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breakthrough in marriage

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Posted by: jesperson

We will be married for 21 yrs june 4. I think my husband is having an affair. But I don't have any proof. I want my marriage to survive-even infidelity, but I don't want to live with a constant adulterer. We need help!!! If I am wrong about this I am still doing as much damage as if it were true. Please pray that God would give me proof one way or the other. If it is true I would like God to end the affair and so strengthen our marriage that it would never happen again. I want to trust my husband again. We live in a small town and I see this woman regularly. She is much prettier, younger and more slender than I, also she has 2 small kids (our son is 19). My emotions are shot. I need God's strength and peace. My husband is not saved. Please pray for his salvation and that he would understand what he is doing, cuz proverbs says that the victim of an adulterer lacks understanding.
Help I would like God to intervene in a mighty way in our lives.
Thank you.


Posted by: mknalp

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Originally Posted by jesperson
We will be married for 21 yrs june 4. I think my husband is having an affair. But I don't have any proof. I want my marriage to survive-even infidelity, but I don't want to live with a constant adulterer. We need help!!! If I am wrong about this I am still doing as much damage as if it were true. Please pray that God would give me proof one way or the other. If it is true I would like God to end the affair and so strengthen our marriage that it would never happen again. I want to trust my husband again. We live in a small town and I see this woman regularly. She is much prettier, younger and more slender than I, also she has 2 small kids (our son is 19). My emotions are shot. I need God's strength and peace. My husband is not saved. Please pray for his salvation and that he would understand what he is doing, cuz proverbs says that the victim of an adulterer lacks understanding.
Help I would like God to intervene in a mighty way in our lives.
Thank you.



I understand the pain and torment that you are going through. Do not expect it to be any easier when or if you have proof. I will pray for you and your marriage. I will pray that the Lord reach your husband and show him true salvation.


Posted by: warrior4hm

Dear Jesus,

I lift up this sister to you right now. I plead the blood over this marriage. I pray Father God, that you will help her to stand firm in your word. I thank you Jesus that your word does not return void. I thank you that even when we were sinners you still came and died on the cross for all of out sins. Father God, I pray regardless of whether she knows or doesn't that your hand will move in their life today. I thank you that you will draw her close to her as she draws close to you. Use this as a testimony of your goodness. Father God, right now when marriages are being attacked from all sides I pray that you will restore and renew. For your word says that all things work together for good to those who love God and are called according to design and purpose. I thank you that you will start to show this family how to put you first before anything else and watch your glory..
In Jesus name ....AMEN


Posted by: Vicky42

Dear Heavenly Father, I ask You to rebuke and to bind satan in the name and through the blood of the Lord Jesus Christ. I ask You dear Father, to build a hedge of thorns around this man so that if anyone is of wrong influence on him, they will lose interest in him and immediately leave. I base this prayer on the command of Your word, for it is written, "what God has joined together, let no man separate". I thank You for hearing and answering my prayer. In Jesus name I pray. AMEN


Posted by: shalu

Jesperson,

Oh I am soooo glad that you found this site. There are TRULY amazing prayers warriors that will stand with you in this season of your life. As I read through your post, I was just overcome with emotion. You had said something that really impacted me, and it is something that I could not see until the Lord removed me from my marriage for a short time, and maybe you don't even know that you said it....

"If I am wrong about this I am still doing as much damage as if it were true."

and then you went on to say...

"If it is true I would like God to end the affair and so strengthen our marriage that it would never happen again. I want to trust my husband again."

So no matter what, whether if he is having this affair or not, I know that you do not want to be causing damage to your marriage. For you have stated that you would like the Lord to end the affair and restore your marriage. I know that this is a very difficult time for you, I KNOW it in such a personal way. My husband and I have not been married as long as you, only 3 years at the end of June, but satan has attacked my husband and I unrelentlessly starting about a year ago. I will not go into specifics, but it was a VERY dire and VERY dark time in my life. My husband asked me to leave just before Christmas this year.....I just couldn't believe it.

Since then I have pressed into the Lord, I want to come to a place that I am just so IMMERSED in His presence. The Lord has taken me on an AMAZING whirlwind of a Spiritual walk. I was restored to my husband three weeks after he asked me to leave and we are more in love than we ever have been. HOWEVER, when the Lord first restored us, things HAD NOT changed in our house. The same things that my husband had been doing before I left were the same things that he did when I came home. HOWEVER, I found a place of peace, perfect peace that truly DOES pass ALL human understanding. (An emotional affiar was occurring at that time, however I did not know until much later that it was nothing more than that...I went home with the full knowledge and full forgiveness and softening of my heart not knowing just what happened or if it is was still going on....) I was determined to fight this tremendous battle being waged for my husband and to continue to grow in my walk and for the Lord to teach me how to be a truly Godly wife. For even though there were things that my husband was doing to push me away, I am only responsible for how I react and I am to react and respond how Jesus would act and respond. There were things that I did, in response to his behavior and things he was doing, that created this huge wall of bitterness that he couldn't even cross if he had wanted to. We were emotionally divorced LONG before I left the house.

Now, 6 months later my husband is TOTALLY delievered. And while there are still things to be dealt with in the physical, I BELIEVE that the Lord has completed an AMAZING work and more and more I see the manifestation of it in the physical. I didn't for a time, I didn't see a change, but the Lord GREW me, RAISED ME UP, SHARPENED my Spiritual ears and eyes to see Him. Wow, He has just waged the TREMENDOUS spiritual battle. We are still facing some mounting issues, like selling our home and moving, and while I allow satan to sometimes come at me with his lies, I have developed so many friendships from prayer warriors here that have kept me focused on Jesus. And immediately I am again in this place of peace that the Lord has taken care of this.

I know that you will receive sooo much love here, and so much direction and guidance from all the other wonderful people here standing for their marriage. One thing that I know, is that I am a stander for life. I am reconciled with my husband and I CONTINUE to stand for my marriage daily. The standing doesn't stop once the spouse comes "home".....

When I first left home the Lord directed me to 3 ministries, one was here at Annointed, the other was Rejoice Ministries and the other was Restore ministries. The Lord used both of those site and the materials from Restore to speak to me in a profound and amazing way.....Because, I didn't know that I COULD stand for my marriage, or even where to start.....And I didn't see that satan was just having a hey day not only with my husband, which I already KNEW THAT but with me as well. I was blinded by satan's lies and the Lord lovingly removed the blinders and suddenly I could see. And OH what a glorious day that was.....And that is when the REAL SPIRITUAL battle started, for me.

http://www.restorem*****/

http://www.rejoiceministries*****/


I am praying for you and your family. I know right now all the feelings you are feeling, whether he is having an affiar or not, just in thinking that he is you are sensing this HUGE ABANDONMENT and being sooo very very alone. And that is the sense I got when I first read your email, just the emptiness you are feeling right now. Jesus IS there. He will NEVER leave you or forsake you...NEVER EVER EVER, and He is there, ready to fill you with comfort, peace and even forgiveness if you let it all go, allllll of it. Can't even hold onto the marriage, gotta let it go, and allow the Lord and HIM only to restore you and to heal you. And even though it seems so far from possible, the Lord can take you to a place of peace. He will equip you will all you need, and most of all, He will keep you safe in the palm of his hand.

God bless,

Shalu