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Posted by: Ericsmom
I've always had a hard time dealing with death. It stems from my baby sister dying when she was a few months old and I was in elementary school. When someone passes, I really have trouble saying anything that I think is comforting. I don't like it when someone says I understand how you feel and they haven't lost a family member or any one close to them. Anyway, just wondering ...
Posted by: akabezalel
I usually say nothing.
I let a close hug say what I feel.
Silence speaks loud at a time like this.
Sometimes I will say something like "I will miss him/her", simple and heartfelt also speaks volumes.
Losing a small child is harder though, I don't think there is anything that can help a parent or close family member when that happens.
Just watch and see where they need help coping and fill the blanks for them in a quiet way.
Just meet their needs, don't supplement them with yours.
Be sensitive to the Holy Spirit and pray before going to them, lean on Him and follow His lead.
Posted by: Chimbamu
God is a wonderful Father and He provides us answers in His word and even in the family of God. Death is a very frightening thing. It is a painful thing, and it is going to happen to everyone. I think that so long as we have this in mind - even when someone comes to comfort us - and we assume they have not lost - we know that they are just as confused as we are about it. No one can understand death or its meaning, even those who have lost many many times - and the pain can only get deeper. But we have the blessed assurance that we will only have one death - and He will be there to help us through that time and that He is with those who have passed as well. At the end of the day it is really about relationships - and learning from one another. Amen!