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Fears of Counseling Appt.

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Posted by: tucker

Please pray that my husband and I both will keep open minds this evening at our marriage counseling appointment. He is only going to help deal with the children, I am going to save our marriage. Pray that his eyes will be open. We have some sticky issues to discuss tonight. Pray that he will want to come back to the appointment next week.

Our appt. is from 5:15 p.m. EST to 6:00 p.m. tonight.

I ask the Lord to give me words of kindness, wisdom, strength, and guidance.

Praise be to God may he glorify us!

Thank you and blessings on each of you,

Tucker


Posted by: JG

Dear Terrell:

This is Jerry the founder of the site. I am praying for you and hour husband and your marriage and the meeting tonight. I am praying right now the Lord will come down and grant great favor. Father open the eyes of her husband to see your glory not his sin.



Posted by: czynka

Oh Lord i ask that You prepare these two hearts, of Tucker and her husband, before they go to the counselling session...
Bring peace into Tucker's heart to say what she has to say with wisdom and love, give her the right words to say Lord, words that tell the truth but do not cut down or belittle, which is so easy to do even without realising it.
Open her husband's heart to really hear what she is saying, and let him accept those words with love and understanding.
i ask for patience and a spirit of willingness to speak to each other , and that You guide and lead every word that is said.
Oh Lord please let this counselling session be the first step in reconciling the difficulties in this marriage. I commit this appointment into Your hands , that everything will indeed be said and done to Your glory.
In Jesus name. Amen.

Bless you Tucker xxx


Posted by: A.Sturgill

Lord I ask that you open these two hearts. Give them guidance, give them the ability to be receptive to each other. Lord I just ask that you give the counselor the words of wisdom to say to this couple to open doors that so desperately need to be opened. Just bless them Father, place a special feeling in their hearts for each other today. Leave them both yearning to speak to the other, give them courage to be open and honest. Leave her husband with feelings of wanting to communicate, see Tucker in a new light. Lord I just ask that you give Tucker the wisdom she needs today. In Jesus Wonderful Name, Amen.


Posted by: Praying For Restoration

Hi Terrell,

Does he know your motivation for going to counseling? If he does, he may be closing himself off even more in the sessions as he feels he has to do that to get away, KWIM? My best advice would be to use the time to give honest approval, acceptance, and affirmation of him. Show him your gentle, accepting, and loving spirit towards him, without pouring it on. Listen. Listen as best you can and be accepting of what he has to say. Don't let the counselor push you into saying words that you won't be able to take back later. I have no idea how the actual sessions go for you guys, so I don't know if my advice applies at all, and of course you have to pray about it and be sure it resonates with what the Lord is leading you to do.

My counseling sessions (in the month or so before my husband left) seemed to be a platform for him to declare what he was going to do and to try and get me to accept it. Any effort made on the counselor's part to get him to hear me, my distress, my pain, went unheard and only backfired until he explosively decided to leave, never to return. We had one session where he quieted down and the counselor really seemed to be having some success getting his point across. At the end of the session, my husband BOLTED from the room, and then the next week told me he wasn't going back. I wish I'd known then to allow him to talk and talk and just accept and be agreeable to what he had to say. If he felt I understood him I think he would have been more calm and perhaps even not tried to leave.



Lord God,

We continue to lift this marriage up before you. Lord, you are the mighty counselor, and we ask that your will would be done during this time. Soften hearts, and help all to look to you to guide their behavior. Let them see the other. Hear the other. Give Terrell great favor in her husband's eyes. Remind him that this is the wife of his youth. Remind him of the great treasure that she is to him. Remind him that you call him to your best, and it is a best that is designed to fulfill, to set free, to thrive -- if he has any misconceptions that show the opposite direction Lord, I pray he will come to understand your truth. That by following your laws and your ways, we have true freedom. True fulfillment. True peace.

Prepare Terrell as she goes to this counseling session tonight. Dress her with mercy, forgiveness, understanding, a love that bears all things and believes all things. Help her to keep her countenance soft and shining with your peace and love. Remind her at all moments that she is in your hand, and that no weapon formed against her shall prosper, in the name of Jesus.

I bind the will of all involved, including the counselor, to the will of Jesus. I bind their words to the words of Jesus, their steps to the paths of Jesus. I loose love, forgiveness, understanding, compassion, commitment, joy, and calm in the name of Jesus.

Again, all in your name, Jesus,

Amen


Posted by: thornygrace

I read your post this morning and then the phone rang and clients came for appointments and now I am finally back here again. I said a prayer for you in my head when I read your post this morning.

How did the session go? Were you able to show him unconditional love and respect?

Men need to feel admired and respected. (Like women need to feel adored and secure.) I hope he was able to understand how much you love him and want this to work.


Posted by: tucker

The session went o.k. I am unsure on how to read the counselor. He interacts sometimes and reaffirms what he thinks that we are saying. He has been on the money so far. I am unsure if he is wanting to try to help save this marriage but some of the things he says, I feel it is God speaking to me. Because I have had some concerns and have not voiced them to anyone and all of a sudden, the concern is spoken and an answer given. If this makes any sense.

He is going back with me next week so that is a good thing. He knows that I would love nothing else than to save the marriage but I don't bring it up, just at the first session.

Thank you for all the prayers. Have a blessed day and pray for Satan to leave this relationship.

Blessings on you,

Tucker

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Originally Posted by thornygrace
I read your post this morning and then the phone rang and clients came for appointments and now I am finally back here again. I said a prayer for you in my head when I read your post this morning.

How did the session go? Were you able to show him unconditional love and respect?

Men need to feel admired and respected. (Like women need to feel adored and secure.) I hope he was able to understand how much you love him and want this to work.