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Posted by: magellan63

I need Divine guidance

It has been three months since Jodi left to live with her father. We have not "talked" at all about our realtionship, I am following not contacting her to let her be "still" She has petioned the court for a final hearing on Janurary 21st and I am torn between not contacting her and letting her know the door is always open for her and CJ my step-son w/ cerebral palsy). Some even think, since 99% of their "stuff" is still her at our house that I should ask her to let me know when she'll be coming to get it. When we first met, I vowed to always provide for them and know I feel since I am not contacting her that she will feel I have not only broken my promise, but have totally given up on us and "ready" to move on.
I have struggled with to or not to send a simple email letting her and CJ know how I truly feel. They are deeply imbedded in my heart, I realixze the mistakes I made in our marriage and want to fulfil not only the vow I made to them but to God!!

I really need to KNOW what God's will is on this issue.


Please help

Thanks

Troy



Posted by: wanjiru thuku

Quote:
Originally Posted by magellan63
I need Divine guidance

It has been three months since Jodi left to live with her father. We have not "talked" at all about our realtionship, I am following not contacting her to let her be "still" She has petioned the court for a final hearing on Janurary 21st and I am torn between not contacting her and letting her know the door is always open for her and CJ my step-son w/ cerebral palsy). Some even think, since 99% of their "stuff" is still her at our house that I should ask her to let me know when she'll be coming to get it. When we first met, I vowed to always provide for them and know I feel since I am not contacting her that she will feel I have not only broken my promise, but have totally given up on us and "ready" to move on.
I have struggled with to or not to send a simple email letting her and CJ know how I truly feel. They are deeply imbedded in my heart, I realixze the mistakes I made in our marriage and want to fulfil not only the vow I made to them but to God!!

I really need to KNOW what God's will is on this issue.


Please help

Thanks

Troy

Oh,God almighty please help this person,show them the way and God please renew their marriage and always be with them,AMEN!



Posted by: shalu

Father, I lift up Troy and his wife Jodi up to you Lord. I thank you for providing for Your children, that means providing answers as well. I praise You for what you are doing in Troy's life, that he turned to YOU for the answers to his questions regarding his marriage. Lead him, guide him. You have stated, Lord, that you HATE divorce (Malachi) so I stand on that Lord Jesus, that you will reconcile this family. If you would want Troy to call his wife, please give him the words to say and prod his Spirit to do so. And them give him a peace about what You are doing in his life. I stand in the gap for this family Lord, reunite them, stronger than ever embedded in YOUR love for them. Prepare Jodi's heart, Lord Jesus. I thank you for the work that you are preforming in ALL the marriages on annointed.net Lord. Help us to stand firm, believing that YOU will provide all our needs. I thank you and love you precious Savior. I pray this all in your name. Amen.

Shalu



Posted by: fifi37

Hello Troy,

Well, you've already found part of God's will - for you to look at your marriage, see where you strayed from God's plan, and then turn to Him and be renewed.

Trust God for His support of your marriage. God has no desire to see husbands and wives separate. Prove yourself faithful in the little day to day things, make pleasing God your number one priority, and wait expectantly for God to turn your wife's heart back to you. "Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in him and He will do this" Ps. 37:5

Proving yourself faithful is probably the most important thing you can do right now. You can't say to God that you know where you went wrong in the marriage and you'll do better, and then let little things slide. I was really convicted driving one day, when I was muttering under my breath at the car in front. I really felt God say "it's the little things, Fiona, it's the little things". Ask God to show you everything you could do better, and watch Him move. It will blow your mind.

Ask God to talk to your wife for you, to love her for you. Ask Him to make it very clear to you when His acceptable time for initiating contact is. Ask Him to open a door, to create an opportunity. He will be faithful.

Heavenly Father, we lift Troy up to you, that you may see your son, and how his heart has changed. Search his heart, Lord, and show him anything that is hindering your will from his life. He loves his wife, Father, and wishes to be reunited with her. Please soften her heart, and turn her heart again toward her husband. Let them both have a new understanding of what a blessing marriage is, and let them reunite with a renewed faith in you, and a humility toward each other. Bless Troy God, and bring forth the desires of his heart.

In your wonderful Son's name, Jesus, Amen!

Fiona



Posted by: magellan63

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Originally Posted by fifi37
Hello Troy,

Well, you've already found part of God's will - for you to look at your marriage, see where you strayed from God's plan, and then turn to Him and be renewed.

Trust God for His support of your marriage. God has no desire to see husbands and wives separate. Prove yourself faithful in the little day to day things, make pleasing God your number one priority, and wait expectantly for God to turn your wife's heart back to you. "Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in him and He will do this" Ps. 37:5

Proving yourself faithful is probably the most important thing you can do right now. You can't say to God that you know where you went wrong in the marriage and you'll do better, and then let little things slide. I was really convicted driving one day, when I was muttering under my breath at the car in front. I really felt God say "it's the little things, Fiona, it's the little things". Ask God to show you everything you could do better, and watch Him move. It will blow your mind.

Ask God to talk to your wife for you, to love her for you. Ask Him to make it very clear to you when His acceptable time for initiating contact is. Ask Him to open a door, to create an opportunity. He will be faithful.

Heavenly Father, we lift Troy up to you, that you may see your son, and how his heart has changed. Search his heart, Lord, and show him anything that is hindering your will from his life. He loves his wife, Father, and wishes to be reunited with her. Please soften her heart, and turn her heart again toward her husband. Let them both have a new understanding of what a blessing marriage is, and let them reunite with a renewed faith in you, and a humility toward each other. Bless Troy God, and bring forth the desires of his heart.

In your wonderful Son's name, Jesus, Amen!

Fiona



Fiona,

Thanks

I look to Our Father for guidance and direction and trust Him to do what is right for Jodi and I and our marriage. I know that He will do what He feels best and I am "good" with that. He knows my heart and after not seeing my wife and step-son for 2 months they still have a large "hold" on my heart. I pray that this is a sign from God that He is working on "us" and not my selfish human nature!
I emailed her to let her know I loved them both and the door was open.


Here is the response I received:

Thanks for the message. I hope all is
well with you , Ky and the rest of your family.


I hope you're eating better and taking care of yourself. C.J. is doing
ok..he has to have the feeding tube done...probably next week or the week
after....but it will be better for him in the long run.


Troy