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It is now over for me....but its going to be ok

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Posted by: micki

I finally got it out of him....my husband has a girlfriend. To my Christian friends who have prayed for my marriage reconsiliation, it is over. I must move on.....the hurt has been unbearable and I am emotionally and spiritually drained......God has a better plan for me. In the bible it says if your husband is not a Christian and walks away from the marriage, to let him go. I am letting him go and getting on with the divorce. My sister was married to a non Christian man for 10 yrs. They divorced and on Easter Sunday she is marrying a wonderful, spirit filled Christian man who is so in love with her and her kids. I am so happy for her and I now Know it is time for me to move on with my life....God has something in store for me. This is how I truely feel. I know and I believe that many of you here who are praying for your marriage reconsiliation that God willing it will be granted in His time. I will continue to pray for you all and please continue me in your prayers. I love you all and I deeply thank you for all the prayers you have given me in these hard times. God bless you all,

(((hugs)))
Micki


Posted by: StarChilde

micki... I will include you in my prayers, for GOd to be with you during this time. Everyone has to make the decision that is right for them, & no one knows everything that you have been through because of all this. I stand behind your decision, as your sister in the Body of Christ. I would post more but a little miss KaeLyn is anxiously waiting for a bath, & her patience as a 29 mo. old, is only so long!~ God bless micki & your family


Posted by: LQMay01

Oh Micki, I'm so sorry to hear this news. Please know that I am praying for you, for God's Will to be done, whatever that may be. You just stay close to the Lord and trust in Him. He will never leave you nor forsake you. Our husbands might, but HE never will!!!

We all are here for you and we love you!
Lois


Posted by: micki

Your prayers and love mean so much to me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I am looking foreward to my life now and its like a ton of bricks lifted off my shoulders because I know its now done and over with. I am excited for what God has in store for me. When my husband told me this am he was just so unloving and cold towards me. God doesnt want me to go through that anymore...I praise His Holy Name! I exhaut thee, I exhalt thee, I exhalt thee oh Lord! Praise your Holy Name!


Posted by: czynka

Dearest Micki, oh i am so very sorry to hear this. You've been so brave and so open and so faithful. I truly feel with you sis.

Lord please please take Micki into Your strong, loving arms and comfort her. This must have been a terrible shock to her. Hold her close and let her feel the warmth of Your love flowing through her.
Hold her two little children, bless them, keep them under Your wings. May they grow up loving you , and with their Mum as an example, how could they not? Micki will need Your strength Lord, to answer the questions they are bound to ask when they are old enough to understand, she needs Your strength now to carry on, and she will, because You live in her and she loves You so much. Thankyou for the strength already in her, facing the future You have for her, with enthusiasm and excitement. Thankyou for lifting the weight from her shoulders and bringing peace and relief to her.
Be her guide, lead every step she takes, protect her on her path as she travels into the plan You have for her. Cover her at all times Lord, with Your precious Blood, both Micki and her babies, keep them safe, keep them close to Your heart. Lay Your hands upon their heads and bless them Lord.
Wherever you lead Micki, Lord, give her all the love and all the confidence in herself that she needs. Bring peace into her heart, and reassure her every day how precious and cherished she is. You are leading her into a new future, help her to come to You with every decision she has to make, every corner she has to turn, every aspect of her life. Lord we don't know what Your plan for Micki is, but we do know that she will get the very best. That's what she deserves, and that is exactly what You will give her.
In Jesus name. Amen

Bless you, bless you Micki, we love you.


Posted by: Kari

Micki,
I will not claim in anyway to know what the whole plan God has for your life is. But I do know that God hates divorce and that He can change any situation. If you truly feel that God is calling you to something better- let Him handle it all. You said that you are going to proceed with the divorce. Please do not take any legal action yourself. If God intends for this divorce to happen, He will orchestrate it all. Do not, please, do not take these matters into your own hands. Continue to pray to God for the salvation of your husband and his deliverance from the evil that has ahold of him. There are some of us out here who have been having to deal with the effects of adultery for a long time now- but every day the Lord gives us the strength and the faith to hang in there another 24 hours. Please don't let the enemy decieve you in anyway. Just truly give it to God and ask that His will be done. Also, remember the scripture that states- " and if a woman divorces her husband and remarries, she commits adultery. " Mark 10:12

Lord, I lift Micki and her family up to You today and ask for a mighty blessing upon her life. I pray that she eyes to only see You, ears to hear only You and a heart that is so tender to Your will that she does not miss even one gentle tug. I pray that You protect her from all evil that seeks to encroach upon her. I pray that her mind be free from any lies from the enemy. Lord, I pray that YOUR will and only your will be done in these lives. I pray her husband to be so strongly convicted of his sin that he find it impossible to even pretend that it is right. I pray that You would give him strength to resist the wiles of the adulterous woman and that You would give him the desire to do Your will above all things. I pray for a new love to spring forth in his heart- A love for You and all Your wonderous ways. I pray that there be a hedge of protection around this family Lord so that nothing can be done here that is not of You. All these things in Jesus name I pray- Amen


Posted by: dcorey

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Originally Posted by micki
I finally got it out of him....my husband has a girlfriend. To my Christian friends who have prayed for my marriage reconsiliation, it is over. I must move on.....the hurt has been unbearable and I am emotionally and spiritually drained......God has a better plan for me. In the bible it says if your husband is not a Christian and walks away from the marriage, to let him go. I am letting him go and getting on with the divorce. My sister was married to a non Christian man for 10 yrs. They divorced and on Easter Sunday she is marrying a wonderful, spirit filled Christian man who is so in love with her and her kids. I am so happy for her and I now Know it is time for me to move on with my life....God has something in store for me. This is how I truely feel. I know and I believe that many of you here who are praying for your marriage reconsiliation that God willing it will be granted in His time. I will continue to pray for you all and please continue me in your prayers. I love you all and I deeply thank you for all the prayers you have given me in these hard times. God bless you all,

(((hugs)))
Micki



Micki: I too, have just found out my husband is seeing someone else. God must certainly be working in my life because I feel I must NOT give up. I don't know all your specifics, but I pray God will convict your husband's heart that what he is doing isn't right. Divorce grieves God -- and we don't want to do that. I pray for you and I pray you will feel strongly about "standing" for your marriage. All the trials that being thrown at you will make you stronger.

You are in my prayers whatever you decide. Don't let Satan attack your spiritual side -- that's what's going on with your husband. "Walk by faith -- not by sight."

In Christian Love.


Posted by: mellie73

With God nothing is impossible. I married at 22 and came so close to divorcing. My husband didn't know the Lord as his Saviour and he treated me terrible- mental abuse. I ended up having an affair out of desperation. When my husband found out, he was devastated. He didn't know how to handle it. He knew he needed the Lord. He asked Jesus to save him and help him, and he told me he was "sorry for making me want to turn to someone else" and I told him that I always loved him but that I was so hurt inside & how sorry I was for what I did. It took some time but he & I both are completely different people now. He is very involved in the church and a wonderful husband and father. It's been 3 yrs. now since his salvation and since we agreed to stay together and work things out and I'm so happy with him and so thankful to God for what He's done in our lives. It's like the affair never happened. Just let God lead you and direct you and give you wisdom. Pray for your husband that the Lord will make him feel so guilty for what he's done and that he will repent to you and to God and change his ways. In some situations I think it's better for you to be separated, but I don't really know your situation, but I do know God can change any body. I am 110% sure of that as my husband is living proof. God bless.


Posted by: Deacy

Micki, I've never before written to you as I'm a new member of just a little more than one week. I just read your last post and had to write in. I've posted my own story on this site and continue to solicit the prayers of everyone who will pray in spirit and in truth. Especially spouses who are having problems in their marriages as well. I'm so sorry to hear about yet another spouse seeing someone else and being tricked by the enemy into thinking the only thing to do is end their marriage! I'm sick and tired of seeing what could be truly great marriages fall by the wayside! I know what the feeling of betrayal is like although according to my husband, our present separation and pending divorce proceedings have nothing to do withy anyone else. Maybe he's right, at least I've been praying he is but nonetheless, I still feel betrayed in that he promised to honor, love and cherish me til death do us part. Being separated for almost a full year now though we communicate off and on and he helps out with bills, errands, etc it still hurts.

I pray your strength in the Lord, Jesus Christ and that your marriage, in spite of what has happened will be restored and made whole again! I pray that God will renew your husband's heart and mind for you and that the evil strongholds upon him will be bound up by God and destroyed!! I pray that your husband has no peace until he repents to God for his sins, begs your forgiveness for his indiscretion and returns to you and your children. In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen! I know praying constantly for someone who seems so headstrong when it comes to what he thinks is right can be very emotionally tiring and frustrating. Please continue to pray anyway. Even if it's only one sentence. For, God knows your heart and what you're feeling already. Just don't stop praying. Also, continue asking others to lift you and your situation up in prayer. The Devil wants you to drop your head and walk away, ceasing all praying. That's why I'm suggesting you do the opposite as much as you can.

Also, please check out the website www.divorcebusters.com to read about miraculous reconciliations even after one spouse's affair. Even when all hope seemed to be gone! There are actual tips listed free of charge that help a lot while waiting for your breakthrough from God. The website resulted from the book, "Divorce Remedy" written by Michelle Weiner-Davis that I actually went out and bought when my husband and I separated. I know when I really began to apply the techniques listed in the book even though my husband & I were already separated and living apart, I noticed positive changes in him. Somewhere along the way though, I became anxious and went against the tips given and noticed as the author said, that he & I fell back into the same pattern. The good thing is I'm planning to begin applying what I learned again while I wait for God to bring about my breakthrough. I know this will be very beneficial to you as it has been to me. God Bless! Love, Deacy


Posted by: micki

Thank you all for your prayers....you are all so caring. Thank you. I will never stop praying for Bruce...however I do feel at peace knowing I am getting on with my life. When Bruce told me he had a girlfreind, I must admit, I was a mess all over again. But its like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. I needed to hear that as now I can move on. I can forgive Bruce, but I wont forget.....I need a man to love me and God has my life all planned out for me. I have read that when a woman leaves her husband she is involved in adultry (sorry cant remember exactly how it goes).....but he left me. I have also read that if a nonChristian man walks away from his wife, to let him go. God wants us to have peace and he has something awesome in store for me. In no way do I want to discourage anyone here who is praying for marriage reconsiliation. God knows our hearts and He has something planned for us all. God bless you all.
In His Love,
Micki


Posted by: libertyleigh

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Originally Posted by micki
Thank you all for your prayers....you are all so caring. Thank you. I will never stop praying for Bruce...however I do feel at peace knowing I am getting on with my life. When Bruce told me he had a girlfreind, I must admit, I was a mess all over again. But its like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. I needed to hear that as now I can move on. I can forgive Bruce, but I wont forget.....I need a man to love me and God has my life all planned out for me. I have read that when a woman leaves her husband she is involved in adultry (sorry cant remember exactly how it goes).....but he left me. I have also read that if a nonChristian man walks away from his wife, to let him go. God wants us to have peace and he has something awesome in store for me. In no way do I want to discourage anyone here who is praying for marriage reconsiliation. God knows our hearts and He has something planned for us all. God bless you all.
In His Love,
Micki


Hi Micki,
have just read your post,and just had to write and offer support.
As a married woman, and mother, I can relate to the hurt and devastation you must be feeling right now. However, you are a truly wonderful lady for the lack of malice you show to your husband; you are a true Christian.
I will pray for you. I know that our Dear God and Father will help you through this situation. When one door closes, he opens another. He wants the best for us.
There will be peace and happiness for you and your little ones around the corner.
God Bless you and Yours.
Love,
Liberty.