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Question About Marriage

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Posted by: Aurorabisig

I am wanting to know the thoughts of those married and those that are clergy on marriage. Question is about marriage, (I believe that the husband and wife are first before the children, because if the husband and wife are not solid then the family will not be solid, my husband believes that his son comes first before me), what do you think or what does GOD say?

Please reply with prayers as well, as my husband and I are in such discourse over this and he said he will not change his mind. (Side note: He has two older daughters (grown), this son (mother died) by another previous marriage and I have my two teenagers by a previous marriage (husband died) and I put my husband first for a solid foundation for the marriage.)

Aurora


Posted by: akabezalel

#1. God

#2. Family

#3. Self

#4. Ministry

#5. Work

#6. Other Relatives and Friends

I have been married 32 years and this has worked for us.

Family is defined as You, Your Spouse and Children.

All decisions made by you and your Spouse affect the Children
so you must act inclusively.

You are a 'Wife', there is no such thing as 'Wife and Mother'.

A good wife is a good mother, they are not two different things
just as you are not two different people.

There are more important things to worry about in a relationship than
something as trivial, nit-picky, and self-centered as the subject of
'Who comes first'.

You are a 'Wife'. He is an 'Husband'. The two of you are a 'Couple'
and you both have Children to raise up as men and women of God,
this is a joint venture, this makes you a 'Family' and there really is no
'who comes first'.


Posted by: MamaCat

Quote:
Originally Posted by Aurorabisig
I am wanting to know the thoughts of those married and those that are clergy on marriage. Question is about marriage, (I believe that the husband and wife are first before the children, because if the husband and wife are not solid then the family will not be solid, my husband believes that his son comes first before me), what do you think or what does GOD say?

Please reply with prayers as well, as my husband and I are in such discourse over this and he said he will not change his mind. (Side note: He has two older daughters (grown), this son (mother died) by another previous marriage and I have my two teenagers by a previous marriage (husband died) and I put my husband first for a solid foundation for the marriage.)

Aurora

Absolutely your spouse comes before your children. But you cannot change a person's mind. GOD CAN!!! I suggest you begin spiritual warfare and ask God to change his mind, since he is out of God's will by putting his child first before you. Nagging him about it will only make the situation worse. Been there done that don't work!

Father God, I pray you will give this man a revelation of how things are. Give him dreams and visions. Do WHATEVER IT TAKES to bring him into the mind of Christ and help Aurora be patient and to be the wife the Bible says she should be during this time. In Jesus name, AMEN!


Posted by: Aurorabisig

Thank you both, I understand that GOD does come first, I didn't ask him if I came first or not, he simply said one day that the reason for the contention in the house is because he works out of town for weeks at a time and that his son needs him and that he comes first. I do appreaciate what both of you wrote to me and I will pray more, and I have not said anything to him, I just pray that GOD's spirit will fill him or there will be more contention in our home. Bless you both!!!!

Aurora