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New as a christian and have a question that I need answered

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Posted by: needstoknow

I know this is a risque` question, but I honestly and seriously need to know from my walk with the Lord...

I am married and have been for 1 year. I led a wild life and now am seeking the Lord. My question is this:

What is acceptable in the bedroom between husband and wife? What constitutes sinning or perversion in a marriage....What is going to far in sexaul relations in God's eyes?

Thank you
needstoknow

This is a serious question for me and my husband.


Posted by: jedijeb

I know I searched on this when I was engaged, and one pastor told me that anything between a husband and wife ( barring those things specificially mentioned in the bible such as homosexual and beastial ) were Ok as long as both are comfortable with it. If it would intrude on a partners ideas of proper or just not make them happy then you should avoid it. The bedroom relationship of a husband and wife is for the purpose of expressing your love for your partner and the only way to show love it to please the partner. Likewise one partner should not just do something they dont like just because it would be pleasing to the other because in that the other in not fulfilling their resonsibility to be pleasing. It has to be mutual, not I will please you today and you please me tomorrow even when it makes the other uncomfortable.

I havent researched it much deeper and I hope someone else gives an opinion. What I do know though is that outside of marriage ALL things of this sort are an abomination before God.


Posted by: GA5966

Have you heard of Family and Marriage Today. The husband is a Pastor and has a CD set 10 out called Marriage on the Rock. He talks about the tough stuff like this. I can't remember his name and my husband has the CD's in Iraq as I listened and mailed them to him. They address this very sort of thing. He does say as long as it is husband and wife and doesn't hurt one of the two it is ok. Just be careful what you let in to your bedroom other people of course would be an absolute no it would defile the vows. I looked it up in the concordance and could not come up with scripture. I also wish I had the CD's back I could listen and give you the answer. Maybe JG will approach the subject. I remember it is Jimmy Evans.


Posted by: tapi906

Greetings in Christ.In marriage sex between husband and wife are permitted.Homosexualism -man and man or woman and woman is detested therefore if you are thinking about having threesomes may the holy spirit reveal the truth to you but my understanding of the bible is that its a no! no!.alos remember to repent about sexual sins of the past before you were born again (2 Corinthians 12 vs 21) and also read Leviticus 20 vs 18.May the lord guide you and richly bless your marriage.In Jesus' name.