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Please restore my peace and my marriage

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Posted by: prayergirl

My husband recently had back surgery, and each day seems to be come more controlling and blaming me for almost everything that happens.
It seems like I am also walking on eggshells, also afraid I will do or say the wrong thing.
I have no more joy in anything that I do, sometimes I feel that he woild be better off withoutme and I would be better off with out him.
I kee[crying out to the Lord if you want me here in this marriage, then it is all in your hands, because I have no more strength left to fight.
We are both believers, I just don't know why he is treating me so badly, I have asked him and he says I am over defensive.
Please pray for both me and my husband, for a direction and help
thanks and amen
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Posted by: rarc1

I have had 14 spinal surgeries and it stinks I can empathize with your husband because I was the same way and perhaps worse. Because you are both believers you have something in which to build (my ex-wife and I did not and we divorced) pray with him and lay hands on him and come to agreement that this too will pass. We never have more than we can handle though at the time we question that but it is true.

I was told after all my surgeries I would not walk, drive, work, be off of the pain meds or work ever again. Well prayergirl I do all of these things except work and I am trying to do that as well.

As I was going through it and even now there are days when I am depressed feel like less of a man a poor husband an inadequite provider and my pride went in the toilet. There are many other things that resulted from my back surgeries as well my feeling useless, unable to please my wife and children, hopeless and helpless. I blaned the ones who were and are closest to me my wife and stepson and I lash out at them in my frustration and dispair which is wrong but after 14 years its a little better especially because of my wife who is my strength when I have one and my shoulder to cry on when I cant deal with the junk, pain, insurance etc.,etc.

As a prayergirl never stop prayng together and for eachother when your husband is asleep take authority and lay hands on him because satan is using the back to drive this stuff between you. Remember he has and is defeated and as believers risen with CHRIST we too are victors over him in every area of our life. Put the lier, thief and deceiver beneth your feet and your husbands Butt because you are children of a loving. true ,GOD who wants to bless you even in this trial.

We are blessed and saved due to the sacrifice of our LORD JESUS CHRIST by HIS blood we are saved and by HIS stripes we are healed from all sin abd affliction this doesn't mean well not have hard times or trouble but it does show hoiw very special we are to GOD and someday you and your husband may be able to help someonr else through a similar situation and you'll hyave first hand knowledge.

Prayergirl pray together and read scripture together and take each minute and hour and day one bite at a time and before you know it there will be no elefant, pain, complaining or feeling of helplessness or hopelessness because you'll have removed it one little bite at a time. Know you are not going through this alone but with the FATHER, THE SON & THE HOLY SPIRIT and with that kind of support you can surpass anything that comes your way including this.

If your husband woul care to talk I'll be glad to share my experiences and let him vent to me.

GOD bless and remember you are never alone

rarc1


Posted by: Mrembo

Father i pray for peace and restoration in this marriage. I pray for prayergirl that You may equip her with patience and give her the strength she needs expecially at this time when she needs You so much. Please let her not give up on her marriage. I pray for her husband to treat her better and also for his total recovery in Jesus' name, Amen.


Posted by: prayergirl

Thank you for your words of wisdom, they help a little.
I do try to be very supportive of my husband but he does is lash out at me.
He will not talk to anybody about what he is going through.
He just likes to drink, smoke and take his pain pills
please continue to pray
prayergirl


Posted by: Lynn7

Father God touch this marriage. Bring to light what is happening, show the husband how he is treating this wife and how he is making her feel. Heal them. Restore the love back into this relationship. Let the Holy Spirit reign in this marriage. Restore joy to both the wife and the husband. Father heal this husband of the physical pain that he is going through. In the name of Jesus I pray. AMEN