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I don't know what to do - life is getting too difficult

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Posted by: laurie131

My husband of almost 20 years, he just turned 40, decided that he no longer wants to be married. It all started with him going out on pool night and then it was every night. I believe he is an alcoholic. He no longer comes home at night but will come once or twice a week to shower and change. He says he no longer loves me. The worst part is he doesn't even call or see his teenage daughters anymore, who are 14 & 16. I was always wondering if he wasn't seeing somebody else. On Sunday I found out that people had seen him with another woman.
This woman has been chasing him for a very long time. She is also married, but her husband is in the Air Force and I'm not sure he if he knows what she's doing. She has been married 3 times and I know she has another married friend that runs around with her pretty much every night looking for men. I pray every day that he will turn to our Lord for help. Mentally, I don't think he knows what he is doing anymore. The hardest part is seeing what he is doing to my girls. In fact my oldest is getting to the point where she says she doesn't even care what he says or does. He won't answer his cell phone if it comes from our number. I've had to call his friends, because he will answer their calls. My youngest wanted her Daddy when she was sick and left him a message and after an hour I had his friend give him the message. After 45 min., he finally came to see her. He wasn't the Dad she knew. He didn't put his arm around her or acted like he cared at all. Needless to say, he only stayed for 15 min. and left again. We pray every day that he will get help and come home. We love him very much! Dear Lord, please help us.


Posted by: Marge

Ooh Lord, I ask that You bless Laurie. I can hardly imagion what she is feeling right now. I want You to take her husband in Your hand Lord, and reveal the things of God to him. I know full well he will never be the same, once he has seen You! Mend there marriage and love them above all else. Put people in the lives of there family that are strong in the Lord, and that can be sympathic. You are the author and finisher of our faith, and we will trust in You! Thank You Lord, for the healing that is going to take place! In Jesus Name, Amen!

Marge


Posted by: kmath

God I ask you for your divine intervention in this marriage. Thank you for all that you are doing, and all that you are about to do.
amen


Posted by: Judy Lile

Lord, please help this family, turn this mans heart to you and his family. Let him see where he belongs, let people be put in his life that will turn it around and deliver him from evil and lead him from temptation.

Judy


Posted by: laurie131

Thank you for your prayers! This is a wonderful site. I feels better to know there is other people out there praying with you. I don't feel quite so alone anymore. May God bless all of you and I'm praying for your requests. I pray that he'll hear and answer all of them.


Posted by: stevebarry

The Lord is with us always, although sometimes it feels there is despair and no hope, He guides us by his light. Everything he does he does for us. I pray with you that the Lord gives you strength to bear this burden and to guide you with his light to what he has to hold for you. Don't despair. He will be there for you. I will pray for you and your family.


Posted by: Praying For Restoration

Hi Laurie,

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Please go to www.restoreministries.net and read the praise reports and testimonies. They have EXCELLENT advice and Biblical instruction to help you right away with your situation. They deal with thousands of marriages, most of whom have adulterous situations going on.

I will come back and pray again -- just got back in town and I'll do a better job of praying when I've had some rest.

Blessings and Healing to you and your marriage,

Erika
~~~


Posted by: ninababy73

Father, I lift Laurie and her husband up before Your mighty throne of mercy and grace. Father, this husband is in serious need of a divine encounter with You. Father, convict him of his actions. Cause him to break down with a heart that is heavy of repentance for his actions and after he has repented, Father may he run back into his wife's waiting arms. Father, we know that the vows of marriage are precious before You. It a bond of union. Restore this marriage back to its rightful place before You. Be with the children during this, love on them. Father, strengthen Laurie, surround her with Your peace and guidance. May she know without a doubt that You are in control of this marriage and You have both her husband and her in the palms of Your restoring hands. Bless them all, I pray. Amen


Posted by: A.Sturgill

Father, I just come to you this day, thanking you for working in this families lives. Bless Laurie Lord guide her in the direction you have for her. Lord I just ask you place a hedge around her and her two daughters. Fill their voids. Father, please comfort these two girls as their father turns from them. Bring someone else to them Father that can fill these empty places in their lives. Protect them Father from hurt and pain they are in the mist of. Lord just convict this man, every path he turns on not from you, Lord just make it turn sour. Father help open his eyes to his family. Give him a desire to see them, speak to them, spend time with them Father. Please bless Laurie and give her the knowledge to know what to say to her girls. Father just open doors she needs opened right now. Comfort her and protect her from the pain she has in her heart. I just rebuke satan and his deception in these precious lives. Father thank you for working here. In Jesus Wonderful Name, Amen.


Laurie, just take one day at a time. Step by step, God will be there to pick you up, comfort you and carry you when you need it. Just have patience with your girls, they are hurting I know. Ask God to hold you up, he will. I am so sorry for your pain. The Lord has a plan for your life, just ask him to guide you. God Bless You, Ann


Posted by: WeRFamily

Father, all I ask for Laurie on this day is that You reveal to her that You are still in control, in the mighty name of Jesus.


Posted by: tucker

Dear Precious Lord,

I feel the pain that this family is going through. My marriage of 18 years is also on the way to divorce. Lord help them to feel your presence and know your love as you have shown me during this time. Open the husbands eyes to see You and ears to hear You. Lord bless this family and wrap your loving arms around them.

Amen


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Originally Posted by laurie131
My husband of almost 20 years, he just turned 40, decided that he no longer wants to be married. It all started with him going out on pool night and then it was every night. I believe he is an alcoholic. He no longer comes home at night but will come once or twice a week to shower and change. He says he no longer loves me. The worst part is he doesn't even call or see his teenage daughters anymore, who are 14 & 16. I was always wondering if he wasn't seeing somebody else. On Sunday I found out that people had seen him with another woman.
This woman has been chasing him for a very long time. She is also married, but her husband is in the Air Force and I'm not sure he if he knows what she's doing. She has been married 3 times and I know she has another married friend that runs around with her pretty much every night looking for men. I pray every day that he will turn to our Lord for help. Mentally, I don't think he knows what he is doing anymore. The hardest part is seeing what he is doing to my girls. In fact my oldest is getting to the point where she says she doesn't even care what he says or does. He won't answer his cell phone if it comes from our number. I've had to call his friends, because he will answer their calls. My youngest wanted her Daddy when she was sick and left him a message and after an hour I had his friend give him the message. After 45 min., he finally came to see her. He wasn't the Dad she knew. He didn't put his arm around her or acted like he cared at all. Needless to say, he only stayed for 15 min. and left again. We pray every day that he will get help and come home. We love him very much! Dear Lord, please help us.



Posted by: Praying For Restoration

Oh Lord Jesus,

I lift up this hurting family before you. Lord, please come and indwell this situation, bringing your will, your kingdom principles, to rule in this situation.

Protect these girls, Lord, from the devastation the enemy has planned for them by ripping apart their family at such a vulnerable time in their lives. Give them wisdom far beyond their years, and help them to understand that their enemy is not their father, but powers and principalities -- the enemy and his forces, and the forces of sin. Help them to pray for their father, not to become deadened to what is going on. Keep their hearts alive, keep their faith alive. Keep their hope strong in marriage and fatherhood and all that represents. As they move forward in life, help them to seek your will about whom they shall marry.

Oh Lord, comfort Laurie. Thank you for her faithful heart that seeks your will and still believes in love even after all the wrongs she has suffered at the hand of the enemy, via her husband. Give her wisdom, and help her to know how to pray, how and when to "do" anything in situations, and keep her filled up with your love and forgiveness. Bring your word leaping alive to her, full of instruction and comfort. Help her to look to you during this time, and as your word says, she will be radiant and not ashamed.

Lord, please break through to this husband. Lord, all signs point to a mid-life crisis -- meet him and minister to him there, please Lord. Call him unto yourself. Help him to have the eyes to see what he is fast becoming. Help him to see that the days of his life mounting higher does not have to mean life is over, and help him to see that the party lifestyle he is living is only going to lead to destruction and ultimately feeling like a HUGE failure. Help him to look down the road, Lord God. Help him to feel what his daughters and wife are feeling. Bring your conviction to him, with your glorious hope right on the other side of it. Oh Lord, thank you for that hope. Thank you that these problems are not too hard for you! Hallelujah! Thank you Lord that you are in the restoring business! Restoring people, restoring marriages, restoring families!!!!! Thank you Lord! Oh Lord, we look forward to the healing you are bringing to these people. Thank you Lord! Thank you!

In Jesus' Name,

Amen