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Is my life a waste?

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Posted by: Teffiepooh

I feel so down tonight. I have given my all in life and I sit here with no friends...nothing except for my faith in Jesus..my church family, and my family at home. I was supposed to get married in May. I had the dress the flowers everything. I guess that it is a good thing that, that never happened...yet it still hurts. I have always been a trusting person and believed in my friends espically my ex. He always made me feel special and made me feel loved. Well tonight I found out that he had been cheating on me for two years. We were in a long distance relationship...but we visited each other monthly and talked every night. I found out through a source that he had been seeing her for 2 years..so basically the whole time that he lived in the other state. I never thought that it could be so easy to lie. Even his family lied to me. It hurts so much to know that he has taken my heart and my love and broken me down to nothing. I spoke with him tonight and told him that I had, had my phone traced because I had been getting hang up and prank phone calls...I also had the phone turned off. I called him and told him that this person had done this and he went off of the deep end. He told me that I was a lier and nothing but trash. He told me that he thought that he could be my friend, but obviously I was not friend material. I was so good to him..I gave him money, gave him a home when he did not have one. I would have done anything for him. He has mentally abused me. I don't feel as if I am worthy of anything anymore. I don't have any friends, I gave him my bed, my money, I made sure that he was clothed, I even gave him his phone. Most of all I gave him my heart I trusted him. I never thought that this could happen. I have had a lot of heartbreak in my life. I am older and wish that I could have had a life with him. I now don't feel as if I could ever be good enough for anyone. I almost feel as if the Lord is punishing me for something. I know from going to church that is not true. But being 25 and seeing everyone else your age married and having families, sunday school teachers treating you like an outcast because you are not does not make you feel very good about yourself. I never thought that my life would come to this. Please pray that I will heal. I have lost a lot over the past few months...with no hopes and dreams...in sight. I have lost my best friend...or the one that I thought was my best friend. I have lost everything except for the Lord. I am so down right now that I don't feel as if I make a difference to anyone. I have talked to people including Doctors and they say that it is just a waiting game. I have played enough games...I have been hurt and used a lot. I have given my all and feel as I have nothing.


Posted by: Lez

Hello you still have your life ,health, and strenght believe me many people can't say that? God Loves you no matter what the sitituation is so don't be sad [your ex] he just wasn't the right one God knows ! And even though i don't know you please stay encouraged my name is Leslie write me sometimes.


Posted by: jeevitha

"PRAISE THE LORD"

hey,lez i'm jeevitha from india.i read ur reply to a lady who thinks her life
is a waste that was a good reply.i'm kind of going through a similar problem too. i dont know what happened 2 me i'm going very worse in
my relationship with GOD.i'm rebelling against GOD.but i know that i'm doing wrong and i pray and GOD does help me but i'm unable 2 comeout
in some or the other way it is coming back and i find myself again into it
all i need is complete deliverence i just want 2 please GOD in everyway.
can you help me? if u have any ideas plzzzzzzzzzzzzzz reply me.

love,jeevitha.


Posted by: Teffiepooh

Quote:
Originally Posted by jeevitha
"PRAISE THE LORD"

hey,lez i'm jeevitha from india.i read ur reply to a lady who thinks her life
is a waste that was a good reply.i'm kind of going through a similar problem too. i dont know what happened 2 me i'm going very worse in
my relationship with GOD.i'm rebelling against GOD.but i know that i'm doing wrong and i pray and GOD does help me but i'm unable 2 comeout
in some or the other way it is coming back and i find myself again into it
all i need is complete deliverence i just want 2 please GOD in everyway.
can you help me? if u have any ideas plzzzzzzzzzzzzzz reply me.

love,jeevitha.


Well all of my life I have been brought up in the Church. I have never turned my back on God. I just question myself a lot. I wonder sometimes if life is worth living. I am 25 and see everything thing that goes wrong with me. I will give this Poem to you because it is one that my mother sent to me. Actually I will send you 2 #1 is called It's in the Valleys I Grow.

Sometimes life seems hard to bear, Full of Sorrow, trouble and woe Its then I have to remember That its in the valleys I grow.

If I always stayed on the mountain top and never expierenced pain, I would never appreciate God's love and would be living in vain.

I have so much to learn and my growth is very slow, sometimes I need the mountain tops but its in the valleys I grow. I do not always understand why things happen as they do, Vut I am very sure of one thing My Lord will see me through.

My little valleys are nothing when I picture Christ on the cross He went through the valley of death; his victory was Satan's loss.

Forgive me Lord, for complaining when I'm feeling so very low. Just give me a gentle reminder that it's in the valleys I grow.

Continue to strengthen me, Lord and use my life each day to share your love with others and help them find their way.

Thanks for the valleys, Lord for this one thing I know the mountian tops are glorious but its in the valleys I grow! Author

Jane Eggleston

Its a good poem and has a lot of meaning yet it still does not stop the hurt and the pain that we go through. I was mentally and physically abused. I always said that I would never put up with it but I did....for far to long. I see one good thing in it I have met you through this prayer request and I believe that you are a good person for caring enough to write me and through it all I have found a friend in you...and you have found one in me!

The last lines that I am going to leave you with I got the day that my ex left. You see it does not stop the hurt but I did get to tell him good bye and actually showed him that I was his friend...he chose to destroy even that tonight and said that he never wanted to speak to me again... I guess that I had him for a little while and even though I can't see it I am sure that God has a plan for my life. I am very down and have a lot of healing to go....but here is what I will leave you with:

h This will be my wish for all of those going through pain! Espically you my friend: "I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright. I wish you enough rain to appriciate the sun more. I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive. I wish you enough pain so that the smallest of joys in life appear much bigger. I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting. I wish you enough loss to appriciate all that you possess. I wish you enough "Hello's" to get you through the final "Good-bye."

You are my hello tonight...you have brightened my day. I know if there is someone out there that cares enough about me to write and tell me that they are going through something...then I do have a friend...and a true friend is God's gift to us!

I will say a special prayer for you. You will know that you have a friend in Lovingston, Virginia...that cares and hopes that everything will turn out for the best. You are an angel don't forget it!


Posted by: Reserved

Hi Teffiepooh: I am very proud of you. You have been abused by a man who is too dense to realize what a jewel he had in you and your pure love for him. God knows. He loved us enough to send us His son and look how many reject the pain, suffering and sacrifice He endured out of His love for us. He took our place.

You are wise to sit with your pain and allow yourself to experience what you are feeling. God hates a liar and you need not lie about how you are feeling or pretend that you feel different. It is very painful to be betrayed and you now know some of the pain Jesus feels when He is betrayed. You did all the right things for all the right reasons but there was a selfish, immature, lying man who deceived you and then tried to make you feel like there was something wrong with you. God will correct your ex-husband and he will have to make retribution for the pain he has caused you.

Right now, I am confident that you will survive all of this. As the song says, "you have all your life to live and all your love to give". You will find someone who is worthy of your love and affection and God will help you find such a person.

The most important thing for you to hold onto right now is your salvation in Jesus Christ. Do not let someone into your life who will try to get you to betray God ... you need to be strong even though right now you might feel you need loving arms to support you.

Just remember, you have the loving arms of Jesus Christ to enfold you and comfort you. God knows. He will never leave or forsake you.

Yes, you do have value. The enemy of God would like to turn your husband's betrayal into an all out attack on your faith. But, you and I know that the enemy of God was already defeated when Christ rose from the dead. The enemy of God is toothless and all he has is the same old lies and the same old deceptions.

You are a mighty woman of God and God will wipe every tear from your eyes.


Posted by: cgirl

Quote:
Originally Posted by Teffiepooh
I feel so down tonight. I have given my all in life and I sit here with no friends...nothing except for my faith in Jesus..my church family, and my family at home. I was supposed to get married in May. I had the dress the flowers everything. I guess that it is a good thing that, that never happened...yet it still hurts. I have always been a trusting person and believed in my friends espically my ex. He always made me feel special and made me feel loved. Well tonight I found out that he had been cheating on me for two years. We were in a long distance relationship...but we visited each other monthly and talked every night. I found out through a source that he had been seeing her for 2 years..so basically the whole time that he lived in the other state. I never thought that it could be so easy to lie. Even his family lied to me. It hurts so much to know that he has taken my heart and my love and broken me down to nothing. I spoke with him tonight and told him that I had, had my phone traced because I had been getting hang up and prank phone calls...I also had the phone turned off. I called him and told him that this person had done this and he went off of the deep end. He told me that I was a lier and nothing but trash. He told me that he thought that he could be my friend, but obviously I was not friend material. I was so good to him..I gave him money, gave him a home when he did not have one. I would have done anything for him. He has mentally abused me. I don't feel as if I am worthy of anything anymore. I don't have any friends, I gave him my bed, my money, I made sure that he was clothed, I even gave him his phone. Most of all I gave him my heart I trusted him. I never thought that this could happen. I have had a lot of heartbreak in my life. I am older and wish that I could have had a life with him. I now don't feel as if I could ever be good enough for anyone. I almost feel as if the Lord is punishing me for something. I know from going to church that is not true. But being 25 and seeing everyone else your age married and having families, sunday school teachers treating you like an outcast because you are not does not make you feel very good about yourself. I never thought that my life would come to this. Please pray that I will heal. I have lost a lot over the past few months...with no hopes and dreams...in sight. I have lost my best friend...or the one that I thought was my best friend. I have lost everything except for the Lord. I am so down right now that I don't feel as if I make a difference to anyone. I have talked to people including Doctors and they say that it is just a waiting game. I have played enough games...I have been hurt and used a lot. I have given my all and feel as I have nothing.


Is he saved?

I am 29 and single. Happily single and plan to remain that way. I was also hurt by someone, and I felt the same as you. At that time, I wanted to start over again right away with someone else. But God said no, not yet. I have had a prophecy (7 yrs. ago) that I would remarry, but now I'm not ready to settle down, I mean, I like being single. Now I look at other girls and ask 'why do they need a man'? Can't they find happiness in themselves? gees. And I had a witness, God reminded me of what I went through and I felt like they did. But, we do need a man, and His name is the Lord. He can make you whole with or without a dude in your life. And we should be healed and whole before we start another relationship. We should go into a relationship with no emotional baggage or hangups. God heals all wounds, let Him be the love of your life, your first love. He won't hurt you, draw closer to Him, He can give you what no man can. In fact He's the only Mr. Perfect.

Dear Lord we praise you. I ask that you heal Teffiepooh of these wounds. She's been betrayed and hurt badly. Jesus, take her into your arms, and take away the pain and loneliness. Help her to forgive so she can receive your healing touch. If it be your will, provide her with a godly help meet. Let him not hurt her like others did. Let her wait and be patient until you answer. In your name and to your glory, amen.