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reconciliation
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Posted by: nicci325
I moved to canada to begin a relationship with nick askounis I am 4 months pregnant and he broke up with me a month ago he did not want me to have the baby but I just could not go through with an abortion he wont be supportive towards me at all and I feel so alone. This man was my best friend and now he hates me he wont talk to me and says he will deal with the baby when it comes he knows I moved here to be with him so I dont have many friends here and he became my family for the past 1yr 1/2. I keep trying to talk to him but he gets so angry and then called the police & said I was harassing him. How can he be so cruel? I thought he was a kind man I did not get pregnant myself its like his compassion his care for me even as a person has completely gone... He says he feels hate for me and to leave him alone.. But it hurts I was a part of his family and friends when I moved up here I started my life over and that life was intertwined with his and that was what he wanted when I first moved here. I am so hurt i cry all the time I wonder if he met someone else is this why he is being so mean? I know sometimes things dont work out people fall out of love with each other but I am not forcing him to be with me or to marry me which of coarse my heart would want but I know you cant make someone love you if they dont anymore I just need his support as a friend at least through this I moved my life for him upon his request but to leave me alone to deal with such a major life altering situation seems completely unfair and to tell me he'll deal with the child when he is born..but not until then and that we will go through lawyers ... I was so ggod to nick I was loyal supportive loving the only issue we ever had was he always wanted to be with the guys basically he felt when I moved I changed his lifestyle too much he wanted the relationship as a convience not realizing there is some responsibility when you have a relationship you are not single anymore and what you did before like hanging out with the guys all the time until 4 in the morning is not always apprpriate. He felt I stole too much of his freedom and I took it as he did not love me and now I am beginning to wonder if he ever loved me for now he dipises me it seems we were very close spiritually mentally we could talk about anything so I find this so hard to accept how he has been so unloving and not supportive towards me and the more he is cruel the more I feel lcrazy and the more I feel crazy the more I try to desperatley reach out to him I show up at his house beg him to talk to me and then he says I am crazy and he wants to be left alone and he does not care and he will deal with the baby when he is born ... but I need nick to be here now I need his support ..he was my best friend and my love and I did not get pregnant alone .. I just want peace between us I dont want him to hate me I told him I would consider giving the child up for adoption there are a lot of people who cant have kids I just did not want to abort. But he does not want to give the child up for adoption.. PLease if you could pray for nick and I, I would very much appreciate it God bless you Nicole I just pray that God helps Nick see the blessing and opportunity in what he now sees angrily as restriction & as a problem. My the holy spirit grant him awareness of the pain he causes when he angrily blames me and the relationship. May he grow in maturity and conviction concerning his behavior and attitude. May his heart soften towards me. Amen
Posted by: Christian Commando
Lord- We praythat you might work in this unfortunate circumstance. We don't know all the things about this one, but you do. Thus, we pray you would bring this to the best resloution for both people and the child in her, as according to your Will for all concerned. In Jesus Name- Amen!!
Posted by: son of God
iam sorry u are going though u are free will sucks then we listen to our heart the most wicked thang in us. We left our frist LOVE repeant and be bless go back to the LORD and PRAY for ur man to see the light seek ye the KINGDOM of GOD THE FATHER AND EVERTHING WILL BE ADDED TO U sister THE TIME IS AT HAND and the hand is short. MY LORD Jesus Father God i pray for this woman and that she will agree with u and the HOLY Spirit may she come from out of the wilderness and go though the her trails with u to come to the land of milk and honey and for her child may u raise the child to ur ways and seek it salvation in Jesus name amen 
servant
Posted by: Remnant7
Father, if she cannot provide for this child and it will be a burden, allow her to make the right decision to give it up for adoption. Please don't allow this man to make her decisions for her. He is leaving her alone during this and so is not in a position to call the shots. Right now the child is the one needing to be thought of, not the wrong decisions the parents have made to have a messed up relationship. Help this lady to be courageous and to love the child enough to allow a family who is ready for a child to adopt it.
Father, Your will be done in this situation. If she is to keep the child, open the doors for her to do so. Give her the desire to serve You and open doors for her to provide for her child, raising it in a Christian environment, full of the love of Christ. Provide Christians to stand with her and help her during this time of great difficulty, keep her and the child safe, and provide a way for her to be with people who love her (back with her family?). In Jesus Name.
Posted by: Lynn7
I felt in my heart that I should share this with you. Eight years ago I was in a worldly relationship, the man was unsaved. Even when he said that he did not believe in God I stayed. I knew I should have left but I prayed for him and for us. I ignored that this wasn't God's will. He stayed and I got pregnant. He was horrible to me. He was angry and mean when I got pregnant. He wanted me to have an abortion. I was devastated. I had to make a choice. I believe that we would still be suffering through our "joy" if I would have stayed and continued to pray for something that was against God's will. God would not bless that mess. God would not bless my living in sin. I have a wonderful 7 year old son now, I pray for his dad continuosly but praise God he is not a part of my life. I pray for his salvation. I know and understand that one day he will be saved and that God is tugging at his heart. I also know that door was slammed shut and another one was opened for me. I have a wonderful man in my life who loves me and my son. He also loves the Lord more then he loves me. Let go of your situation and hold on to God. Know my sister that God cannot bless sin. Your wonderful baby is not the sin but a blessing. Know that a man that would ask you to murder your baby is not from God.
Father God I feel what she is feeling right now. I have been where she is. Father heal her broken heart. Put her sights on you now. Bless her with a healthy child. Show her how to be a good mother. Father touch this man. Bring him to you. Soften his heart and prepare him to receive your salvation. If it is meant for them to be together, let him accept you as his lord and saviour before it is done. Make both of them complete. All of my petitions I ask in the holy name of Jesus AMEN
Posted by: ninababy73
Praying in agreement. 
Posted by: Marliz
Dear God,
The same thing this woman went through happened to me.
Please hear our prayers, out of the power of your love may the heart of the father of her child soften, change it like only You can.
From his mind and heart erase what he thinks is "not normal", may he be filled with emapthy and understanding.
YOU CAN DO IT GOD, please do.
I know very well, this womans pain, please do not let her go through what I went through. I ask that the pain that I went through, the worst of the worst pay for her happiness.
God that my words would reach your heart, I may never see her in my life but may her life be filled with the love and joy that motehrhood and family should bring.
please God be present, rush to them as you already are.
send her a good life, a family, those things we all want and need.
go to her, and change him......we think of the baby and the love that babies bring, do not lt this or any child suffer.
i bow my head before you and stand awaiting for Your answer to our request.
in the precious blood of Jesus we stand and await Your grace.
all the glory is Yours.
AMEN.
Posted by: letinitgo
Nicci,
First let me tell you, the wrong thing to do is chase after him. There are many books, Christian and secular, and they all state the same thing.
Read Tough Love by Dr. Dobson This will confirm what I just said. There are many other books on this subject.
Father God,
Please give Nicci the strength to make the right decision. We know that everything happens for a purpose, God, and we know that you will find away for this situation to glorify You. God please send the Holy Spirit to comfort Nicci. I know what it is like to have the person you most dearly love tell you that they don't love you anymore. Just to know how much that breaks my heart, God, with the love You have for us, we must really hurt You in they way we treat You. God, Nicci has made me realize the love You have for us, and I praise you for that. God, please comfort her as she goes through this trial of life. Let her feel Your presence. God, lead and guide her. God, touch this man, at least pertaining to his child. Convict him oh Lord, that he may see his responsibilty in this also.
For in Jesus' name
AMEN.
Nicci, I am having a tough time trusting God with my life right now, but he does know what he is doing. Trust Him with all your might. Even when things seem to be the worst, He is and will be there for you.
God Bless You
Chuck