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Posted by: Copper

ok. guys i have prayed and prayed.
asked friends, loved ones, the pastor.

i need to know, and have prayed and just am so mixed up i don't know which way is up.

i need to know if i should ask my husband for a seperation.

he is mean, not physically, except the one time. and verbally harsh with not only me, but the children. he watches mtv and such, things i don't want my children watching, cusses, stays out drinking-now, and didn't go to church today, i see a slow pattern of it getting worse, this has happened before.

how long do i have to wait for God's intervention?
i feel like asking him for a seperation. i need space, i'm tired.
is this wrong to feel this way?

plus, i have the feeling he is seeing someone else.

i have prayed, why isn't God doing anything. would it ever be God's will for us to split up?

thanks, me


Posted by: Georgia_Girl

Dear Copper,
I sat here for the longest time and read my bible and prayed for you. I have no idea the pain that you must be going through and my heart hurts for you. Everything that I have thought about telling you sounds so foolish, but God has a plan for you. I wish that I could tell you what might help but I promise to talk to my Father daily for you.

Dear heavenly Father please shower this woman in your love and understanding Lord. Show her Father that you hear her cries and tell her what to do Lord. Cover her in your grace. Spark a fire under her husband Lord and have him be a Godly husband and father. Let him see what he is doing to this family and fall on his face before you Lord. Call upon your angels to protect this family from Satan and in Jesus name leave them be. I love you Father and I pray for your wisdom for this woman in Jesus name.
Amen


Posted by: thornygrace

Dear sister-friend,

Only God knows if this is the right thing for you or not.

Maybe there is something less than asking for a seperation that you could consider. I don't like the idea of you being verbally abused, but you know that. Maybe you could ask him to stay somewhere else or maybe you could move somewhere else and give yourself some space not to dread coming home.

But even if you do this, that doesn't mean you have to give up "standing" for your marriage.

I encourage you to not make any decision about this for a few days AFTER the next vigil. (During the vigil you might be more emotional, I know I was during the last one.)

There really is no reason to make this decision quickly so pray about it. My experience is that if I can get a sense of peace about something I know that most likely that is a sign from God. (s. doesn't give me any peace!)


Posted by: A.Sturgill

I would have to say, wait, I know sounds stupid, just wait, pray. I believe you will be given a sign, a direct sign if you are to seperate. I am praying for you, but only you can act.

If he is being mean to your children, that is another story. They deserve better and God will honor that. If you feel like he is lashing out to them, get someplace alone with him and explain to him what he is saying to them is wrong. Tell him if he is mean towards them that you have no alternative but to separate. Tell him your children will not be subject to any abuse, verbal, physical, emotional. I would like to think that any decent man would abide these wishes.

I'm sorry for your pain right now. I am praying for you. Love, Ann



Dear Father I just come to you today asking that you protect Copper and her children. Lord stop satan's attacks on them. Give her guidance so she know what to do. Take her down the path you have for her. Father we know you don't ignore the cries, please help her Father. Open this man's eyes to his family that he will see the destructive things he is doing. Supress his tongue from saying evil things. Lord you have the answers and I claim you are working in her situation. Just protect them Father, In Jesus Wonderful Name, Amen!!!


Posted by: Copper

pls just kp praying. he told me again last nt he doesn't luv me. i just said ok, but i love you. anyway, pls pray for him, that he would luv me and That God would handle this, pls soon Lord.


Posted by: thornygrace

I am hoping that the change you are seeing in him is a positive one. But Kimberly, change sometimes takes a long time and comes in tiny steps.

I really really agree with the idea of you protecting you children. Remember that they are effected by any verbal abuse you go through as well.

The advise to wait is also very good advise. So often we get impatient and want things to happen "right now" and that is not how God feels is best for us.


This is a major decision that you are trying to make. Don't make it quickly.

But stay safe no matter what.


Posted by: Copper

WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! tom is running from mtg with our ss teacher, but God made it otherwise, they ran into each other at a store, which is AWESOME because we live in a town seperate of the ss teacher's town, VERY UNLIKELY THIS WOULD EVER HAPPEN! anyway, don't know if much was said, but the groundwork was laid. he wants to talk to him. (the ss teacher) anyway, please keep praying

thank you and God bless,
pls also pray for me, cause i'm soooooooo tired.
feel like a mack truck ran over me. luv u all, kimberly


Posted by: Copper

please continue to pray for my husband and i. i have no idea when or how long it will be or even if he will leave. pray for me for discernment to know how to get ready for this, mentally, physically, and emotionally. pray for him, that God would change his heart, and give hima new love for both God and me. many things to pray for. for faith hope love, patience. for discernment. you know, all things that a person in the condition would need. pray he would not only stay, but be kept from temptation, and any ow in the picture, temptations, for a hedge around him against evil.
thank you. i am personally exhausted, not depressed, just exhausted, losing patience,losing hope. wanting him to hurry and leave, but at the same time asking God for help in standing strong. feel like i have to act this way or that to keep him here. trying to just be me, but becoing obsessed with how to fix this situation. pray for God to help me let go, please. have even gotten to the point where i can't pray for others, because so uptight about this. it has consumed me. i hate it.

anyway, thank you and God Bless, kimberly


Posted by: Copper

please pray for God to give me discernment, fast.

i keep dreaming that he is cheating, and he keeps saying he is leaving, but when? and he keeps doing things that make me think he is going to stay, like letting me use his cell phone, when his boss gave him this new one. if he were leaving wouldn't he keep that? i mean, gosh, it has been two months of saying he is leaving, it is torture, pure torture, i love on him, but he not i. plus, watching him fall further and further from God. i'm so confused. i've come to the point where i'm saying, ok God, i've been obedient, now what do i want? do i want to live like this forever? how long does the Lord wish for me to live like this? i want to be obedient, oh so much, but this is so hard. i get asked out, and spoken to, by guys whom would be nice, to me. what am i doing? i am trying to just continue to love my husband, and just be a good wife to him- perhaps he is confused. i don't know. oh Father God, i wish he would make up his mind, and either love me and make this marriage work, or stop putting me through this. it is so hard. i know many people have it worse, their health, their children, ect. i know. i am truly blessed, all i have wrong are deceased parents, and an autistic child, and a husband whom degrades me. that is it. just an orphan, but i do have the Lord. i'm trying to keep my focus on God, and just look up. but it is difficult. i miss my husband looking at me with love and admiration. oh how i miss that. i miss laughing with him,
i think i'm getting depressed. yuck. anyway, i love all of you, i have been working alot of extra hours and it is hard for me to get on here, and then i have all of this sadness, it is hard for me to pray or sit down and even read other posts, because it saddens me so.

anyway, i love you all, and pray the Lord will bless each one of you today. Father, God, our Lord, mighty Saviour, Lord I ask you to send breakthroughs, angels of might, and love and joy to my friends today. Lord, we all have prayed in faith, please send us positive feedback. Lord, I ask that You take care of my husband today, and all of my friend's spouses. Lord, I ask that you lead us, not into temptation but through wisdom for You to live for You. Father, thank You for teaching us. Thank You for these hard times, they do mold us. Thank you, that through the pain we are growing. Lord, please just send us a fresh breath of air, a breather through the pain. in Your Name, amen.