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Terms of marriage vs the children
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Posted by: angelofthelord
The damaged and destroyed lives of our children. Without question, the
number one problem in our society today is the breakdown of marriage and the family. God's Holy Institution of Marriage between a man and a woman for life is His perfect plan for a man and woman to become one and share this
journey through life. A husband and wife having children and raising them
in the admonition of the Lord is God's plan for the family. This plan was
instituted in the Garden of Eden and has NEVER CHANGED throughout the
generations. Regardless of how man has tried to redefine marriage, redefine
what a family is, GOD'S DEFINITION HAS NEVER OR EVER WILL CHANGE!
Everyday the vast percentage of prayer requests we get are from people whose
problems can be directly tied to issues in their marriage or family. For
those who are single today, please hear my heart. I can never emphasize
enough what a critical decision it is to get married and to whom you marry.
This is a life changing event and will not only involve you but your future
children as well. Please, don't ever underestimate the importance of
marriage and how it will affect the rest of your life and the lives of your
future children.
That is why you cannot ignore God's warning in 2 Corinthians 6:14 to "not be
unequally yoked with a non-believer." Just saying they are saved is not
enough. Do you actually see the fruit of their relationship with Christ in
their daily life? Lastly, even if the person you are praying about marrying
is a Christian and living their life for the Lord, you still need to take
the time to build a spiritual foundation together and openly and honestly
talk through all of the various issues of life. Through this process God
will confirm to you both that this is part of His plan for your lives.
Also, this is a big reason why God designed sex FOR MARRIAGE ONLY! A
natural byproduct of sexual relations is a child. God never intended
children to be raised by a mother alone. That is why sex outside of
marriage is a sin and not part of His plan since it may result in having a
child. It is God's plan for children to be raised by a mother and father
who are committed to each other for life through marriage. There can never
be a better environment for raising a child than by a mother and father who
are surrendered to the Lord and to each other.
As devastating and life changing as divorce is on the parties involved, as
devastating and life changing as having a child outside of marriage is on
the woman, it is impossible to ever comprehend the damage done to the
children involved in a divorce or those born outside of marriage. In the
past 40 years as more and more marriages have ended in divorce, as more
women are having children outside of marriage, the negative effect on
society is impossible to ignore.
An incredible number of children are growing up today in single parent
homes, or homes where their natural parent is on their second, third, even
fourth spouse. Many children are growing up in blended homes where they
have brothers and sisters by numerous mothers and fathers. It is common for
many children to grow up today in several different homes, during the week
in one home and the weekends in another. Many children become pawns in
hostile divorce cases where they are forced to choose one parent over
another, in some cases being manipulated to lie about one parent, often
being moved overnight from one home to another as different rulings come
down from the courts. Physical, emotional, and sexual abuse are experienced
by a growing number of children due to the fact they are living with adults
who are not their natural mothers or fathers and the God-given natural love
a mother and father have for their child simply doesn't exist.
You can only imagine the damage done to children who grow up in these types
of environments. Sadly, we deal daily with children as young as 12, all the
way thru adults who have never been able to get beyond their tragic
childhoods. The results are an alarming number of children who need
professional help and are on some sort of daily medication for emotional and
behavioral problems. You have children and adults who have never known real
love in their life, falling instead for the love this world promotes through
sex.
You have so many children and young adults who have never matured socially
and end up with self-esteem problems, never fitting in with others their own
age. You have so many children and young adults who have so much pain in
there life they look to the world's solution of escaping through drugs,
alcohol, and food. The suicide rate of children and young adults is at an
all time high.
THE LARGER PROBLEM is that these children and young adults who have had
their lives damaged are growing up and they are having children of their
own. Since they have no idea what God's plan for marriage and family is,
they will now be bringing another generation of children into this world
living in ungodly environments who are damaged like they are, and this cycle
will simply continue with more and more people living their lives totally
void of God and without any understanding of Christ, His love, or God's
Word. These people are also the prime targets for the cults and false
religions of the world who aggressively market themselves as the answer to
these people who are desperately looking for hope in their life, when the
only true hope there is, is in a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.
I love you and care about you so much. The purpose of this message today is
three fold. First as a warning to those who are not married how serious and
life changing that decision will be and how it will not only affect the rest
of your life, but the life of those children you will bring into this world.
The second is to hopefully open the eyes of those adults who may be thinking
about getting a divorce and ask that you pray about humbling yourself before
the Lord and asking Him to bring healing and restoration to your marriage.
Not just for your sake, but for the sake of your children. Lastly, as a
word of encouragement to you moms and dads who have gone through the pain of
being divorced, to you moms who have had children outside of marriage, and
to the children and young adults who are currently growing up in homes
without their natural mother and/or father.
For those who have been through the pain of being divorced, let me assure
you that the Lord loves you and wants to help you heal. For those women who
have had a child or children outside of marriage, I pray that you will find
the Lord's forgiveness in His promise to you in 1 John 1:9. God still has
much for you to do with the rest of your life as well as many blessings for
you to enjoy. If you are now married, God has given you a second chance to
do it His way. Realize that you have made a lifetime commitment to your
spouse and that if you will honor your vows to each other and to God, He
will richly bless your both for many years to come. For those who are still
single, I will pray today that in His perfect timing, He will bring into
your life a Godly man or woman to share the rest of your journey with in His
Holy Institution of Marriage.
If you have children, please don't underestimate what they have lived
through. They need your love and attention and nurturing now more than
ever. The number one ministry you will ever have in your life is to your
children. Raise them in the admonition of the Lord, pray with them every
night before they go to bed, make sure they are in church. Laying a
foundation of faith in their life will not only sustain them for the rest of
their days on this earth, but will help them to find the hope and strength
to overcome whatever they have had to experience already in their young
lives. God is a God of healing and He can bring healing to your children.
Also, know that God will make you adequate. If for this season you are not
in God's plan for the family, know that He will help you and meet your every
need. I realize that it is not easy, but the Lord will give you wisdom,
favor, encouragement, as you raise your child or children. Find your hope
in the Lord each day and look to Him for direction and provision, He will
not let you down. Know that I am praying for you and will stand with you as
you raise your children for the glory of God!
Let me close with a word of hope and encouragement for you children and
young adults that may be growing up with only one parent or in some sort of
blended home. First of all, God loves you very much. YOU ARE NOT
RESPONSIBLE FOR THE CHOICES YOUR PARENTS HAVE MADE. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT.
Life can be very difficult at times, and sadly, you have found that out at a
very young age. But never doubt that Christ loves you so much and has a
plan and purpose for your life. If you will take time each day to pray to
Jesus, read the Bible, get to church each Sunday, follow Christ, He will
give you the strength to get through whatever you are facing in your life.
I pray today that you will turn to Him and find His peace and joy in your
life. Jesus is your hope and your answer, HE LOVES YOU....YOU ARE
SPECIAL!!!
Posted by: Sulten
I really thing this is an article worth reading. We're looking for answers through the power of prayer. This is a very important message. I really hope some will come here and read it and ponder these things before making these kinds of huge decisions in their lives. The Lord is always there seeking to guide and direct his children. Our choices affect our children and their children and then make up the foundation of our society and nations. The family unit is the place where our children first learn through the examples of their parent's and will have a powerful influence upon their lives.