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Tears in my eyes..pain in my heart..Need prayers desperately
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Posted by: DanL
My dear fellow Christians,
While I am not "married" I may as well be. Amy,My girlfriend of 16 years, who I love with all my heart and wish to marry, has suddenly left me, taken up with another man, and will not even speak with me. Our wedding was called off by me in 1998 as we needed counseling to be sure we would last-there were issues related to both our abusive childhood pasts that were causing havoc and needed to be addressed. I stopped the wedding then for that purpose-because I loved her and I STAYED and never left her..going through 2 years of counseling afterwards. She admits to still having some love for me but has coldly cut off contact. Just 3 weeks ago she too was talking marriage and telling me she loved me and then this. She has admitted to never truly forgiving me for 1998 and this, I believe changed her love for me. I have prayed many times for Christ to help her forgive me. I ask that you PLEASE join in My prayer to Jesus that he would finally heal her bitter heart and remove the pain from 1998 that has left her feeling unloved by me for 6 years. Remove that pain, fill her to overflowing with the Holy Spirit and replace her bitterness with love and forgiveness for me. I will marry her, stand by her forever and bring Glory to God through our marriage the rest of my life if only Jesus will intervene. My love for her is pure and Holy in all ways. Jesus said "When two or more come together and pray in My name and agree on any one thing...It Shall Be Done!. PLEASE PRAY FOR ME! I am in such pain and want nothing but to love this woman. THank you my friends
Posted by: lpris
I'll keep u n Amy in my prayers from now on.... Keep faith in God...
Posted by: Warrior in God's A.I.T.
Lemme get this straight... you've been together for 16 years and you were worried that you might not last?????
I don't blame her for dumping you, shame it took her so long to come to her senses!
Posted by: JeriRose12
What I'm trying to get to is this: Were you living with her? I posted in another thread where you prayed for Lisa about that, assuming you were by the way you worded things. If you were not, I am sorry I misjudged things. If you had lived with her.... then, that is sin. And you must repent and get right with God.
Sixteen years is a long time to say "I may as well be married," without someone suspecting you guys had sex. Tell us straight. God can not bless a relationship that is in need of repenting on both partners parts. Then, I would say, stay apart long enough to know if the relationship is more than physical.
And why would you post in the marriage forum, when you admit you aren't married? 
That is just wrong! This whole thing is most strange and confusing.... 
~JeriRose~
Finding HIM in 2004 
Posted by: ninababy73
My sister, Jerirose, said it best and I agree fully with what she has written to you.
I will be praying for both of your salvation, full repentance before God, and for you both to move to a close relationship with God.
Obviously, there was something that made you question the relationship as you called it off 6 years ago. My advice is to for you to seek God, let Him work in your life and let everything else be.
Be Blessed, praying for God's best. 
Posted by: Christian mom
I must stand in agreement with ninababy and jerirose regarding this issue.
Until you repent before God of the sin you lived in for 16 years with this woman (assuming as I think most do, that it was a relationship that was consummated), I cannot ask God to bless the re-uniting of the two of you.
James 4:17 "Therefore to him that knoweth to do good and doeth it not, to him it is sin"
Posted by: Mrembo
I agree with all who have posted in this thread. Remember that unconfessed sin still remains sin before God. You need to confess any sin that either of you might have sinned before God and ask for His forgiveness and salvation. Sometimes its the sins in our lives that block our blessings. You do not have to let us know what kind of sin you two might have comitted or what really happended. You first and formost have to be truthful to God and then to yourselves. I am praying for you and Amy that God will forgive you and guide your relationship in the way He would like it to be. Please do not feel that whatever might have happended to both of you in your childhood is going to hinder God's blessings in your lives. God bless you.