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Robin & I need help ASAP!!!!!!!!

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Posted by: spacecowby76

PLEASE,PLEASE my prayer friends. Satan is pulling on Robin hard.She is still having feelings for the OM.She is trying to find biblical "loopholes" to leave.Bottom line is,she is here with me & I don't doubt God will restore our marriage put I need help.God & I are in the fight of our lives.Satan wants to win badly but I won't allow him too.Please pray for Robin to find God first & foremost& then to restore our marriage.Until she finds God again she'll keep walking with "blinders" on.Please friends...help me pray!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dear Lord,
Please hear my cries.I beg you God,please lead Robin back to you.I truly want her to be one with you again.It's not about "us".....it's about YOU God!!!! My marriage will follow but I see her fighting you.I see her thinking of the OM.I see the pain in her face when she looks at me knowing how bad I hurt.Oh Lord,touch her heart.My son & I love her soooo much.Pure uncondtional love,yet Satan has blinded her from us.God we need your strength,courage & wisdom.I've waited 10 months for her return & you answered my prayer.Please,please God grant me this one gift of a happily restored marriage.I want to be a living testimony to your greatness & how you took me from the bottom to the top. I want to be your servant.Please God,if I never receive another blessing grant me my marriage fully restored.I ask this all in your name,Amen.


Posted by: JG

Dear Cowboy:

This is Jerry and I am praying for you and Robin. Satan take your hands off of Robin. Robin I pray the Lord let you see you are walking to the wrong tree. Eve already did that and look what it got her.

Father thank you for what you are about to do. Break these chains on Robin righ now in Jesus Name we Pray. Amen.



Posted by: A.Sturgill

Lord, you know this man, and this woman. Please touch their lives, strengthen them together as one in their marriage. Lord we give you all the glory for bringing Robin home. We praise you for this!!!

Lord, just open her eyes to see her husband in a light through you. Lord, just touch her life, give her assurance she is doing the right thing coming home. Don't let her give up. Lord I just pray that Robin search and find answers through you, I just pray that she want to grow closer to you Lord.

Where two or more gather, you are there Lord and I know you are working in these lives. Thank you for that. Send your angels of protection to guide this couple down the path you have for them. I rebuke satan and all he tries in Robin's life, Lord just block satan's voice, his moves, his turmoil toward Robin.

Bless her Father, Bless him also. Give him the wisdom to know what to say, let your work be done through him Father. Give him the strength to do this, give him your wise words to speak to Robin. Bless both of them and thank you for your works in their lives. In Jesus Wonderful Name, Amen...


Posted by: shalu

Rob,

Father please flood Rob with your presense, comforting him and holding him as he waits in You. Father, I pray a hedge of thorns around Robin. Father, I know that You are hedging up her path, continuing to do so through this whole process, so that all she sees is Your glory. May You move so mightily in her heart, such a strong movement that turns her back to You. Thank You Lord, for filling Rob with a forgiveness that could only come from You. May Your unconditional love continue to woo Robin back to You and back to her husband. I thank You Lord and Praise Your Holy name....I pray this all in Jesus' name, Amen

I want you to know that I am praying in the Spirit for your situation right now. God Bless!!

Shalu


Posted by: kmath

Satan is MAD! He will not let go without a fight, because he knows he is a loser

STand on the authority you have in Christ,his word, his blood and his finished work. Your prayers as the spiritual head of your family are POWERFUL. You are the head of your wife, in the spirit realm, so the enemy will try to weaken the head-don't let him. where you cannot stand, we as your family in Jesus, we will hold you with our prayers.

God, this is the hardest part of the stand, so I have heard. (my time will come ) Uphold Rob with your MIGHTY right arm. No weapon formed will prosper, no weapon formed will prosper, no weapon formed will prosper. We have your word on that. I know you are working overtime in Robin. She loves her husband, but the enemy is trying to pull her. In Jesus name I cut every cord that holds her. Give Rob spiritual eyes to see what is really happening. praise you for the victory that has been won.

Rob, God would not have brought her home like this unless He knew you could handle it , with His strength. YOu are in my prayers.

Keisha


Posted by: spacecowby76

Thank you all for everything.I have to believe.I do believe & yes this is the hardest part but I WON"T give up!!! I need all of you in the worst way.I'm gathering strength in your words for my body is weary.This fight is dragging me down but I REFUSE TO LOSE TO SATAN!!!!!!!!!!
Please continue to pray for us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Many,many heartfelt thanks!!!
Rob


Posted by: spacecowby76

Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! As good as yesterday was,Satan is pulling on Robin again.She ia all down in the dumps today & I know it's becasue of the OM.Friends,I'm begging for more prayer.Please ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We need to join forces & bind Satan from her life.Pray that God touches her heart & she finds him again.
Rob


Posted by: jlfirefighter207

Dear Precious Heavenly Father,

You tell us that if we gather together in your name, you will answer our prayers. Lord, continue to hear our prayers today for Rob and Robin that you will bind Satan and not allow his hold on this marriage to continue. In fact, we are claiming this miracle in Your name, Father. Allow Robin to begin to see what she has at home with Rob and allow Rob to see that he is witnessing miracles in his relationship every day. The fact that Robin came home is a perfect example of that miracle. God, give Rob the strength to deal with this situation and the insight to continue to give these issues to You. It is difficult to see your wife upset over another man...you know that I know what he is going through. It wasn't until I gave it all up to God that I started seeing miracles happen. It is difficult and I struggle everyday, but with Your help, Lord, I am making things happen in my relationship. Lastly, give Rob peace in his heart, mind and soul today, Lord, give him the peace that only you can give. Cover Robin and he with your Son's blood. Also, give Robin peace in her life, and allow the confusion to leave NOW. I pray this in your name, Amen and amen...

Thank you, Dear Lord...


Posted by: spacecowby76

Satan is still at work hard here folks.We had a conversation last night that led to her telling me that she wasn't physically attracted to me anymore.Talk about ripping my heart out.......but I know Satan has clouded her mind.I wrote her a letter last night & when I saw her I just strted crying & hugged her.She hugged me back & said not to cry & just let her see where God takes her.At last,she mentioned God....finally.Friends we need prayer like never before.This could be make or break for us. I have to be still & allow her to figure this out but nobody said I couldn't ask my friends & God for help.PLEASE, PLEASE continue to pray for us.Thanks to all & especailly you Jerry for taking the time to post to me personally.I love you all more than you can imagine.GOD IS GOOD & PRAYER WORKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Rob


Posted by: Copper

Father God, I pray for Robin that you would fulfill her need to love and be attracted to her husband. God, give her a heart for him. Lord, she is oopen to Your changing her, and this is so good. Thank you Jesus, cause I know you must be at work, for her to even say this. Lord, please heal this marriage and use it for you, amen.


Posted by: spacecowby76

This is getting harder & harder.I can see that she is thinking about things & I know I need to back off & allow God to work but I'm so afraid she is going to leave again.I know she is thinking about the OM.Please pray for us,PLEASE!!!!!

Dear Lord,
This is killing me.I know I said I'd leave this at your feet but it is so difficult.Please restore my marriage Lord.Let Robin see that the OM was Satan's plaything.God I have a 25 year history with her.I beg & plead with you not to let it end.I've atoned for my past mistakes Lord.Allow her to forget the past.Anoint her with your healing oil Dear God.I have forgiven her of everything.How can she not see how much love that is? Please Lord,bind Satan from her.I need an emergency intervention God please.Please bring her home to Jacob & I to stay.In your name I pray,Amen.




Posted by: jlfirefighter207

God doesn't want marriages to break up...He just wants us to do his will and give things to Him and listen to what he has to say for our lives. Rob, I can tell that you love and feel very deeply for your wife...allow God to work his miracles. The fact that she is home is a miracle that you would not have expected a month ago, am I right? I know the hurt of knowing that the OM is attracting your lady and that she enjoys time with him. It is a hurt that goes very deep, a rejection that will only go away with God's help. If we dwell on the thoughts of it, we do and say things that are contrary to giving it totally to God. Believe me, I know...I continue to do and say things sometimes that seem to set me back. I had to learn some lessons that tonight I am struggling with, but I still have more peace than I have in a long time. Hard to explain, but miracles do happen if we don't try and do it ourselves. The lessons we learn will be worth it in the end and make us better mates. Don't know if any of this makes sense but it is what I am feeling tonight. I know that my lady is thinking of me and is being convicted of God, even if I don't know it or have control of it. I know that God has the control.

JL


Posted by: Vicky42

Father, remove the veil from this woman's eyes and guide her heart back to her husband. Father, move in her like you have never moved in her before. Bring conviction and repentence upon her.

We ask that you bind and remove satan and all his demons from this marriage. We know in you all things are possible.

We thank you for moving to restore this marriage. In Jesus name we pray. AMEN


Posted by: spacecowby76

Thank you all.We are taking Jacob to the movies tonight.It's a movie she was supposed to see with the OM.I'm afraid she will be thinking of him all night.God,please give me strength.


Posted by: spacecowby76

Everyone,
It seems to be getting worse & I know I need to be silent with her.I've talked too much & I must stop ASAP!!!!
I know she has only been home a week & I mean nothing to her right now & I believe God will turn her heart to me but I don't know how to handle this feeling of nothingness that she has for me.I'm more like a brother....who wants to be with their brother?!?!?!? Friends please help me.I feel like Satan is winning this battle & I know I can't rush God into this but it is literally killing me.I have nightmares & can't eat. I throw up....you name it....it's happened.
Someone please tell me...what can I do? How can she treat me this way.She says it's not in her heart anymore but she wants God to lead her way.I feel like I'm going crazy.....HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Rob


Posted by: Copper

hi rob.

u know what, i have been in the same sit. and have managed to do what u r doing, and pushed my husband further away.

please be quiet, i didn['t take that advice, but am now.
anyway, i ordered the book something like, what to do when standing while your prodigal is home, or something, from rejoice marriage ministries, i haven't gotten it yet, but am hoping it will help. apparently the man wrote it. also, i ordered his newest one, that tells his point of view, just go to their website.
i really couldn't afford to do this, but oh well, it was like 23.00 bucks for both shipping included.
maybe u could order them too.

many hugs for u,
hey, at least she is home, oh that is good, so good!!!



Posted by: Praying For Restoration

Hey Brother. (((((((((((Rob)))))))))))

First thing, you do not mean nothing to her! Women DON'T COME HOME to men that don't mean a thing to them! You are the husband of her youth, the father of her children. She is conflicted. The cords of her sin are binding her. Her grief is blinding her. Satan is blinding her. But still, even in the midst of all that "noise", she came back home. And there is far more of a chance than you feel like there is, praise the Lord!

You are right that you need to not push her, not pressure her, not keep talking (if it is stuff to try and convince or persuade her). I know this from personal experience (see my recent thread) unfortunately, and I also know how hard it is to stop. But I did stop, and you can too. I had to find that "spot of grace" in the Lord to do it, and that is there for you too.

Remember too, that this other man is all "souped up" by the enemy, to look so wonderful. Well, he's not. He is a man of God who is allowing himself to be used to be a force of destruction to a one-flesh marriage. She doesn't know him. He's got all kinds of problems hiding there under the surface. But with these situations, all the walk away spouse sees is something easier, something that will soothe their pain away, something that will fulfill whatever need they have that is crying out in them . . . but those other people are just . . . people. Full of faults. With histories and problems. They aren't the "brass ring". And they are not the one God chose for them. He is not the one God has chosen for Robin.

You are.

God's chosen man.

The man who rose to the task.

The man who threw himself into therapy with all he had to confront issues of depression.

The man who was willing to stick by her side and give her massive amounts of understanding and compassion when she let her grief lead her into some terrible decisions.

The man who still stuck by her when you discovered she'd been unfaithful.

The man who is standing for God's best for her life.

(And the man who has been a rock to his other son in the midst of grief coming up two ways!)

And I know in typing this that there is SO much else that I don't know, as just an online friend here, that you are. That you've done. Depth no one else can know. But God knows. He sees you. He knows what you've done for this marriage. He knows how you've stood by her. How you've prayed for her. How you've turned yourself inside out to be used of God to save this marriage.

It comes across so clearly in your posts your love for this woman. Your devotion to her.

You are God's chosen treasure for her. Rest in that. Know that He is God. And He is working. We can see it. He is working.



Pray that this fellow turns bitter as wormwood and sharp as a two edged sword. Pray that the cords of her sin are broken and that she is set free from how they bind her. Pray that she gets a deep understanding of the difference between real gold and "fool's gold".


Abba Father,

My brother Rob cries out to you in his despair. Lord, raise him up. Comfort him, and help him to see your pleasure in how he has stood for this marriage. Stood for it during a time when many would have already been too grief stricken to even care what happened to the marriage. Thank you Lord for creating this faithful man, and giving him the strength to make it to this point. Right now Lord, his feet are faltering. Oh Lord, comfort him. Make crooked paths straight. Renew his strength as you promise to do in your Word. Let him feel a new increase of strength, patience, resolve, and love this day. Fill him up, Lord God, to overflowing. Fill him up. Let him not be discouraged. Help him to have more faith, more faith in you, more faith in himself and the position you've placed him in with his wife -- that he is your perfect chosen one for her. Thank you Lord. Thank you for that. Help him to feel your pleasure, your favor, your blessing upon this quest that he has. Let him not be depressed. Let him not be discouraged. Help him to keep his eyes on you. To know that you are God. Help him to find promises in your word to pray over her, and to know that your word does not return void, but accomplishes what it was sent to do, hallelujah!!!!

Oh thank you Lord for Rob. Thank you for his faithfulness to his wife and family, his faithfulness to you. Help him to not give up five minutes away from the completion of his miracle.

And Lord, we pray in that miracle, the harvest of all your and Rob's hard work. Let nothing come in the way of its completion. Let nothing destroy this crop, but let a bountiful harvest of love, fidelity, and a renewed and restored marriage come soon, Lord God! Lord, please set Robin free from the cords of her sin that bind her. Please Lord, set her free. Help her to see the spiritual situation that she is in, and let her be no longer deceived Lord. Lord, please keep the enemy away, and open her eyes to what she has allowed herself to be caught up in. Oh in your mercy and compassion, please rescue her Lord God. Rescue Robin. Open her eyes, Lord. Open her eyes.

Again Lord, I pray for this other man and ask that you would remove him from Robin's life. Lord, I feel such sadness at hearing that a man in the ministry is doing this, and I know the enemy went after this situation in a big way to try and destroy something of your church, and Lord I ask that you would put the enemy to shame, rebuke him, and set to right all that has been made wrong. Open up the heavens, Lord, and bring your warrior angels to help this marriage. To fight the enemy and remind him that he has already been defeated at the cross of Jesus.

Lord, please help Rob in his physical body too. Comfort his stomach. Flood him with your peace, Lord. Send your Holy Spirit upon him, with supernatural comfort Lord. Help him to sleep, to eat, to fall so deeply in love with you that he is kept in that quiet place of comfort, even though the storm is raging about him. Help him Lord. Flood him with your comfort and peace. Help him to feel your favor and pleasure.

In Jesus' Name,

Amen


Posted by: spacecowby76

Wow!!! That was awesome!!!!!!!! I can't thank you enough.Today has been rough.I still feel like I'm on the losing end but I'm trying.


Posted by: Peacegiver01

Father I lift up this couple to you. Lord I lift up Robin to you and I ask that you restore this marriage and heal her heart and mind and Lord I ask that you help her to come back to you. Lord I thank. Lord I ask that the blinders be taken off of her in Jesus name and love and peace fill their lives and unity in you Lord. In Jesus name i pray. Amen.




Becky

Joshua A/P Roundtable Intercessor


Posted by: ninababy73

Abba, I lift Rob and his wife, Robin, up before Your precious throne of mercy and grace. Give Rob Your unfailing peace. May he rest knowing that You are firmly in control of his marriage. May he be at peace in and despite this storm.

You brought his wife home, Father and for that I thank You. Continue placing Your healing, restoring hands in this marriage.

Remove and release all hinderances to its growth. satan must bow down and flee from this marriage. he is not welcome here.

Father, quiet the thoughts in Robin's mind. May she only have thoughts that You have given her. Marriage is sacred before You and it bonds must be upheld. May she know that with her husband and children is where she belongs.

Strengthen and heal the love between husband and wife. Continue Your mighty plans and work for this couple. In Your name, I pray. Amen


Posted by: spacecowby76

I found out yesterday that she is still talking to the OM on the phone.It's no use...I have faith in the Lord but she is so blinded that she's willing to give up her family for it.The pain hurts so badly....not just for me but I know it will hurt our son if she leaves again.I do appreciate all the prayers & I ask that they continue but right now I feel so broken.I feel so useless to her.Like I'm less than zero.She's pretty much told me that in certain terms.Maybe it's time I admit defeat but I can't help but wonder why God brought her home even if she says she hates it here.I'm so lost & confused & I hate seeing her in this turmoil too.I'm so dumbfounded right now that I don't even know how to pray about it anymore.I've told God that I'm leaving it at his feet but then I keep praying about it because when I talk to God I feel so at ease.Am I wrong in doing that?
Do any of you feel there is a chance for us? I need some brutal honesty.Again,please pray for her & for our marriage.I love you all & God bless!!!
Rob


Posted by: Praying For Restoration

DO NOT GIVE UP, my friend. YES, there is MORE THAN A CHANCE.

As hard as it is, you've got to keep your eyes off of the circumstances and just look to the Lord.

It is SO common for them to say the things you've mentioned her saying. It is what is going on in THEM, and really has nothing to do with YOU and what you mean to her.

Trust me, you mean a lot to her, elsewise she wouldn't even be there.

This is all part of the process and you need to hold on. Don't panic. Focus on the Lord and being the fabulous person you are. The Lord is at work and he is sovereign.

I'm running to get ready for court, but I wanted to tell you those words of encouragement. Do not give up, Rob. She is blinded, but soon she will see.

Blessings,

Erika
~~~


Posted by: spacecowby76

Thank you Erika. I wanna believe....she says she's here just for our son.My question is,if she is blinded & is praying hollow prayers won't God just not answer her?What will happen to make her drop to her knees & see what God means to her? I hope & pray she doesn't discover this out after she leaves me for good?!?!?!? I'm so lost...................


Posted by: kmath

My soul shall make its boast in the Lord, let the afflicted hear and rejoice-Psalm 34:2

I wish I could offer some real comfort to you, as I do not yet understand your pain, and I don't want to say anything trite or ignorant, so forgive me if I do. KNow that God is holding your marriage together. I just learned - or re-learned something so true and powerful this weekend. We absolutely cannot judge by what we see with our eyes. We are partakers of the divine nature(2 Peter 1:4), and His nature is to see that which is not as though it were. Let the Spirit fill you and guide you and He will direct your eyes to what is true. Satan is manipulating the circumstances to get you to give up, because he knows that God has fabulous things in store for your family. Receive them by faith, it is your inheritance. Don't fall for the enemy's garbage. Ask for God's perspective every second of your day. He delights in you so much, he is so crazy about you and Robin and your son. He is eagerly waiting to bless you, in fact he already has in bringing her home.Satan is trying to steal the blessing-don't let him!
Lord I praise you for your infinite goodness. You are so kind and loving to your people. i know that you will finish what you started here. And you will get all the glory for it. I pray you will fill Rob with your Spirit, and allow him to rest in you , and not strive in his flesh to make it all work-none of us can make our marriages work. Only you can. We need you to fill our water jars with your fresh wine, like you did at Cana. We wait , like Mary did, for your time to come, and we will do whatever you ask. Bring a spirit of joy and gladness to Rob, heal and deliver him from the pain. Cause him to rejoice and get full of you, then it will draw Robin, because you, Lord, are irresistable!!
Amen


Posted by: spacecowby76

Thank you very much.I'm trying to let it go & I know God will strengthen me.Please continue to pray for us.


Posted by: Praying For Restoration

Hey Rob,

You said something about God answering her hollow prayers or something? If I understand you correctly, God is not going to just answer her prayers because she is praying them. KWIM? If she is praying for something that is outside of his will, she is not right with the Lord, she is not delighting in Him, etc., well, he isn't just going to give her whatever she wants. You are looking to the Lord for His best. You are praying for something that agrees with His will for your life, her life, your child's life -- something that is His best. Delight yourself in the Lord. Ask without doubting, as best you can. Pray scripture over your family. Know that God wants this restoration, praise the Lord!

Someone once said to me something so simple but it has been soooooo encouraging to me -- God is on YOUR side with all this! And He is!

I am SO glad you keep on talking to us. I am SO glad you are a person who sticks with things. You so often will express that you just can't go on, but there you are, still sticking with it. The Lord has got you, and he will keep on supporting you and loving you through this.

Remember -- they say a lot of things that aren't true. Just support her. When she says she is just there for your son, say something lovingly like, "I understand. That is wonderful that you are such a good mother you will do something like that.", and smile. Know that she does love you, it is just buried underneath a huge pile of grief, deception, sin, and whatever else. The good news is that the Lord has nooooooo problem dealing with such piles of junk and transforming hearts and people.

Hang in there!


Posted by: spacecowby76

I know....but how long will it take? She got an email today about an apartment to look at.I just hope & pray that God puts it on her heart NOT to go there.She's only been home 2 weeks.If she leaves....so will her search for God.I just wanna crawl under a rock & wait for this to blow over.We need prayer & LOTS of it.I know I can't give up but the battle is wearing me down.Maybe I should just let her go & when she's with the OM,in a few years she'll regret it.


Posted by: Praying For Restoration

We don't know how long it will take, but I know the Lord won't let go of you and will continue to give you what you need to make it through.

I know that some of the teaching I've received is different for men than for women . . . but what comes to mind for me is that she needs to feel absolutely no pressure from you. She needs time to heal (I know, you've been waiting so long already!) and if she feels pressure from you, she's more likely to bolt. She's skittish. Just keep on showing her gentle, unconditional love. Be happy she's there. Smile at her, without it seeming desperate and like you need something from her so that you'll feel complete. To the best of your ability, focus on the Lord, and let yourself just bask in His love.

Have you ever been here?: www.divorcebusting.com

This is a secular site, and I personally don't agree with some of the advice, which includes game playing that I don't think is scriptural. But some of the advice is really great for how to let go emotionally and work on yourself in ways that begin to draw a wife back to a husband. I was surprised to learn there that 60% of all divorces are begun by women. They even have something called the "walk away wife syndrome", and I think you'd be very blessed to read the descriptions and hear what they have to say.

We'll keep praying. Our God is an AWESOME God, and He's got you. He's got you!


Lord God,

I lift up this marriage before you. Oh Lord, you are so wonderful and loving, and I truly believe that your hand is at work here. Lord, please break the cords of sin that are tying Robin to this other man. Please Lord, help her to seek out you and you alone as the answer to the ache in her heart over where her life is at today. Help her Lord to hunger after you with a hunger that can only be quenched by drinking from your Living Water.

Lord, we give this apartment situation to you. Please intervene Lord. Please don't allow her to look at it or acquire it. We place it in your ever-loving hands.

Thank you Lord that even now you are healing this marriage. Thank you Lord.

In Jesus' Name,

Amen


Posted by: spacecowby76

Thanks again.Trust me...there will be no pressure. i just need her to stay so she can see that & maybe we can reconnect again.I truly appreciate all the prayers for us & especially for her to find God in her heart & keep him there no matter what happens.Again,I can't believe he would lead her home just for her to go.PLEASE PRAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
THNAKS!!!!!!!!!!!!


Posted by: spacecowby76

Please keep up the prayers my warrior friends.Last night was a good night for us.I can see God working but I know the OM is still hanging around.We need prayer to get him away & for Robin to keep searching for God.Since my stepson died she says she has lost her spirit & was bitter at God for awhile.Right now, I can't even get her back into church but I will.We just need some prayer to help it along.
I know a good night for me probably means nothing to her but she looked at me at one point last night like she hadn't in years & I knew then that God was working his miracle.I know she is still fighting her feelings for the OM & if he doesn't stop calling her at work I'm gonna have to confront him but I'll do it God's way.Again,please,please continue to pray for us.It's a long,bumpy,curvy road ahead but with God we can do anything!!!!!!!!!!!!! PRAISE GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Posted by: jlfirefighter207

Rob,

I know you can do this!!! You know what it takes, just do it and let God do his miracles. I so understand what you are going through...I have been to the abyss in my relationship with the OM, but haven't fallen in yet. God's strong arms are holding me back.

JL

God,

Our precious heavenly Father, continue to give your son, Rob, the strength to move ahead, and the understanding to realize that it all has to go to you. He cannot try and fix things on his own and he cannot put pressure on his wife to stay. We all stand in agreement with Rob and CLAIM HIS MIRACLE, IN JESUS' NAME!!! He is in your sights and in your will. Calm his thoughts and his feelings and give him the peace that only You can give. I ask that the OM's words and deeds will become like poison in the mind and heart of Robin, and that she will see what your will truly is. She will not continue to justify her position in Your word or in Your name, dear Father. Satan has to loose ground in this relationship, as he has continued to loose hold all along. Thank you, Lord for your intersession to this point and continue to show Rob what has been accomplished and what you have already done in his family's lives. I ask this, in agreement with our other brothers and sisters in Christ, AMEN and AMEN...






Posted by: spacecowby76

Man!!!! You people are just to AWESOME to me!!!!!!!!!!! I can't say thanks enough.I just hope she comes home from work today & tells me that she had no contact with the OM.If I can,I'll update everyone tonight.If not I'll be here first thing in the morning.PRAISE GOD & please keep us in prayer.I LOVE ALL OF YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Posted by: slpdx2

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Originally Posted by spacecowby76
Please keep up the prayers my warrior friends.Last night was a good night for us.I can see God working but I know the OM is still hanging around.We need prayer to get him away & for Robin to keep searching for God.Since my stepson died she says she has lost her spirit & was bitter at God for awhile.Right now, I can't even get her back into church but I will.We just need some prayer to help it along.
I know a good night for me probably means nothing to her but she looked at me at one point last night like she hadn't in years & I knew then that God was working his miracle.I know she is still fighting her feelings for the OM & if he doesn't stop calling her at work I'm gonna have to confront him but I'll do it God's way.Again,please,please continue to pray for us.It's a long,bumpy,curvy road ahead but with God we can do anything!!!!!!!!!!!!! PRAISE GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sorry it has taken me so long to post to you. But you and Robin are in my prayers. I am glad you are seeing some results. I will pray!!


Posted by: spacecowby76

Well, I was right in knowing that Robin called the OM yesterday.We had a talk & I told her thatshe will not get her answers until she cuts off all contact with him.To turn her back on the sin & as soon as she hangs up the phone,God will take over & lead her where she needs to be.He wasn't going to lead her anywhere as long as they keep in touch.Friends,I need prayer for Robin to be strong enough to do this.To fight Satan in his quest to keep them together & keep calling each other.Pray that God will give her the strength to get through this & to see where she should be....wherever that may be.Pray that she will find our most gracious Father & to walk his walk again.As selfish as it may sound.....for God to lead her back to me.I know he will.I BELIEVE!!!!!!!!!!!
Together,Robin & I can do great things for him & save other couples in dispair.Please,please pray for us.We're sooooo close yet I still have a hint of fear. I know I shouldn't but I've battled this for 11 months now & I'm getting weary....but I'm hanging on to Gods promise of ask & ye shall receive.I'm just asking & begging for all of your help.Thanks to all of you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Posted by: Copper

Father God, continue to help in this marriage. Lord, lead this man in how to lead his family, and lovehis wife gently. god, I pray for robin that you would heal her soul, amen.


Posted by: spacecowby76

Well,she cut him off yesterday.We are having lunch today & going shopping tomorrow.Believe me,it means nothing to her but EVERYTHING to me.We are far from fixed but we're moving!!!!!!!! This couldn't be happening without God & I couldn't be handling all of this without Him & all of you...my dear friends.Please continue to pray for us & that God leads Robin back to Him & me.I just know she & I will do great things in His will to help others when this is over.Oh,how I long for the day for her to just reach over & grab my hand.My birthday is Monday...maybe God will put it on her heart to do it then.What a great day that would be but I'm not counting on it....YET.My day will come because I BELIEVE!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you God,thank you, thank you,thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!! I will spend the rest of my life trying to repay you for what you have given me back dear God.Just please,please put it on her heart to find you & stay home forever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Rob


Posted by: jlfirefighter207

Rob,

I am so excited for you...Happy Birthday, by the way!!! I hope it is the best birthday that you will every have. God definitely works miracles, doesn't he? What an awesome day!!!

JL


Posted by: Praying For Restoration

YAYYYYYYY LORDDDDDDDDD!!!!!!!!



That is wonderful news, Rob. And Happy Early Birthday to you!

Blessings,

Erika
~~~~


Posted by: spacecowby76

Thank you all for EVERYTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I still need all of you & I will be here for you guys too.My favorite 2 words?!?!?!?!?!? .........Just Believe!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Posted by: spacecowby76

Well,I screwed up.I figured out the OM's password & got into his email& sure enough they are still talking.Of course I told Robin how I found out & she exploded.She'll probably leave for good but please pray for us.PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Rob


Posted by: jlfirefighter207

Rob,

I am sorry for your pain, I know what it feels like, but you still aren't giving this situation totally to God. You are trying to do it yourself. Please do not put yourself in a situation to loose out. We love you, brother, and want God to do more miracles in your life.

JL

Dear God,

Please help Rob's heart tonight. Give him that peace that only You can give. Give him the strength to do what You want him to do in his life. Give him the knowledge, wisdom and patience to wait for your healing in his life and in his marriage. Only you know what the future holds for any of us, and we pray that you will continue to work wonders in Rob's life, not only in his marriage, but also to him personally. I ask this in Your precious name...Amen and Amen.

Keep your chin up, RoB!!!


Posted by: spacecowby76

Thank you my brothers & sisters.I'm trying to give it all but my gut knew what was going on....so I investigated.We worked everything out.I told her until she turns her back on the sin(menaing the OM) she can pray all she wants & yes God hears her but he won't answer or lead her anywhere.She has to totally walk away & give it up to get her answer.I hope I finally got through to her.Please keep up the pryers & I thank you all sooooo much !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Rob


Posted by: Praying For Restoration

Lord,

I pray you will be with Rob and Robin this weekend. Lord, I pray that she will be able to hear your voice, discern your leadership. I ask that you would break the cords of the sin that hold onto her. Help her to tune out the noise of the adultery, of the other man, of the grief or anything else that is affecting her ability to hear you. Help her to focus clearly on you, to seek you with all she's got, to desire to be in the center of your way, in the center of all you have for her. Let her break forth in worship to you, allowing your spirit to come into her and heal away all the hurts.

Lord, please bring your comfort, peace, patience and hope to Rob. Help him to totally let this situation go, and to act when he feels you leading him completely and be still when you say it is not yet time. Be present in his heart and mind and be the voice behind him, telling him the way to go. Comfort him, renew his strength, help him this weekend to bask in your love and to worship you with joy.

Thank you Lord for the many miracles you are working in this family, in this marriage. Oh Lord, you are so good, and we love you. We look forward to seeing all you will continue to do. We rest in you.

In Jesus' Name,

Amen


Posted by: spacecowby76

Just when we have a good night,I have to hear or be reminded that she hasn't made up her mind yet.I can't take it anymore.Maybe I should just quit trying.Quit loving her,quit caring abour her,quit everything.The pain hurts too bad.God please answer my prayer soon.My heart can't take anymore.
Rob


Posted by: Copper

i know how u feel, don't quit, not till God tells you to. ok?
just seek His will, and yes, if u have to do what i did, gave my heart strings to the Lord, he is helping me with this, He will help you to.

Lord, be with my brother tonight, Lord, he truly needs your presence in his heart and home. Father, help him to learn what you've been teaching me, not to look at what she says or does. Thank you Jesus, amen.


Posted by: Praying For Restoration

Rob, my friend -- as hard as it is, you HAVE to STOP looking at what she says or does. You have to put your eyes on the Lord and His promise to You or you're gonna go nuts!

If you are standing on a mountaintop and looking down at a zig-zagging road that leads across a valley from point A to point B, you can see that the car will zig, it will zag, but it will eventually get to its destination point. From up there, you can see the road. You may have your view blocked by the occasional tree, but you can even see that the road comes out on the other side of it. Down in the car, you may not be able to see where you are going at all. Your view gets changed every time the car turns a different direction. Obstacles block your view, but by faith you have to hope the car is going to get where it is headed. God is up there, on that mountaintop, and you have to get your view on the way He sees it all. Robin is zigging, she is zagging, but you have invited the Lord of Lords to power that car, to design that road, and SHE WILL GET THERE. BUT, if you keep on freaking out at every little (or big) thing you see with your physical eyes, you might interfere with the process and you are going to wear yourself out.

Imagine someone being captured by something tight that has a strong hold on them. They fight, they struggle, it isn't a clean and easy process. Sometimes it looks like they might never be freed, and they have to wriggle back and forth to get out. Sometimes they stop to get a breath, to rest. Then they are back at it again. It might be such a hard fight that they lose their fervency. It may look like they are going to give up completely, but most people will keep trying to get out. Robin is like that. She's trapped by the cords of her sin, and whatever else that is going on. She is wriggling, she is pulling, and eventually, all of a sudden, she is going to be free. She's going to pop out of that place that entrapped her, and she's going to be sooooo happy to be free!

Keep praising the Lord. Keep speaking the word over her in your private prayer time. Every time she does something that worries or frightens you, or makes you feel rejected, peacefully say in your head that you are thanking the Lord that He is taking care of that and will never leave you nor forsake you.

You can do this! He will do it for you!


Posted by: ANOINTED WARRIOR

spacecowby76 do this> Psalm 46:10 "Be still, and know that I am God" > 1 Peter 5:6 Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time . 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.


Posted by: spacecowby76

I know,all of your are correct & I have given it to God....it just hurts to know that I've been so committed to this marriage & she's worried the OM feels abandoned.I know Satan is hanging on but the waiting is soooo hard.I'm trying my best...I swear.Please please pray for us.I'm so close I can feel it but I know he's still hanging around.Like today,she got called into work & I can guarntee he sent her an email.I know she won't be strong enough to delete it & she'll read it & it'll have some fancy loving words on it & there he is right in her face again.I know God is on my side but it seesmI can't win because the OM won't go away.
I believe God is going to restore my marriage but this REALLY killing me.I mean I can't sleep,my stomach is torn apart,I've lost weight,you name it....it's happened to me.I'm just tired & I wish God could work his power & just fix it now but I know I must be willing to suffer to keep the love of my life.
Again,PLEASE,PLEASE just pray hard for us & especially Robin.She's still hurting over Blaine's death,her work isn't going well,she's fighting these feelings between me & the OM & she needs God's help severely.She's lost....plain & simple.I need ypu friends....more than you can imagine.
I love you all & thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Posted by: Praying For Restoration

Rob, my brother, I'm struggling so hard with how to write about this. I don't want to seem like I'm "coming down" on you, and I really don't want to misunderstand. I sense though that you haven't truly given this over to God, and it is increasing your suffering. I sure don't want to see you suffering. Or maybe it is that you are going through seasons of giving it to him? Where it is given, but then something happens and you don't maybe even realize that you are holding onto it again?

You say, "I've given it to God . . ." and then go on to describe the anguish you are in and sometimes drastic things you are doing that could be pushing Robin farther away. I'm not saying it shouldn't be painful, or that you should be a robot, but I am saying this to you in love -- I think the Lord wants to see you cross this threshold. There is less pain, less fear, less anguish on the other side of this giving it to the Lord, this letting go. I speak as one in a similar situation. Rob, you must stop looking at the details of what she is doing on a day in and day out basis. She is deceived right now. She's "zigging and zagging" as I wrote in my last post.

Do you truly believe the Lord has this situation in his hand? (I know I have waivered on this -- it is so hard to believe, but yet, that is why we are here.) Who is in control here? Robin? The OM? Satan? God?

Also, you are saying this in the last post,

"I can guarntee he sent her an email.I know she won't be strong enough to delete it & she'll read it & it'll have some fancy loving words on it & there he is right in her face again.I know God is on my side but it seesmI can't win because the OM won't go away.
I believe God is going to restore my marriage but this REALLY killing me.I mean I can't sleep,my stomach is torn apart,I've lost weight,you name it....it's happened to me.I'm just tired & I wish God could work his power & just fix it now but I know I must be willing to suffer to keep the love of my life."

You need to turn this around, Rob, from your way of thinking, from your attitude. You have to truly GIVE THIS TO GOD. We cannot condemn the situation with words and what you believe of Robin. You are saying in that above quote that he wins, she won't be strong enough, and even though God is on your side it seems you can't win! If you are thinking this way, she is probably picking it up from you even if you don't say a word about it, and I believe it changes things in the spiritual realm. We are to call the things that aren't as though they were. Grab ahold in your mind and spirit man with all you've got, the truths of God. "Thank you Lord that you promise you will complete the good work you have started -- I thank you that you will not leave Robin in this place, because you will complete the good work you started in her." And know that, deep in your soul. Know he is not going to leave you nor forsake you! "Thank you Lord that you are taking care of the adultery relationship between Robin and the OM. Thank you that I am her husband and that you are restoring our relationship even now. Thank you that his words are turning bitter as wormwood and sharper than a double edged sword. Thank you that even though she looks for him, she will not find him, and she will return to me and say our life together was better than anything else she found." "Thank you Lord that you are increasing Robin's sensitivity to the Holy Spirit each and every day. Thank you that she will hear you, and will resist any flattering words she reads or hears from this man, and see them as the trap that Satan has laid for her. Thank you that she will flee immorality and run straight into your arms, oh Lord. Thank you that you are placing a hedge of thorns round about her. Thank you that you are placing favor upon me, as her husband, the one who stood before you with her and made vows to each other and to you. Thank you Lord for your love for marriage and all you are doing to bring us back together again."

Wow, I was just struck with the power of this -- as you are the husband and spiritual leader of this marriage. Even if you don't say a word to her, you calling these things out with faith before the Lord -- wow, Rob . . . wow!

Lord,

I lift my brother up before you.

Oh Lord, you know how he has suffered. You know the anguish of his soul. Please come to him now, with your comfort and guiding hand. Please help him, please wrap your arms around him. Give him clarity, discernment, wisdom, and grace. Lord, please fill him up with confidence in who you are, and what you are doing for his life, his marriage and family.

Help him to hand this over to you completely. To let go. Help him to fall so in love with you, and all you are, that the pain of the marital situaiton diminishes and fades. Help him to trust you. To call out the things that aren't as though they were, from his spirit. Help him to have faith that you are working, that you are in control. Help him to not look at the things that Robin is doing, but the things you are doing. And when he cannot see evidence of that, help him to trust that you are moving things in the spiritual realm. He has invited you into this situation, and asked that your will be done. Help him to rest in that, knowing that the King of Kings and Lord of Lords is at work here -- the God who restores.

Help his physical body Lord. Help him to rest deeply, to be able to eat. Comfort his stomach, and just flood him with your peace that passes all understanding.

Lord, I pray for Robin, and I thank you for all you have already done in her life. Thank you Lord that you are raising up discernment and wisdom within her. Thank you Lord that we can rest in your sovereignty. Oh Lord, continue to speak to her, to lead her, to change the spiritual environment around her that she makes her decisions from. Open her spiritual eyes so that she can see the true nature of adultery. Open her spiritual eyes so that she can see the true nature of marriage. Help her to hunger after you so greatly, that she cannot go another way but your way. Thank you Lord, that even now, you are filling her up with strength to resist the enemy's plans. Thank you Lord. Thank you.

Oh Lord, breathe your restoration into this marriage. We continue to give it to you, to ask you to indwell this situation and bring your healing. We love you Lord, and rest in you, waiting with great anticipation of all the miracles you are working in this marriage. Oh Lord, we thank you for all you've already done! Robin is back in the home! She is talking with Rob! She has a sense of obligation to her family -- thank you Lord! Oh Lord, your works are great, and we celebrate happily, knowing that you are a God who completes things, as you promise in your word. Oh thank you for that, Lord! Thank you!

In Jesus' Name,

Amen


Posted by: Praying For Restoration

Rob -- after yesterday I'm more skittish. I hope nothing I said above offended you or hurt you, and I hope I'm not misunderstanding the situation. I know you have travailed long, prayed with all your might, and you know how I respect you for being a husband who would do all you've done to follow the Lord and be where he wants you to be for restoration of this marriage. I am just another one struggling along this same road, and I offer what I wrote above with humility.

I hope my words were helpful, not hurtful.

Blessings,

Erika
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Posted by: slpdx2

Quote:
Originally Posted by spacecowby76
Just when we have a good night,I have to hear or be reminded that she hasn't made up her mind yet.I can't take it anymore.Maybe I should just quit trying.Quit loving her,quit caring abour her,quit everything.The pain hurts too bad.God please answer my prayer soon.My heart can't take anymore.
Rob

Confusion and anger can come out of the Lord speaking to our spouses hearts. Nobody wants to feel guilty or take responsibility for hurting someone else. Also sometimes we try to hang on to what we think we want rather than admit we are wrong, ask for forgiveness and move on. I really believe confusion and mood swings can be signs of the Lord moving in someones heart and mind. I will keep praying. Be strong. God bless you and your family.


Posted by: spacecowby76

Erika,
You in no way offened me.You are right when you say that I give it to God & then take it back.When I give it to him,I see good things for awhile & I'm ok & then she'll make a comment or something & burst my bubble & I panic.I know I have to totally let go & let God do his work.I also know that it doesn't matter what I say to her.It's all His will.....not mine.You'd think that after 10 months of believing & allowing God to do his thing & bring her home,I could continue to let go.I must do it no matter how bad she may hurt me.I know it's not her talking.Satan is fighting hard because I know deep down in her heart.....I'm there.She knows I was unwilling to give up & prayed constantly.I have shown her the ultimate sacrifice in forgiving her.That alone proves how much I love her.I've been with her off & on since we were 14 & I'll be 39 tomorrow.I've loved her far too long & if Satan thinks I'm gonna quit...well....excuse me folks......but he can go pack sand somewhere.....

I thank you all for opening my eyes & I truly mean it when i say I'm giving it to God.Pray for my strength to fight off the evil she'll throw at me. I know with God I can do anything & I'll let him handle this.He brought her this far.....he'll finish it & restore my marriage.

I love all you & many,many thanks for the words of encouragement & prayers.They have helped me soooooo much. One day,we're all gonna have to meet in a central place & have a huge dinner.THNAKS AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! All my love & prayers your way brothers & sisters!!!!!!!!!!

Love,
Rob & Robin (becasue one day she'll wanna thank all of you herself,She just doesn't know it yet)


Posted by: ANOINTED WARRIOR

Quote:
Originally Posted by spacecowby76
I know,all of your are correct & I have given it to God....it just hurts to know that I've been so committed to this marriage & she's worried the OM feels abandoned.I know Satan is hanging on but the waiting is soooo hard.I'm trying my best...I swear.Please please pray for us.I'm so close I can feel it but I know he's still hanging around.Like today,she got called into work & I can guarntee he sent her an email.I know she won't be strong enough to delete it & she'll read it & it'll have some fancy loving words on it & there he is right in her face again.I know God is on my side but it seesmI can't win because the OM won't go away.
I believe God is going to restore my marriage but this REALLY killing me.I mean I can't sleep,my stomach is torn apart,I've lost weight,you name it....it's happened to me.I'm just tired & I wish God could work his power & just fix it now but I know I must be willing to suffer to keep the love of my life.
Again,PLEASE,PLEASE just pray hard for us & especially Robin.She's still hurting over Blaine's death,her work isn't going well,she's fighting these feelings between me & the OM & she needs God's help severely.She's lost....plain & simple.I need ypu friends....more than you can imagine.
I love you all & thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



Hi rob my real name is Chris, from the outside looking in I can see through a different perspective.. And I pray you take this to heart into your understanding even so Jesus reveal this to rob..You said you have given this to God but you still have your eyes on the devil and your wife for truely God wants you to have your eyes completely on him not on your wife or the devil for then this way God is allowed to move in and do his work, right now you have Gods hands tied from still looking at the circumstance and problem and all that still keeps going on, you see you still have on your boxing gloves and are fighting this in your strength, untie Gods hands so he can do the fighting for you by you moving out of the way of fighting the devil in your strength, when we go ahead of Gods command we are defeated for then we dont have his covering or strength, we must in battle listen only to the command of Jesus and move when he says if you go ahead of him you are left alone and will be defeated, the devil wants you to keep looking at him and what your wife is doing this is his plan towards you, for the devil knows when your looking at them you arent looking at God and before you know the devil will sneak in and devour you and your wife from you not keeping your eyes on God and resting in him.. So my friend if you want to see victory in all of this wait on the lord DONT try to figure it all out in your own perspective or understanding, God has a different perspective and understanding GO by his perspective and understanding in your personal time of prayer and worship for there you will begin to see things differently from being in Gods glory, a trap is waiting for you and your wife if you keep your eyes on the situation so be careful am saying all this to help you and not to see you get hurt the enemy is sneaky and appears to be something he is not.. Always keep on the cloak of humility this way no matter what comes your way pride and all sin and attacks from the enemy will fall to the ground, true humility is yielding to the soveriegn reign and rule of the Holy Spirit and his word in your life, by yielding to humility that is where you will have true victory in your relationship for then you are drawing off of the power of God in yielding to humility and are only depending on him to help you many hugs God Bless...


Posted by: Copper

hey rob,

i got the book the prodigal's perspective by the rejoiceministries.com people, and also, the one that is called after the prodigal comes home,
i STRONGLY RECOMMEND U GET THESE TOO!!!
right now, if u order them it is like 24.00 tax and all, and u get another free book, a fiction that the guy robert wrote, and it is so good too.

something these books helped me realize that i think satan is doing to u and each of us who seemingly are the ''victims'', is that he wants us to focus on our PAIN. PAIN. PAIN.

is God not the healer? is he not the one in Control, especially of pain,
and these books helped me realize u are not the only one in pain,

yes, it was wrong that our spouses got attached to another.
period.
but that doesn't change the fact that there are feelings there,
in the book, it helps us to realize that no matter how wrong that is, truth is truth, you gotta pray for the Lord to release your wife from those heart strings, and this is not in the book but my bestfriend whom is reconciling with her husband, she is the one whom had an affair, my bestfriend said that when u have s**** with another person, automatically there are created what she called soulties. we have to pray God breaks those soul ties, something i have learned is i have to pray for myself that God breaks the soulties i have with those few men i was with prior to my marriage and my first husband, that is another story, (he cheated numerous times and i felt God did release me from that marriage), but my point is that these books are wonderful, it took like seven days for them to get here, and oh my goodness, how thankful i am.

you have to do what Kristie and everyone has been trying to get me to do which i have finally finally done.
don't look anymore to see if she or he are doing this or that.
period.
satan will make it look to you worse than it is, or you will see something that u shouldn't.
i cut off our caller id. i won't go through my husband's wallet, i won't go through his pants, i handed them to him earlier and told him i had to do the laundry, to go through them before i washed them.
yo gotta give it all up.
period.
cause satan is using u,
do u realize that?

he is using us.

the blasted badguy!!!!

we can't let him anymore, just stay focused on God, and how God can change us. this is what i'm doing. i am not letting satan give anymore ammunition to put into my mind.
when tom was making a cd earlier, which he always does when there is another person, i didn't look to see what songs were on it. nope. left it alone. don't wanna sit there and say oh what does this song mean or that song.
when he gets calls on the cell phone, i'm not looking at that anymore either,

nothign.

just keeping my eyes on Jesus. He is all i need right now, if myhusband were to leave, i would be in the same boat, right? so why not just give it all to Him now? right?

if robin left again, nothing would be different essentially, if you were focused on our Lord.
plus, she will see that you are diong this, and the book says that she truly needs to see that you believe in her.
i didn't believe in my husband in october when he came home To Christ and to me, i belittled him and pushed him into a corner,
the book says and now i am seeing, i just pretty much forced him to do this again.

help her believe in her.
God believes in you, right? so you believe in you. she needs to see how that works. believe in her, even when you know it is not true. i know in my heart of hearts that there is someone else right now in my husband's life, perhaps many, but i am just believing in him from now on. told him so. he needs to know that i am a real Christian, and being so, Jesus would want us to show him love, uncondiitonal love,

please hear all of us, and read the stuff Kristie wrote to me, she got in my head, God let her in my head,
satan, i believe a demon, was hounding me. and i just broke him all to bits by the blood of Jesus,

you can do it.

luv ya tons, kimberly


Posted by: spacecowby76

Thank you all & I WILL do it this time.I WON't ALLOW SATAN TO WIN!!!!!!!! Thanks for opening my eyes.


Posted by: ANOINTED WARRIOR

Quote:
Originally Posted by spacecowby76
Thank you all & I WILL do it this time.I WON't ALLOW SATAN TO WIN!!!!!!!! Thanks for opening my eyes.

Amen we are here for you my friend to help you in this fight we are all one in Jesus what happens to one in his body happens to us all...


Posted by: Copper

rob,

i hope i wasn't too harsh---

your reply was kind of short,

just read it again, with open eyes, if i sounded rude, i'm so sorry.

please forgive me, just trying to help you out of the muck, i know, i almost killed myself last week.
really.

i know, nuts huh? it is that blasted satan.
anyway, just wanted to say i really hope i didn't offend u, cu kimbo


Posted by: spacecowby76

thanks to all of you & no I was not offended...just in a hurry.Just please keep praying for us.Today is my 39th birthday & I'm hoping God will give me a miracle of Robin saying that she is gonna stay & work this out.Even a simple hug would thrill me.I miss her soooo much & she's soooo close.The house smells like her again & even though I'm in a separate bedroom right now I can walk into hers & the room just smells & feels glorious.Yes, I thank God everyday for bringing her back & I have the faith to believe he is gonna leave her here.

God, I can never thank you enough for bringing Robin home to Jacob & I & for surrounding me with such beautiful friends.Friends that have come to the aid of a stranger & picked me up when I was down so low.Friends that have taken me in as if I were family.Friends that have given & given & never asked for anything in return.Friends that have wiped away the tears I shed over my marriage & gave me renewed strength & kept pointing me to YOU dear Father.I thank you God & all of them for believing in me when I couldn't any longer.
Bless them all Father,for they have given so much of themselves.Their time,words & mostly their love.How one man could be so fortunate to find such wonderful people.Today Lord,for my birthday I ask that you answer each of their prayers......they all deserve it.Care for them & watch over them God as only you can.I ask this in your name,Amen.

To all of you........All my love, for I truly would have been lost had it not been for God sending you into my life.I can only hope that I will be able to repay all of you for the kindness you have shown.

Have a blessed day & may God be with each of you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Love,
Rob


Posted by: Praying For Restoration



Happy Birthday Rob!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

May this be a year of many blessings,
the joy of the Lord,
and seeing many miracles in your marriage and family!!!!







(P.S. I'll be the same age later this year!)


Posted by: psalmist52

Lord , I lift up Robin to you. I pray that you would renew her mind and heart. I pray she will pull down all thoughts that don't line up with your will. Show her that the feelings she is having for the o.m. comes from satan and no one else. Help her not to be flattered by the attentions of other men, but she would be repulsed by them.. Show her that love is not a feeling . help her to get rid of all selfishness. Show her the consequenses of being disloyal. Give her love and feelings for her husband and family. I thank you Lord that ll things are temoral and subject to change. Give her husband strength and I pray he would only hear your voice and not the voice of the enemy. Bless him Lord. I thank you that all things are temporal and subject to change. In Jesus name ....AMEN


Posted by: spacecowby76

thanks but I feel defeated.Lunch was a disaster.She gave some generic card becuse all the other ones are too mushy.I've had it.She can't stop thinking of the OM so why do I even bother.Yes,I know....give it God & I have tried but I don't see where telling someone how hurt you are is taking it back from God.Someone expalin that one to me becasuse I have totally quit.God can have it because she isn't gonna change.I'm so sick of this pain & anguish.I just wanna die......literally.I can't even get a birthday hug from her but I bet the OM got more than that on his birthday 2 months ago.I just don't wanna deal with it anymore.Maybe God is trying to tell me to let her go.....I don't know.Any suggestions?!?!?!?!?


Posted by: ANOINTED WARRIOR

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Originally Posted by spacecowby76
thanks but I feel defeated.Lunch was a disaster.She gave some generic card becuse all the other ones are too mushy.I've had it.She can't stop thinking of the OM so why do I even bother.Yes,I know....give it God & I have tried but I don't see where telling someone how hurt you are is taking it back from God.Someone expalin that one to me becasuse I have totally quit.God can have it because she isn't gonna change.I'm so sick of this pain & anguish.I just wanna die......literally.I can't even get a birthday hug from her but I bet the OM got more than that on his birthday 2 months ago.I just don't wanna deal with it anymore.Maybe God is trying to tell me to let her go.....I don't know.Any suggestions?!?!?!?!?

Yes Keep your eyes on Jesus and quit looking at her and what the devil is doing, dont FEEL like what God is saying to you thats doubt, God wants you to rest in him and let him take control YOU still have on the boxing gloves which is why you feel defeated, Are you now going to give God the go ahead to do his work Hes waiting, he cant do anything because everytime he does try to do something you Jump in with your perspective, look through Gods percpective... YOU have to get your percpective right before she can be right in Jesus, How can she be delivered when you yourself are seeing things in your own eyes...Also am sensing unforgiveness towards this other guy, when unforgiveness is in the picture you are in for the deadliest ride of your life, Unforgiveness unleashes the hounds of hell to torment you since unforgiveness is in your heart...You better hurry and forgive completely before you are to deep into bondage from the poison you are sowing into your life...


Posted by: jlfirefighter207

Rob,

Here is a prayer that I prayed a couple of months ago...things turned around 100% when I started praying for the OM. Things are not totally fixed but they are getting there. My patience has been tried and tried and tried. Take care, and don't give up.

JL


Dear God,

I come to you tonight on the advice and guidance of one of your children who found favor in asking for help and intersession in the life of the woman that was involved with her husband. It never dawned on me, Lord, that I should pray for those that have came into my life to destroy my relationship. Satan works in many ways and with many earthly forms. Keep Satan out of the lives of those that are leading our mates away in sin, in Jesus' name and by covering them in His blood. Give them conviction, dear Father, and show them that what they are doing is wrong and not part of your will. Help them to see what is motivating their advances and to back away from the situation. Give them victory in their marriages and help them find peace with themselves and the messes that they have placed themselves in. Help them find restoration in the relationships that they left in order to be with our mates. Do not let the spirit of conviction leave their minds, souls and bodies until they are gone from our lives and back at peace with their own situations. Thank you, Dear God, for showing us where we need to be compassionate to our enemies and help those that persecute us. Give us the strength to continue to rebuke the evil spirits in their lives and to be compassionate to their individual situations. It will not be easy, Father, but we know that we have to do this in order to regain our faith in people, including our own mates, and forgive those that allow us to feel anger and resentment. Especially, dear Lord, give me the strength to feel compassion with the "other man" and his marriage, that he can see where he needs to work on his life, his relationship with his mate, and give him the wisdom to relize that what he is doing is wrong. If I can be of any service to him at all, please let me be kind and compassionate in my interactions, either directly or through prayer. In Jesus' name, Amen...


Posted by: spacecowby76

thank you all & YES i have totally given this to God. I have asked enough.....he knows what my needs are.I 'm not even going to pray about it anymore.I'm just gonna pray for evreryone involved to be able to heal......especially Robin.Yes,I want her to love me again & I know God can change her heart.I admit I have my doubts when she says such hurtful things & I know that is Satan trying to get to me.The waiting is so hard & I'm afraid that after I wait,she is still gonna leave.I don't wanna face life without her.Ultimately,it's up to God & I'll leave it at that.
Agagin,thanks to all of you & please,please keep praying for us.I hope God has it in his plans for her to stay & love me again.
Love,
Rob


Posted by: slpdx2

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Originally Posted by jlfirefighter207
Rob,

Here is a prayer that I prayed a couple of months ago...things turned around 100% when I started praying for the OM. Things are not totally fixed but they are getting there. My patience has been tried and tried and tried. Take care, and don't give up.

JL


Dear God,

I come to you tonight on the advice and guidance of one of your children who found favor in asking for help and intersession in the life of the woman that was involved with her husband. It never dawned on me, Lord, that I should pray for those that have came into my life to destroy my relationship. Satan works in many ways and with many earthly forms. Keep Satan out of the lives of those that are leading our mates away in sin, in Jesus' name and by covering them in His blood. Give them conviction, dear Father, and show them that what they are doing is wrong and not part of your will. Help them to see what is motivating their advances and to back away from the situation. Give them victory in their marriages and help them find peace with themselves and the messes that they have placed themselves in. Help them find restoration in the relationships that they left in order to be with our mates. Do not let the spirit of conviction leave their minds, souls and bodies until they are gone from our lives and back at peace with their own situations. Thank you, Dear God, for showing us where we need to be compassionate to our enemies and help those that persecute us. Give us the strength to continue to rebuke the evil spirits in their lives and to be compassionate to their individual situations. It will not be easy, Father, but we know that we have to do this in order to regain our faith in people, including our own mates, and forgive those that allow us to feel anger and resentment. Especially, dear Lord, give me the strength to feel compassion with the "other man" and his marriage, that he can see where he needs to work on his life, his relationship with his mate, and give him the wisdom to relize that what he is doing is wrong. If I can be of any service to him at all, please let me be kind and compassionate in my interactions, either directly or through prayer. In Jesus' name, Amen...


This was such a benifit to me when I did it. My OW was 2 years ago and did not progress very far, but it still hurt. I began to pray for her, her child, and her marriage. It was immpossible to hate someone you are praying for and as you know if you harbor any resentment, anger, or hate for anyone (even if you have a good reason ) it is hard to get answers to our prayers. I just decided it came down to the fact that the OW was in the way of my happiness and marriage, I was NOT going to let her be a road block for answers to my prayers. I still struggle with this though.I go through very tough times when she is on my mind constantly and I become insecure and revert back to old habits of mistrust. I have realized recently that although I might feel justified in my words or actions, showing that kind of mistrust is a slap on my hubby's face and more importantly limiting God's miracle and healing. Why should I mistrust what the Lord has brought back together. I think my behavior contributed to this seperation.


Posted by: spacecowby76

Thanks everyone.I did catch her paging him yesterday but I let it go.I have finally,truly given thid to God.Please just pray fo rus.I need you all very much.


Posted by: spacecowby76

Things seem to be going well but I know he is still emailing her.I just have to trust God but I still get so nervous.I love her soooo much.Friends please keep praying for us.I BELEIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Posted by: spacecowby76

Friends,
I need your help again.I'm feeling very anxious today for some reason.I know it's in Gods hands & I'm NOT trying to take it back but I just feel weird.I miss her badly today & even though I know she'll be home when I get there......I still miss her.Maybe it's because God hasn't gotten her to the point of being comfortable with me yet.I don't know......just please pray for us.She starts counseling with a Christian based counselor next week.Pray that it opens her eyes to God again.I just need to lean on all of you some more.It helps me get through this situation.I talk to God constantly but sometimes I feel I talk too much to him.That's why I'm coming to all of you....for help & prayer.I don't wanna lose her again.I love her more than anyone could imagine.

Rob


Posted by: Praying For Restoration

Hey Rob -- don't worry about talking to God too much! You don't want to "babble like the Pagans do", as it says in the Word, but taking your troubles to Him, praising and worshipping Him, telling Him how you feel . . . keep it up!


Precious Lord,

I lift up my brother before you today. Lord, I bind the spirit of fear and anxiety that is troubling him this day, in the name of Jesus. I cast it away from him, never to return, in the name of Jesus and by the authority you have given me to do so. I plead your blood over him, and ask for your protection of him from any trouble. Lord, fill him up with your Holy Spirit, and bring all of the fruit of the Spirit to bear in his life. Help him to sense your comfort, your peace. Help him to rest in your arms, knowing you are in control, and how much you love him.

Lord, I pray your will be done in the future counseling sessions. Lord, I ask that the will of the counselor, the will of Robin, and the will of Rob be bound to the will of Christ, in the name of Jesus. I pray Lord that your truth will reign in that situation, and that no deception would be furthered. I pray that Robin's heart will be readied to deal with her grief, any midlife crises, and dissatisfaction she has with her life. I pray that the destruction of her sin will be revealed to her and that she will flee immorality. I pray Lord that the plans the enemy had for her will be revealed to her, and that she will turn away from satan and turn instead to you! I pray that Rob will have great favor in her eyes for standing for their marriage and not giving up on her.

Oh Lord, protect this restoration. Carry it through, see it to the end. We rest in your and take comfort knowing that the God of the Universe is personally keeping his hand on this situation.

I praise you and thank you, for you are able. Nothing is too hard for you, and you are our peace.

In Jesus' Name,

Amen


Posted by: spacecowby76

WOW!!!! Thank you so very much.This helps me more than you know.Oh,thank you ,thank you,thank you!!!!!!!!!! I BELIEVE!!!!!!!!!!!


Posted by: spacecowby76

this just keeps getting harder.We go from painting the kitchen together & spending all day with each other to her crying while we're driving about the OM & telling me that she doesn't see us ever being romantic again or that she could love me that way.Then,later I end up giving her a massage & then the next day she pulls away from me.I get the "brotherly" love now & that's it.I'm going crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
How will God let me know if she is going to change or does Satan have such a grip that her free will might take over & she'll leave.I don't mean this in anger & I'm NOT questioning Gods will but how long is he going to wait to pull her out of this muck.
I'm lost friends.I go to Jesus all the time but the pain & anguish NEVER go away.I think about this situation constantly & I've tried to focus on God & help others but I can't concentrate on anything.I love & miss her sooo much,yet she is only feet away from me & I can't show my affection!!!!!!!! HELP PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Posted by: ANOINTED WARRIOR

She is blind from the darkness she is in which is why it seems like a lot of times you are hitting a brick wall, this spirit of blindness has covered her eyes to the truth and needs to be broken over her so she can see clearly the fire of God that is before her trying to show her the way..

Here is the scripture to support what I just said: 1 John 2
11 But the one who hates his brother is in the darkness and walks in the darkness, and does not know where he is going because the darkness has blinded his eyes

God is waiting for you to do something in prayer about the blindness that is on your families lives or friends

Use the name of Jesus and let a mantle of the lion of Judah come on you and COMMAND that spirit of blindness to be broken over that person or family you want to see saved or come back to Jesus then replace that spirit of blindness with the word of God by speaking life there where there was death and blindness..and let the seed of life take root and grow for if you remove a curse or anything that is of the devil, the devil will always try to come back and take root again thats why you have to pray in that place where there was a curse or the spirit of blindness life in the word of God so when the devil does try to come back he will be greeted with a sword of the spirit and tree of life instead of death God Bless...


Posted by: Praying For Restoration

Wise words from Chris there . . .

Rob, do you have any materials for those praying for restoration of their marriages? Are you familiar with www.restoreministries.net and www.rejoiceministries*****?

The reason I ask, is that there are SO many things that our spouses do that feel so awful and strange to us, and make absolutely no sense. It feels like we are the only people on earth going through this -- and that makes it even more painful. When my husband told me he never really loved me, it was EXCRUCIATING. I truly felt like I must be the only woman to ever hear that (or it put me in a small group of very bad company). However, when I read the standers materials, and learned that this was STANDARD (no pun intended), it hurt a lot less. When I learned that that was typical behavior of someone caught in sin, it became less about me and more about the Enemy!

I think there would be a lot of good info and support for you that could help you get through this time in the books/tapes/etc. at those locations.

Also, one of Kristie's threads has a great explanation of God's will over human will that might be a comfort to you.

It might also help to realize she isn't crying over the other man. She's crying because she's bound by sin and deception. She's crying because she's all messed up and thinks she is going to find something that will ease her troubled soul in this other man. She's confused. Something in her knows that she should be living in God's way, but she's all messed up. I can just feel her confusion, and it has nothing to do with that other guy being so wonderful and you being just a brother to her. We as humans have an amazing capacity to bottle up our emotions and close them behind a closet door. You are complexity. She has a history with you, she knows you have faults (sorry, Rob!). Her grief over her son may be bottled up in that same closet where she's hiding her feelings for you. I hear it ALL THE TIME that a spouse who is saying they have no feelings suddenly is passionately in love again with the spouse they left! God turns the heart. Pray that God will replace her heart of stone, her confusion, her lack of feelings displayed for you, with a heart of flesh and blood. A softened heart.

I know it is so hard to hang on. But remember, HE WILL DO IT!

Bless you!

Erika
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Posted by: spacecowby76

The spiritual battle rages on.I could see the pain in her face today as she sat on the couch.The OM was on her mind & just at that moment God led me to a drawer that had some cards in it that she had given me over the years.I had forgotten about them & one in particular stood out.She had written about how glad she was to marry me & how I am her best friend.Now,she calls the OM her best friend.
I'm trying to look past this & focus on God but we need continued prayer.I feel like I'm asking all of you too many & too much when it comes to prayer but I believe it works.We need all the intervention we can get.We need your prayers & lots of them.I too,will keep praying for all of you.Thank you all for the support & I know God WILL restore my marriage.I LOVE YOU ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Rob


Posted by: ANOINTED WARRIOR

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Originally Posted by spacecowby76
The spiritual battle rages on.I could see the pain in her face today as she sat on the couch.The OM was on her mind & just at that moment God led me to a drawer that had some cards in it that she had given me over the years.I had forgotten about them & one in particular stood out.She had written about how glad she was to marry me & how I am her best friend.Now,she calls the OM her best friend.
I'm trying to look past this & focus on God but we need continued prayer.I feel like I'm asking all of you too many & too much when it comes to prayer but I believe it works.We need all the intervention we can get.We need your prayers & lots of them.I too,will keep praying for all of you.Thank you all for the support & I know God WILL restore my marriage.I LOVE YOU ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Rob

Have you come against the spirit of blindness she is in from seeing the truth in Jesus that what she is doing is wrong in even thinking of this other guy... BE BOLD in porayer and use the weapons and authority Jesus has given you use the name of Jesus and come against this spirit of blindness, when you do nothong God does nothing God moves when youi move he ios waiting on you to use the weapons you already have, if you are not using the weapons he has given you, you are tieing the hands of God from fighting in your situation..you see God is a very close intimate God he wants to work in oneness with you at all time when you move he loves to move, when you take one little step he takes 5,000,000,000 million steps to take care of you, he stops all of heaven and earth to take care of you when you depend on his weapons and his arms to take care of you... Get righteously indignant and let the mantle of the Lion of Judah come on you as you do who cares if she hears you praying...Jesus even now break this spirit of blindness over this lady from seeing the truth from the darkness she is in, break it in half right now with your fire anointing and mighty hand, IN THE NAME OF JESUS BE BROKEN NOW YOU SPIRIT OF BLINDNESS OVER THIS LADY LOOOOOSE YOUR GRIP RIGHT NOW OVER THEM BOTH, Jesus place in this place they were blind in your mighty healing word and salvation..


Posted by: GA5966

Jesus,

I pray for strength for Rob. I pray his marriage will be restored and his wife will realize the OM is not who she belongs to. She belongs to Rob she made a vow to him and you. So father I ask she remember those words and realize she is walking in the flesh. I pray you will bring her to you and she will start walking in spirit and remembering who she would be hurting not just Rob but you Lord. I know you are upset when your children hurt so you are feeling Rob's pain. Give him peace. In Jesus name. Amen


Posted by: spacecowby76

Thanks to all of you.Things are going well today...almost too well.I'm afraid she has been speaking or emailing him but I must leave it to God.I willl continue to pary & stand for my marriage.Please friends,keep praying for us.


Posted by: youngscarlet

Rob,
I have read your posts regularly and have been keeping up with your situation. As I read your updates tonight, I feel led to post these thoughts to you. I apologize if this is redundant and others have shared these thoughts before. But, perhaps you need to hear it again.

I have/am in a battle not unlike yours and make no mistake a battle is exactly what it is. It has helped me by coming to the realization that I am fighting for something for more important than my marriage but for the salvation of my spouse. For me and I believe for you, that's a fight I'm not willing to give up on. EVER!!!!! Something also to hold on to, the ONLY way you can lose this battle is by giving up because if you stand and fight there's NO WAY you will lose. That realization has brought me through many trials.

The devil seeks to get us focused on our circumstances. When we allow that to happen, it's easy to "fall into the water" so to speak and begin to feel as if we're drowning. The Lord has shown me continuously to "stand firm" and "hold my position". I simply have to continue to focus on him and to know that he knows the outcome and NOTHING the devil can attempt will change that if I hold fast and stand on His promises.

I know it can be a roller coaster ride, one day it's one way, and then the next. I know that from personal experience. But, it's all a ploy of the devil to get us off balance. When things go well for awhile, we relax then he can plan a "surprise attack" and we are completely unprepared. If things are bad for awhile, we feel as though it's hopeless and we're ready to "abandon ship". If it's constantly back and forth, we don't know what to think so we're constantly in a state of confusion. All of these scenarios are not the case studies for a valiant warrior, wouldn't you say? So, you see, it's all just a trick the devil cleverly uses against us.

I haven't felt led to post in awhile. I know that these words are meant for you and for me as it helps me to "hear my own sermon" You are in my prayers. God sees the big picture, and knows how the story ends. It's a happy ending. So, Rob I leave you with this "STAND FIRM AND HOLD YOUR POSITION"

Bountiful Blessings,
Scarlet


Posted by: spacecowby76

Thank you Scarlet.I'm trying to be strong but it's difficult.Just last night she was saying how she needs to leave & go be with the OM.She says she just doesn't feel it in her heart.Then today the first words out of her mouth are that she's sorry & she is gonna try.I wanna believe....I swear but sometimes free will & Satan are just too strong.Just please keep praying for us.I love all of you & thanks again!!!!
Rob


Posted by: Praying For Restoration

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Originally Posted by spacecowby76
I wanna believe....I swear but sometimes free will & Satan are just too strong.


Rob, Is this really what you want to speak into your situation? You are the spiritual leader of this home, and your words must reflect utter belief in the ultimate strength of the LORD! His sovereignty! You have just praised the enemy and flesh! Remember the power of your tongue to curse or to bless!

Thank you Lord that the enemy is DEFEATED and the Robin's heart can be turned in your hand whichever way you wish, just like channels of water! (Proverbs 21:1)


Posted by: spacecowby76

You're right & I'm sorry.Sleep deprivation has gotten to me.I've been awake for 36 hours.It was a moment of weakness & it won't happen again.I must rely on my 2 favorite words........I Believe!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Please keep up the prayers & thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Posted by: spacecowby76

Hello all,
Well,we spent the weekend in Columbus Oh on a zoo trip.It was OK.We had some laughs but all in all nothing has changed much.She starts pastoral counseling this Thursday.Please everyone pray that it helps open her eyes back to God first & then to our marriage.Also,please pray for me to have strength to get through this as she fights this feeling for the OM.
I love you all & thanks.
Rob