Prayer Board Requests - I might be pregnant

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Originally Posted by akabezalel

First of All, Little Girl, take a deep breath and calm down.

Having unprotected sex does not always result in pregnancy!

Let me run through the most likely signs of early pregnancy.

AFTER having sex did you miss your period?

NO - I had my period as usual... Then you are most likely NOT pregnant.

NOT YET - It is not quite time for my period... You need to wait until you either miss your period or you go to a Doctor for a test, but it is a little early for tests.

YES - My period is LATE!... Stay calm, the way you are stressing may also cause you to be late or miss altogether.
You need to go see a Doctor for a test.
I have no faith in the home tests, too many false readings.

Are you feeling a little sick to your stomach?

YES OR NO - This is not a sure sign of anything!
It could be indigestion, morning sickness, stress, nerves, or the test coming up in Math.

Are your breasts feeling tender, sore, swollen, or changing in any way?

YES - Get to a Doctor for a test.
This is probably the most positive sign that you MAY be pregnant.
It could also be a sign you are getting ready to start your period.

NO - This is a good sign but not accurate if it is within 3-4 weeks of having had sex.

Now, think about your answers to these questions.

Do you still feel that you may be pregnant?

With either a YES or NO, you still need to speak with your Parent/s.

Before you do, ask your self these questions.

How do you think your Parent/s will react to you being pregnant or sexually active?

ANGRY?
UPSET?
will they YELL?
will you be ABUSED in any way? See Below.

How would you handle these reactions?

Would you feel SAFER with another adult with you when you told your Parent/s?

Do you have an Adult or older Friend that you trust enough to ask them to go with you?

Do you have an Adult or older Friend that you trust enough to ask them to go with you?
You can go to your School Councilor for help but, remember that it is her/his job to try to talk you into an abortion without your parent/s knowing anything.
You can go to your Pastor or Youth Leaders at church or some other Adult that you like and trust.
You can go to an Adult Family member, like a Grandparent or Aunt or Uncle or Cousin or Brother or Sister.
You could go to the young Man's Parent/s or other Relative and ask them to help you tell your Parent/s.
You could ask the young Man to go with you to talk to BOTH sets of Parent/s.
You can call the local Women's Shelter and ask for help.

*You can call your State's Child Protective Services and ask them to go with you to talk to your Parent/s.
DO THIS IF YOU FEAR ABUSE!

*This is what I would recommend. The workers at CPS are Professional Mediators and it is their job to see that you are safe. However, if you are pregnant you need to be certain in your mind that you are NOT going to have an abortion and stand firm on your decision.

IF you ARE pregnant you need to consider what you will do next.

ABORTION? I will NEVER advise this "option"! I WILL advise AGAINST IT!

ADOPTION? As hard as this may seem right now, this is the best option for you and your baby.
You are VERY young, you need to finish school and finish growing up yourself.
You can have the baby adopted by Family, through an Attorney, THROUGH A CHRISTIAN ADOPTION AGENCY, or through the state.
You can specify an open adoption and Christian Parents, which means you get updates and/or visits with the baby.
A Good Agency or Attorney may also help you tell your Parent/s.

KEEP THE BABY? This is a decision that you must make AFTER long hard thought, prayer, and advice from your Parent's, the young Man's Parent/s, and the young Man.

IF YOU ARE NOT PREGNANT!

Please go to the Doctor and get some form of Birth Control.
I will catch alot of FLAK for this answer but I believe in "Pregnancy Prevention not Life Termination". I believe in allowing girls to protect themselves.
Yes, Abstinence is BEST, unfortunately, many young people are unable to "Just Say No" to sex.
I would rather protect them than condemn them because they were too weak to say "no" to sex.

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Father, You know my heart, You know I would be at this child's side if I could. You know that she needs You and she needs an Adult to talk to. Holy Spirit, I ask that You lead this child into a Salvation Relationship with Jesus that will make every other voice dim into the background. Lead her away from the sexual lust that brought her here in such a panic. Help her to remain Your Child and to say "no" to the temptations of life that will harm her. Father, if she is pregnant, please let her parents be supportive and understanding! Lead them also into their own Salvation Walk with Jesus. Let love be the environment that her baby would be born into. Please lead the young Man into a Salvation Relationship also Father, he needs to know that You are the one who loves him and will help him control the drives of the flesh. Let her make the best descision for her and the baby. Guide her every step of the way, do not let her slip from Your fingers. Show her Your Forgiveness and Love in such a way that she NEVER DOUBTS Your Presence, Love and Forgiveness again. I ask this in the Name of Jesus, Thank You Father for this Young Woman and the Young Man. Thank You Jesus for making her Parents more like You than they think is possible. Thank You Father. AMEN!