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Rehonouring the spouse after adultery. A turn to God and spouse for restoration.

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Posted by: Tatian

Suggested prayer: before God and my spouse, I honestly choose to stop my sin and hate it. I now choose to regard being taken by that rival as being taken by a pig, I do so. I am much to good to have been used like this. My spouses honour and spirit all bound in me through marriage and trust is hurt and was much too good for this.

I reject and begin to turn from this. That which I have hated I have done. But may my parts that love the right thing be strengthened. Even by Jesus blood.

I regard my will and mind and emotions in this sin, even the climax as being taken by a mere pig. My spirit and body and all the feelings as taken by a pig and befouled. I hate this memory. I choose decidedly to hate it. And I hate the taking of the other as of the taking and experiencing of a foul pig. All the personalness, will, mind, emotions, spirit, material, ie body, and all this rival of my spouse was, as, a foul entity, yet a precious person to God. For Jesus sake despite choosing to hate the sin I like the sinner. I wish I had never been intimate with another and want this all washed away in Jesus precious and powerful blood. What He will wash away be washed away, what He will cover be covered.

I pray with my spouse now for Jesus blood, more real than any thing or event in history to wash the other person and sin out and away from my life forever. Again and again I ask for your blood Jesus. Into my spirit, wash and divorce me of that enemy. Wash my mind,will, and emotions, and wash my flesh, my body. Fill me, with the blood of the lamb heavenly Father, cover me with the same blood of the lamb heavenly Father, saturate me with Jesus blood heavenly Father, transfuse me with Jesus blood heavenly Father, in Jesus name, amen.

I plead the blood was shed for me. Jesus took this sin in Himself and defeated it. It is destroyed. Jesus the Truth, the greater reality conquered the lesser and gave me the Way and the new Life.

Father in Jesus name, Jesus and Holy Spirit, I ask for the application of Jesus blood upon me again and again. Impute me with righteousness, love me whole. I am worth alot and ask for the blood of Jesus apon me to claim me as your own. And return me to my spouse with all my honour restored for my spouse only to have and enjoy. That my spouse may have me more than anyone else, spirit, soul and body. To the glory of God the Father, again, in Jesus mighty name, amen.

Thank you Jesus for your precious blood, thank you, and thank you again. You are so powerful and real.

A hurt married couple could pray this together daily for a little over a year to find restoration of honour, fellowship and perhaps intimacy. While being health tested...


Posted by: StarChilde

Just WHERE did you get this prayer? It is MOST offensive... we are not to call other people names... and to say to pray this prayer for a little over a year??? Be REAL! The Blood of our Precious Saviour Christ Jesus covers ALL sins, and ANY and ALL sins confessed are forgiven as soon as they are confessed! Who are WE to hold grudges against those whom God Himself has forgiven!?
The days of wearing scarlet A's on adulterers clothing is OVER!

God's own word says thus:

Isa 43:18 Remember ye not the former things, neither consider the things of old. Isa 43:19 Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert.

Mat 12:34 O generation of vipers, how can ye, being evil, speak good things? for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh. Mat 12:35 A good man out of the good treasure of the heart bringeth forth good things: and an evil man out of the evil treasure bringeth forth evil things.
Mat 12:36 But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment.
Mat 12:37 For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned.



Posted by: StarChilde

soul-ties

PLEASE PRAY THIS PRAYER BELIEVING YOU ARE FREE>>

"Father God, in Jesus' name, I humbly ask you to forgive me and cleanse me of the sin of fornication. I acknowledge it as sin and ask you to help me forsake in completely. I thank you for your forgiveness, in Jesus' name. "Lord God, I come before your throne of grace boldly, and covered in the shed blood of your Son. In Jesus' mighty name, I ask you to cut any and all ungodly soul ties between myself and anyone else [say NAME or NAMES if appropriate and remembered] created by sexual acts or any other relationship, known or unknown, remembered or forgotten. Please Father, take the Sword of the Holy Spirit and separate my human spirit with the human spirits of anyone with whom I have ungodly sexual contact. In Jesus' name, I ask You to cleanse those ties by the blood of Jesus of any possible access through which Satan can trouble me or my family.
"By the authority of the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, I break the power of any and all covenants, contracts, dedications or commissions made over me [or my children, if any]. In the name of Jesus Christ, my Lord, I now command any and all demons which may have come into me by ungodly soul ties or any other sin to leave me at once, never to return. I bind you all together as one, and I weaken you with the Blood of Calvary. I command you to go where the Lord Jesus Christ tells you to go by the voice of His Holy Spirit.

"Abba Father, in Jesus' mighty name, I ask you to shut any doorways of demonic access opened into my life by ungodly soul ties or any other sort of sexual sin, and I ask you to seal those doorways forever with the Blood of the Lamb, shed on the cross of Calvary. I thank you for doing this, in Jesus' name, Amen."


Posted by: Tatian

Thanks StarChilde. I didn't mean to call anyone names. The experience and act is "as if it were..." to show dislike or even hate of the sin itself, the dishonour, to begin to rehonour the spouse so hurt. The decision... is begun to be hated. So that repentance can begin to form. Repentance yes, very much yes. I was thinking of a lady I know from the FSU where faith with repentance is part of a culture or spirituality they have been sadly removed from. So it is to coax her and lead her into a repentance that may take a year in spiritually sluggish FSU people. The power of the blood would be needed to oil a change in a rusted vessel. Repentance there seems harder to come by.

It is good if she begins to hate what she did in favour of her husband. "I think the sin was rubbish, you are the one for me, may Jesus blood help me repent to God and you. The sin was as with a horrible thing, but the person is precious and for Jesus and not because of the sin, I like him. I will avoid him now on."

It takes about a year I roughly remember before AIDS tests can work to find infection. Thus no sex.

Your points on repentance and deliverance are very good. I think that I needed that, for my father was unfaithful to my mother and I am surely cursed, with a promise of healing as consolation.


Posted by: JeriRose12

Dear Lord, I am SO GLAD You do not bring up my past and forgiven sins to me every time I come to You! I am so glad they are thrown into the Sea of Forgetfullness! I am so glad You forgive and forget! If these sins were thrown up to me over and over, the wounds would be re-opened, and they would be constatnly raw and bleeding! But they are not, for they are under Your Prescious Bloood, the flow of cleansing that contiunally washes the wounds clean, oh, thank You Jesus! I am forever greatful that once I have repented, this thing is forgotten, never to stand between us again. We can again be restored to loving, intimate relationship. I need not hang back for fear of rejection! No, You welcome me in with open arms, with hugs and kisses. You take me into Your bed chamber and there You so lovingly hold me. Your love flows and pours over me and through me, and there I am renewed and restored and reminded of Your everlasting love for me. I will always and forver love You!!!

Love,
~JeriRose~


Posted by: StarChilde

I was taught that repentance is confessing the sin as sin, and then turning from it, and not doing it again. Who are we, as humans to say that repentance must be done for a year, when God does not require that... but a turning away from that which was wrong. We are not to put our qualifications above that of God Himself. Yes, the Blood of Jesus covers sins, it also CLEANSES... you are affected by the past,... sins of your father, as well as what you feel are sins against you... we are to forgive those who offend us, in order that we may be forgiven. Doing otherwise, is outside of God's law, Word and Will.
It is the SIN we are to hate, not the sinner. My parents and grandparents would say to us when we were children, and would say "I HATE YOU", in anger to our siblings... "you must'nt say that...how can you hate someone you have seen and love God who you have not seen?"
It is my impression, and I will do research to see if I remember correctly, that it is 6 months without sex, to determine AIDS.
It is my personal belief, and perhaps discernment,that there are some issues that you should be working on, as far as forgiveness and grudges go. You seem to be harboring resentment and pent up anger in regards to things that happened in your youth, and rejection also it seems, plays a part in this as well.
I would ask God in prayer to show you, these things which you should be bringing to Him to help you with, to improve your communion with Him, and have a closer walk with Him.I have prayed in the spirit for you on this & will do so as God's Holy Spirit prompts me.


Posted by: Tatian

Thank you StarChilde, six months not one year. And your prayers are welcome. I think it would be months before some FSU fellows could be coaxed to repent. I remember the story of a begrudging Korean man who forgave the Japanese, he did not want to preach to, when in Japan they moved on him and applied the blood to him. My first repentance too a shock, near death experience, before I would turn to God and days of prayer before I repented. I later repented from reverence, again after days. I am not good at this.


Posted by: ddblueeyes

You are correct it is 6 months without sex, to determine AIDS.

Dear Lord,
I pray for this person, I pray that she is able to realize that if she has confessed her sin and asked for forgiveness, that you have forgiven her. I pray that she is able to move on with her husband, and that they will have a happy marriage. I pray this in the name of Jesus. Amen

dd


Posted by: ANOINTED WARRIOR

Keys to victory no matter what has happened in a persons life with sin:

Brokeness:Be so desperate to be free from what you are in so Jesus can pour in his healing anointing and begin to show you the way out.
Humbleness: So pride in ones self wont puff up and try to fix the problem.
Openess: Be completely open before the Lord as you spend time with him in prayer.
Submit: Yield to the Holy Spirit alone and allow him to lead you out from the darkness or bondage you are in..
Self: Remove yourself from the postion of being Lord and the master potter in your life to totally yielding to the Lordship if Jesus alone in all areas of your life.
Lack: Admit to yourself you lack all that it takes for you to be free no matter what you come up with in your own reasoning. If you dont do this you will just be going around the same mountain of troubles for many many years and truely never be free.
Abide: Learn how to only dwell and rely totally on the anointing and strength of the Holy Spirit in your life and not your own.
Secret place: Set a time apart for only you and Jesus to spend time with each other in a personal time of prayer. This way as you learn to soak and rest in the presence of God during prayer true discernment from the presence of God will begin show the areas of darkness in your life that is not of him and this will help you to learn what you need to let go of in your life that is keeping you in bondage.
Character: You must know precisely who you are in Jesus as his child so you wont be tossed to and fro with every wave that comes down on you.
Clothing: You must allow Jesus to put his robe of righteousness on you to cover all of you. You must also allow him to cover you with his garment of salvation and his blood so you will always be covered and made whole. When you do this all the rags you have created by your thinking or actions will be covered and any spot or blemish will be gone..
Mouth: The power of life and death is in your tongue and you must learn how to bridle your tongue spiritually and physically. Learn how to create an atmoshpere of peace and a strength through speaking only life into a situation.
Word: Learn how to abide in every promise God has for you in his word and then allow it to release itself into the situation you are in from abiding in it.
Faith: It opens up the door for breakthroughs,miracles and to see all of Jesus in action within your life even if you dont see any results right away. He may be preparing the victory and all you need from behind the scenes then is going to manifest it all into the physical realm of your life.
Patience: You stay in waiting and only move in Gods timing so you wont get ahead of him and get yourself in trouble by being anxious.
Calmness: So you stay anchored and grounded in Jesus at all times.
Relax: Knowing Jesus is bigger than the situation you are in and he alone is the one who can get you out and deliver you..
Shutting: Learn how to shut the door of your emotions to the devil, for if you begin to believe the lie he is feeding you then you have just opened the door to your emotions to be played with and manipulated and then wonder why you are in bondage or depressed etc. Instead learn how to submit your emotions to the Lordship of Jesus and he will release his anointing all over them and you will begin to learn how to dwell in peace and his character..
Agape: You must know that no matter what happens in your life and what you do Jesus cant love you anymore or anyless than he already does right now. He is the same yesterday,today and forever and his love for you will never change. You must know he is in your life to lift you up and not bring you down. He is there to encourage and not condemn. He is there to be the light in the darkness to set you free. You must fully embrace his love for you as it is before you can truely love anyone else and even yourself. Your view of God is how you will help and love on others and yourself..
Sponge: Go before Jesus and allow him to alone scrub your spirit, soul, heart, motives and all that you are with his blood to cleanse you.
Confess & Repenting: Be willing show Jesus your sin without trying to hide it and then let him show you how to leave it in his hands and you walk away from it.


God Bless hope this all helps

Matt 11:28-30
28 "Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. 29 "Take My yoke upon you, and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart; and you shall find rest for your souls. 30 "For My yoke is easy, and My load is light." (NAS)



Posted by: Tatian

Jesus refered to people with referance to beasts. Such as sheep, lambs, goats, pigs, dogs, foxes and birds. And spirits as snakes...


Posted by: Kristie

Actually, HIV positive will show itself in three months. I know, have been there. Am a nurse and have even been stuck with a needle that drew blood, in fact it sunk deep into my arm, of a Aides patient, little girl, brittle diabetic who we had to give the shots to three times a day and she fought like a wildcat. Most all of us got stuck with her needles, and we all had to undergo Aides testing for a year after she died and the autopsy showed that she had Aides. They held a medical board (the big guys from the medical association) meeting with all of us, the staff, to break the news to us that we all had been stuck by needles of a full blown Aides patient, and they told us that we would be tested every three months for one year, but to rest assured that HIV positive will show itself in three months, so if the second testing came back clear, we could relax and know we did not have it. The rest of the testings were standard routine mainly because the Red Cross will not clear the blood of a person who was possibly exposed for a year. But more importantly, God is the master physician and He can & has raised up the dead, so conquering disease is a snap for Him. The most important thing, more important then those tests, is the submitting to God, giving yourself over to Him and into His care, redemption, forgiveness and cleansing of the sin and He will determine if you will have Aides or not. He has the only judgement over sin and what will come out of it for every individual.

As for your prayer, it was a bit harsh and in itself did not seem to abound with forgiveness, but it did express that it is the sin you hate and not the sinner. When I read it, I honestly thought it was yourself who had committed the adultery and it was just coming from within you, feelings and hating the sin you had committed and trying to cleanse yourself of sorts. But no one should have to pray a specific prayer for any amount of time to be forgiven, cleansed and healed. If you ask for it once, it is already done. Anything you ask for that lines up with Gods word is instantly granted in the Heavens, and it is your faith that it has been done that will manifest it on earth. God even tells us not to be redundant in our prayer..and that is because it shows a lack of faith that it has already been done as asked. So a prayer being repeated over and over is not what moves Gods hand, it is the belief that you have already received what you have asked for that moves the hand of God. Faith moves mountains, not words. And if you suggest a prayer for anyone to be saying, make it the word of God only, otherwise you could be responsible for their downfall. What if the prayer does not line up completely right with Gods word and will, and then that person puts great faith into it, repeating it and nothing ever happens, and this goes on so long that they become discouraged, give up and turn away from God. Whose fault would that be? Who do you think God would hold responsible for that person being lost. In fact, if you will base all your prayers on the word of God, speak His breathed word over your situations, you can count on the your requests lining up with Gods ways and will. For every situation you come into, the answer is in His word, and His word is truth, and He says His words will not return back to Him void. In case anyone needs a breakdown of what God means in saying that...If you speak His word over your situation, speak it out loud to Him in prayer, He has to move in your situation and give you what you request....because it is His word and His word is the truth..God would never dishonor His own words. So to speak His breathed word in prayer back to Him over your problem, those words will not go up to Him or as He said...return back to Him, void or empty...they will move His hand in your situation. He keeps His word!

Another disturbing thing in this.... You have soul ties with no one but God, the creator and deliverer of your soul. There is no soul mates, or any persons or things attaching themselves to your soul. A so called "soulmate" is just the person God created for you and intended you to be with. God refers to them as your "Helpmeet", or in our words, your "Helpmate". In our society now and since the beginning of time, many then to the majority now never listened or let God guide them to their intended mate and this is why there are many bad marriages and divorce. If every single person on earth waited on God to match them up with their intended mate, and everyone was matched to their intended God created mate, God would have never had to address divorce most likely.

In Gods will and way, there was to be no sexual acts at all, accept between a married couple that He matched together. And as He intended it to be, when you marry, and the marriage is consumated, blood is shed when the womans hymen is broken. This is why they say it is not official, the marriage, until the comsumation, and why back in the days of the old testiment and in many primitive countries where tradition is held to, the guests stood outside the marriage tent and waited for the consumation and then they would celebrate the union as a marriage. This is why there was a problem with Joseph when he learned Mary was expecting a child, he could not marry her if she was already covenanted with another by the shedding f the blood. But the blood was not shed, the child was implanted by God Himself, and He had to let Joseph know such. The shedding of the blood was intended to be a blood covenant between the two people, a union sealed by the shedding of the blood. God is all about blood covenants, He sealed our eternitys with the shedding of blood, a blood covenant with us for salvation. So in Gods ways, if you have sex with a virgin and the blood is shed, you have formed a blood covenant with her, a marriage in the eyes of God.

But...God brought His only begotten Son to earth to die on a cross for us, because we are such sinners and disobediant to His word and His ways. He made another blood covenant with those of us who will accept it. It was that or destroy all creation. He had to make a way for us to be in His presence. God cannot look upon sin, so in order to look upon us, His Son shed His blood and made a blood covenant that took our sin upon Himself, cleansing us of it so we could be with God. Most people who marry anymore do not have the blood covenant, girls are making blood covenants with the boy next door at age 13 in the woods or the backseat of a car, and they are growing up to marry someone else without a blood covenant. But God made a way for all our sins..one that also involved the shedding of blood and we are forgiven for that foolishness and sin, and God honors our non blood covenants, because He is able...

So to commit adultery is a sin, but it does not bind you to the other person in any way, especially your soul..your soul belongs to God only, He is the only one that can touch it. Any binding ties between two people are God appointed, even when it was not He who assigned us to that covenant, the fact that we made it, He tells us to honor it and keep it, because God also says that covenants should not be taken lightly nor be broken. Do not compile one sin on top of another..He says to stop sinning..go on with what you have, honor it and sin no more. God does not appoint the prostitute to be the mans wife when he lays with her, does not seal her on his soul. God does say that if you are in Him and He is in you, then when you lay with that prostitute, the adultress, you are laying with her using His body..that you are defiling His body by joining it with hers. The thought of that makes me shudder...what Christian could actually commit the act of sex or adultery if he was envisioning at the moment that it is the body of Christ he is using to do so, that he is joining the body of Christ in this sinful act with this person. Ouch!

What the adultery does, is it opens a door to let satan into the marriage, into the home, into the lives within the home. All sin opens the door to him for that matter. Repentence, sincere repentence, and giving oneself over to God, cleansing by God, cleansing of the home with Gods word and presence, and forgiveness which is always essential in adultery, slams that door back shut on the enemy. Not some prayer chant declaring this other person is a soul tie and asking that tie to be broken. I am sure that the devil gets a pretty good laugh over that one in fact..that you think he can get you to sin and bind you in that sin with the other sinner, tieing your souls up together in knots, making you one big sinning heap of flesh. NOT! Do not be entertainment for satan. God is the creator, owner, keeper, and lover of your soul. It never leaves His care or authority even if you are a sinner and even if you reject Christ totally up to your death or judgement day. Your soul is still Gods, and on judgement day God will hold it in His hands and determine if it lives eternally with Him or gets cast into hell with satan to live with him for eternity, not be owned by him but to live with him and be tormented by him. You hear people say things like they sold their soul to the devil. You cannot sell what is not yours to sell. You can give your flesh to the devil and follow him and do his bidding, which will get your soul cast into hell with him on judgement day by the one who truly owns it and holds it. So they may have sold out their flesh and mind to the devil, may have sentenced their soul to hell, but the devil owns no souls. He is in the flesh business, not the soul business, and outside of getting you to allow your flesh to condemn your soul to reside with his down in the pits of hell, he cannot buy it, cannot touch it, cannot tinker with it, cannot attach anyone or anything to it. :-) Adulty does not form a new convenant, it breaks an old one..but not so badly that God cannot mend it back together if both hearts are right with it.

Pray the word of God, stay in alignment with His word by returning His word back to Him, so He can honor it. When you pray your own words, they may not line up with Gods, the only thing they may line up with is your emotions which many times are not right with God. When it comes to your emotions, you talk to God, you express them to Him, tell Him how you feel and then ask Him to remove, cleanse and heal you of any feelings and thoughts that are not pleasing to Him. Pray His word, and talk to Him about how you feel, just like you would your earthly daddy. Let me also say that this is where speaking out loud in clear language and speaking within yourself or speaking in the language of the Spirit comes in and this is very important! When you pray, pray Gods word straight out of the book so you do not alter His word in any way, and do so out loud vocally in your own language. You want satan and his demons to hear you speak Gods word over your situation, because it is truth and it renders satan helpless, binds him up, makes him have to let go and flee, he cannot stand up against the word of God. This is what Jesus did to satan when he was trying to tempt him on the mountain for thirty days. He spoke the word of His Father, and satan could not counter and respond to that word. Jesus left him speechless and defeated and he had to move on. BUT...When you fellowship and are expressing yourself to God, your feelings, your weaknesses, your thoughts, your hopes and desires, just talking to God, do not speak them out loud, speak them in your mind and heart to God. God is omnipotent, He knows every thought you have, hears every word you speak within your mind and heart, He is within you. Satan on the other hand is not omnipotent, he cannot read your thoughts, hear your inner words. You dont want him to either, because he will use them against you. He wants to know what makes you tick, what makes you hurt, what worries you, what gives you fear, what your greatest desire is so he can tromp on it. Knowing your inner self is what he feeds on and uses as ammunition against you. If he knows your greatest fear is that your spouse is going to cheat on you, then he is going to do everything he can to make that happen...females are going to be knocking on your door and seducing your man, and vice versa, and your spouse is going to be plagued 24-7 with visions and thoughts of cheating that satan puts there..and the two are going to collide and happen, this is how he works. Share nothing with satan. Strike him with the word of God which renders him impotent, and share your inner self with God alone in secret or if you have the Holy Spirit within you, He will speak in Gods language that satan cannot understand and intercede for you. The enemy can place thoughts inside your head, speak them to you, but he cannot see nor hear your thoughts. He lacks that power. God has always made a way for His people, and we are sheltered by Him at all times if we know Him, His words and ways and this comes from reading His word, learning it, seeking Him out for rhema relationship (where we hear His voice and He teaches us things one on one..as God says His sheep know His voice). :-)

Okay, that is my input on this, God bless one and all...


Posted by: Tatian

Thank you Kristie, I pray you will know the sprinkling of Jesus blood apon your heart and receive a gift of healing from Aids.

God loves us and our sex and wants us to have full lives, therefore I see nothing wrong with applying Jesus blood to sex in marriage, to the vagina and **********. And He promises as Joyce says, "double for your trouble", at least.

I want to open discussion on the significance of fornication and adultery. For I believe that in the intimacy of sex is a marriage of spirits that lasts until one dies or is born again or divorced by faith in God and a prayer. So now I will go into another forum.


Posted by: StarChilde

I believe there is such a thing as soul ties, the following article helps explain this more fully.
A soul tie is the knitting together of two souls that can either bring tremendous blessings in a Godly relationship or tremendous destruction when made with the wrong persons.
A soul tie in the Bible can be described not only by the word knit, but also by the word cleave, which means to bring close together, follow close after, be attached to someone, or adhere to one another as with glue
GODLY SOUL TIES
1 Sam 18:1 -3 And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. And Saul took him that day, and would let him go no more home to his father's house. Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because he loved him as his own soul. KJV.
1 Samuel 18:1-4 Amplified 1WHEN DAVID had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own life. Saul took David that day and would not let him return to his father's house. Then Jonathan made a covenant with David, because he loved him as his own life. And Jonathan stripped himself of the robe that was on him and gave it to David, and his armor, even his sword, his bow, and his girdle.
David and Jonathan actually formed a covenant because they loved each other so deeply. Their souls were knit together (tied or joined together)
The stronger the bonding or soul ties between friends the deeper and more lasting the relationship is. The emotional and mental strengths of one sustain the other in times of adversity. (Difficulties or misfortune) and allows them to rejoice with the other in the time of triumph.
When love between friends is pure and not polluted by any selfish desire, the bond between them works well in their lives.
Jesus speaks of this kind of love in John 15:13 Greater love hath no man than this that a man lay down his life for his friends.
That is the kind of love Jonathan and David had, and that is why it was a Godly soul tie. Because of this type of Godly soul tie, it formed the basis for a good marriage and an enduring relationship. They truly had a great friendship, and because of the deepness and pureness, the two souls drew strength and encouragement from each other as well as security and love.
In order to have this kind of friendship, you have to very selective and get wisdom from God. The Holy Spirit will teach you how to have this kind of relationship. It takes people that have a pure and giving heart and puts their love in action. If you have a close friend in your life right now and they have these characteristics that is good. If they are selfish and controlling you need to pray and get the wisdom from above on what to do, because the friendship could become dangerous, because your souls are knit together, emotionally and this is not a Godly soul tie.
Eccl 4:9-12 Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
Eccl 4:9-12 Amplified Two are better than one, because they have a good [more satisfying] reward for their labor; For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie down together, then they have warmth; but how can one be warm alone? And though a man might prevail against him who is alone, two will withstand him. A threefold cord is not quickly broken.
Mat 18:19 Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven.
Matthew 18:19 Amplified Again I tell you, if two of you on earth agree (harmonize together, make a symphony together) about whatever [anything and everything] they may ask, it will come to pass and be done for them by My Father in heaven.
The early church in the book of acts was so explosive and experienced such power and the reason was they were unified.
Acts 4:32-34 And the multitude of them that believed were of one heart and of one soul: neither said any of them that ought of the things which he possessed was his own; but they had all things common. And with great power gave the apostles witness of the resurrection of the Lord Jesus: and great grace was upon them all. Neither was there any among them that lacked: for as many as were possessors of lands or houses sold them, and brought the prices of the things that were sold,

UNGODLY SOUL TIES While a soul tie will develop between any two people who are open to one another, the strength of those soul ties depends upon how deeply involved with another their heart becomes. You can become soul tied to family, friends, co-workers and the leadership you are under. Unity we have with others is an open expression of our soul ties.
Carefully examine our friends (male or Female) before it becomes a covenant or relationship, because people that come into our lives can influence the shaping of our lives and our walk with Jesus. Check their motives, here are a few things to watch for.
1.Is this person a compromising person or is it their way or no way.
2. Are they self-centered?
3.Do they have a giving spirit or do they always want to take?
4.Are they kind, gentle and above all loving?
5 Are they saved and walking with Jesus?
6 Are they controlling or manipulative? Beware When a person who is bonded to another is governed by impure motives or the desire for selfish gain, the soul tie between them can enable (make able) that selfish one to manipulate and abuse the other. A person can actually control another through soul ties, because the minds of the two are open to one another.
In ungodly relationships these soul ties may place us in emotional and mental bondage to others and causing us to do and say things to our own hurt.

Rom 8:15 For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father.
Romans 8:15 Amplified For [the Spirit which] you have now received [is] not a spirit of slavery to put you once more in bondage to fear, but you have received the Spirit of adoption [the Spirit producing sonship] in [the bliss of] which we cry, Abba (Father)! Father
Ungodly soul ties can potentially establish if the relationship is not under the Lordship of Christ. God demands first place in our hearts, spouses are to be second, followed by children, family, friends and associates.
When our strongest soul tie is to God, there is a divine covering and protection that will enable us to withstand forming ungodly soul ties. The Holy Ghost.
Isa 54:5 For thy Maker is thine husband; the LORD of hosts is his name; and thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth shall he be called.
Eph 5:30-31 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
Ephesians 5:31-32 Amplified For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is very great, but I speak concerning [the relation of] Christ and the church.
Sexual Soul Ties
Since the sexual union of marriage ties two souls as one, what do you think happens if a person commits fornication or adultery with another person outside of the marriage? Actually, your soul becomes mysteriously knit and tied to the other person also. They cleaved together just as in marriage. The soul ties formed through illicit sexual involvement can be as strong and binding as those formed through the marriage covenant.
Gen 34:1-3 And Dinah the daughter of Leah, which she bare unto Jacob went out to seethe daughters of the land. And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her, and lay with her, and defiled her. And his soul clave unto Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the damsel, and spake kindly unto the damsel.
The above scriptures give an illustration of how fornication and immorality form soul ties Actually Shechem did not love Dinah he just lusted for after he had raped her.
Gen 34:8 And Hamor communed with them, saying the soul of my son Shechem longeth for your daughter: I pray you give her him to wife. Sexual involvement can form such entangling tentacles of soul ties that it is extremely hard to break off the relationship.
God, The Father designed the universe to function with natural and spiritual laws that bring freedom when obeyed, but bondage and destruction when broken and violated. Just as two souls can be knit or made to cleave together in a covenant relationship, they can also be tied or knit together to form bondage and enslavement. Sexual union was ordained by God to make two marriage partners one flesh before God, but promiscuous premarital and extramarital affairs can mysteriously tie ones soul to many partners. We seem to misunderstand the seriousness in these soul ties. It is because of lack of knowledge that we perish. Paul warns us in 1 Cor.6: 16& 18.
1 Cor 6:16-18 Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, "The two will become one flesh." But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit. Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.
I Corinthians 6:16-18 Amplified Or do you not know and realize that when a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? The two, it is written, shall become one flesh, But the person who is united to the Lord becomes one spirit with Him. Shun immorality and all sexual looseness [flee from impurity in thought, word, or deed]. Any other sin which a man commits is one outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.
If you are in a sexual relationship right now outside of marriage STOP it now. No matter what kind of things satan tells you about it is ok, that you are in love. Your life will become So entangled that you want even know what is going on. You will be cursed.
Prov. 5:20 -22And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger? For the ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD, and he pondereth all his goings. His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself, and he shall be holden with the cords of his sins.
Proverbs 5:20-22 Amplified :Why should you, my son, be infatuated with a loose woman, embrace the bosom of an outsider, and go astray? For the ways of man are directly before the eyes of the Lord, and He Who would have us live soberly, chastely, and godly] carefully weighs all man's goings. His own iniquities shall ensnare the wicked man, and he shall be held with the cords of his sin.


Posted by: StarChilde

(As also in the previous, this was found on the web, & I believe it shows very well what is a soultie, and where there are instances of it in the Bible. Just because the Bible does not say soul tie, does not mean there is not the same implications as soul ties, in the Bible.)

One of the Hidden Bondages that God has shown me is being SOUL TIED. The Church has not taught much on this, but it is a serious problem in the Body Of Christ. ...As you read this article below, please read it with your spiritual eyes and hear with your spiritual ears, because your mind will not want to accept it.


JUST WHAT IS A "SOUL TIE"?
Let's start by considering the definition of a soul tie: "A soul tie is the joining or knitting together of the bonds of a relationship. Godly soul ties occur when like-minded believers are together in the Lord: friends, marriage partners, believers to pastors, etc.
Relationships that lack `God-centeredness' can result in ungodly soul ties between friends, parents and children, siblings, marriage partners, former romantic or sexual partners, Domineering authorities, etc.
An unhealthy attachment with another can bring about a psychic control that can adversely affect the life, e.g. a mother who refuses to relinquish her hold on her children (tied to her apron strings), a person who refuses to release to the Lord the memory of an old romantic flame (withdrawing into nostalgia in times of loneliness), a person who holds a grudge or a judgment against another, someone who uses spiritual forces to control others (witchcraft), etc."
For two people to bond to the point of a soul tie often takes time, particularly in the area of friendships. Man's soul consists of his mind, emotions, and will. A soul tie involves the joining of minds, ideas and views, as well as emotional unions in the feeling realm. Soul ties can range from being laid back and fairly loose to quite intense and overpowering.


MARRIAGE SOUL TIES The first mention of a "soul tie" in the Word is found early in Genesis: "So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; because she was taken out of man, she shall be called `woman'. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife, and they will become one flesh."
Genesis 2:21-24) This is the famous "leave and cleave" passage concerning marriage. From the very beginning God's intention has been that the man and woman's soul ties with their parents should be broken prior to marriage. Why is that? Because few things are as destructive to a marriage as when one partner or another is still emotionally tied, and often as a result, manipulated and controlled, by a meddlesome parent. So, interestingly enough, we see that the first Bible reference to a soul tie is an admonition to break a soul tie.
FRIENDSHIP SOUL TIES - A good example of a Godly friendship soul tie is in the book of Ruth. (Ruth 1:14-17). They really loved one another, and would always desire to help each other. Ruth always looked out for Naomi. They both had God in the center of their life. They were both willing and did put the other ahead of self. They did not try to manipulate and control one another. They were led by the love they had for God and for one another.
Ruth 1:14 And they lifted up their voice, and wept again: and Orpah kissed her mother in law; but Ruth clave unto her.
Ruth 1:15 And she said, Behold, thy sister in law is gone back unto her people, and unto her gods: return thou after thy sister in law.
Ruth 1:16 And Ruth said, Entreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God:
Ruth 1:17 Where thou diest, will I die, and there will I be buried: the LORD do so to me, and more also, if ought but death part thee and me. (KJV)
Ruth 1:14 At this they wept again. Then Orpah kissed her mother-in-law good-by, but Ruth clung to her.
Ruth 1:15 "Look," said Naomi, "your sister-in-law is going back to her people and her gods. Go back with her."
Ruth 1:16 But Ruth replied, "Don't urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God.
Ruth 1:17 Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the LORD deal with me, be it ever so severely, if anything but death separates you and me." ( NIV)
Ruth meant this from her heart. She truly cleaved to Naomi, she gave up her plans to help Naomi.Naomi had two sons and two daughter-in-laws. After her sons died, she told her daughter-in-laws they were free to return to their people. One of them, Orpah, did just that. But the other, Ruth, refused to leave. "...Then Orpah kissed her mother-in-law good-by, but Ruth clung to her. "Look," said Naomi, "your sister-in-law is going back to her people and her gods. Go back with her."
But Ruth replied, "Don't urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the Lord deal with me, severely if need be, if anything but death separates you and me." (Ruth 1:14-17) Ruth was bonded to Naomi like glue.
In fact, the Hebrew word for `clung' (dabaq) is a word similar to the one used in Israel today for `glue'. So, we see they were "glued together" in a loving and faithful relationship of mother and daughter-in-law.
Jonathan and David are another example of Godly Friendship ties.(1 Samuel 18:1)
SOUL TIES WITH OTHER BELIEVERS "I beseech you, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that you all speak the same thing, that there be no divisions among you; but that you be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment."
(1 Cor. 1:10) "I would that you knew what great conflict I have for you....that your hearts might be comforted, being knit together in love, and unto all riches of the full assurance of understanding, to the acknowledgment of the mystery of God the Father and of Christ;" (Col. 2:1-2) In these verses, believers are encouraged to knit their lives together like threads in a garment, each thread intricately woven with each other thread. This is a picture of how God wants the body of Christ to be. However, soul ties among believers should really be called spirit ties.
Believers are `spirit tied' before they're `soul tied'. When you experience spiritual rebirth, you become one in Spirit with every other believer. As a result, bonding in the mind and emotions becomes far easier, because of the spirit union already there. This is the reason believers can meet somebody they've never met before and feel like they've known them for many years. Believers "bear witness in their spirit" when they meet someone who loves Jesus. Satan cannot fake real joy or peace. And he particularly cannot counterfeit the love of God that flows spirit to spirit between true believers.
It is so important that you make sure that the believers you are tied to are on one mind one accord. Make sure you know and discern what they believe. Sometimes people say they are believers, but then you find out they do not believe the same as you.


SOUL TIES WITH PASTORS OR SPIRITUAL LEADERS "S/ every man of Israel left David, and followed Sheba the son of Bichri: but the men of Judah clave unto their king, from Jordan even to Jerusalem." (2 Sam. 20:2) Here we see the men of Judah bonding with their leader David. This depicts the soul tie that's needed between believers and their spiritual authorities.
Again, the Hebrew word here is `dabaq' for `glue'. The men were glued to their authority. We see a similar tie of devotion between Elijah and Elisha, Moses and Joshua, and Jesus and His disciples. Such a bond is essential for a pastor or spiritual leader to pass on anointed ministry to those submitted to him in the Lord.

There has to be a soul trust - a soul tie that's rooted in a shared passion and sense of vision. When such a trust bond is lacking, the results are invariably disappointing. But, when a pastor has been privileged to `have someone's heart', then that person was able to `catch the vision' and run with it in a way that those without that `soul trust' could not.
Before you commit to any pastor or leader make sure that you have prayed and received the peace of God about where He wants you to be.
So many believers have been sitting under leaderships or churches that their family has attended, and God is saying, I want you over here, not there. That is a soul tie. God has plans for all of us, and He wants us set free from all bondage. If you have felt God tugging on your heart to leave a church and go somewhere else, be obedient. Cut those ties and go forth into what God has called you to do. He wants you blessed.
SOUL TIES BETWEEN PARENTS AND CHILDREN "When I come to my father, and the lad is not with us, seeing that his life is bound up in the lad's life, then he will go down to his grave with sorrow and die.." (Gen. 44:30-31) In this verse, we see a picture of a father so tied with his son that, were his son to fail to appear, he would go down to his grave with sorrow. Few ties are as tight as those between parents and their children, particularly between a mother and her child. God ordained such natural bondings, knowing that child rearing is difficult. At times, were it not for such soul ties, many parents might be tempted to give up. But with such ties, a parent can sustain a level of unconditional love essential for the proper development of the child.
UNGODLY SOUL TIES A soul tie is a `channel'. Think of a soul tie as a soda straw through which flows mental and emotional things. Spiritual things can pass through as well, be they from the human spirit, be they psychically induced, demonically inspired, or genuine and edifying from the Lord. Because demonic spirits can transfer so easily through soul ties, it's essential to identify and destroy those that are ungodly, controlling, or emotionally binding. Let's look at an example of ungodly ties between a father and his sons: God said, "Why do you kick at my sacrifice and my offering and honor your sons above me...? For I will judge his house for ever.....because his sons made themselves vile, and he did not restrain them."(1 Samuel 2:29, 3:13)
UNGODLY PATERNAL SOUL TIES God was rebuking the prophet Eli because of his unwillingness to correct his sons for their sins against the Lord. The sin of Eli was parental permissiveness. As a result, God's judgment came upon his house. In spite of their best efforts, parents can be soul tied to their kids in unhealthy ways. Due to their own insecurities, parents can develop soul ties of indifference, permissiveness, idolatry, compromise and control (and in many other areas).
Let's consider some of the symptoms and results of ungodly soul ties between parents and their children. Symptoms of Unhealthy or Absent Parent/Child Bonding Periodically swinging from angry correction to guilt. Manipulative, dishonest in dealings with their child. Unreasonably controlling. Resistant to counsel concerning their child rearing. Defensive for the child when others speak of his/her failings or shortcomings. This is always an indicator of a problem:
A Sunday School teacher approaches a parent and says, "I'm hesitant to tell you this, but your child has been a real disruption in our class lately." Mom replies, "Not my child! This just can't be true! He's not like that. It must be the effect the other children are having on him." With such words, an unhealthy tie is confirmed. Unhealthy dependence on the child's part for the parent (often the result of "spoiling"). One indication of unhealthy dependence is excessive clinginess and crying whenever mom or dad leave to go somewhere. Often, unhealthy dependence is fostered out of a sense of guilt on the part of the parent. The Results can often be as damaging as neglect.
God's balance can be seen in nature. As a piece of fruit ripens, so does the tie that connects it to the tree. If you try to remove an apple while it's still green, you'll need to twist and pull to snap it loose. However, when the apple is fully ripe, it will fall off with just the slightest tug. So it should be with children. The dependence that was so essential in the early years needs to gradually give way to a parent-to-child respect that will enable them to leave the nest on their own when it's time. Tendency to yield to the child's manipulation, thus making consistent discipline difficult. Allowing the child to dictate and control the parent's activities and relationships. At this point, the soul tie between the parent and child has become quite unhealthy.
There's even a passage Isaiah that describes such a state and the curse that goes with it: "As for my people, children are their oppressors and women rule over them. Oh my people, they which lead you cause you to err...." (Isaiah 3:12)
Results of Unhealthy or Absent Parent / Child Bonding Unhealthy (or absent) parent / child soul ties can produce lifelong insecurities in the child. This invariably results in their pursuing unhealthy relationships with others of similar personality weaknesses. At the same time, when a healthy bonding is lacking, a child may spend the rest of his or her life looking to have it fulfilled.
This is one reason why a woman will end up marrying a man who displays the same abusive tendencies as her dad. Because she never properly bonded with her father, she finds herself, often without realizing it, attracted to men like her father. Why? Because she's trying to `close the gap' in her soul caused by the lack of a healthy paternal soul tie. She's still trying to find his love.
When a boy is not properly bonded with his father or with his mother,a similar thing happens. He'll find himself bouncing from relationship to relationship, ever seeking the deep bonding he lacked as a child.
This is one of the reasons divorce is so rampant today. The `grown up child' is trying to find the soul tie that never properly formed in the rearing years.
The good news, though, is that Jesus can bring healing and restoration. David tells us in the Psalms: "When my mother and my father forsake me then the Lord will take me up." (Psalm 27:10) There are two things absolutely necessary in raising children: parameters and consistency. Clearly define the rules, then be consistent in enforcing them. In other words, build a fence and don't waver with the consequences when the fence is crossed. Most child-rearing problems stem from either the lack of established rules of conduct, or inconsistent insistence that the rules be observed.
SOUL TIES IN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS "Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man do not go: otherwise you'll learn his ways and get a snare to your soul."
(Prov. 22:24-25) "Go from the presence of a foolish man, when you perceive not in him the lips of knowledge." (Prov. 14:7)
(2 Cor. 6:14-18 "Be not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship has righteousness with unrighteousness? What communion has light with darkness? What concord has Christ with Baal?...Come out from among them, be separate, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you and will be a Father to you, and you shall be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty."
We are clearly admonished in scripture to be wise in our relationships. We're told to avoid close associations with those that are angry, with those acting foolishly and with those that are unbelievers. Understand that we're not prohibited here from having any relationship with such persons. Rather, it's just that such relationships should not be able to form unhealthy soul ties where one's witness and walk with the Lord is compromised.
To bond with someone emotionally or spiritually who is unrepentantly angry, or someone who is given over to a vice, can be extremely dangerous. The evil spirits at work in them can then pass through the soul tie to affect you.
The result would be that you might find yourself at some point justifying and rationalizing their actions and eventually joining them. Birds of a feather tend to flock together, we're told. How then should you relate to such persons? Simply keep your discernment tuned in when you're around them so that if there's any transferring of spirits, it will be the Holy Spirit from you rather than an unclean spirit from them. One way these principles are often compromised is in the area of "missionary dating". That's where a believer gets romantically involved with an unbeliever and justifies it on the basis that they are helping that person "come to the Lord". Such reasoning is extremely faulty.

The truth is, when one has romantic feelings for someone, they are the last person with any kind of "ministry" to them. Why? Because the emotional tie in the relationship prevents them from any objectivity and discernment to the other's true spiritual state. Since, as the saying goes, "Love is blind", missionary dating is often nothing more than the blind leading the blind. And Jesus said when that happens, they both fall into the ditch.
So what should you do if you're already romantically tied with an unbeliever? Break the soul tie! It can and must be done. Submit yourself to the Lord, fast for a few days and have someone pray under the anointing to sever the bonds of emotional attachment. By doing this you won't have to go through a lengthy process of "pining away" as you let the relationship die. Complete obedience in this area will bring about the Lord's deliverance from a dangerous and ungodly soul tie.
SOUL TIES THROUGH IMPURE SEXUAL ACTIVITY "Dinah the daughter of Leah went out to see the daughters of the land. When Shechem saw her, he took her, lay with her and defiled her. And his soul clave to Dinah, and he loved the damsel, and spoke kindly to her." (Gen 34:1-3)
"King Solomon loved many strange women....concerning which the Lord said, you shall not go in to them, neither shall they come in to you: for they will turn away your heart after their gods: Solomon clave to these in love." (Kings. 11:1-2
"Don't you know that your bodies are the members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. What? Don't you know that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? For two, says He, shall be one flesh." (1 Cor 6:15-16)
God's plan for a man and a woman is not at all like that of the world. First, He would have them come together and bond in the area of the spirit. Over time, as they get to know one another, a bonding of the mind and emotions would occur. Then, only after solemn vows of commitment in marriage, would any bonding of the body be permissible. The world has it backwards. Generally, the first thing to bond is the body through sexual indulgences of various degrees. Then, due to strong physical attraction, a couple will get married (if they even do that anymore). After a while, they come to know one another in their soul, mind and emotions. That's when they begin to discover that they're really not so compatible after all. The woman discovers that her attractive husband has an abusive, violent streak. The man finds that the sweet lady he married is full of insecurity and control. The way of the world is totally backwards. That's why the way of the Lord is the only way to go. When you prioritize the things of the Lord over the issues of a relationship, you'll ultimately find both. Jesus said, "Seek first the kingdom of God, and all of these things will be added unto you." (Matthew 6:33)
SOUL TIES WITH THE DEAD "David covered his face and cried with a loud voice, "O my son Absalom, O Absalom, my son, my son!" And Joab came into the house, and said to the king, "You have shamed this day the faces of all your servants......for I perceive that if Absalom had lived, and we all had died, then it would have pleased you well." (2 Sam 19:4-6)
King David had an unhealthy soul tie with his son, Absalom, who rebelled against him and contributed to the deaths of thousands. David's tie was undoubtedly rooted in guilt, for in many ways he had failed in his son's rearing. The result being that after Absalom was killed and his armies routed, David shamed his own armies by pining away.
As strange as it may seem, it is possible to be soul tied to the dead. The Biblical prescription for mourning was to be seven to thirty days (see Genesis 50:10 and Deut 34:8). Then you were to put your grief behind you and go on. God knew that excessive and lasting grief would only open one's soul to heaviness, gloom and despair.

We've all heard stories of a heartbroken parent who, after a child's death, keeps his room exactly like it was for many years. Such excessive grief brings heaviness and gloom to others in the house. It's as if the spirit of death were invited to remain. The same thing can happen with women who have had an abortion. Even after they've asked and received forgiveness for the deed, guilt and shame often remain. This is generally an indication of a soul tie with the aborted child. Until and unless the soul tie is broken, the mother will be subject to bouts of depression and guilt. But when that bond is severed, they're able to put it behind them once and for all, and live life free from the failure of their past.

SOUL TIES WITH THE DEMONIC "Cleave unto the Lord as you have done this day....take good heed that you love the Lord your God. Else if you do turn back and cleave unto these ungodly nations...then know that the Lord will no more drive them out; but they will be snares and traps to you, scourges in your sides and thorns in your eyes, until you perish from off this good land which the Lord has given you." (Jer 23:8-13)
The prophet plainly warns Israel here that if they "cleave" to the demonic nations around them instead of "cleaving" to God, then the Lord will let them reap what they sow! Let's consider this passage allegorically. Any and all involvement with idolatry or the occult sciences will result in soul ties with evil spirits. That's because such involvement is in direct opposition to the first commandment, "Thou shall not have any gods before me. (Exodus 20:3-5)
Because Satan is the father of all liars, lying can also result in soul ties with demons (see John 8:44).
Once you choose to lie to another or lie to yourself, you have, in effect, come into agreement with Satan. That, in turn, opens you to suggestions and deceptions of wicked spirits. Also, when you refuse to forgive someone you soul tie with a demon. Why is that? Because when you refuse to forgive, God will not forgive you. What He will do is deliver you to the tormentors until you do forgive (see Matt 6:15 and 18:35).
Needless to say, understanding these things will hopefully encourage one to avoid them at all costs. If you find yourself even now in agreement with Satan because of lying, dishonesty, idolatry or unforgiveness, then quickly repent. The Lord will then grant you the grace to disentangle yourself from the bonds of the demonic.
SYMPTOMS OF UNGODLY SOUL TIES · Obsessive preoccupation with another, to the neglect of the things of the Lord.
Tendencies to be domineering and controlling in a relationship.
Tendencies to be passive and apathetic in a relationship (easily manipulated) Inability to Truly forgive from the heart.
Another person's voice playing over and over in the mind like a tape-recorder.
Inability to bring a relationship under the godly order and control of the Holy Spirit.
Patterns of anger, blame and accusations in a relationship.
Fear of "being real with" or speaking truth to another (intimidation and fear of man). Psychic or occult phenomena within a relationship.
STEPS TO BREAKING UNGODLY SOUL TIES · Confess any and all ungodly ties to the Lord. Repent from your heart for violating God's ordained boundaries in your relationships.
Make a solemn commitment to the Lord to break off any relationship that is not pure or righteous in His eyes. Become accountable to others to help you keep that commitment. Until you do that, any prayers for freedom are in vain. I've actually had people ask me to break their unhealthy soul ties so that when they got together again (in their illicit relationship), they wouldn't feel all those bad spirits. However, God is not mocked.
Reinforce your requests to the Lord with a commitment to obey. Before praying, do whatever is necessary for the anointing of the Holy Spirit to come. This is so important. Pray, wait, forgive, or worship. Once His presence and anointing is present, then proceed with the soul tie breaking prayer. It's the anointing that breaks the yoke.
The ties won't break with a simple prayer from the mind. The anointed power of the Holy Spirit must be present to be effective.

SOUL TIE BREAKING PRAYER "In the name of Jesus Christ I now renounce, break and loose myself from all demonic subjection and any ungodly soul ties and unhealthy bondings with the following people: (break soul ties with each person that comes to mind) "Lord, I ask you to do whatever it takes to break me of my tendencies to: obsessive pre-occupations, domination, control, passivity, apathy, unforgiveness, anger, blame, accusations, fear, intimidation and disobedience in relationships. "Finally, in the name of Jesus, I declare every demonic hold in my life that has come as a result of unhealthy soul ties null and void. Satan, I renounce you and your demons and command you to depart from my spirit, soul and body!"
I pray that all who have read the studies on soul ties will have a clear understanding of the danger of them if God is not in the center of our lives, guiding us in every area of our lives. When He is the center, you are under His protection, and you walk in the freedom Jesus so painfully died to give us. He will put the right people in your lives, but we have to let go of the past and leave all things behind us. God loves you so much. Will you return the Love to Him. He is waiting on you.
Here is another prayer for breaking soul ties
BREAKING NEGATIVE AND CONTROLLING SOUL TIES
Father, I thank You for all the godly and holy bonds in relationships You have brought into my life (Gen. 44:30, 1 Sam. 18:1) and for their nurturing and strengthening. However, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, the Son of God, I break, loose, destroy and I thank You that the blood of Jesus is cleansing me from all ungodly negative and controlling soul (Deut. 13:6-14) and spiritual ties with the following people.
(Name each individual by name or recollection of incident if name has been forgotten or is unknown.)
Father, I confess the sin of idolatry which is submitting my will, wholly or partially, to someone other than You and the sin of fornication and/or adultery (Heb. 13:4) as it applies to the people I have named. According to Your word (1 John 1:9) I receive Your forgiveness and cleansing. I separate myself from their soul and spirit (2 Cor. 6:14) and I declare I am free (John 8:36) body, soul and spirit (1 Cor. 6:17). I choose to bring myself into unity with the Lord Jesus Christ (John 17:22-23). Thank You Jesus. Amen


Posted by: Kristie

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Thank you Kristie, I pray you will know the sprinkling of Jesus blood apon your heart and receive a gift of healing from Aids.


Thank you Titan, I know the sprinkling of Jesus blood upon my heart, and if I ever contract Aides, I will feel like I am covered in advance. :-)

I do not have Aides, I tested clean second round and could relax, and have tested clean every year ever since, which that was in 1987. Being a nurse, and the wife of a adulterer, I test yearly.

I do not believe in soul ties, I believe in agape love, a Godly love from the soul. But that is not applicable to someone you have just had causal noncommittal sex with. I will accept anything that is scriptural, and then seek Gods revelation on it as well, but if He didnt say it, it has no validity for me. I just kind of skimmed through the scriptures you quoted at this moment because I have a screaming child on my hands, know most of them, but it appears that only the first in Samual make any actual mention of "soul knit" it says. Acts passage, of one soul to me means brethren, children of God..of one accord, united by the blood of Christ. I forgot the other I was going to mention, will read this better later when quiet. I just know that if it is not God breathed, then it is not valid, and that means no twisting of the word also, its interpretation just as it is. To gain that understanding takes revelation from God, because the word can be twisted fairly easy and is. I will read this more thoroughly when able and study it. It is not to say that I could be wrong, we should always be learning in Gods word, and that is what is good about these kinds of discussions, they can bring revelations. I am interested in noting all these scriptures and pursuing them futher in study of meaning.

God bless all of you and will yak at you later :-)


Posted by: StarChilde

I know of the validity of soul ties, and have seen it again and again at work. Here is another view:

"SOUL TIES"
Soul ties are exactly what they sound like. They are ties from one person's soul to (or into) another person's soul.
As you are aware, man is made up of three parts: Body, Soul and Spirit -though to focus on any one without taking into account the other two is wrong because there is so much overlap between all three. (As an example, ever gotten sick, because you've strayed from the Lord? Ever strayed from the Lord, because you've gotten sick?) Anyway, you and I can relate at any of these three levels.
Let's go through an example of a man relating with a woman. For instance, I may meet a woman (let's name her Terrie), and she may work at the same place as I do. Well, as I casually walk pass her and say, "Hi," and as I work alongside her during the day, I am relating to her primarily on a "physical" level (Note: Don't think of sex anymore as just a "physical" act. . .I'll get to that in a minute.)
After a few months of working with Terrie, I really start liking her and wanting to get to know her better, so I ask her out on a date. We go out, I find out more about her . . . we go out again, we start sharing more and more about our hopes and dreams and our hurts and disappointments and now we are relating at the Soul level. (Note: The Soul is typically described as being made up of the mind, will and emotions.) We are actually developing a "soul tie", because we are relating at the Soul level.
Finally, (actually, I would hope this would happen first or second in a relationship), Terrie and I start to pray together and seek Jesus together. We are now relating on a spiritual level, because we are inviting the Lord to be a part of our relationship. Through prayer and through praise and worship at the same church, etc..., we are communicating spirit to spirit through the Lord.
All three of these types or levels of relationship can occur between between two friends, between co-workers and co-church members, between brother and sister, parent and child and husband and wife. The husband and wife relationship, however, is the relationship where all three of these types of "relating" is the most intimate and most intense. Genesis 2:24 says: "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." Make no mistake about it, sexual union involves all three parts of your being - body, soul and spirit.

God designed it that way. . . it is not "just" a physical act - never has been, never will. . .The reason the Lord honors the marriage relationship so much is that it best reflects His love for us - and Christ's love for the church. See and Read (please) Ephesians 5:22-32. Paul is talking about how the marriage relationship explains the 'profound mystery' of Christ's relationship with the church.
Other biblical examples of "soul ties" include: Naomi and Ruth (Mother and Daughter-in-law) and Jonathan and David. See and read (please) Ruth Chapter 1 and I Samuel 18:1, and I Samuel Chapters 19 and 20. (Note: These are godly relationships and godly "soul ties" - not homosexual relationships as some "new age" interpreters would tell you.) In other words, you can have a godly soul tie and a godly relationship with another man, and you may want to even "hang around with him" because of the love God had placed in you for him; however, it becomes perverted when it becomes sexual. Actually, even if it does not become sexual, it could be unhealthy and sinful if it is meeting a need in either one that the Lord desires to meet himself.
OK, so there are soul ties. . . there are healthy ones and unhealthy ones. .. and there are soul ties that are created with and without a sexual union.
If it is sex in the confines of marriage (with your spouse, of course) it is a healthy soul tie that is being created and strengthened; however, any (and I do mean ANY) sexual union (physical, fantasy or otherwise) that is NOT with your spouse will ALWAYS create an unhealthy (wrong, sinful, unnatural, (not God's will) soul tie. These soul ties are intimate bonds to another human being that were never intended by the Lord.
In I Corinthians 6:12-20 (again, please read), Paul talks about sexual immorality and why it is a bad thing. One of his points is that if you have sex with a prostitute (male or female), you will become "one flesh" (Body, Soul and Spirit) with him or her. You will be joined body, soul and spirit and as a consequence, you have now formed an intimate bond or "soul tie" with that person. Remember, sex is an act of all three parts of your body.
Body, Soul and Spirit. . . all three are involved. That is why it is nonsense when the adulterous husband says, "It was just physical, honey, she (the other woman) doesn't mean anything to me." .Well, buster, you may have "sowed your seed" in other pastures to get your temporary physical "jollies," but the reality is, you have not only given to someone else (physically) what belongs to you wife, you have also formed a soul tie with that other woman - you became one flesh with her! Your wife is rightfully jealous (zealously protective of what is rightfully hers), because you are giving your body, soul and spirit to someone else! No wonder the wife says, "How could you?" over and over again.
Sadly, this scene is repeated way too often in our culture today. May the Lord help us. . . and may He help me and you, to keep us pure! Only by His grace will we avoid this terrible tragedy.
Finally, though this is such a tragedy, God (as always) has made a way for us to be cleansed from all of this unrighteousness and to start over. We need to, literally, break the unhealthy soul ties that we have made with other people. . . regardless of whether we have physically had sex with them or if we just imagined it in our mind or looked at pornography while masturbating. We need to proclaim (by the authority of Christ in us), with our mouths - out loud, that we renounce and break, once and for all, the soul tie with that person (playmate or otherwise) and ask Jesus' blood to cleanse us. This will break the soul tie and free you/me from the unhealthy bond with the other person. I John 1:9 - "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify/cleanse us from all unrighteousness."
You may think this is just "spiritual hocus-pocus", but I assure you, it is not. I have heard and seen stories of men (and most recently, sadly enough) women who continue to be drawn to and have feelings for the other person -even though they and the other person are married to someone else! The unhealthy soul tie continues to attract them to other people.
I have also heard of a story or two of how a wife feels like "the other woman" is in bed with her and her husband, especially when they are having sex, even when they have forgiven each other. It's because that man still has a bond with the other woman, and when he has sex with his wife, she senses the other soul tie in her husband and (don't take this too far) is, in essence, becoming "one" with the other woman as well. The woman is sensing a very, very, very real bond, but it is a soulish and spiritual one. (This is another reason why "woman's intuition" is so strong when her husband has been cheating on her, even when not consummating the relationship sexually.)
Thankfully, however, once the soul tie is broken, these "feelings" and, a tendency to schizophrenic experiences go away.


Posted by: Kristie

I am back, not really quiet enough to really go into this, but at least she is playing now instead of screaming.

I am going to print your posts out on this, and take them to a special man God led me to four years ago, and who helped me. His calling on his life, how God used him, is helping others learn about and break free of things that most churches do not even acknowledge. Demon possession, generational curses. He has the gift of seeing and prophesy in the ministry of God, and he is strictly by the word of God. If there is such a thing as a soul tie and it is proven in Gods word, he will know it well. I honestly want to study what you are saying, because I had a generational curse, and my husband was demon possessed, and if it was not for God using this man to intercede and help us, I probably would not be here today, and definitely would not know God at the level I do. So, if there could be something on me or him still, I need to know, and I trust Frank to know it, recognize it and help me free of it, through the word of God.

Because if you are right in what you are saying, in the little bit I have read, because I do not want to get caught up in anyones opinions, philosophys, interpretations, or experiences, I want to first approach this study in Gods word, and only Gods word. Anything else can be used by the enemy. Not saying that you are being used by the enemy, but in approaching anything of God, I need it from God first and have a good understanding of His word on it and then I feel safe in moving into philosophys, experiences and feelings of others on the subject. But..back to if you are right in what you are saying of the little bit I have read, then what you are saying is..my husband has a soul tie with the satan worshipper female that he had a fling with four years ago. If so, then it could explain why, the strong rooted Christian man that he was before the event, has never been able to stabilize again. He tries to give his life back over to God, but he quickly falls away and alienates God and then ends up in a heap of turmoil and devastation again, committing an adultery, feeling condemnation to the point of breaking, returning to the Lord, then all over again, it is a repetitive circle. Each circle around he has improved, become a gentler and more compassionate person, like he has retained some of the goodness of the Lord, or more like the enemy no longer has a hold on him so strongly. Some would say that he is just a lost person, never really was a child of God back then, and is never sincerely giving himself over to God when he breaks down and crys out again and again. That he is just a worker of iniquity. But..if what you say is true, maybe he is still, has never been freed from a bind, this soul tie thing with her. He himself would shudder to think, the woman terrified him, shook him up pretty badly, he got a restraining order on her when he finally got free of her, but it was not the pursuing that scared him, it was the satan stuff. I do know that after this event, he became demon possessed, obviously the event had opened a door and he was already suffering from such, but having no idea, it went on for three years and became worse and worse. Going out with one and coming back with seven more. Towards the end, it was scarey, cursing God, violent, abusive, wasting away, a purple coloration to his skin, evil personna, and even a sickly sweet smell that clung to him no matter how many baths he took. The demon of foul odor, as I now know. He could not step on the grounds of the church, and after our house and property was cleansed, he could not step out of his vehicle on it. And, I had physical manifestations of the demons within the house when it was cleansed, one in the form of thousands of winged creatures scrambling for the side exit door, coming up out of the floor and so thick that you could not see the carpets, there were layers of them moving through the house to the door. Another was a sense of a presence about one foot in front of me in a corner when I was on my face praying, and the sound of it breathing and moving around. The last was a very audible unGodly screech/scream and then silence. A church sister of mine who is dealing with this stuff now described a experience she had a couple weeks ago and she experienced this same scream. Not knowing that I had been through this myself, it bought vivid memory of the incident back to me, and I was able to tell her exactly what it was that she had heard.

I know that when Kevin went out full of those demons, when he returned the next time broken and sick, something that I had not seen in him for three years, God has set him free of the demons. Frank took over with him from there, the man I spoke of, and Kevin did give his life back to the Lord, it was a event that I will never forget in fact. The way he suddenly jumped up out of his chair and ran screaming and crying down the asle to the alter, crumpling in a balled up heap on the floor and rocking and crying so hard it was racking his entire body, screaming for God. Next thing I knew, there were two of the ministry bikers in the floor with him literally lifting him into their laps between them, and rocking with him. This went on for some time, and everyone in the church was on their feet sobbing and crying out to God. It was a pretty overwhelming sight and atmosphere. Another biker grabbed me and took me to them and as I was starting to kneel down beside them, Kevin lunged out of their arms and grabbed me in a death hold and pulled me back into their laps with him, still just sobbing and crying out. We were one big ball in the floor with everyone else crying, some pacing and crying out to God. Quite the experience, one like I have never had and do not expect to have again in my life. After that he was so on fire, could not put the Bible down, went and got reading glasses just so he could read it better. Was fellowshipping with Christian men that he would not have even thought of hanging with even back before all this started, they had nothing in common. Playing music for the Lord, in church every service and excited to be there, making big plans with the church Pastor for the music ministry, going out and witnessing to friends and dragging them into church. You could see that he was set free, really set free from the demons, they were gone. He started getting his health back. But...slowly, little by little he started skipping services, getting to where he is not going at all, has developed a criticism of things in the church, people in the church, ignoring the friends he had made. He has just dropped out again, and then he committed another adultery, and was broken over it, but still laying out from the church. He has tried a couple of times to get involved musically, and he is wanted, but then he just decides no, he does not want to. Has set up meetings to get things going and then just decides he is not going, making some excuse and saying he will reschedule, which he never has and is not going to at this point. He still retains a nice guy demeanor though. I know the demons are not back, he is not that person again, but just like anyone else that becomes lethargic about God, disinterested, the fire went out, he loves the Lord, but he does not have to be in a church building to love Him, and so on...

So..maybe if you are right, this is the answer to why he goes through this over and over. I definitely want to know if so, because maybe this saga can finally end, for good, once and for all.

I will let you know what Frank says on it, not to change your point of view if he biblically shoots it down, but just because this is his calling and if you are like me, you would want to hear what he has to say.

God bless...


Posted by: StarChilde

Kristie... what would be the harm in saying this prayer then?... "Father God, in Jesus' name, I humbly ask you to forgive me and cleanse me of the sin of fornication. I acknowledge it as sin and ask you to help me forsake in completely. I thank you for your forgiveness, in Jesus' name. "Lord God, I come before your throne of grace boldly, and covered in the shed blood of your Son. In Jesus' mighty name, I ask you to cut any and all ungodly soul ties between myself and anyone else [say NAME or NAMES if appropriate and remembered] created by sexual acts or any other relationship, known or unknown, remembered or forgotten. Please Father, take the Sword of the Holy Spirit and separate my human spirit with the human spirits of anyone with whom I have ungodly sexual contact. In Jesus' name, I ask You to cleanse those ties by the blood of Jesus of any possible access through which Satan can trouble me or my family. "By the authority of the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, I break the power of any and all covenants, contracts, dedications or commissions made over me [or my children, if any]. In the name of Jesus Christ, my Lord, I now command any and all demons which may have come into me by ungodly soul ties or any other sin to leave me at once, never to return. I bind you all together as one, and I weaken you with the Blood of Calvary. I command you to go where the Lord Jesus Christ tells you to go by the voice of His Holy Spirit.

"Abba Father, in Jesus' mighty name, I ask you to shut any doorways of demonic access opened into my life by ungodly soul ties or any other sort of sexual sin, and I ask you to seal those doorways forever with the Blood of the Lamb, shed on the cross of Calvary. I thank you for doing this, in Jesus' name, Amen."


I know also about the deliverance aspect... I have a picture of the spirit that was following me around, & also of me standing in the Shekinah Glory cloud... the spiritual entity is hiding behind the curtain, with only its head showing, and its form underneath the curtain... is quite the picture. There are Christians who believe that Christians do not need anything like deliverance... I pray their eyes are opened. I understand your wanting to take the information to this friend of yours, and no hard feelings about that. I was wondering how you had been, as I had not seen you for awhile. *hugs* and God bless you & yours.




Posted by: Kristie

Would be no problem with that if I was the one in question, but it is Kevin. Getting Kevin to believe and act upon anything like this with scripture to back it up would be hard enough, let alone saying there may be such a thing as a soul tie and if so, you are soul tied and you need to pray this prayer. He would look at me like I was nuts and walk away.

I will post more later this evening, I am on my way out to church.

God bless...