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Posted by: Copper

ok.

this is the big question, i think alot of us are stuck on, it sounds kind of stupid and like it should be a simple answer, but here goes....


When our spouses do take the step into the wilderness,
what do we do next?
just normal stuff, like cooking, cleaning, work, church, ect....
of course, but is there more? is there something i'm missing?

got any ideas?
any advice?
i wanna learn how to stand the RIGHT way.

thanks, God Bless, kimberly


Posted by: ANOINTED WARRIOR

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Originally Posted by Copper
ok.

this is the big question, i think alot of us are stuck on, it sounds kind of stupid and like it should be a simple answer, but here goes....


When our spouses do take the step into the wilderness,
what do we do next?
just normal stuff, like cooking, cleaning, work, church, ect....
of course, but is there more? is there something i'm missing?

got any ideas?
any advice?
i wanna learn how to stand the RIGHT way.

thanks, God Bless, kimberly

How long you spend with Jesus in your own personal time of prayer results in how long you will stay in the wilderness, because the more you soak in his anointing and power the more you will see your problems fade away, right now this is where the body of Christ is they arent spending quality time with Jesus one on one in getting to know him personally and to soak in his presence if they did we would see a church full of power and glory dwelling on him and his strength at all times from soaking in his glory all the time.. A majority of Christians who do not soak in his presence and who are not seeking to seriously search for his presence and voice and wisdom as treasure or hidden gold will be the ones who have many bondages in problems and are always dwelling and focusing on troubles instead of God.. So if you are finding out that you are always in turmoil or frustration these are signs to your spirit to get into a personal time of prayer with Jesus and soak in his presence and anointing and stay there till all you see is Jesus and none of you God Bless..

The below scriptures are if not exactley in order how to enter into his very presence everytime in prayer:

1. Thanksgiving and worship
Psalm 100:4
Enter his gates with thanksgiving
and his courts with praise;
give thanks to him and praise his name.

2. Silence being still in his presence
Psalm 46:10
"Be still, and know that I am God"

3. Seek him with your heart, (not mind)
Jeremiah 29:13
You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart

4. Fellowhip with Jesus becoming as one in him during prayer
James 4:8
Come near to God and he will come near to you.


Posted by: GA5966

There is no such thing as a silly question. Ask and it shall be given. I am in the situation of having a spouse in the dessert not just spiritually but literally too. All you are to do is seek God's face. Humble yourself and pray. Don't stop praying for him/her just keep them before the throne petition for them and watch GOD bring them though we can't do it for them. My spouse is coming through and watching the transformation only God can do is so awesome. JESUS you are Worthy


Posted by: Praying For Restoration

Hi Kim,

(((((((((((Kim))))))))))))

Yes, you go about your daily business, and spend a lot of time praying, praying scripture, fasting if you feel led, worshipping, basking in the Lord. Love on your children. Ask the Lord to show you what He wants to do in you during this time. To show you your own sin and ways He wants you to grow. To show you the new things He wants to do in you. Ask Him what His purpose is in allowing this season to come in your life.

I find myself thinking of it this way: I want to be prepared as a wife for my husband's return. There are a lot of things spiritually, emotionally, and physically that I feel led to do by the Lord to prepare myself. Some of them are things like attitudes (For example, I used to be a very negative person), and others are more practical (like losing weight, taking better care of myself, and keeping my house in order).

Probably the biggest thing for me has been to learn different ways of relating to my husband. I had my way of acting when I was angry with him, which was a huge part of why he left me. I was a very contentious wife, and had a horribly critical tongue. (Boy, has the Lord ever convicted me of that!) Then he left, which felt like a huge wrong he'd done me, of course, and I became more entrenched in acting critical, upset, withdrawn, etc. I mean, it is a pretty natural (although fleshly) reaction to have when someone is leaving you, etc. However, I learned that reacting in that way only made things worse. Eventually, as I got closer to the Lord, I learned that I was acting sinfully by keeping account of wrongs suffered, acting "haughtily", and all that. Anyway, I have found it is the most challenging thing ever to learn to walk out actively loving like 1st Cor 13 and the Sermon on the Mount says to love! It is SO hard to "offer the other cheek" and to give a blessing in response to a (even just perceived) curse. It is so hard to allow the Lord to be my defender instead of myself, and sometimes to submit in all things. But it also feels good too. It feels good to be working on that, to know our Lord is merciful, and to walk in His ways. I continually have to ask the Holy Spirit to help me, be present in me, soak through me, because I soooooo need Him to help me be able to change and grow in these ways.

I have been working mostly with the materials at Restore Ministries (you are working with Rejoice, right? I'm not as familiar with their stuff outside of the wonderful Charlyne Cares email newsletters), and there is a lot of stuff in there of practical ways to handle situations and such. They have a Women's Workbook, which I've been slowly working through. It is helping me to know more about being a godly wife and also just working on myself. Also, washing with the Word. Washing with the Word . . . ahhhhhh . . .

Also, be careful to guard against a "Pharisee Spirit", which spouses who have left can pick up on their radar from 5,000 miles away! Be careful not to be in situations where you can be tempted. Amazingly, I've heard that a lot of "standers" join singles groups! It is highly recommended to stay away from those, and most divorce recovery groups.

Also, you may want to ask Him if there is some work He has for you to do specifically during this time while you pray for restoration. Interceding for others (as you are doing now!), some project at church, some special work for the Lord. He will fill your time, and bless you.

Anyway, God is so faithful and good. I have heard over and over again from people I know who have restored marriages, that while difficult and painful, their time of standing ends up becoming a favorite period of their lives that they would never give up! I hear that is because of the closeness we get to experience with Jesus. He is so good, He will never leave us nor forsake us!

Loving you Kim . . .

We are here for you!

Blessings,

Erika