It always blesses me when I see a marriage from God. That is when both Husband and wife are Spiritually Connected: Get the same confirmation for what God is doing in their Lifes. He Speaks very Specific words to each one.
I was not one of the fortunate because I lacked Knowledge and resulted in this Marriage failing.(Perished) I had a dream before I married this women. We were both standing outside a church but the church doors were closed.('.... I am the one that opens the door that no man can open......') Years later after much frustration I realize that God wasn't in this Marriage. It was what two people had Joined together not What God had Joined . Remember the women at the well " ...The man you are with is not your Husband....". God is in the confirmation business ( Last Chap. of Mark) and the Holy Spirit is Still Speaking to His Body of Believers. Remember there is THE GOOD; THE ACCEPTABLE ;AND THE PERFECT WILL OF GOD. I have a Child from this union.God still bless us but which will was I walking in. It was not the Perfect will.
I now know this, but it was a lesson learned the hard way. God is Spirit and now is the hour where he desires us to worship in Truth and Spirit. Before you get married ask yourself if your partner is doing this(Above) to avoid self induced future hardship,cause by our own choices. I pray you make the right choice according to His Perfect will. After the fact we want God to fix it. I remember once I was praying for a Righteous Wife. He gave me a Word of Knowledge " Righteous Husband"; that he wanted to make me Righteous first. This to work out my own Salvation First.
Rmartel
Posted by: Cindy Renee
I have learned never to try to physically move the hand of God, according to my own desires. Heaven help you when you do. I am now engaged to marry a wonderful man when he gets home from Iraq. I had to go through so much before, and now, that the Lord has had time, to break and mold me, I walk in His blessing always. I have finally found a man of God with integrity. A man of Valor. A man that will get on his face in front of the Lord on a prayer blanket that we together annointed, and seek God's perfect will in all of our lives. I pray that if it is the desire of your heart, the Lord will begin preparing you, as He is also preparing someone else out there for you. This has been the most blessed engagement, when you both walk in the light of the Lord, TRUELY seeking Him with all that is within you. To me, it has seemed like a dream come true. I find myself trying harder, studying more, wanting to tickle the heart of my Savior. I stand by Proverbs 31, not only for myself, but for this amazing man that the Lord Himself has brought to me. I pray one day, the same happiness to rain on you and your child.
God Bless You Abundantly,
Cindy Renee
Posted by: faithstander
Your quote from above reads : "Years later after much frustration I realize that God wasn't in this Marriage. It was what two people had Joined together not What God had Joined ." If I am understanding what you are saying correctly, it sounds like you are saying that some marriages are not valid because God didn't join them. If that is what you are saying, the only instance I can perhaps agree with this on, is when it involves a second marriage union that occurs as a result of an adulterous relationship. Example would be when you have one party in the marriage who is standing such as the people here in this thread, and their wife or husband divorces them and remarries someone else. God has given us revelation to stand for the marriage because he hates divorce, therefore, the new union is not a covenant relationship because the prodigal spouse is already in a covenant relationship which God has not released them from. I am NOT saying that all second marriages are non covenant. We have all made mistakes due to lack of knowledge and GOd does forgive. I am in a second marriage myself and was about to file divorce paperwork to divorce this husband for commiting adultery, (this is what happened in my first marriage, along with alcoholism), and God said to me "You are about to make the same mistake you did before. I want you to forgive your husband and not divorce him, but stand for your marriage". At the time, I didn't even know what it meant to stand. God gave me many scriptures in the beginning, that were then confirmed through marriage restoration ministries. I had to repent of divorcing my first husband. Also, I married my first husband for wrong reasons, but God still was in it because we stood before him and made a covenant vow. I didn't understand that when I divorced him. I do now because GOd has given me revelation, and he holds me accountable. You listed the passage regarding the woman at the well which the rest of that passage reads:
"16He said to her, "Go, call your husband and come here."
17The woman answered and said, "I have no husband." Jesus said to her, "You have correctly said, 'I have no husband';
18for you have had five husbands, and the one whom you now have is not your husband; this you have said truly."
Jesus tells her she has had 5 husbands and the one she is with is not her husband, so Jesus recognized those other 5 as husbands, and their was a difference with this one. The difference was that she did not enter into a marriage covenant with him before God. The obvious conclusion here is that they were simply living together. Therefore, we must conclude that God recognizes are vows we make before him and is very much in the marriage.
I agree with you that when we marry, we should be seeking God to marry the person God has for us. However, if we marry the wrong person, I don't believe the marraige is invalid, or that God is not in it. He still holds us accountable to the covenant. In the way your post was worded, I had a concern for the people here who are standing for their marraige reading it and then thinking that maybe they shouldn't be standing, cause maybe the marriage isn't valid anyway. This in fact is one of the lies satan used to lure my husband away. If he can discredit the marraige, he can often destroy it which is what he wants to do. My husband began to believe he wasn't supposed to marry me, therefore it was fine for him to leave me, and It didn't matter that we were both christians and in fact planning on going into ministry together, and that I'm currently studying for my part in that ministry. Within 2 weeks of leaving me he was seeing someone else. He was obviously entertaining the idea of being with someone else before he left
I may be interpreting what you're saying incorrectly, but if I am, others might be as well, and I just don't want to see standers stumble, and I know you don't either. It is so hard to stand anyway. IT is not the easy road and satan tries so hard to get us to give up, or to get us involved with another person.
In His Love,
Faithstander
Posted by: Rmartel
Thankyou for your extensive Reply, and caring. God according to John 15 "...I no longer call you servants I call friends and I tell you what I am about to do.
Many times God has shown me things in advance. He had kept the door closed in this marriage. 12 years later I would find out that this women commited Bigamy. I could not possibly percieve this but God could. Moses said Choose that we would have live over death. We choose these things daily;some leading to life others not. God says in his word' I know the plans I have for you;the plans to prosper......' Jer. 29. God did bless my choice but .
He did not want me to go any further by marrying this women, because something was wrong. He needs to work on the layers of the onion skin in our life. We first needto know Gods Love and forgiveness Repentance,also before we go further.
Posted by: faithstander
Wow. Bigamy is something you certainly don't hear a lot about. In that case, the marriage wasn't even valid.
Posted by: JG
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Originally Posted by Rmartel
"Years later after much frustration I realize that God wasn't in this Marriage. It was what two people had Joined together not What God had Joined ."
I am closing this thread because there is not one bible verse to stand on.
It will only lead people the wrong way.
If you can not find it in the bible I do not care if you had a vision or an angle tell you it is not from God.