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God, I Need Some Faith!!!!!!!!!!

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Posted by: Copper

xMy name is Kimberly. My husband left me recently. He has not called except once to leave a message that he needed some more items. My husband and I got marrried one year and three months ago. I thought that we were both Christians, but am now unsure. I will start with a brief history. Of course, we did start off on a bad note where God is concerned because we lived together for about six months prior to our marriage. Our decision to get married was based upon the fact that we were living wrongly and we thought that it was best to do what God would want and get married. My husband and I have both been married before and both have two children with our previous spouses. These four children have all become best friends. We have had a pretty good marriage this past year, except for the normal stresses of bills and children. My husband put me through training to become a (career) this past year. This is a dream he always had and I had just considered. In the past five months since I have been in this job, tension has grown between us. Also, he has begun to view pornography on the internet a great deal. I always new he had had a past problem with this, but it seems as though it has definitely gotten worse. We have attended church off and on, and three weeks ago in church I could see that he was most certainly bothered by the sermon. For the past few months he began to devalue me and constantly bring up all of the negative things I was doing and how "uncool, or unhip" I was. He is extremely drawn to the world and to worldly things. It is as though he has a low self-esteem and he looks to worldly things to make himself feel better. For instance, he has been tanning and buying contact lenses instead of glasses. I thought that perhaps he was seeing someone and put pressure on him that way. I know now that this only pushed him away further. I also tried to appease him by attending a strip club with him. This was completely the wrong thing to do. He ended up just throwing this in my face. He says that the stresses of the children is the main problem. But, his children just come and visit every other weekend. He says he can not accept my children. My point is that two weeks ago he left me. He saved up his paychecks and just left. It all came to a head when he spanked my daughter and her father became angry and called local child agency. The agency came out to speak with us, and they were really not going to do anything except say for him not to spank her again. Now, he has his apartment which has absolutely nothing in it but a couch, mattress, and his dishes/personal items. His mother went by last night to check on him and she said that after twelve days she thought that he would be depressed and upset. She expected something totally different than what she got. She said he seemed so very, very happy and content. She said he proudly showed her his apartment!
Please tell me if there is any hope for us! We have four beautiful children whom miss each other a great deal and need to be raised in a stable environment. We have a big beautiful home and a dog. I don't understand how he could be so cold to me when just four weeks ago he was so "in love", putting my picture in his car ect. I know that some of the people he works with a leading him astray also, ie. drinking and bars ect. They are construction workers. Since he will not tell me where he lives, I feel as though I am just being shut off and have no way of influencing him to do otherwise. His mother is honoring his wish of not telling me where he is because she does not want to anger him. Please give me some direction.
Please write me back! I have prayed and prayed and I go from having peace to despair.
Someone please tell me if there is hope, as I see no sign of hope at all. He does not act as though he misses me or us or anything!!!
Thank you and God Bless You,
He is just being so set and for sure that he is not going to change his mind! I thought for sure all of our prayers would be working by now. I have not seen him in twelve days!!!!!! I am sorry I hate to sound like such a whiney baby, I am just desperate to have some sign from God!!!

kym_hanse**hotmail.com:x


Posted by: jedijeb

Copper, all I can do is say keep your focus on God and not on your husband or the situation. I know this is the most difficult advice to give, but it is also the only advice that I know is true. I know some of what you are feeling as I have gone through something similar with my fiance. It has been 4 months for us and we are slowly working things out, and she is slowly turning from her run from God. I do know that Satan attacks us with a fury that is unexplainable at times, maybe he is afraid that you are about to do something great for the Lord. I do know that through faith and much prayer ( more than you ever thought possible from one person and others ) that Satan can be defeated. God works on His own timetable, and also demands obedience from us. Now is the time to stay in church no matter what, to pray unceasingly that You fall under the guidance of the Holy Spirit and that your husband be convicted and called back to God to be a witness for Him. Do not give up, God never asked anyone to give up. Move forward into battle, be at the lead of the charge against Satan, if you fall God will pick you up again, but continue the charge.

Lord Jesus, I ask today that You equip Your daughter with the armour she needs to protect herself during this battle and that You give her the courage to lead the attack in this battle. Father help her to search out her heart and look for any sin that may be hidden there that she will bring it before You and remove it so that You can fully work through her. Lord I also come before You to ask that You work in her husband's life, convict him of his sins. Father in the name of Your Son Jesus, I rebuke the influence of Satan off his life, and ask that You replace the desires in his heart with the desires You would have for him. Lord block the paths that lead him from You and open the doors for him to return to You. Lord restore this marriage and family, bring it back to the witness for You that it was meant to be. For all these things, in Jesus' name I pray, Amen.


Posted by: Dawn

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Originally Posted by Copper
xMy name is Kimberly. My husband left me recently. He has not called except once to leave a message that he needed some more items. My husband and I got marrried one year and three months ago. I thought that we were both Christians, but am now unsure. I will start with a brief history. Of course, we did start off on a bad note where God is concerned because we lived together for about six months prior to our marriage. Our decision to get married was based upon the fact that we were living wrongly and we thought that it was best to do what God would want and get married. My husband and I have both been married before and both have two children with our previous spouses. These four children have all become best friends. We have had a pretty good marriage this past year, except for the normal stresses of bills and children. My husband put me through training to become a (career) this past year. This is a dream he always had and I had just considered. In the past five months since I have been in this job, tension has grown between us. Also, he has begun to view pornography on the internet a great deal. I always new he had had a past problem with this, but it seems as though it has definitely gotten worse. We have attended church off and on, and three weeks ago in church I could see that he was most certainly bothered by the sermon. For the past few months he began to devalue me and constantly bring up all of the negative things I was doing and how "uncool, or unhip" I was. He is extremely drawn to the world and to worldly things. It is as though he has a low self-esteem and he looks to worldly things to make himself feel better. For instance, he has been tanning and buying contact lenses instead of glasses. I thought that perhaps he was seeing someone and put pressure on him that way. I know now that this only pushed him away further. I also tried to appease him by attending a strip club with him. This was completely the wrong thing to do. He ended up just throwing this in my face. He says that the stresses of the children is the main problem. But, his children just come and visit every other weekend. He says he can not accept my children. My point is that two weeks ago he left me. He saved up his paychecks and just left. It all came to a head when he spanked my daughter and her father became angry and called local child agency. The agency came out to speak with us, and they were really not going to do anything except say for him not to spank her again. Now, he has his apartment which has absolutely nothing in it but a couch, mattress, and his dishes/personal items. His mother went by last night to check on him and she said that after twelve days she thought that he would be depressed and upset. She expected something totally different than what she got. She said he seemed so very, very happy and content. She said he proudly showed her his apartment!
Please tell me if there is any hope for us! We have four beautiful children whom miss each other a great deal and need to be raised in a stable environment. We have a big beautiful home and a dog. I don't understand how he could be so cold to me when just four weeks ago he was so "in love", putting my picture in his car ect. I know that some of the people he works with a leading him astray also, ie. drinking and bars ect. They are construction workers. Since he will not tell me where he lives, I feel as though I am just being shut off and have no way of influencing him to do otherwise. His mother is honoring his wish of not telling me where he is because she does not want to anger him. Please give me some direction.
Please write me back! I have prayed and prayed and I go from having peace to despair.
Someone please tell me if there is hope, as I see no sign of hope at all. He does not act as though he misses me or us or anything!!!
Thank you and God Bless You,
He is just being so set and for sure that he is not going to change his mind! I thought for sure all of our prayers would be working by now. I have not seen him in twelve days!!!!!! I am sorry I hate to sound like such a whiney baby, I am just desperate to have some sign from God!!!

kym_hanse**hotmail.com:x

Kimberly,
In my personal opinion, I feel God must work on your husband before he can bring him back. The most positive thing you can do now is continuing praying for him. I am happy to pray with you.
Lord, You have said in Your Word that by our patience we can possess our souls Luke 21:19 Give us patience so that we can do that . Help us to keep our hearts with all diligence for we know that out of it spring the issues of life Proverbs 4:23 May we be sensitive to the needs, trials, and weaknesses of others and not oversensitive to ourselves. Thank You Lord that in our distress we can call on You and when we cry out to You Lord You hear our voice and answer Psalm18:6 I pray You work on Kimberly's husband, curing him of all ungodly things and bring him back to his family, the whole man of God that you want him to be. Bless Kimberly and all their children and family members. May the joy of knowing You fill our hearts with peace and happiness and bring us the mind of Christ. In Jesus' name Amen


Posted by: Frederik

Hi Kimberly,
of course there is hope. God could help your husband and free him from his poisoned mind, the only question is wether your husband will let God do that. It's all about wether he's too proud to repent and too selfish to allow God to work on him or not. He definitely has huge problems and needs God's help but he must be willing to accept it. I'll pray for your situation.


Posted by: Copper

God I have given my husband to you, promising not to worry for him anymore, please continue to give me faith and hope for the future. Remind me that his salvation is more important than anything else and that my getting to know you better is also. I thank you and praise you above all others, AMEN.