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Posted by: Blessedjdd
I had an affair, I have confessed this to God and my Husband. I have been forgiven. My husband has been so wonderful. The other mans wife is not so forgiving. She is bi-polar, suffers from manic depression and drinks. She does not believe in God, she worships buda. He keeps contacting me (no matter how much I tell him not to. I have changed jobs and other stuff to get away from him) He contacts me to tell me how bad it is and he does not know if he can continue to keep his wife calm. He says the company we worked for has the e-mails we wrote to each ohter and she has threatend to get her attorney to get them. They are still living together, so I don't understand why she has kept quite this long. (3 months) I told my husband about the affair but I would not answer detailed questions beause I knew it would kill him. I feel like this is being held over my head to keep me from trying to get out of this mans life. I want to be left alone. I don't know is this other man is lying to me or not. I just want to be left alone. He says if I leave him alone he will not have the strenght to stay with her and keep her from blowing things up. This is killing me.
Posted by: bill & alexis
Jackie,
Hello! I hope I can offer some help, or support. It looks like before this gets out of hand, you may want to talk to an attorney in your state. A restraining order may not be a bad choice...sounds like you are being stalked and manipulated.
You have confessed all of this to God. So your covered under the blood, but you need to break-off all contact with this guy. I think you already know that! Walk with wisdom, restoring the relationship with your husband is going to take prayer, time and a concerted effort. If I may ask, let's pray together for a positive outcome!
Father, thank you for Jackie. She is bold to post her concerns on this board. Lord she has brought her sin before You, if You have forgiven her, the only one speaking of it is the devil. Lord, silence the enemy - rebuke all of his devises and threats to cause harm on Jackie and her husband. Nuture her marriage back into a healthly, Christ-centered, Loving relationship. Bring about complete restoration in their marriage Lord. And give Jackie the boldness to do the right thing in her repentence, and cut-off all contact with the other man. Protect them Lord as they start anew - in Jesus name - Amen!
Jackie, I really hope things go well for you. Keep praying, be bold, and do what is right to heal your marriage. With all of the Lord's Love!
-Bill
Posted by: czynka
Yes i agree with Bill.
These are repercussions that satan is hurling at you ... but you have been washed clean with the blood of the Lamb.
Dont let yourself be manipulated by this man. Remember that satan is the accuser of the brethren adn he is using him to get at you.
BUT....satan has long been overthrown by our Lord Jesus, and all he can do now is murmer. You belong to the Lord, so stand strong in His power, stand strong in His wisdom.
Ask the Lord for His wisdom and the strength to follow His guidance.
Bless you.
Posted by: Blessedjdd
Thank you so much for prayers. I asked God to direct me, to show me the way. I will follow Gods path. I did not answer any of the mans e-mails yesterday even though they were very scary. I have been praying for the strenght to trust in the Lord and to do whatever he tells me to do. I love my husband more than I can explain. I don't understand how I could have done this to us. If all started out when I was trying to help this man, pray for this man and his wife. How did I get so far away from God. I would give anything if I had not hurt my husband this way. He has always been such a strong christian. I thank everyone that has prayed for us and may God continue to bless you.
Posted by: Blessedjdd
Keep praying for me. I am standing strong. My heart starts beating fast, then I get real calm. I know I am doing what I am suppose to do by not giving in to these demands. Everytime I get scared I open my Bible and start reading. I think alot of my problems are that I have not forgiven myself. I feel so ashamed about what I did.
Posted by: Blessedjdd
ok, he is e-mailing. I am not reading, I am just deleting them as they come up. I feel like I am going to be sick at my stomach. I opened my Bible. It opened to Psalm 119:105-112. This was much help. Please someone keep giving me words of encouragment.
Posted by: Rachel R
Stand strong!
Please consider getting that restraining order.
Check with company and ask if emails are being held.
He may be lying...
You can block his address so they won't even show up on your screen.
Hang on and just keep looking ahead.
Praying for you...
Rachel R
Posted by: Blessedjdd
He just emailed. I did not read it. I deleted it. The subject line was "The bomb has been droped". He had told me last week that the company pulled all of the e-mails and had stored them on disk. He said he was afraid his wife would get her attorney to ask for them. The wierd part is why did she leave this alone until now. Ther is stuff in those e-mails that I wrote that I would have never done with out satan's influence. If my husband should get them it would be awful. It would kill him. I never thought I would do anything like this. I change my e-mail address and he gets it. I block his and he just gets a new one. I am praying. I need God to help me. I feel like I am spinning out of control.
Posted by: Blessedjdd
ok, he emailed from another address. This is what he sent.
will do whatever you see fitting... cause i don't care about my
>fate...
>
>She wants truth... or else.... didn't specify what she would do
>after hearing truth...
>could be the or else anyway....
>
>she did say WE would regret it if I did not tell truth.....
>Remember November 3rd... "YES" ... NO ONE KNEW THAT... she made
>reference... i don't know.... there was a whole lot more....
>could be a bluff to a degree.... actually said alot of nice things
>about you.... which was worrysome... said she wanted me to have the
>taxes finished NOW... I am just a ball of knots.... physically
>sick...
>and not worrying about me..... it's about you... so sorry so
>soo sorry... i really can't focus ...
>I will do whatever you wish.... I'm finished....
>
I can't keep taking this. If I get the restraining order it all comes out anyway. It is like he keeps trying to hang on. I know that his wife does not believe in God. I know that she has bi-polar and suffers from depression and drinks alot with her medicine which makes her crazy. In November, the e-mails I wrote to him were for him to let me go and find God. That this was all my fault because I was the one that knew God and I did this anyway. I told him that I was praying for him and his wife and I would continue to pray for them. The more I pushed him away the more his wife seemed to find out according to him. I have only heard from him. It was alway we need to get together so we can come up with a plan to keep her from attacking. I told him my plan was God. That whatever God decided to do with me that is what I would do. I quite my job and now that I have gone back to work he has followed me on days. Sent e-mails as to what I am wearing. Left flowers at the door. I told my husband of the affair but I did not go into details because a counselor at the church said that details were hard to get over and confessing that I had the affair was enough. How does satan take someone like me that was out to save the world and turn it around, or was it just sinful flesh and I took my eyes off of God. Do you think God will ever beable to use me again. Do you think he will ever want to. I need him. I need him now, I know everything is according to his time, but I wish that time were now. I wish God would speak to me as clear as I am writing this I would know it was his instrucitons. Please pray. I am so scared.
Posted by: Christian Commando
Blessedjdd: The others are right. Since God originally created our "protectorate system", you are within God's guidance to get legal protection. Secondly- Satan is doing what he can, to break down one of God's Children at a weak point. Use that program to block the messages. Thirdly- You are thus covered under the "Blood of Christ", therefore- "Fear not, for I am with you" God declares. "Yea tho I walk thru the valley of the shadow of death, I shall fear no evil, for thou art with me". "Greater is He that is in you, than he that is in the world". Lord, we ask that you place a hedge of protection around Blessedjdd and her family to protect them from satanic attacks. We also ask that you would bring a peace upon her heart and others of her family as necessary to give them rest and assuredness you are with them watching over them- in Jesus Name- Amen!!
Posted by: Christian Commando
I know it's hard Blessedjdd but remember what God declares- "Count it all joy when ye fall unto diverse temptations, that the trying of your faith worketh patience. But let patience have her perfect work, that ye be found perfect and entire, wanting nothing". Everything will work out. God has heard your prayers and forgiven you as well. Yes, you are still loved deeply by God and He will use you for His Will again. God has allowed me to be tested lately. But in answering my prayers, He's taking me now, step by step thru this trial. Believe me, God will deliver you thru this trial as well. No. it wasn't as I'd thought for my situation, but still better than expected. He is there working for you. Plus, "Where two or more are gathered in His Name, He-(God) is in thier midst." You have plenty here who care about you and who are praying for you. God will help you. The main thing is, just don't accept any more emails from the man and let yourself get more riled up. Thats exactly what satan wants. Holding you up before the Lord- C.C.- God Bless!
Posted by: Blessedjdd
Thank all of yall for praying. Thank you for not judging me. I do block his e-mails, he gets another address. I guess I do need to get a restraining order. I just did not want this to go any further. I love all of yall and thank you for your support.
Posted by: Jesu
God please protect and guide blessedjdd through this difficult time. I pray this man leaves you alone and respect the fact that you and your husband are working things out. He sounds obsessive. I know if it were me, that you had the affair on, I know I would not want you to have further dealings with the guy and he should respect that. God please heal blessedjdd's marriage and heal the family completely in all areas in Jesus' name I pray. I also pray that this other man and his wife have healing in their marriage in all areas so as to not bother blessedjdd again. Thank you God, please bless and comfort all involved, Amen.
Posted by: Blessedjdd
Thank yall for praying. I have these strong since of calmness about me. I know it is the praying. I was not here (at work) yesterday. I have Lupus and when I get stressed I can have some pretty bad flares. My bladder stops working. It is pretty miserable. I have not had trouble with this in 7 years. When I step out from under God umbrella of protection I started having trouble again. I ma not openeing my e-mails in case this man sends something through a different e-mail address. My husband is coming home tonight. I am going to pray for courage to talk to him again about this. Thank yall and please keep the prayers coming and let me know you are out there. I helps alot when I do hear from you.
Posted by: Jesu
I am continuing to pray for you. God please help blessedjdd in all situations in her life. I have bladder problems too, very painful. God please heal blessedjdd of her lupus and bladder problem and heal her completely in Jesus' name I ask this. Thank you God we trust in you!!!