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Posted by: tatiana_bueras
I need help, I am only 19 years old and married, my husband is also 19. It hasn't even been a year and we already having problems. Sometimes I think I over react with my jealousy, but I'm just so afraid of losing him. So times I even acuse him of cheating without even having a slight bit evidence. I feel like I am going crazy!!! PLEASE I need someone to talk to!!!
Posted by: tucker
I was married at 19 also but my husband was 8 years older than me. Now it is 21 years later and he wants a divorce.
The best advice I could give, don't cling. Trust and communicate, communicate, communicate, communicate.
Tucker
Dear Lord,
Please help this couple learn the valuable lesson of open and honest communication. Be with them and their marriage, guide them down the path that you want them to take.
Amen
Posted by: Praying For Restoration
Hi Tatiana (what a beautiful name!)!
You've come to a great place for prayer and support.
I was also 19 when I married (I'm 38 now).
Are you a believer?
Please sweetie, don't accuse your husband of cheating. What you need to do, is get as close to the Lord as possible, let him heal your heart. Do you have a history of anything in your life that would bring up this fear of losing your husband? Or is it that he is doing things that cause that fear? I suspect the first rather than the latter, just from your post, as you said you accuse him of cheating even when you have no evidence. You have to be sure you are looking to the Lord to meet your deepest needs, and put your focus on what kind of wife you are, not on your husband. Take your concerns about your husband and his behavior to the Lord, and believe me, the Lord will take care of things! It may not be in the way you expected, or in your timing, or even directly what you asked, but trust me, if you give your life and marriage to Him, get reallllllllly close to Him, and focus on what the word teaches you about being a godly wife, things will definitely improve!
God has a lot of promises for us. That if we delight in Him, He will give us the desires of our hearts! That if we love Him, and are called according to His purposes, He will bring all things to our good in our lives! Wow! (That doesn't mean everything will be peachy, but he will use it all to grow us in Him.) That He will complete the good work He started in us! You can claim all of that for your marriage, in your prayer life.
Some of us are going to read a book together called, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. You'd be welcome to join us. There are some fundamental things in there I wish I'd known early on in my marriage that would have saved us a lot of trouble. Also, there is a wonderful marriage restoration ministry called Restore Ministries and they have a lot of great info about being a godly wife and how to pray for your husband. You can find them at www.restoreministries.net . And, of course, keep talking to us! 
We'll lift you up in prayer!
Lord Jesus,
I lift up Tatiana and her husband before you. Lord, you say in your word that man is not to separate what you have brought together. Lord, we know you hate divorce and discord in marriage, and you desire for them to have a solid union that will bring glory to your name and blessings to them both for all the days of their lives.
Lord, I don't know all of the circumstances involved here, but you do! Praise you Lord! Thank you for bringing Tatiana here, and for the opportunity to bless her marriage and bring it before you in prayer. Lord, come into this situation. Give them both soft and godly hearts for the other. Help them to put their trust in you, and to truly give their marriage up into your capable and loving hands. Heal the hurt spots in Tatiana's heart, Lord God. Heal and touch her in all of the deep places in her heart that have been wounded before, even by others in her past. Help her to put her trust in you, knowing that you will never leave her nor forsake her.
Help her to learn how to be a godly wife, pleasing to you in all of her ways. Thank you Lord for how you love her, how you want the best for her. Thank you Lord!
We look to you and praise you, for all you will do in this marriage.
In Jesus' Name,
Amen
Posted by: tatiana_bueras
I'd like to thank you all for helping me and praying for me! Now that I am away from my church and pastor, I feel empty. I used to go to cell groups,(a group of teens) they used to help my husband and I before we got married. I really miss them, they are all actually in Nogales, Az, and we live in Tucson, Az. We can't be going down all the time cause we work, and my husband goes to college. N-E ways things aren't the same when we do get to go down to Nogales, it seems as if ever since we left, the cell seperated, they don't talk to us anymore. We have tried to go to a church here in Tucson, but if I feel comfertable at a church, my husband doesn't and if he feels comfertable at one I don't. And lately when we do get a chance to go to church in Nogales, he makes excuses, like I need to rest, I work and go to school all week let me take this one day off. Or I don't feel like going today, UHHHH I get so mad...cause I do want to go, but I don't want to leave him behind. I really don't know what to do. I used to feel secure and outgoing about my self, but now it's as if I'm nothing, I feel like I let people do what they want with me.
Posted by: Praying For Restoration
Hi Tatiana,
You are NOT "nothing", you are a daughter of the Most High King!!!!! A child of God! Wow!
When your husband suggests going to church, my best advice is -- go! Go wherever he feels comfortable. That is far better than you guys not going at all, right? And if it is a place he has chosen, he is more likely to get involved and stay, and you do want that influence in his life! Ask the Lord to make it a place where you both will grow and enjoy it.
Sounds like you are branching out in life, and the Lord is leading you to new places! Very exciting!!!!
And praise God your husband has any interest in going to church at all! That is awesome! (So many wouldn't be caught dead in a church that we hear about on this board!)
Posted by: taszman
Tatiana, stay true to yourself. We all have self doubts at times. Know that now that you are here, you have over 13,100 new family members who care about you and are praying for you. Let God control your actions through prayer. I was married for 8 years (at 23) and was blind sided by my wife when she asked for a divorce. I feel God wanted me to go through the hard times i have for the last 6 years in order to make me stronger and more prayerful in my new marriage. My wife has gone through the same heartache and together we are one with God. We struggle like everyone but we both know God is always with us.
God Bless!
Eric 