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Posted by: kroz
Please pray for me. I was at one time a very strong christian, but am now so very lost and far from God. I am 39 years old and still single. This has caused great saddness that I began to try to focus a relationship with a man. This man is a Christian and has been kind and upright, but I have gotten myself into financial difficulties as a result of this, nearly 12000 into debt. I have also day dreamed about my relationship with him, and it has caused me to very attached to him. He only want to be friends, but I am having such difficultes. I have created a mess. I have proceeded to try to become what I think he wants me to be, by lying and taking lessons. I just can't take this anymore. All of this lying. I need help to get back to God. Please pray for me I get so sad, and weird sometimes. To make it worst, eveyone around me thinks I am ok. I even lead a bible study (we mainly watch videos). What do I do? I need help.
R
Posted by: JeriRose12
Dear Kroz or R,
I do not know everything to tell to you to do, but I will definitely be praying! I am 41 and single and I know one thing: never compromise who you are for a man!!! I have learned in a group I attend that too many people are looking for their "other half," so they get married to half a person! Instead of two whole individuals getting married, usually two halves get married, thinking to get whole. Then, they spend their married days unhappy, because that other person can not make them whole. only we ourselves, with total relience on Jesus, can make ourselves whole. We become whole by discovering who we are--who Jesus uniquely created us to be. So what I tell you to do it this: Quit lying about who you are! By being yourself, you become authentic. once you become real, then you are in a posisition to have successful relationships. If you married this man, you would have many miserable years ahead. I have never compromised who I was for a man; if they don't accept me as I am, they are not God's choice for me.
The #1 thing you need to do is fall in love with Jesus. Maybe people think I'm being trite or giving pat answers or that I'm an idealist. But one thing is really true in my life: Jesus is my husband. I love him so much! Sometimes I think I would like to be married, but I keep coming back to one thing: No-one can satisfy like Jesus! No-one! Sometimes I long to be married. Still, I will not marry anyone less than Jesus' choice for me. Jesus is my heavenly husband, and he must approve my earthly husband before I choose him. I wear a purity ring to show I am married to Jesus. Someone I know says "You'll never get married if you keep wearing that ring on that (wedding ring) finger." But I say, "The right man will know." I am not in the least worried. You should not be, either. If this man only wants to be your friend, you will never be happy with him. Only Jesus can make you ultimately happy, anyway. The best thing "to do," is start seeking Jesus with all Your heart. I don't mean do all the talking,either! I mean, be still in His presence. It really is true: if you are still, you will know He is God. I find Jesus gives me such peace and assurance, when I become still before him. And even though some thoughts about wanting to be married may linger, I just feel so encouraged that Jesus is truly all I need, and if I never get married, I will be able to make it with the strength Jesus gives.
I know it is hard to start, but please just begin calling on Jesus and asking him to be your husband. This does not happen overnight, but it is possible. I am a living testimony of it.
You will be in my prayers, and keep us posted!
Your Friend,
JeriRose