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Posted by: christbride21
I have just recently divorced. I was in a very abusive relationship.I was emotionally,physically,spiritually,and sexually abused. I was beat on a regular basis. My ex husband put me in the hospital when I was 7 1/2 months pregnant with our son. Me and my unborn son almost did not make it. How ever by the grace of God we did. He is now looking at 30 years for what he did to me and my son. I will be testifying in a jury trial on April 12,2004. He is in jail on assault and battery with intent to kill charges and kidnapping charges. ( on me) I met him at a bible study, he posed as this awesome man of God. I will be honest and say i didn't do everything right, however i can say that while I was married I did everything in my power to make my marriage work. I prayed, fasted, listened to marriage tapes and all the preachers on t.v and at churches that said ( " just keep pressing on. God can do a change in your marriage. God will change it around) I read the books, i drug him to marriage counseling ( the counseling that we were getting, though it was by a pastor, I now know it wasn't the couseling we needed.) I did everthing in my power to make it work. I tried sticking it out and just believing and I did stick it out, through all the beatings and the emotional abuse, and him not working. I even did my best to submitt to this hypacritical man. I left for good only when my life and the life of my unborn son was almost taken. It was then and then only I finally left for good and filed for a divorce. But yet I hear so many preachers on TBN and in churches saying how " Your marriage is going to work. You just have to have faith. God will change your marriage and your mate. Just stick it out" . Now i don't judge these preacher and teachers for saying these things, and I know they mean well. And will with God all things are possible. However faith without works is dead. It won't work unless both people submitt to God and want to make it work. So anyway I just wish that if these preachers are going to continue to preach " no matter what your situation looks like. God can and will change your marriage" I just wish that they would include that that's only if both parties will add works to their faith and both will submitt to the Lord. and that if your are getting beat or if your life is in danger and you feel like your husband is going to kill you That that is an acception and you need to leave. Because when those preachers preached that I believed it and that's why I stayed. They encouraged me to stay with this abusive man that almost killed me and my son even though they didn't realize they were. They mean totally well and I know that and I respect that. I just hope that they will think about this. ( I must say that it didn't help that I went to a church where they DID know what was going on, yet stilled encouraged me to stay with him, and when I did get divorced I was turned on and treated like a dog. Now obviously this is not very common, most spirit filled churches would have never treated me like that and would not have encouraged me to go back to this violent dangerous man.) Anyway I hope this will help someone to be more understanding, and to take a second look at things. Please pray for me not to be angry and bitter towards my ex husband. It's very hard. THis is my main prayer request. OH however I just remembered someother needs. I had a papsmeer that just recently came out abnormal. I will have to undergo some testing. Also my grandmother had a bad papsmeer and will be undergoing even more severe testing than I. Please pray for God's healing touch on both of us and for our test to come out right. I do believe that with Him all things are possible, and that he is our healer. I need healing from anger and bitterness. please keep me and my whole family in your prayers. thank you and God bless!! you may e-mail me if you wish at supermom100703******.com
Posted by: akabezalel
You will never make a mistake by asking God for His Forgiveness. You will never make a mistake by running to God. You will never be alone.
Father, please help this woman to turn to You and to turn off the preachers that teach guilt and condemnation. Father, be her husband and lover of her soul. Teach her the value of repentance and her Salvation Walk with Jesus. Help her to put off the flesh that causes her to be angry and bitter, show her Your Hope. Teach her how to raise her son for You. In Jesus' Name. AMEN!