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Am I a comdemmed divorcee

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Posted by: Regina Duran

I have been with my boyfriend for ten years- and he says that he will not marry me because in the bible it says- that " a man that marries a divorcee is commiting adulty" IS this TRUE?
I believe that Jesus forgave me and saved me for my abusive marriage- I do not believe God would comdem me- knowing the pain I went though- I believe God wants me to be happy in this life- to share my life with a person he has blessed me with- Please help me to understand? Your advise is much appriciated


Posted by: cgirl

I believe that you are forgiven and your sins are at the bottom of the ocean. But if we chase after the Lord, he will give us our hearts desire.

Psalms 37:4


Posted by: woofytoyou

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Originally Posted by Regina Duran
I have been with my boyfriend for ten years- and he says that he will not marry me because in the bible it says- that " a man that marries a divorcee is commiting adulty" IS this TRUE?
I believe that Jesus forgave me and saved me for my abusive marriage- I do not believe God would comdem me- knowing the pain I went though- I believe God wants me to be happy in this life- to share my life with a person he has blessed me with- Please help me to understand? Your advise is much appriciated


The person you are with now for 10 years has not been united with
you in a marriage union? If so, he is being very hypocritical in his
judgment on what is right and wrong. Marriage union is supposed to
be for the state of marriage. It is sacred and blessed.
Since your boyfriend has such strong ideas, it would probably be
a good idea to give a great deal of thought to withdrawing from him
- as times are really near to the Lord's return, and purity and
a heart set on fire for the Lord would be wise.
I am remarried, my husband is also remarried . Let's face it, we haven't made a perfect world. Divorce happens. Remarriage happens.
We aren't to sit and burn with fleshly desires , we are to dive into
God. But I know the physical side and desire to be with someone of
LIKE MIND is real, and it happens. Is God going to send us to
hell because of this? He knows we are dust. He knows we are
a lot of times unfaithful to Him. Jesus blood saved us from the
fires of hell. He knows we still sin after becoming Christians. He knows
our yearning hearts for a loving committed marriage of belonging,
acceptance and companionship of another human being. We aren't
all the same in nun's and monks attire. His blood will cover our sin,
if we are truly repentant and overcomers and learn from our
consequences and mistakes.
This fellow of ten years of relationship sounds like his values aren't
the same as yours and believe me, values need to be the same for happiness to be a foundation in a solid Christian marriage. I am sorry if this sounds rough and nasty, it wasn't meant to be.
woofy


Posted by: CoDErnie

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Originally Posted by Regina Duran
I have been with my boyfriend for ten years- and he says that he will not marry me because in the bible it says- that " a man that marries a divorcee is commiting adulty" IS this TRUE?
I believe that Jesus forgave me and saved me for my abusive marriage- I do not believe God would comdem me- knowing the pain I went though- I believe God wants me to be happy in this life- to share my life with a person he has blessed me with- Please help me to understand? Your advise is much appriciated

I agree with cgirl on this, if you put God first place in your life, and let Him heal the hurt, your desires will become His desires for you, and with or without a husband, He will fill you with His presence and give you the desires of your heart. Please remember, the devil brings condemnation, God only brings conviction. If we live in sin, condemnation comes. If we have repented, forgiveness comes and all sin and unrighteousness is washed away in the blood of Jesus and He remembers it no more (1 John 1:9). Your boyfriend may be hung up on legalism, or making excuses not to commit. Either way, pray about the situation, and make sure this is the guy God has for you, it may be he isn't. That is hard to hear, but if you want God's will in your life, He will say some things to do we don't want to do, but remember, Jesus died for us and bought us with a price, His blood. He will always do what is best, we must trust in Him with all our heart, and lean not on our own understanding (Proverbs 3:5). Verse 6 says He will direct our path. I pray the Lord will heal your soul, and give you the wisdom and understanding to make the right choices. God bless you sis!