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daughter, son-in-law, unborn child

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Posted by: lady1bug2

My daughter got married Mar. 2002.
I have prayed for her husband since my daughter was a baby.
I ask God if he would allow me to know when someone came - if he was the o­ne God chose.  I told both my daughters to pray for their future husbands.
I did not know if my daughter did this or not until o­ne day a young lady was talking about the right man.  I suggested her praying about the which o­ne
God' wants her to marry.  My daughter said that was what she did and God answered her prayer.  Well, he answered mine too.  I knew that this young man was the o­ne just a week or so after I met him.  Before either of the them knew that they loved each other.  I prayed because he did not fit the description I had asked for.  God told me to look at his heart.  He got saved at 16, but then got the true reason behind his parents divorce.  And that ended that.
My daughter got save around 4 or t.  She was at almost everyone of Jerry's meetings at Eastgate in Bremerton, the first time he ever came to town.
HERE'S THE PROBLEM
He husband does not keep a job.  They lived me until he decided he wanted to move back to Texas.  He responds to things people say before he gives it any thought.  Anyway my daughter found out 1 wk after they got there that she was pregnant.  She wants to have the baby here, he wants to stay there.  She feels that she is the o­ne who has done all the sacrificing.  They didn't have $ for her pills so when they told me of course I told them to use protection.  He told me not to worry.  Well, I think now he believes that my daughter got pregnant o­n purpose so that she could get him to move back here.  They both knew that she was no longer o­n the pill and neither used any protection.  But someone told him that she could not have gotten pregnant that fast.  She was o­nly off the pill 2 wks.  But you become fertile after a fews days of no pills.  Not sure he believes that.  Therefore, he tells her he doesn't know how he feels about the news of her being pregnant.  Now neither of them even talk about the baby.  He has worked maybe 6 wks or so their first year.  She has been the soul supporter.  He has been working in Texas since they arrived, but they are living with his father.  A temporary job.  But he waits for his father, friends to tell him about someone that they know can hire him.  He won't go out o­n his own. 
HERE'S THE PRAYER REQUEST AFTER ALL THAT:
He asked me to fly down and drive home with her.  He will come down a month before the baby is born (Feb) and leave when it is a month old.  They are staying together and love each other but both want different things.  She wants to act like married people, have a husband that works, a place of their own even if its a tent to live.  He wants to give her everything but I don't think he knows how.  Doesn't know what he wants to do with his life career wise.
I think that their decision to be apart is way wrong.
GOD PUT THIS MARRIAGE TOGETHER - EVEN WITH ALL THE THINGS MY SON IN LAW HAS DONE IS DOING . 
I STILL BELIEVE WITH EVER FIBER OF MY BEING THAT GOD TOLD ME HE WAS THE o­nE AND THAT I NEEDED TO LOOK AT HIS HEART.
NOW MY PRAYER IS THAT GOD WILL HAVE THE HEART COME OUT.  THAT HE WILL GIVE HIM A DESIRE, AMBITION TO WORK AND SUPPORT THE WOMAN HE SAYS HE LOVES.  PROVIDE FOR HIS BABY. 
SATAN WANTS TO DESTROY WHAT GOD PUT TOGETHER.  PLEASE PRAY THAT GOD WILL GIVE THEM WISDON, AGREEMENT AND ABOVE ALL STRENGTH TO FIGHT WHAT SATAN IS TRYING TO DO TO STOP MY SON IN LAW FROM HEARING GOD. 

THANK YOU FOR LISTENING.
A LITTLE PRAYER FOR MOM WOULDN'T HURT EITHER.
WISDOM FOR ME TO KNOW WHEN TO TALK AND WHEN TO BE QUITE.  AND WHAT TO DO AND NOT DO IN THIS SITUATION WHEN ASKED TO BE A PARTICIPANT
THANKS AGAIN
GOD BLESS
NANCY
PLEASE





Posted by: silverthorn

Dear Nancy,
I understand how you are feeling. I have a son in law that I just never liked very much. I have always worried about my daughter because she needed someone to be good to her. Six months before her husband graduated from college we found out that he had the worst case scenario of multiple sclerosis. The type he has is primary progressive and will likely continue with the deteriation of his muscles. I pray for him everyday and have grown to love him but he will probably never work and they have two small children and the son my daughter already had when they married. This of course means my daughter is the sole provider. o­nce she asked me why her because she has a son that was born with many problems and has had many surgeries. She didn't understand why God would do this to her again. After some thought about how loving and caring she is all I could think of was that why wouldn't God choose her. If I were God looking for someone to care and love someone ill I would choose her too. I still don't like my son-in-law much and it is sometimes hard to see how he treats my daughter but I know that God works in very mysterious ways sometimes and I know that he has his hand o­n them. It is so very hard sometimes for me to keep my big mouth shut and let them live there own life but I know that I must do this. I work really hard at showing him that I love him (even if I don't like his actions) and I listen to my daughter when she comes to me to complain without becoming judgemental, I realize my role is to encourage and listen.
God bless you. I will pray for you now for patience and wisdom in dealing with this situation. I will also pray that God protects your daughter and surrounds her with love. Perhaps your son-in-law will mature o­nce the child is born. I think young men are always fearful of the enormous responsibility that comes with fatherhood. I pray that God will make him a wonderful and responsible father.

God bless you.

Jan