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Posted by: footprint9

Hey people,

Haven't posted in a while - things have been crazily busy here.
I've been going through a crisis of faith which has been getting steadily worse for months and months.
I'm also in a mess with my boyfriend. I love him to bits and right now everything between us is fantastic. However, we're both worried about where this relationship is headed.
He's not a Christian (he essentially thinks we've all just been brainwashed), and though he's serious about a long-term relationship, he definitely doesn't agree with the 'no sex before marriage' line and has been putting a lot of pressure on me about it.

To be honest, I'm not really sure what I think about the whole issue - society has changed such a lot since the time of the Bible, especially in issues on marriage and sex. It's all very well for the Bible to state that anyone who's having trouble with abstinence, to take a wife. But in today's society, it's a little more difficult for me to go grab a husband like that. Plus I have no intention of getting married to anyone for at least another 5 years! I think marriage is a much bigger commitment and life-altering decision now than it was then - it's not something I think people should rush into just because they can't live without sex.

So I have no idea what I'm going to do, I just know I don't want to lose him.

Please help!
J


Posted by: Christian Commando

Lord- We pray for this young lady. We ask that you show her the importance of marriage being the same now, as was milleniums ago. We ask that you would show her the importance of why fornication is wrong according to what has happened with people because of it. We pray that you help her understand why in this respect, the bed is undefiled in marriage, yet it is not acceptable before marriage-(sex). We pray that you would strengthen her in her convictions to stay according to you and how importantholding to your word is just as much so now, as was before. Lift the pressures from her to be involved in worldly attractions. Help her to stand against satan's attacks to draw her there. In Jesus Name- Amen!!


Posted by: michellejane

Amen. Lord i stand in agreement with Christian Commander. Show this faithful woman how you meant for life to be both then and today. Help her to apply Your Words and thoughts into the context of today. She is obviously keen to live as You would have her live and i pray that You will bless her for this Lord and show her a way out of this pressured situation, without losing her boyfriend. We give thanks that You listen to all of our prayers and answer them. Through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen


Posted by: son of God

sister we may not live in bible days we have just grown up since that time but are LORD has not change.Let me ask u something how much do u love Jesus do love him than world cause the world lies to us saying it ok or not big deal well do u know how many female before u that he been with if not geting it from u how is he keep the lust in check u married to Christ he love so very much and he doesnt force us to nothing he will let us hang ourself
u have a gift for ur husband the word say dont be unequally yoked. love does not presure on any one. iam dude we will do any thing to get in the pantys when i was in the world the grils i was with well i was with all the dudes they were with sexuaily daspmitt dease it not worth it KEEP YE SELF HOLY FOR IAM HOLY THAT WHAT THE FARTHER SAYS.

SERVANT


Posted by: Christian Commando

Footprint9- You are wrong. We are living in the days of the bible. Since God started giving man His Word and "Covenants", we've been living in that time. It's just that for the last centuries it's been called the bible. Even tho It is still God's Law which never ever changes. He declares the world may and man, but not His Word. God's Word is still just as relevant today as it was thousands of years ago for man. Thus, following it and staying pure as possible is much better than living according to the world. By going along with having sex, you will be opening up yourself to possibly being cursed with a disease. (Have you noticed how many have sprung up over and above all others in the last 30 years of the open sexual revolution?) Stay pure before God. when He brings you and His mate for you together in marriage, your relationship will be that much more rich in love, compassion and "oneness" if wait. God Bless!!


Posted by: InBaghdad

Hello J
I'm not going to go into a lot of details you have been given many wonderful words of wisdom here. The greatest gift a man can be blessed with is a woman, especially a Godly woman who has held herself for him as a gift. This does not mean that a man can do as he likes, on the contrary... What if you give yourself to him and he then leaves? You have nothing but guilt, shame and hurt. The most precious gift a husband and wife can give each other is themselves. Even if it isn't your "first time" you are now covered in the blood and free. You are clean, pure and beautiful in all eyes. You have a heart that any man would desire to have love him and you are honest enough with yourself to know when you need help and humble enough to ask for it. You are a special and wonderful woman J. Do as you feel the Father leading you and as He has commanded us.

Father we ask that you would come more fully into this situation now than ever. That you would strengthen my sister to stand against the temptation and the possible physical desire within her. Lord that you would touch her mightily and completely to hold tight to your word. You Father have provided us with a means to be intimate with one another through physical contact with our spouse and though prayer with you. Help us Lord to hold onto You and Your word, to satiate our desires with intimacy with You that You may lead us to the one you have for us to be intimate on this earth.

I'm sure that didn't help much but trust me when I say: A man can control himself through Christ who strengthens him and through the love of a woman in his heart. You are worthy of such love, from both God and man.


Posted by: footprint9

Hey,

I just wanted to thank all the wonderful people who posted above. You guys are right -this is something I want to save for the man I marry, but man it's going to be difficult to hold true to that one!

I really could use all the prayer and support I can get on this one as I have a feeling that it's only going to get worse.

To be honest I could really use a miracle right now, something to open my boyfriend's eyes to the beauty within christianity, the love that makes every sacrifice worthwhile. I feel really bad because he's only been able to see the more restrictive aspects of christianity, the stress and pain that arises from conflicts between this world and the heavenly one.

Please pray that I might be able to show him some of the blessings that christianity can bring, that he might too be inspired.

I'm also getting stressed at the moment because my closest christian friends from back home are telling me that I should just end the relationship, which frankly, is not an option. However, because they can't accept this, it's putting a barrier up between us and making me reluctant to go to them for Christian advice and fellowship.

Thank you for your prayers and advice - if there's any more, please, keep it coming!
J