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Posted by: motherofthree
Hi, I need immediate prayers for my 14 year old son. He right acting out of control at the moment. He tries to create contention and then if he does not get what he wants will try to turn off the electricity, throw rocks, yell, scream, etc. Yesterday we went out of town and he refused to obey basic safety rules of the family to stay together when in bookstores (which is where he wanted to go), so we came back early from a city that was 3 hours away.
He seems to get pleasure and smiles when he creates challenges in our home. He knows that I can't stop him from doing what he is doing. I don't know what to do. He is real good at manipulating.
He was upset because my daughter who is 11 was playing her radio softly in her room. He tried to get into her room and push me aside. When he failed, he tried to turn off the electricity. Then later she started washing dishes and he threw rocks at the window, did not break it. He is seeking attention in a negative way. When he gets mad it is always focused on us. He creates his own anger, it does not take anything for it to flare up.
I have been trying to teach my daughter to ignore his behavior and to go do something else when he acts up. He puts us down, calls us the inferior species, etc. He is becoming a female hater like his dad and oldest brother.
On top of that he speaks to them every sunday on the phone. They feed his anger towards us. Please pray that they will stop calling. It only makes things worse here. It gives him ideas on how to make life challenging for us.
He is not totally bad, he has a lot of good moments, I just don't know how to stop the bad behavior. He says does not want to live with dad because he knows dad won't buy him clothes or shoes when he needs them or take good care of him. But at the same time he threatens to go live with him.
I am divorced and the ex. was abusive emotionally and physically to all of us. His oldest brother lives with his dad because he went out of control when he became a teenager. Now he barely talks to me. The 14 year old wants to run the house and does not want to do chores etc. Councling is out of the question because they have never help us in the past and have only made things even more difficult for us. We have used many different ones. The boys are identifying with their dad's behavior of being abusive. I still have hope for the 14 year old son. The other one was much worse and got involved with the police.
What I need is for God to take control of this situation and to heal his anger and any pain that he may have inside of him. I need for the three of us to stay together as a family. I love my children dearly, but the behavior is unacceptable and it has only been escalating lately. I want him to realize his behavior is bad and not normal. I want him to change his ways so he does not become like his dad. I need a miracle in our lives.
Thank you very much for your prayers.
Posted by: Delight
Dear mother,
Praying with you with all my heart.
It's wonderful that you want the Lord to take control of your situation. He will most gladly. But I know it's not so easy to let go completely and surrender. So whenever things disturb the atmosphere and you are tempted to do something to calm the situation just hold back for a moment and ask the Lord how He wants you to act...
I had a heavy storm hit my life few months ago and things were simply out of control. It was drowning me. And I learnt that sometimes Lord does not calm the storm but calms you when you fix your eyes on Him.
Sometimes I would literally close my eyes with my hands and picture Him watching me and it used to sooth me and keep me from drowning in the situation.
Pray Psalms 139 over your son if you can...
I am posting it here right now so that you can pray it with me... Fill the blanks with his name.
Psalms 139
O LORD, search ______’s life, and know him.
2 You know when _____ sits and when he rises;
even from a distance, You know what he is thinking.
3 You discern ______’s going out and his lying down;
you are familiar with all his ways.
4You know everything _______ is going to say even
before he starts the first sentence.
5______ looks behind him and you're there,
then up ahead and you're there, too--
your reassuring presence, coming and going.
6This is too much, too wonderful--
I can't take it all in!.
7Is there anyplace ______ can go to avoid your Spirit?
to be out of your sight?
8If he climbs to the sky, you're there!
If he goes underground, you're there!
9If he flies on morning's wings
to the far western horizon,
10 even there your hand will guide him,
your right hand will hold him tight.
11 If he says, "Surely the darkness will hide me
and the light become night around me,"
12 even the darkness will not be dark to you;
the night will shine like the day,
for darkness is as light to you.
13 For you created _______’s inmost being;
you knit him together in my womb.
14 I praise you because __________ is fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
15You knew ______ inside and out, when he was made in the secret place. You know every bone in his body;
You know exactly how he was made, bit by bit,
how he was sculpted from nothing into something.
16Like an open book, you watched _____ grow from conception to birth; all the stages of his life were spread out before you,
The days of hisr life all prepared before he had even lived one day.
17How precious it is Lord to know that You are thinking of him constantly
When he awakes,
He is still with you.
23 Search _______, O God, and know his heart;
test him and know his anxious thoughts.
24 See if there is any offensive way in him,
and lead him in the way everlasting.
May the Lord surprise you today!!!
Posted by: KingdomWarrior
Praying for your sons and your daughter.
I used to be the one out of control. I was even a teacher in church when I was acting out at home. I think I was about 13 or 14.
I had so much anger and rage in me (at my parents0 that I would lash out at my parents, even hit them - this is the way I had seen conflicts resloved at home. My dad was a very violent person. God set me free on Oct 19, 1993. I finally lost it so bad that I was trying to choke my mom. I was under so much shame that I couldn't pray for 4 days. Finally on the morning of the 19th, I broke down and cried out to God (He had waken me with a dream).
I have been free since!
I will keep your children in prayer.
Posted by: ANOINTED WARRIOR
Print this out and have him say this prayer let him read it and say it, if he doesnt want to say it place it under his matress for the anointing to flow through the prayer into him 24/7 God Bless:
Jesus I come to you now as I am and ask that you save me from myself and from all I am going through in my life, forgive me of my sins for I confess of them all, come into my heart as saviour and Lord forever now, from this moment on show me the way and teach me of your ways, fill me with your Holy Spirit in love and peace, from this day forth I renounce the devils manifested schemes in my life over my spirit, soul,body, mind, self-will, thoughts and emotions, and from this day forth I proclaim the Lordship of Jesus Christ over my spirit, soul,body, mind, self-will, thoughts and emotions and forever place my life in Jesus hands amen..
Posted by: MaryTemp
Dear Motherofthree,
I am praying for you right now and I just sent you a pm. Please let me know if you need someone to talk to, I am here. God Bless!
Your Sister in Christ,
Mary
Posted by: ninababy73
I am praying for you, your daughter and your son.
Posted by: christythompson
My situation was different as I was a single Mom, but My son at age 14 went out of control just as bad. We went to counseling and went through several before we found a good one and that was expensive. The best advise I got was to remember that I was his parent and not his friend. I had to lay down the law with a heavy hand, have total follow through with no threats, merely action. No second chances. My son was trying to bully me ( all the bad stuff like yours) and boss me being my parent. I had to reverse that right away to my being the parent to get respect back. I then had the police talk with him. Rock throwing, turning the electricity off are forms of vadalism, maybe he needs the scare of real conscequences to learn. Constant follow through is important. My hair had to become familar with clairol hair dye due to the stress I went through. I literally went gray. The only one in my family to do so before age 70. I wanted to post a sign in the yard, Please forgive me I own a teenager! I didn't but thought about it! Bottom line you don't want to lose him, but you will if you don't stay firm and don't take too much before you go to the outside, meaning the police or even family services if need be. I asked family services for a family intervention. My son hated it and it helped. I told him I loved him at all times and that is something he knows like a bedrock fact. He is a human being now!!! Praise God!!! He is a nice christian young man (25)with a christian girlfriend. Only God!!! Find out what your resources for outside help are so you at least know what your options are. Make the calls. Ask Ask Ask. Tell your son what you are doing, set him down, explain you love him and because you love him. You are not going to allow his behavior, so if he wants to work outsomething to help him express himself in an ACCEPTABLE fashion fine if not you mean serious business. And still make the calls to find out your options, let him hear you. You are calling to find out what can be done.....Don't be afraid to let him go for a while, so you can reel him back in. That may mean a trip to the police station. Always enforsing love, your standards, prayer and rules. There is security in knowing the boundaries, but if you give in and those boundaries become flexible, he will run amuck. You have my prayers, and my heart goes to you. In all of this remember he belongs to God first, so do whats necessary and nip this in the bud!!! God bless You Mom
Posted by: christythompson
I just thought of this put him, all your children, your ex-husband on the Pray for me event on the left side of the screen for salvation.
Posted by: Catrnhope
My thoughts and prayers are with you. I don't have children, so I can only imagine how difficult this must be. I do know, however, that God walks with you and gives you strength when you are certain you have nothing left!
Bless-
Cathryn