are all about honesty and I have to show her enough trust that she wants to keep pursuing me. The next couple of weeks while he's home will be rough...especially if she and I aren't together for New Year's because I really want to be with her and show her that I won't hurt her.


Posted by: bjc

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Originally Posted by The_Philster
I met this girl at the football games this year. She comes with guys I've been tailgating with for 8 seasons now. When I met her, she was 17 so I felt kinda ashamed that I thought she was cute. I turned 32 in September. In October, she told me she was turning 18 and we had gotten to joke around a bit and of course, I made a little joke about what kind of birthday gift I would give her. Later on that day, we had kind of a heart to heart about how a lady I had had a thing for was treating me. She was stretched out across my lap in the car cause there were three of us in the front seat talking. I barely thought about it until the next game which was the day after she turned 18. Of course, we started joking around and that...asking a buddy if we could borrow his back seat. We started flirting a lot that day and joking around until after the game when she told me she liked me...had since the first time she saw me. I didn't know what to say to that but I had to admit that she was fun and she was very attractive. I gave her my number and she called me that night. We talked for a bit and we talked about her trip out to Washington she was about to take to see her b/f. While she was there, we talked on the phone a few times and she told me how she thought about me most all the time she was there...even almost called out my name during sex. The next game came around and we started flirting more and it was driving her and me crazy because she was already involved...neither one of us thought it was right but we were really getting interested in each other. We even started kissing..a lot...which drove us even crazier. We talked on the phone every day for the next two weeks and all that time, her b/f was treating her terribly and she made up her mind that it was me she wanted. I wasn't going to start jumping for joy until she was single though...as I'm used to girls choosing the jerks over me. Then, on Friday morning, I got a call from her. They had been on the phone and she had finally had enough and told him they were through. She was in tears about it until we talked for a while and she seemed to feel better after that. She told me that talking to me always made her smile. One of the other things she liked so much about me was that, unlike guys her age, my mind wasn't on sex 24/7. We joke about it a lot but we understood together that it would be a while before we even thought about it. We wanted to take things slow so that we were sure...and didn't hurt each other.
This past Sunday came around and we exchanged Christmas gifts and were together almost the entire day. She was sitting with the buddy of mine that brought her but he vacated the seat at halftime for me and again went up to a luxury box near the end of the game when I came down with some hot cocoa for her...and we sat together the rest of the game. All day long we cuddled and hugged and kissed...and, unlike before when we felt guilty about it, we didn't feel like hiding it from anyone. She kept breaking the kisses before they got too hot and heavy...I'm guessing because she was afraid we would lose control. Upon leaving, she told me she'd call me today. She did and we talked for about an hour. She's talked about not wanting to get involved anytime soon..probably because of the recent breakup as well as wanting to take things slowly. It kinda sucks though because I'm really wanting to be with her and was hoping we could go out for New Year's together...which she's not sure on...cause her best friend wants to do something. Another thing that's really bugging me is that her ex-bf is coming home for the holidays from the Navy and they will be spending some time hanging out and even having one last date. She's made it clear to him she wasn't taking him back but I'm so used to seeing girls take back the jerks that it makes me nervous. I can't really say anything about it because we aren't officially dating as of yet and acting jealous is a sure way to lose her. She and I are all about honesty and I have to show her enough trust that she wants to keep pursuing me. The next couple of weeks while he's home will be rough...especially if she and I aren't together for New Year's because I really want to be with her and show her that I won't hurt her.
YOU NEED TO PRAY FOR THIS SITUATION A LOT.GOD NEEDS TO GIVE YOU DISCERNMENT ON THIS GIRL.OF COURSE AGE MAKES NO DIFFERENCE WITH GOD, BUT BE SURE THIS IS IN LINE WITH GOD'S LEADING.YOU EXPRESSED SHE IS SEXUALLY ACTIVE WITH HER BOYFRIEND WHICH IS FIRST OF ALL NOT OF GOD.IF SHE IS NOT SAVED. SHE NEEDS TO GET SAVED.WHAT ABOUT YOU? THE FIRST THING YOU BOTH NEED TO DO IS TO GET SAVED AND SEEK GOD FIRST THEN HE WILL LEAD YOU BOTH TO RIGHTEOUSNESS. bjc



Posted by: eagle4him

My brother _Philster,
When God wants to bless someone He brings a person into his life. When the enemy wants to destroy someone, he brings a person into his life. I pray for discernment for you that you will know the difference!
--Amen!


Posted by: The_Philster

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Originally Posted by eagle4him
My brother _Philster,
When God wants to bless someone He brings a person into his life. When the enemy wants to destroy someone, he brings a person into his life. I pray for discernment for you that you will know the difference!
--Amen!

I'd like to think that she came into my life to bless me. The game that she told me she was about to turn 18 was a game that this other lady I had a thing for was around for. She met her briefly and after the game, she and I and another girl were sitting in the car talking. I was trying to figure out why women were so screwy..why this other lady that I had had feelings for would shove me away like she did. While she didn't offer any insight into that, she was sympathetic about it and basically told me that woman was a fool.
The last few days, she's joked around a lot..****ually when she's with her best friend. Sometimes, when we're on the phone, I can't tell when she's talking to me or to someone else....cause she does get distracted easily. but when it's one-on-one, like it was this afternoon at lunch when she asked me to call her, I think I can tell she has some kind of feelings for me. Just the fact that she initiates contact so much is a good feeling. And, as goofy as she acts sometimes, it's kinda fun in the fact that it makes me feel a bit younger.
I think that things could be a bit tough for a while because she isn't interested in getting serious just yet..after having just dumped her ex but unless something changes drastically, I am hoping and praying that I'm still the first in her thoughts when she decides she's ready to be serious.