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In need of Gods wisdom

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Posted by: MRGHOST

Hi Christs family
I havent been here for awhile since my computer crashed.I would like some prayer and any wisdom for my situation.I have been waiting and praying for a year and 1/2 for restoration of my marriage.Things seemed to be moving ,she finaly went to counceling 2 weeks ago with me but nothing good seemed to come from it.The next week she got up and walked out befor the councelar came to get us.She has no desire of reconcilimg and I need to see a lawyer tomarrow for whatever needs to be done.I dont want devorce but I dont want the paine either and I need to find some closer.I cant make her love me and her heart is so cold & hard.The stuff she beleives and said at the 1 meeting seemed so far from reality and I got defencive instead of shutting up.I truely need wisdom for the future.
I have started in an Evangelizm Explosion program to make good use of my life for the kingdom of God and was told to expect some big attacks from the enemy.I guess this is one.Whatever the outcome is ,please pray that it will be as God wants it,and not our wills.
Unless she were to change dramaticly ,I know the enemy would keep attacking through her.I guess I need stength like everyone else and to keep in mind who we are " The Kindom Of God" and do the work set for us.It really is a battle ,the enemy knows his time is ending.He's a liar even to hiself also.
So often it seems like just a story untill you read all the detailed prophacies that have been fulfilled down through history.All the prophacies of Jesus alone coming true.Then to read Revalation and know the rest of the story.

I feel better already just saying that.PRAISE GOD,but you can still pray though.


Thanks from your brother Dave Casper


Posted by: Mrembo

I am praying for restoration of your marriage and for the will of God to be done. Dont give up just KEEP PRAYING and WAIT UPON GOD. Godbless you Dave.


Posted by: ninababy73

Father, I pray for full restoration to occur in this marriage. I pray for renewed communication that is positive and loving. I pray that they will remember the love that brought them to recite wedding vows before You. Heal and restore them Lord. If there are any sins or sins lifestyle that are causing them to be apart, I pray for full repentance and a complete turn around. Work mightily within this marriage, I pray. Amen


Posted by: Standinginfaith

Lord I pray that you reach down and touch your hands on this family. I pray that what the enemy has taken be given back. Lord open the lines of communication for this couple so they may work things out. Lord I thank you that this marriage and all marriages will be restored. Lord please give my brother peace in you to make it through this trial. In Jesus Name. Amen.


Don't give up. God is at work all around you.


Posted by: youngscarlet

Dave,

You're my prayer partner on the other thread. I just discovered that this morning. So, I'm new to praying for your situation. But, ready to do battle head on I know you can't change your wife and you know you can't change her. But, we both know who can. Let's just focus on that for now. Trusting, believing and having faith in the power of Jesus. The devil simply wants you to focus on your wife's actions to get you discouraged and defeated. However, it's nothing more than an optical illusion, just a trick of the devil and not real at all.

I believe that when things look at their worst, when it appears as though it's a lost cause, if we will just dig in and stand firm in faith at that point, things will really begin to happen. It shows the devil that you're not so easily pushed around and it shows God that you mean business

Stand firm!!!! I'm praying!

Scarlet


Posted by: rejoicing

Hi Dave

Praying that our Father in Heaven would enable you to sense His presence and enable you to stand firm and to walk in the truth!!

I am sending the following letter that I wrote to someone that was in a similar situation as you are currently in ------- hope that you can gain some help and understanding from it --- it is long --- blessings to you --- KNOW that you are blessed and that He will NEVER leave you or forsake you - no not EVER---

make the choice to rejoice -- He will bring you through -- Trust Him -- He is Faithful

Keith
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Marriage and Divorce -- some thoughts---- guard your thoughts - out of the abundance of the Heart the mouth speaks-- what is in your Heart? --- your mind ?-- your spirit?

It seems as though it might be important to start with right questions--

Just what is it that I am really wanting to know?

Do I really want to know the truth –His Truth -- His real desire for me?

Or is it that I would like someone to agree with my thoughts on the issue and that I would like to have others stamp of approval, as well as God's stamp of approval on what I think I can handle?

Before I try to receive a word from God, might I need to be totally willing to be obedient to what He would show me, even if it might be very uncomfortable and possibly even seem to contradict what I have believed to be doctrinally correct or acceptable over the years?

Could I be deceived? would I want to know if I am?

Do I really want to be squeezed and broken so that I can be 'broken bread and poured out wine to serve His other children'?

Or am I offended by the fingers that He uses to squeeze me with and complain to Him about the process that He has me in ---or the person that He is using as a tool to perfect me into the image of His son?-- am I looking for a way to lessen my pain and will I just have to learn what He is trying so graciously to teach me by going through the same lesson on a later date in a different way which may bring about much more grief than following through with this lesson?? Could it be that I am in the current lesson because I refused learning it prior where it would have caused me less trauma??

Am I trying to look good to others? Trying to justify my behavior to myself? Am I defensive? Did Christ defend Himself to even false accusations? Did He not have a right to defend Himself? Did He not choose to be silent? Am I willing to be silent before false accusations?

The question is not should I be silent or not, but am I willing to be silent if God wanted me to be??? Can I even really hear the question? What is it He wants to teach me?? Am I open to hearing Him?

Am I really trying to draw close to Him - to be intimate with Him or am I just trying to make it through?

His promises are so personal --- do I believe them?

He says to me that I will never leave you or forsake you - no not ever!!

If I believe that He will never leave me and that I am His child and that He loves me infinitely and that He will provide all of my needs and that He will bless me abundantly above all that I can ask or think why do get upset over a thing like ------------- or ---------------- 0r--------- or ------or why am I bothered when Mike does---------- or when my son does------------ or when my spouse did------or such and such again------am I forgiving or judging----------------is He showing me my Heart so that I will be aware of how I need to abide in Him more?? Could it be that He is answering my prayer when I prayed and asked Him to 'reveal any wicked way in me'? Is He showing me that I am not really intimate with Him and that I need to abide in Him and trust in Him and in Him alone for my comfort? Do I really trust Him? Totally trust in Him alone?? Am I trusting in being married?

If I am at one with Him and recognize the truth that He lives in me - 'Christ in you the hope of glory' will anything really bother me?? Do I really believe that He is sufficient for all my needs? (not all my wants)

Yes this seems so unrealistic - it is impossible for us you say--- yes I agree that I cannot do it -- but He does not ask me to do it on my own - He does not even ask me to do it with His help, does He?? Does He not say that He will do it in and through me?? He does not need my help - He asks me to trust Him to do it, does He not? His desires for me are to 'be anxious for nothing but in everything give thanks' 'let not your Heart be troubled' 'rejoice in all things and again I say rejoice' --

The sermon on the mount is impossible for anyone to practice in the flesh, is it not???

But I am not called to live in the flesh but to recognize that His spirit dwells within me and is willing and able to carry out His will in and through this broken vessel. Do I really believe it and am I willing to 'walk by faith and not by sight' in obedience to what He calls me to?

Is not my only hope to recognize that I am not able to do the things He asks unless I allow Him to do them in and through me?? When I begin to accept this truth there begins to be a walking along side Him in this process that gets very exciting as I trust in Him and in His word -- He says 'I am faithful' over and over and over and over and He asks me to 'walk by faith and not by sight' and He says again 'trust me I am faithful' 'draw nigh unto me and I will draw nigh unto you' 'seek me and you will find me' 'delight yourself in me and I will give you the desires of your Heart'.

Could it be that if I am delighting myself in Him that I will love others as He loves me??? Will He not give me His love for others if I ask Him for it? Just what is Christ's love for me like? Is it unconditional? Did He not die for me while I was still in the process of sinning? Does the word say that He was known as the friend of sinners? Did He not pray to the Father in John 17 that I would be made one with Him as He and the Father are one? Do I trust that His prayer is answered? Am I to be known then as a friend of sinners? If He will give me love for my enemies that despitefully use me do I not believe that He can give Hosea love for a wife that misuses and abuses the marital relationship? Do I believe that He is willing to give me that kind of love for others? (if you have not read the Hosea story lately you might find value in checking it out again) The next question is ------------- am I willing to ask Him for that kind of unconditional love? Do I really want His love for others that is willing to put up with all that He put up with and then to say 'Father forgive them'??? Do I ask my Father in Heaven to forgive those that offend me??? Why? Why not? Is not this kind of love available for anyone of His children who asks for it? -- Then is not the real question ---- do I really want that kind of sacrificial love or am I afraid of the changes that would have to happen in my life if He gave me that much of His love for others??????? Would I have more accountability than I want? Is it getting to difficult for me to even continue in this type of in depth thought process? Would I rather not be exposed, to the truth, of what is really in the depths of my heart?

Do I really accept His total and unconditional love and acceptance and forgiveness for me????????

If I totally understand and accept His forgiveness will I not be able to extend that same kind of love and acceptance to others recognizing that it is Him in me that is carrying it out and it is not according to any abilities that I have on my own?

Am I dead to self and alive unto Him?? Am I willing to allow Him to use this body to show acceptance to my spouse that he or she does not deserve any more than I deserve the grace that my Father in Heaven shows me every moment!!!!!!!!???????

As I think on these things I am constantly challenged and find that I must go to my Father and ask His forgiveness for being so self-righteous and self-centered----

Father I ask you even now for your grace, I ask that you forgive me for not treating my spouse as one of your children who you love and accept and forgive - please give me your love for her and help me to see her through your eyes instead of my selfish judgments, thank you for forgiving me! Please help me to see the condition of my own heart and help me to focus on my need for a more intimate relationship with you and not to be critical of others but to have the mind of Christ concerning them. Thank you for your faithfulness and your mercies that are new every morning! I ask that you would bless my spouse and please help me to accept that you love her more than I do and that I can totally trust her into your hands and know that you have a perfect plan for her and that you will carry it out in your way and in your time. Please help me to accept your plan and not to be judgmental of you for how you want to carry it out. Thank you for your love, your patience, your grace. Please continue to open my eyes to your truth, enable me to see areas in my own heart and life that you want me to change to be more honoring and glorifying to your name. Thank you Father for allowing me to come to you, thank you for your acceptance of me the way I am. help me to abide in you.

Amen

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Dave

Please be willing to ask God to reveal to you what is in your own heart and what He wants you to do with it ----Intimacy with your Father is most important at this time-

Satan will bring you thoughts of hopelessness, fear, anger, bitterness, unforgiveness, accusation, etc----- what satan means for evil God can and will use for your good and your blessing if you will recognize and agree with His promises to you!!!!!!!! He wants you to recognize that He and He alone can and will 'thru you' handle all that will come - have no fear, walk by faith not by sight. But know that you cannot do it on your own or even with His help ---- know that the 'flesh' cannot handle it -- you must trust only in His spirit within you "Christ in you the hope of glory" --He can handle it and you 'in the flesh' just need to allow Him to do it - in and thru you..

May you recognize that you are being blessed and that He is full of mercy and grace toward you -------Know that He loves you unconditionally!!!!

Your friend and Brother in the Lord

Keith

Rejoice in the Process

Rejoice in all things and again I say Rejoice


Posted by: Rachel R

I am so sorry that this is happening to you.

What a hard thing.


Lord, I thank you for the work you are doing in Dave's heart.

I ask you to help him set boundaries and release his wife into your care.

Thank you for his service to you, Lord, and bless him as he serves.

In Jesus' Mighty Name, Amen.


Posted by: Beverlyjoy

Praying in agreement