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I'm upset. Need a positive reinforcement...
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Posted by: kkmeeko
I received an email from my husband telling me that he and his mother are moving closer to where he works, it's about 45 min. away from me and our son. I got upset because I feel that things are hopeless for us. That things will never get better for him. I have prayed so much for him to come back to the Lord and have the Lord guide him home, but it always seems to be the same with him. I did hear from the grapevine that he isn't talking with the girl from work much anymore, so that's a good thing!! Praise God!! But, I guess I'm being selfish and want what I want and get impatient. I know God hates divorce, but sometimes I feel that by things my husband says or does that it is leading closer and closer to that. Then I have others tell me that maybe my husband wasn't the one I was supposed to marry so God may be allowing this to happen. I just don't believe that. Please help me by praying that a breakthrough will happen soon with my situation. Something will be so clear and spelled out for me about my situation and what to do. I feel in my heart that my husband will come back, but then I don't know if it's really God that is telling me that or it's my wishful thinking!! Please help me try to understand what to do!!
Melissa
Posted by: GA5966
Melissa,
Don't ever give up. Jesus is bigger than this. He can restore your broken home. The fact that he is not talking to the girl at work is a big deal. Also, 45 minutes away that is not bad think positive girl. I tell you I have been there. My husband would not even come to his visitation days with our son when we were divorced. Guilt is a funny thing. He knew what he done was wrong and it took my mom telling him there was still a place in my heart for him. We were divorced for a year. God put us back together and has since done miracles in my husbands life and mine. We have 2 children now ages 8 and 6. The last one happened on the night God gave us our marriage back. Don't let Satan steal your hope.
Jesus,
Do for Melissa what you did for me. Bring her husband back to her. Remind him of his vow before you. Help Melissa to forgive him and completly bury the hatchett. Give her strength to stand when it looks hopeless. Give her a friend who will lift her up and tell her don't give up. I pray you will touch her now. In Jesus Name, AMen
Posted by: Praying For Restoration
Hi Melissa,
A lot of people like to try and bend God's word. Since beginning to pray for the restoration of my marriage, I've heard some amazing deceptions that people come up with -- like your friends saying that your husband isn't the one God wanted you to marry . . .
Even if he wasn't the one God wanted you to marry (which I'm not saying is true at all) you ARE married to him. God expects us to carry through with that commitment, God honors that covenant you two made, and He will help you!
As is a theme seen a lot on this board lately, you must take your eyes off of your husband, the circumstances, what he says or seems to be doing, and place your eyes on the Lord. Any information that comes to you (don't try to seek any out though), use it as fuel for prayer. Go to war in the spirit for him, pray scripture over him, don't let yourself get discouraged -- rest in Him!
You have invited the one and only God of the universe to come and indwell your situation. Who is stronger? The enemy who has deceived your husband? Or Jesus, who took the keys of sin and death and conquered and overcame?
Of course, Jesus!
It may take some time, or it could be sudden and seemingly "out of the blue", but you have to keep those eyes on Jesus.
Use this time to ask Him what He wants to do in you. What sin does He want to confront and take away in your life? What does He want to grow within you? What tasks does He have for you during this season? Bask in His presence and love. Let Him transform you during this season. Keep praying for your husband. Try not to talk to your friends about all that is going on, as people tend to want to protect you and may urge you to end things because they think that is a quick fix for this pain (I speak from experience!) -- and it absolutely is not a quick fix to walk through a divorce!
Blessings,
Erika
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Posted by: kkmeeko
Thank you both for your words of encouragement! I know of several people that have been through a divorce and have been remarried. That is encouraging, but then I think why should we have to get to that point? Why doesn't God help us before we get there? But, I know that it's because He has to make us both right and if we don't both get ready during that time then a divorce might have to happen. I guess I'm scared that it will be the end of the world for a divorce to go through. Anyway, I must share with you what I found today after writing this first post. I felt that God was giving me my answer!!!
"You're blessed, empowered to prosper, happy, if you'll believe even though you don't see anything to back up your belief. This is a great problem in the Body of Christ today. There are many Christians faltering in their faith when they don't see immediate results or some type of proff that their prayers are being effective. We cannot adhere to that line of thinking. Our minds need to be set on the fact that the Word is the final authority and we will continue to believe that Word regardless of what we can see with our eyes."
"We don't need to see immediate change. We cannot base our belief on outward signs. Your faith must be solely founded upon the Word of God and that's all."
"We don't need signs to believe, we just need the one thing Jesus said was needful: The Word of God" by Pastor Dan Yankunas at the Solid Rock Church in Stillwater, OK.
Isn't that wonderful! I just typed in "having faith" in my search engine and found that article. God is awesome!! That is exactly what I have been doing and why I get so upset when my husband says or does things that aren't what I want to hear. I feel that because I have prayed and haven't seen anything "good" happen then it's not going too. So, that's where I have gone wrong!! I know like Erika said, I have to keep my eyes on Jesus and not let anything get in the way or discourage me. Thanks be to God and thank you Erika and GA5966 for your kind words!!
Melissa