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Posted by: isurrender

Hi........I'm new here and very desperate. My husband left me for another woman 8 months ago. We have a 6 year old son together. Our divorce is not final yet. I thought our marriage was fine......nothing was ever said or discussed........he just walked out the door. I fell to my knees screaming "Oh my God, Oh my God!" Our son was still asleep in the bedroom.....I couldn't believe what was happening......I loved and still love him to the bottom of my soul. Knowing he is with this other woman is killing me. Sometimes the pain is so bad I feel I cannot go on....I feel that I must have been so useless and worthless for him to leave us so unexpectedly and suddenly. I've talked to the other woman once in the beginning and asked her how she could do this to my family.....she was not bothered ......she just wanted what she wanted. Yes, I know that it is certainly not all her fault, but I know that if she would have left him alone, he might have given our family a chance if he would have had time to think alone......I've been praying and standing and God has given me some peace. I want him to come home so bad....I feel so hurt and worthless as a human being. How could a man just walk out that way if I wasn't? ??? How could he leave his baby boy if I wasn't totally disgusting to him....please someone help and pray.....I have been crying and sick at my stomach , unable to cope for 8 months now. I need some prayer please....I have a son to raise and he deserves a stable and healthy mother....I cannot bear it when I have to give my son to my husband on his weekends and that woman is there......she couldn't care anything about my son......it is so painful and I feel so helpless. THank you so much, I have nowhere else to turn.


Posted by: GA5966

First things first here you are not disgusting, worthless or any other negative thing that you may feel. When a man leaves it is his own fleshly desires and doesn't reflect on his spouse. How do I know you aren't any of these let me show you what God says you are.


Ps 139:14-16
14 I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.
15 My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.
16 Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect; and in thy book all my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet there was none of them.
KJV
Gen 1:27
27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.
KJV

Now if you are made in God's image you can be nothing other than beautiful. And I assure you you are. Don't let the actions of one man make you feel any less.

You have hope and here it is my sister. Ps 33:18
18 Behold, the eye of the LORD is on those who fear Him,
On those whohope for His lovingkindness,
NASU
Ps 130:5
5 I wait for the LORD, my soul does wait,
And in His word do I hope.
NASU
Ps 146:5-147:1
5 How blessed is he whose help is the God of Jacob, Whose hope is in the LORD his God, 6 Who made heaven and earth, The sea and all that is in them; Who keeps faith forever; 7 Who executes justice for the oppressed; Who gives food to the hungry. The LORD sets the prisoners free.
8 The LORD opens the eyes of the blind; The LORD raises up those who are bowed down; The LORD loves the righteous; 9 The LORD protects the strangers; He supports the fatherless and the widow, But He thwarts the way of the wicked. 10 The LORD will reign forever, Your God, O Zion, to all generations. Praise the LORD!

NASU


God has spoken on your behalf. This is the oldest trick satan uses to get us to stop looking where we should. If you seek God he will handle the rest. Don't lose your focus. Enjoy your son and celebrate the birth of Christ with him like you never have before. Concentrate on the most important things and don't let a man change what you think about yourself.


Posted by: MarkSentMe

Hi, Lynn. Welcome.

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I feel that I must have been so useless and worthless for him to leave us so unexpectedly and suddenly.


You are not worthless or disgusting or any of those other feelings you are having. A spouse walks out on another spouse because of their own free will. The abruptness and total blind-siding of the situation tells me this was going on for some time (my brother did the same thing to his family) You have every right to be hurt, angry and sad.

God sees you as a beautiful, worthwhile and valuable person. We here at annointed.net do too. You are a child of God. He created You and He loves you. While people will fail you over and over, God will never fail You. God will never let you down.
"For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life" (John 3:16)
In the underlined part "the world", substitute your name. God loves you so much that if you were the only person on earth, He still would have sent Jesus to die for you. You cannot do anything to change that. His love is unconditional. And He is the same now as He was 2000 years ago, the same as He will be forever.


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I've talked to the other woman once in the beginning and asked her how she could do this to my family.....she was not bothered ......she just wanted what she wanted. Yes, I know that it is certainly not all her fault
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It may not be "all her fault", but it is her choice to be involved. Once you confronted her, she made a choice to stay in an adulterous relationship with a married man. Oftentimes the married man lies to the other woman and tells her that their wife is this way or that way or that the marriage is over, most times the wife has no idea! It is a good deal this other woman's fault. She was a sympathetic ear and a shoulder to lean on when your husband's perceived marital troubles started. There are some women who are office "sharks." They live for the thrill of sleeping with married men. They feel that the sex is safe and the man isn't going to run his mouth.

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I feel so hurt and worthless as a human being. How could a man just walk out that way if I wasn't? ??? How could he leave his baby boy if I wasn't totally disgusting to him....


A "man" doesn't leave his family. A man stays true to his vows. A man works through the problems and holds fast to what God has put together. A man stays and works to fix whatever is wrong and holds the family together so that his children are reared by him 24/7 and not part-time, or on weekends, or whenever he can fit them into his schedule or whenever he can get vacation. A man is not a signature on a child-support check, who lives in another state. A man is not a disinterested third party who goes on to start another life because "his needs were not being met". A man does not grow tired of being married when the honeymoon is over.



Father God,
Thank You for our sister Lynn. Thank You for leading her here for us to pray for. Please comfort her hurting heart and spirit. Please draw her closer to You and wrap Your loving arms around her. Please shine a light for her and her baby boy. Please burden the heart of her husband to do what is right and come back to his family to work things out and put You first in his life. Please burden the heart of this woman to leave this adulterous situation and get right with You. Please bless this family with Your presence and help them to get back on track and to heal, Lord. Please help our sister Lynn to stay strong and to align herself with Christians who will comfort her and support her during this trying time. Please guide her and help her to focus on You, Lord. Lord, You are the Great Comforter and the Great Counselor. You alone are the Great Healer and Redeemer. Please work in this situation so that this family can be restored and bring glory to You. Thank You, Lord. In Your Name I Pray. Amen.

Sharyn

Have a blessed day.


Posted by: gamob

God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob I am praying in the name of Your Son Jesus that You will convict this man and this woman having this adulterous relationship. God I pray that you will restore this family and bring this man back home to his wife. God bless this woman standing in the gap. God I pray that You will rebuke this spirit that is driving this man away from his home and create an atmosphere of love and peace among this married couple. God stop this divorce. I have been down this road and the pain is unbearable. God do it today. Amen.

Lady you must forgive this other woman and your husband and then pray to God to change his heart (Proverbs 21:1) and restore your marriage. Believe God for restoration at all cost.


Posted by: jeremiah184

Jesus, I ask in Your HOly Name for You to give of yourself in very real ways to this wife/mother. Pls. pour out Your HOly Spirit upon her and bring her comfort, consolation, and strneghth. Jesus, it is written, that You bind up the broken hearted, please do that for this wife and mother and this little boy. Jeuss I ask that You walk and lead and be her God in this valley of the shadow of death and let her have spiritual eyes to see her situatio form Your persepective. Do not let her stumble or go to the pit in her pain and wounds. Jesus, You say we are the head and not the tail, please send Your angles to her and this son and provide for them in very real and tangible ways fo them to heal..for it is written, by Your stripes we are healed and I ask for YOu to heal this woman and her son.

Jesus, convict this man and woman with Your HOly Spirit let them not have any peace together or satisfaction. I pray that what God has put together, that no man can put asunder and this sword in the Spirit is prayed to sever the adultress from this husband and restore him to his rightful place and wife. Jesus bring what is in darkness in this other woman to the ligth and bring YOur shame upon both this other woman and husband in ways that cause them to repent and turn form their wickedness. I ask that You move to save this other woman and husband from evil and temptation and stand up for this marriage.

Jesus I ask for You hand to be upon this wife and mother and that You give her a sound mind and spirit of courage not fear and that You help her resis the evil one and I ask in Your Name Jesus that what satan has meant for evil in this marriage and family that YOu mean fo rgood Jesus. Please Christ, have mercy and forgive and teach this wife and mother the way she is to go and do not let her depart from You. Please send her all the help she needs to recover and grow in and with You , to be the mother You have ordained her to be..hold her and her son tight in Your loving embrace and stop this son from being in the presence of this adultress. Jesus have mercy and put a hedge of protection around this son and mother and keep their bonds strong, loving, loyal and healthy. Protect and guard this son's heart and mind and do not let him be seduce by the evil one. Please deliver this child from being in a place with people who are willfully commiting adultry. Jesus please stand up for this marriage and make a way for restoration and reconciliation. Jesus please help. We call upon th eName of the Lord and I ask for You to take this family and place it in the shelter of Your alter and do not let this wife.mother son be put to shame. Enable her to grow in YOu and remain in You and teach her son to lvoe and serve You. Chastise this husband Lord and bring the Spirit of the Fear of the Lord upon him and do not let him prosper in his wicked plans lest he grow proud. Jesus deliver us all form evil and temptation. Give this wife/mother peace..and enable and equip her to to nurture and love and care for and correct her son in the ways he needs form his mother and let him have a tender and loyal and strong herat towards her and let him be mindful of her and give him a teachable heart to be taught by You. Thank YOu Jesus.


Posted by: Sulten

Lynn you are a divine daughter of Heavenly Father, who is worth more then you know. You deserve to be treated with all the love, kindness and respect as his daughter. He is certainly not well pleased with your husband for the choices he has made. This does not in any way reflect on you. He has given in to the tempations of the flesh. Your worth cannot be measured. God knows of your sorrow and he sees the tears that fall, every one. He will be your refuge in times of trouble. He will not fail you as you turn to him.


Dear Lord in Heaven, I pray for this wife and mother that she will be able to see herself as You see her and realize that this is not her fault what choices her husband and this other women have made, are their's alone. I pray that You will comfort her in her distress and give her the strength and health she needs to be a mother to her son. I pray that this husband and father will feel after his family and receive a conviction of the things he has done and the deep hurt and pain he is causing. I pray that he and this women will humble themselves before Thee, and get down on their knees and beg for forgiveness and realize what they must do to make this right. Bless and sustain Lynn through this trial and help her to hold her head high and to know that great is her worth in Thy sight. Raise up friends and others to pray for her and offer their support and kindness and love. Consecrate the prayers that have been said on this website for her gain and every blessing Thou sees she and her son have need of I ask, in Jesus Holy name, amen.



(Isaiah 43:2 KJV)
When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee.




Posted by: alexx

sister.....reading this post brought back to me all the feelings i felt when my husband left me for another woman.....i understand completely how you feel....the depth of your pain when you think of him with her or your child with her.....how betrayed you feel...or how foolish you feel for not having a clue.....i know those feelings....those feeling will detroy you from the inside...FIGHT THEM...THEY ARE FEELINGS THAT SATAN WANTS YOU TO FEEL....EVERYTHING THAT HAS BEEN SAID IN THE PREVIOUS POSTS ARE RIGHT....YOU ARE NOT WORTHLESS...YOU ARE GODS CHILD....hold your head up when you face him or his mistress...you have done nothing wrong


Posted by: FriendOfGod

O dear gracious God, please do something for this hurting wife and mother! Please get her husband's attention and reveal to him the truth that will cause him to surrender on his knees. Please make the other woman distasteful in her husband's eyes. Please also ease the pain of this woman and help her realize that Jesus was her only true friend all along. Please do not allow her to go through more grief than she can handle, live with or bear. Please bless this hurting person with some form of resolution in accordance to your will. I ask of you in Jesus name I pray, Amen.


Posted by: spinok71

You Lynn are a beautiful person, I too know and am going through what you are going through.


Father I pray you give my sisiter favor over her husband's heart, restore his love for her and I ask that you break all emotional ties with this other woman that when they are together they find disgust and unsatisfying with each other. This we pray amen.


Posted by: Velinda

I sat down on the side of my bed and interceded for you. He is going to work it out. God will sustain you thru this night season. You are a precious jewel to God.
Be strong for your child, he is depending on you.

Love you and I am constantly in prayer for you.


Posted by: isurrender

I posted on this site a while back......very new to this type of thing , but have been so desperate. I haven't checked the site in a while because I did not think anyone would really care.....(there's that self esteem thing again!) You guys , tonight when I saw and read the responses, my heart was pounding, I was moved to tears that you could care so much to take the time to say all the things you said and took the time to pray for someone you don't even know. I am 48....this has been the most painful time of my life. I have come very close to the end on a few moments........you guys have given me hope. Just knowing that there really are nice people still left in the world is a life-saving discovery! Thank you so very much. Christmas is in 3 days. I have sat on my porch alone most of the night with a stabbing pain in my heart..........but you have lifted that pain . God Bless you all and I hope this is a wonderful Christmas for you all. Please pray for my son and I as we wake up alone on Christmas morning....it will be tough.


Posted by: Velinda

I will be one praying. In the meantime there are thousands of people going thru some of the same things you are going thru look at marriagebuilders.com . It helps.


Posted by: Velinda

Be encouraged this too shall pass. Just hang in there God brings purpose out of everything we go thru.


Posted by: Velinda

How was christmas? I hope all is going well, I am praying for you.


Posted by: Marcelline

Oh my dear sister Lynne my heart goes for you lot i actually feeling the pain you are feeling too. I have tears in my eyes right now i went on my knees to plead with my God on your behalf and your lovely son?
have faith in your God He will never put you to shame ever ok?
God will bring your husband back to you again and you will glorify your God for is goodness toward you and your son?
that woman she as a spirit of jezebel pray for her salvation?
I do know the God i save never put me to shame. He loves you lot look at the cross of Jesus you are Beautifull child of God dont you worry about nothing we are believing God for you? God is the God of familly plus restoration?
He restored me He will do the same with you i love you in Christ Jesus amen?
am praying for your breaktrought you are not alone in this situation but the Most High your Jesus is with you at all time?
God will bring your husband before the ends of this moth i promise you that i know my Jesus will do it for His name sake?

Your husband loves you still is only the enemy who is causing all of this problems in both of you rest in peace?

1Jo 4:4 Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome them: because greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world.

lot of love in Christ Jesus our Lord and savior amen?
Your in Christ Marcelline??



Posted by: Marcelline

Prayer for Daily Protection for Christians


Dear Heavenly Father,

I pray this prayer in the power of the Holy Spirit. In the name of Jesus Christ I bind, rebuke and bring to no effect all division, discord, disunity, strife, anger, wrath, murder, criticism, condemnation, pride, envy, jealousy, gossip, slander, evil speaking, complaining, lying, false teaching, false gifts, false manifestations, lying signs and wonders, poverty, fear of lack, fear spirit, murmuring spirit, complaining spirits, hindering spirits, retaliatory spirits, deceiving spirits, religious spirits, occult spirits, witchcraft spirits, and spirits of Antichrist.

I bind all curses that have been spoken against me. I bless those who curse me, and pray blessings on those who despitefully use me. I bind all spoken judgments made against me and judgments I have made against others. I bind the power of negative words from others, and I bind and render useless all prayers not inspired by the Holy Spirit; whether psychic, soul force, witchcraft or counterfeit tongues that have been prayed against me.

I am God's child. I resist the evil one. No weapon formed against me shall prosper. I put on the whole armor of God. I take authority over this day, in Jesus' name. Let it be prosperous for me, let me walk in Your love, Lord.

The Holy Spirit leads and guides me today. I discern between the righteous and the wicked. I take authority over Satan and all his demons and those people who are influenced by them. I declare Satan is under my feet and shall remain there all-day and everyday. I am the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus.

I am God's property, Satan, you are bound from my family, my mind, my body, my home, and my finances. I confess that I am healed and whole. I flourish, am long lived, stable, durable, incorruptible, fruitful, virtuous, full of peace, patience and love. Whatsoever I set my hands to do shall prosper for God supplies all my needs. I have all authority over Satan, all demons, and beasts of the fields.

Lord, I pray that You would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your Hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evil, that I may not cause pain.

God, I pray for the ministry you have for me. Anoint me God, for all You have called me to do for You. I call forth-divine appointments, open doors of opportunity, God ordained encounters and ministry positions.

I claim a hedge of protection around myself, spouse, (name children individually and grandchildren) throughout this day and night. I ask you God, in the name of Jesus, to dispatch angels to surround me, my spouse and our children today and to put them throughout my house and around all our cars, souls and bodies. I ask angels to protect my household from any intrusion and to protect me and my family from any harmful demonic or other physical or mental attacks. I ask this prayer in the name of Jesus Christ, the King of kings and Lord of lords. Amen.

love in His love my brother
bless you in all you do?
Your sister in Christ Marcelline?


Posted by: Velinda

How are you doing Isurrender?


Posted by: isurrender

I still get very depressed........he is still with the OW and I try so hard to keep my eyes on the Lord........but I get so much anxiety thinking of them together and wondering if they are truly in love , and if he has no feelings left for me.....I miss him so bad it hurts to the bone...I feel so sad for my son that he doesn't have his father....we have no friends and no family to turn to....and I'm so depressed that my son really doesn't even have his mom....please pray for my depression and for my little son...I can hardly get out of bed....thank you so much


Posted by: rainbow788

Dear isurrender, i am so sorry you are going through this terrible pain, i know how much it hurts...and the anxiety and depression...
I am praying for you, your husband and son. please keep in touch and let us know how you are doing.


Posted by: isurrender

My husband called me this morning and said that the lawyers are getting the papers ready for the divorce....please pray that Robert will have a change of heart and that the divorce will be stopped! Thank you


Posted by: FriendOfGod

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Originally Posted by isurrender
My husband called me this morning and said that the lawyers are getting the papers ready for the divorce....please pray that Robert will have a change of heart and that the divorce will be stopped! Thank you

O please dear God! Please put a stop to this! This can't happen! Please see to it that Robert has a change of heart. I ask of you in Jesus name I pray, Amen.


Posted by: Velinda

I have not ceased praying for you since I heard of you. You cannot afford to let you thoughts run away. Hold fast to the promises of GOD. Think on the lovely things. Think of you and him being together. The mind is a mighty weapon. Fasting changes things. You have some mighty weapons Isurrender. Place your marriage up under the blood and anointing of Jesus. Keep praying and praying you shall come out of this with the victory. Pray the scriptures back to God. Let no man put asunder . . . mediate on it put God in rememberance of his word. Make some declarations.

In the name of Jesus the Christ, God, my sister is in need of your help for you have said that you are a present help in times of trouble. Lord I ask that you would soften her husbands heart towards her. Lord you said that the heart of man is in your hands I pray that you turn his heart back to her. Lord where there is estrangement bring about reconcilation and father let the strange woman suddenly and quickly loose ALL interest in Robert.
God trouble him in his mess make him uncomfortable in his mess. Lord hedge up Roberts way with thorns making a wall and keeping him from the strange woman. Restored marriages is your will, Lord we ask that you will bring an end to this adultress situation swiftly. Holy spirit breathe life into this marriage. Think through Roberts thoughts. Father you are concerned about everything that concerns us. God is concerned about your marriage Isurrender. Lord her heart is overwhelmed lead her to the Rock that is higher than she is. Give her the wisdom that she needs to overcome this situation.


Posted by: michelecz75

god only gives challenges to those who are capable of reaching higher. You will get through. I did. Prayer is what helped. Maybe he is not the right man for you. You deserve a man who gives his heart to his family and god. Did you share a spiritual life? There is likely a bigger blessing than you even realize here. After the man I thought was the love of my life left me I prayed ...and prayed. Then I wrote a song...one line is " I guess you did me a favor, the way you made my eyes cry". Later I found out he considers himself an Atheist. How could I have shared my life with him and never known that he proclaims to not even believe in god. It took ten months for me to feel better. Everyone is different. But know that you are loved, you have a lovely child and that you must go on for his sake.