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Posted by: WeRFamily

Hi Everyone. I haven't asked for much prayer simply because I am too tired to go on. For those of you who don't know my story...me husband and I am separated. He lives in another state where he is a 2nd year medical resident. I live with our three children (12, 10, and 21 months old) and his mother. The kids and I were supposed to join him last year when school let out but he decided he didn't want that. He didn't really want to move the kids from their stable situation (very suburban, excellent schools, lots of recreation) but mainly, he didn't think he wanted to be married anymore. Anyway so here we are the kids and I having our every need met and my husband out there at the point of suicide. His job is very stressful as it is, he misses the kids very much, etc. At any rate - he has had lots of issues with his family that needed to be addressed as a child but weren't. He has now lumped me into "the cause of all his problems" along with a whole string of family members. The other day he made a string of phone calls to me, asking for prayer, asking for a divorce because he just needs a fresh start, that would solve all his problems, the kids could begin to heal, he can't be with anyone, he may need medication, etc. He also wants me to do the divorce research and see about the cost and all theat. I told him, "No Way ws I going to do that although I would not stand in his way". The scary callwas when he broke down in tears. I have never seen him cry in all the 13 years of our marriage. I truly believe he is having a nervous breakdown. He feels I am not able to go through any of this with him - although I have been through a PhD and medical school with him while working full time, and having 3 children then moving in with his mother. We have been through a lot together, never with each other like this though. I don't know what to ask for prayer for. I feel sorry for him and told him God can heal him everywhere he hurts. He said I just want him to pray for my benefit. I don't know what to do here. I even felt my heart starting to harden when I know this is when God can really use me the most. Truly, residency is one of the hardest jobs around and he is there alone - but by his choice. I would pack up and be there in a minute for him. God knows that. There was another woman, a former co-worker but I feel that relationship is dwindling to nothing. He's in such a state of mind! Who else wants that trouble. He has always had a difficult personality, always a lttle paranoid, angry - but I could always calm him. Now...I don't ever call him. I have the kids call him morning, noon, and night, literally. He also continues to question me about who I am with if I go anywhere. Once or twice I was able to go to the movies by myself. On my birthday, I was going to the bookstore by myself, in July I am going to New York with some female co-workers. He makes comments about who I must be going with. I haven't even looked at another man like that during this entire mess. I feel as if God has forsaken me but, I know better. He is still God not matter what. It's just simple. I am at my end. I know that our God would not leave a family in this situation. Our baby hardly knows him. our son pines for him, our adolesent needs two parents in the home. I just don't know if God really intends to restore this family or not. Whatever He does, I will continue to love Him. He is God and knows what is best. But someitmes I feel as if I can't move another step but, for my children and when I speak to my husband, I remain upbeat. I have decided that life goes on and no matter what, I was going to raise my children and make us as happy as the Lord allows through all this. Also, my mother-in-law is a PRAYING woman. She doens't even want to hear that "D" word. I hope I am making sense. I am just so very tired. I run my kids from here to there and I love doing it, it just feels like there is a rock whre my heart used to be it is so heavy. I suppose I could just need some lifting up in prayer. My situation seems so very hopeless. And I want my own house so very badly. Not that God hasn't made us very comfortable. I can't figure that out either. Is it that my stay there without my husband is going to be a long one? I am so tired. Sometimes I feel like just giving in. Get remarried and forgetting all about this nightmare. So sorry to ramble. But, I love you all for listening. Thanks,
Luv,
Jeanine


Posted by: christythompson

I feel heavy hearted about your prayer request and am glad your husband is a praying man. He is going through a very hard time, sure and it will pass. However your time of separation seems like it is no longer right to me. He has a family that he needs and who need him. Kids can have stability right where their Dad is. His extra-marital fling would less likely occur with his family right there. Counseling with everyone is a great idea. Of course your not going to investigate Divorse. You can tell him you are going to investigate your families move to be together. The kids aren't in school now. Why don't you go out there and scope things out.

God touch this very complex situation. Satan we will not listen as you whisper your lies in the ears of this family. Take your hands off this husband. We come against all spirit of darkness and caste you off. I stand with this wife for her husband and her marriage and I pray that you would unite this family together this summer and no more delays be tolerated, no more excuses be given credance to. We know these kids are resilent and what they need is a Dad who is there. Give this wife strength and wisdom and courage to act and be firm.


Posted by: Yamaira007

In the Blood of Jesus, touch this family Lord. The wife is the foundation of this family. The devil has put his hands on the husband - but not for long. Lord this man is going down the wrong route because he misses his family and his wife's company to the point the devil has brought sin into this marriage. In the Blood of Jesus, touch this marriage that the husband will rebuke the devil out of his life and grab hold of You Lord into his life. The husband is indeed going through tormoil because is apart from his wife and children and the devil is dancing all around him. In the Blood of Jesus, I rebuke this devil away from this family, I rebuke you devil out of this marriage and out of the husband's life style. I rebuke you devil in the Blood of Jesus that you will no longer come between this man and wife between this family. I rebuke you devil, I rebuke you devil in the Blood of Jesus. Streach forth Your Mighty hand Lord and bring this man and woman back together in Your Might Name Lord. Allow no man, woman nor demon come between these two again. In the Blood of Jesus. In Thine's Name it is done. Amen Amen Amen


Posted by: WeRFamily

Thank you so much for your prayers. I agree it has gone on for far too long now. His way of thinking? We are putting the divorce off for far too long. My way of thinking? We are putting this separation ON for far too long. I am at the point that either we reconcile or we make it permanent too. So I suppose I am thinking like him in a way. All I know is that I can't and won't go on like this for too much longer. I ask daily now, God, where are you?


Posted by: JG

This is Pastor Jerry and I am praying for you right now.
Dear Jeanine:

This is Pastor Jerry and I am praying for you and your marriage right now> My heart goes out to you and I am praying the Lord see you through.

Remember we really do care for you.

Pastor Jerry