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Pray for My Friend

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Posted by: MarkSentMe

OK. A few months back (maybe not that far) I posted about my friend who was having an adulterous affair with a deacon from her church. She said she had broken it off. She also said she told this man's wife about the affair and that she apologized and asked for forgiveness (which the wife refused). She left out the part about having sex in the woman's bed. This deacon is 60 years old and this coming Sunday, he will be baptizing his granddaughter. My friend is 40 and has 3 teenage children whom she is verbally abusive towards and is resentful that they eat the food that she buys with the money her husband pays to care for the children with.
Well, during the "broken off" time, she went to him because the urges of the flesh were too much to deny. Now she is pregnant. She has not been with her own husband for almost a year, as he is out of the house.
Today, being "Fasting Thursday" I have prayed about this. I find myself praying that she lose this pregnancy. I do not like the way I feel, but I know it is in response to her lack of remorse for the betrayal of her friend- the deacon's wife, her lack of concern about what this will do to her church, her lack of concern for her 3 children, and her lack of concern for this baby. The baby, it seems, is a way for her to lash out at the deacon's wife for her supposed infractions against the deacon (cheating people will say ANYTHING to get someone in bed) a way to lash out against her husband ("Joel couldn't satisfy me, but a 60-year-old man could get the job done") and a way to try to undo the wrongs she has done and continues to do to her children.

I guess y'all can throw in a prayer for me too
Thank You,
Sharyn


Posted by: christythompson

I am heavy laden in my thoughts about this woman and situation.
I almost feel that lots of prayer, careful contact and salvation are real issues, mostly for you because you know her. The burden to bring Christ to her is yours.
A couple of things. This deacon should not be in his position of leadership without asking for forgiveness from the church and being disciplined by the church for his sin. Has the pastor and "board of elders" been contacted?

Jesus touch this situation.
I pray for full repentance from everyone.
I pray for this mans wife who innocently is being betrayed by the man who made vows to her. Keep her and guard her. Show her her need to forgive as Christ forgave the church no matter how hard. Comfort her and turn her husband toward her filling him with love for this wife he has wronged. I pray for this woman who seems to flaunt her sin selfishly. God bring her to discipline and true repentance. God I pray she would receive salvation. Somehow I feel she has not given her life to God and truly asked him into her life based on her attitudes and actions. So you may want to pick the right time to ask her if she wants to pray the sinners prayer with you. Lord Open this womans hard heart and soften the attitudes of hate. God changes a person. Jesus I pray that this baby be in your hands. I come against all abuse and mockery of the lord and his church.
In Jesus name


Posted by: Christian Commando

Lord- We pray over this situation. Touch the hearts and minds of those involved in this deceitful situation. Lead them back to your path for each of them Lord. Show them the deciet and harm this has and will cause. In Jesus Name- Amen!


Posted by: MarkSentMe

"Supposedly" this deacon went to confession and was given 2 Hail Mary's and an Our Father... I say supposedly because he has been lying to my friend from the get-go about everything from his marriage being over to his standing up to his grown children in regards to his relationship with my friend. I told my friend that this man sounds like a compulsive liar from the onset but this man said all the things my friend wanted to hear ie: that he would pay for her children to go to school, that he wanted to get her pregnant despite "having a vasectomy" (another lie), that she was the only one who understood him, and he told her all sorts of derogatory thing about his wife. Since he went to confession and paid his pennance, the priest cannot disclose the conversation, so unless my friend wants to expose herself, the secret is buried....for now. My friend also went to confession and the priest she talked to knew who she was talking about, but again, he is obligated to keep the contents of the confession a secret (What's said in the box, stays in the box) The priest told my friend that the deacon's sin was worse than hers. Adultery is adultery, or so I thought.

I prayed a lot about this during my fast yesterday. I guess since my friend is putting on an apathetic front, I really didn't feel much more than what I previously said. I had other things I prayed for and I was able to see clearly on those. Thank You for your prayers and help. I truly appreciate it. God Bless You,
Sharyn