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Posted by: Cherylpa

I have a question. My husband left me for another woman and is living with her. We have been married 25 years.

He said to me that he went down a road that he knows was wrong, but he is not willing to get off that road. He said that the only way he will get off that road of adultery if its by divine intervention by God or God will do something drastic to him. My question is will God do something to intervene and bring my husband back even when my husband knows what he is doing is wrong and doesnt really want to get off the road.

I have many people praying for him and my husband is glad that people are praying for him.

Hope someone can help me with this
Cheryl


Posted by: akabezalel

Father, please stop being a gentleman while You are dealing with this man and his mistress. Father, I ask for the Salvation of these two lost ones. Holy Spirit, I release them to You for the Salvation of their souls! Hold them over the fire of hell until they become so desperate for the forgiveness and salvation that Jesus has provided that they can see nothing else! Father, when they reach for each other in their illicit union, let them be completely repulsed by the thought of the adultery they are committing and repent, returning to their proper places. Father, teach this man's wife the value of forgiveness. In the Name of Jesus. AMEN!


Posted by: tay

Cheryl,
Wow, your situation is so close to mine with my wife. She has told me she knows it is wrong, a bad decision, that she should be with me but just can't because of her feelings for the other man. Well, good news. God does bring backslidden people back. There are many examples of this in the bible. Hosea 14:4 and Hosea 15:5 specifically address God will heal the backslidden (those who know they are doing wrong). Peter in Matt:26:70-74, Solomon in 1 Kings 11, and Saul in 1 Samuel 15:11 demonstrate examples of knowing what's right and doing wrong. Read how God handled each situation. Also, Israel backslid often in their history. You can read of God's handling of that. God is not always the kindest to those who do this. Often, He gives great suffering and misery in their lives. This is the price we must pay to be our own God. This is where it can become hard for us. We must not take out God's consequences in our spouses lives. I know it can be difficult from my own personal situation. It is so tempting to become that knight in shining armor to take all the pain away. It is even harder in our situation, because if we don't help, the other person may and that paints us in a poor light. But, man (or woman) cannot replace God. Our spouses WILL someday see this as long as we keep praying for them. I'll be praying for you, Taylor


Posted by: police officer

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Originally Posted by Cherylpa
I have a question. My husband left me for another woman and is living with her. We have been married 25 years.

He said to me that he went down a road that he knows was wrong, but he is not willing to get off that road. He said that the only way he will get off that road of adultery if its by divine intervention by God or God will do something drastic to him. My question is will God do something to intervene and bring my husband back even when my husband knows what he is doing is wrong and doesnt really want to get off the road.

I have many people praying for him and my husband is glad that people are praying for him.

Hope someone can help me with this
Cheryl




Hello Cheryl,
Greetings to you in Jesus' sweet name. I read your letter today and I was concerned about you. First of all I want you to know God is concerned about your situation and would not have had you to be hurt for anything but many things happen in this life that God has nothing to do with because man has a certain amount of authority he exercises in this life. Not everything that happens in life is God's will it couldn't be. Things just happen and we have to have God to help us out of it.
I know God wants you to be treated well. God does bring people back in our lives after things like this. However since this man is in sin and has said he is enjoying it or wants to stay and knows he made a mistake. I don't think he wants to leave that situation. God is not going to go over someone's will. He honors our will in this life. Not that what we want is right but He does honor our will. Remember Israel wanting a king instead of a prophet to lead the nation? So I think if I were you I would try to get on with my life right now and get at legal separation at least. It would at least make him start thinking that you are serious about all of this and unless he changes you aren't going to just sit around and wait to be mistreated. God can give you someone that will treat you like you are to be treated. My sister has a friend at work that her husband left her and she is devastated. His Mother told her she should go on and get a divorce. So really common sense would tell you that he talked with his Mother and he doesn't want her anymore. She is having to go on with her life and feels rejected but she is starting to go places like to movies and shopping with her daughter and her friends. So there is life after all of this even though at the time it hurts. But God will see you through all of this. Please pray and seek God, go to church and get into a cell group at church if they have one. You may want to join a Christian singles group and check out some singles clubs like Bigchurch.com. Let God comfort you and read your Bible. I will say a prayer for you.


Shreveport, La.


Posted by: Cherylpa

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Originally Posted by police officer



Hello Cheryl,
Greetings to you in Jesus' sweet name. I read your letter today and I was concerned about you. First of all I want you to know God is concerned about your situation and would not have had you to be hurt for anything but many things happen in this life that God has nothing to do with because man has a certain amount of authority he exercises in this life. Not everything that happens in life is God's will it couldn't be. Things just happen and we have to have God to help us out of it.
I know God wants you to be treated well. God does bring people back in our lives after things like this. However since this man is in sin and has said he is enjoying it or wants to stay and knows he made a mistake. I don't think he wants to leave that situation. God is not going to go over someone's will. He honors our will in this life. Not that what we want is right but He does honor our will. Remember Israel wanting a king instead of a prophet to lead the nation? So I think if I were you I would try to get on with my life right now and get at legal separation at least. It would at least make him start thinking that you are serious about all of this and unless he changes you aren't going to just sit around and wait to be mistreated. God can give you someone that will treat you like you are to be treated. My sister has a friend at work that her husband left her and she is devastated. His Mother told her she should go on and get a divorce. So really common sense would tell you that he talked with his Mother and he doesn't want her anymore. She is having to go on with her life and feels rejected but she is starting to go places like to movies and shopping with her daughter and her friends. So there is life after all of this even though at the time it hurts. But God will see you through all of this. Please pray and seek God, go to church and get into a cell group at church if they have one. You may want to join a Christian singles group and check out some singles clubs like Bigchurch.com. Let God comfort you and read your Bible. I will say a prayer for you.


Shreveport, La.


Thank you for replying to me and for your care and concern. I have got a legal seperation done and it did nothing to change his mind. I am trying to get out and do things but I guess I am not at the acceptance point about my situation. I just want my husband back so bad and wished God would let me know if he is going to bring him back to me or not. I am going to church and praying. Sometimes I dont know how or what to pray. It just hurts that he is giving this woman everything I wanted from him. I wanted to write him a letter and ask for forgiveness in my part for the marriage going bad and to let him know that I am open to reconciliation and that what he is doing is not from God. Or do you think I should let things be for now??
thanks for your prayers

Cheryl


Posted by: CoDErnie

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Originally Posted by Cherylpa
I have a question. My husband left me for another woman and is living with her. We have been married 25 years.

He said to me that he went down a road that he knows was wrong, but he is not willing to get off that road. He said that the only way he will get off that road of adultery if its by divine intervention by God or God will do something drastic to him. My question is will God do something to intervene and bring my husband back even when my husband knows what he is doing is wrong and doesnt really want to get off the road.

I have many people praying for him and my husband is glad that people are praying for him.

Hope someone can help me with this
Cheryl

Please bear with me, I am only seeking to be a blessing to you. Ask the Lord to surround your husband with love, don't allow feelings of bitterness or jealous anger to take control of your mind. This is where the devil attacks us, in our mind. Our weapons are of the spirit, the word of God, the blood of Jesus, and the name of jesus. I would pray for the Lord to reveal His goodness to your husband, which will lead him to repentance. God sees the hurt of your heart, and He will move on your husband to protect you. Don't give up, God will bring conviction on him. You can also bind up the spirit of perversion and lust, according to Matthew 18:18. Come against these foul spirits in the name of Jesus, and command them to take their hands off of your husband. Command them to desist in their manuvers and attacks against his mind in Jesus' name, and then continually thank God for his deliverance. Ephesians 6:12 says we wrestle not against flesh and blood (your husband), but against 4 ranks of evil spirits, I encourage you to read this. Call those things that be not as though they were, declaring his deliverance before you see it, that is faith. God will honor your faith, bring conviction to your husband, and restore your marriage better than it was before. Please hear my heart, no condemnation at all, just desiring to be a blessing. God bless you with wisdom, and I pray the Holy Spirit will speak to you and guide you into all truth as He promises in John 16:13. Remember, He is your comforter, and loves you dearly. He will always be near to a humble and contrite heart, so freely express your feelings to the Lord (Psalm 34:18 and Isaiah 66:2). He has promised if you draw nigh unto Him, He will draw nigh unto you!!


Posted by: tambo#1

Greetings: I write to you concerning this one thing; The Bible say's that God would not have us to be dumb against the ways of the devil, but he has made us aware of the schems of the evil one! I went through the same thing it was hard>

I was in love but for all the wrong reason. I'm not saying you are like this but I'm saying a lot of time we have to check why did we get married in the FIRST place! So I said all that to say this don't set around and beat your self down saying " well maybe if I did this that would have not happend!" or blaming your self for his foolishness. Now if he was thinking with his top head and not his bottom head, maybe this would've not happend. SO MOVE ON WITH YOR LIFE!!! I support all that the other believers has said unto you!!

I'm praying for you>>>>

TAMBO#1


Posted by: czynka

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Originally Posted by tay
Cheryl,
Wow, your situation is so close to mine with my wife. She has told me she knows it is wrong, a bad decision, that she should be with me but just can't because of her feelings for the other man. Well, good news. God does bring backslidden people back. There are many examples of this in the bible. Hosea 14:4 and Hosea 15:5 specifically address God will heal the backslidden (those who know they are doing wrong). Peter in Matt:26:70-74, Solomon in 1 Kings 11, and Saul in 1 Samuel 15:11 demonstrate examples of knowing what's right and doing wrong. Read how God handled each situation. Also, Israel backslid often in their history. You can read of God's handling of that. God is not always the kindest to those who do this. Often, He gives great suffering and misery in their lives. This is the price we must pay to be our own God. This is where it can become hard for us. We must not take out God's consequences in our spouses lives. I know it can be difficult from my own personal situation. It is so tempting to become that knight in shining armor to take all the pain away. It is even harder in our situation, because if we don't help, the other person may and that paints us in a poor light. But, man (or woman) cannot replace God. Our spouses WILL someday see this as long as we keep praying for them. I'll be praying for you, Taylor



Thanks Taylor for this ....one of my husbands favourite verses is that a man will reap whatever he sows.
And it seems that now in the midst of my marital problems, that is exactly what is happening to him. And therefore, also to ME.
He lived with his ex-girlfriend even though he knew in his heart that it was wrong ( he had no personal relationship with the Lord then although he did 'know' Him )...and out of their relationship, his son was born. She still lives in the house they bought together, with her boyfriend and her children, and my husband Paul's son who is now 6. All the problems that led up to the silence i'm going through now,in my marriage, are i'm sure, a direct result of that relationship. Paul himself had said many times that the Lord will punish his children for the decisions they make knowing that we are sinning. And now Paul is battling in court to get his half of the house or at least to get her to buy him out, he's battling to try to get full custody of his son, and has had to borrow large amounts of money to pay the lawyers fees. I dont know what is happening, because we have had no direct contact with each other for three months. Which was also his choice.
What i mean to say is that Paul has knowingly turned his back on me and my daughter, because now he HAS a personal relationship with the Lord which started after he left his ex-girlfriend five years ago. He says the conviction of the Lord fell upon him then. So he KNOWS that God commands husbands to love their wives, and wives to honour their husbands. Yet he has chosen to stop all contact with me. I have no idea what the real reason is for this horrible situation, but i do know that God is holding him accountable for the things in which he has knowingly sinned in the past. And also for abandoning me, his covenant wife. God forgives, but He also holds us accountable for the consequences of those sins. Thats what i mean by the selling of the house. Paul has no credit until his name is off the mortgage document as co-owner. Now i too, seem to be paying for Paul's mistakes, and i don't mean that in a horrible way, but my marriage is floundering, it's so new and still so fragile, and i feel that it's so unfair that it has to be this way. I don't know where i am. Don't know what to do....stuck here in Holland when all i want is to be with my husband in the US. Paul is way out of the will of God by just deciding not to have any contact with me, i can't believe that the Lord has told him to just break all contact with me....and now i will get to the point, that the Lord WILL call him back into His will. I have to believe that because if i don't, then all my hopes for my marriage will just disappear.


And what if two people get married for the'wrong reasons ???? Just suppose that a couple DO marry for the wrong reasons, and i mean by that, like for example to obtain a permit or whatever to stay in a certain country ( this is NOI the case with me, in case thats what you're thinking !!) What then if one decides to leave the other ? Will the Lord still hold them accountable to their vows? My personal view is a definite YES. Because no matter what reason two people marry, it is ALWAYS a holy covenant between them and no man may put asunder what the Lord has joined together.


Posted by: RoseOfSharon

1 Cor 5:5 .....deliver such an one unto Satan for the destruction of the flesh, that the spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus.

Father, this man needs a wake up call from You, You know the circumstances in this situation. Father You know what it will take to bring this man back, Your will be done, Father. Spirits of rebellion, adultery and lust I forbid you in the name of Jesus from influencing, manipulating or manifesting control over this man. Go and leave now. Father bring back the memories of the joy of the Lord, amen.


Posted by: police officer

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Hello Ma'am,
Greetings to you in Jesus' sweet name. I got your letter and I appreciate you writing me. I am truly concerned about you and your situation as the Lord is. I see you have already done some things to try and do the right thing. God sees your heart and how hurt you are. Sometimes nothing seems to help at the time. It is like an arm being cut off suddenly by an accident. The body goes into shock to keep from feeling the pain. It take a long to heal over something like that. No matter how much we want something if a relationship or something in life depends on another person and they are not willing to give us what we want or do what we want then we have to move on. That is just a fact of life. If it take writing a letter to get it off your chest then maybe you should do it. But somtimes contacting someone in a case like that can only make it worse for us.Sometimes we are never given another chance about some things we just have to ask God to forgive us and then go on with our lives and let God deal with the other person. We have to go on with our lives no matter what because that is all we have. I knew a guy in the military I am with and his wife ran off with the Sunday School teacher! He happen to call the Doctor's office to find out when she was coming home for dinner and the clinic was closed! Then he drove up in the driveway and saw the curtains hanging in a ranshacked manner. The house was totally devastated and she took all the credit cards and ran up a 30K debt. He lost about 60-70 pounds. God brought him through. He got a better wife and both kids and now is a millionaire as he rebuilds old houses and resells them to people with bad credit but are good people. There is life after divorce. Pray about it and let God direct you. He will not be the same way if he comes back to you as when he left. Because both of you have changed through all of this. It would always be something you will have to look over and hard to forget if he does come back. Also he will feel like he is doing you a favor by coming back and that is not a good basis to base a relationship on. You would have to lick his heels in a sense of the word.
If you want to write him then pray about it but I don't think you are to blame. It may help you to get it off your chest but I would let that be it. I wouldn't write him anymore after that and you may make things worse by doing it just pray about it. A divorce may be the best thing to help you put it behind you. God wants you to have someone that will treat you well. The devil just got into your marriage and stole it. But after this if God gives you a nice Christian man pray over your marriage everyweek or every day. God will help you to be a really good wife. I hope I've helped you. God wants you to be treated well. Get down before the Lord and ask Him to give you a life you will happy with.


Pansy Lee
Shreveport, La.