Pages: 1

Lord, be our "Significant Other."

(Click here to view the original thread with full colors/images)

Posted by: JeriRose12

Lord, my heart is broken for those "Christians" who have no understanding of Your Word or principle regarding relationships. They have no understanding that it is OK to be single (Paul said he would that we were all like him -- single). They have no understanding that they are not to be with a non believer. Or they don't care (?). Lord, wake up single Christian people to the ONE TRUTH that they need to realize -- they need to love the Lord their God with all their heart, soul, mind and strength. They need to delight in the Lord and He will give them the desires of their heart.

Let them know that if they are unhappy now, they will be unhappy if they get married. One can not expect someone else to make them happy. One must find happiness with God. Please show singles that they can not be expecting someone to complete them or make the whole. Wholeness is a state God brings one to as we bring ourselves to You and let You touch us and heal us EVERYWHERE. Let Christian singles come to the realization that it is not a person that satisfies us, it is YOU. If You are not satisfying us it is because we are not pressing in hard enough.

I see the Christian dating sites on line, and it is only propregating this idea of finding our "soul mate" or "other half." Lord, teach us that YOU must be our soul mate, and that we are not HALF a person. If we do feel like half a person, we can come to You, and You will complete us. If we have holes in our soul, empty places inside us, YOU will fill them. You are the one who makes us complete and makes us whole. You are the one who satisfies, fulfills, rewards, makes happy. YOU are our everything and all. You are the great love of our life. We need seek no fruther than You.

Lord, help singles to become OK with their singleness, to be content just to follow You one day at a time. Remove that constant wanting or needing of a member of the opposite sex. Give them peace. Let them rest in You, fall in love with You, focus on You.... Lord, take the stress out of our lives due to the constant pressure from the world that the world moves in pairs. Help us to realize that we are a pair with YOU. You and me = 2. Yet, You and me makes ONE who is whole. I am whole and complete in You; I am OK with being single.

Show singles the plan and purpose You have for them. Let them have a passion for You and a passion to fulfill that thing You have called them to do. Let them know that if they just go along doing whatever You call them to next, they will eventually be called to the person they are to marry (unless You are calling them to be single). Father, I heard recently that we should go out looking for God -- not a mate -- and as we are looking for You, You will bring that person across our path. That has been my motto for a while now. When someone worded it that way, I thought -- bingo!

Lord God, some may not understand what I pray here or know the passion that drives it. I have seen so many coming on this site asking for prayer. Many of them our in messed up relationships -- with "Christians" who don't treat them well, with the unsaved who do treat them well.... or with somoen who is just wrong for them for whatever reason. Lord God, by how they explain things or pray, it seems obvious they are not in good relationships. There is no indication that You have called them to be with who they're with. A relationship of You is not going to be so difficult. They are not going to have to BEG God to put them together or try to froce the person to be with them.

Once a person is married, we pray for the healing of the marriage.... but if I can stop one person from ending up in a troubled marriage by my advice or prayers or both, that is what I want to see. I do not pray what I pray or advise what I advise to hurt anyone or to say God can't save the unsaved boyfriend/girlfriend or change the "saved" person they are with. I do it to save them grief, to keep them from going through years of pain that could have been avoided.

I mostly do it to help them see what is RIGHT in God's eyes. I care that they please and love God ABOVE ALL. Just because a person is a Christian and even a GOOD Christian doesn't mean they should be with him/ her. You know best, God. You have the VERY BEST in mind for us. You have the RIGHT person for us, the person we can fulfill our purpose on earth with. As T.D. Jakes said, we need to marry the person who unites us with our purpose. That is who a Christian should be looking for. As Kenneth Copeland said we need to look for the person who increases the anointing in our life. That is also what a Christian should be looking for. This is not about what we want; this is about what You want. There is a purpose so much bigger than ourselves. We can not see the whole plan. If it doesn't seem to be working out with someone, rather than begging and pleading with God to make it work, a single should just let go and let God. If that person goes, it was never meant to be. God will bring the right person in HIS time.

Father, show singles that we were made SINGLES first. We were not born married. You made the indiviual (Adam), then You created the mate (Eve) and brought the two together. We came out of the womb SINGLE. You died for the INDIVIDUAL. The individual must get saved, healed and delivered, and then when they match with someone else saved, healed and delivered, You are honored and glorified. This was teaching from Miles Munroe: The man was fulfilling his purpose (taking care of The Garden), THEN You brought his wife to him.

Dear Lord, so much to pray regarding this, so much on my heart.... Please do not let singles be DESPERATE to find someone. Please do not let them buy the lie that that will solve their problems and make them happy. Let them know that YOU will solve their problems and make them happy! This is pushed at us on TV, in the dramas, in the ads, in the sit coms.... so much about how being with someone is what makes one happy. I pray that single Christians will be wooed to Your side in such a way that they will see through this lie. I pray they will not be pressured by married Christians to become married. Help them to not care what others think. Help them to not believe just having a significant other will make them happy. Help them to relax and enjoy You and enjoy life.

Also, Lord, there is that area of hormones. That can be much on a single's mind. They can think they need someone for that reason. But give them/us the wisdom of how to fight these hormonal urges. Do not let us give into unhealthy and sinful methods of dealing with this area. You know the areas singles struggle with, the various temptations they face. Lord, if we chose to be single, we must chose to be pure. Help us in that area. Help us get our mind on You, so that we will not dwell on thoughts of sex. I know the tempations and struggles, for I have been there. Father, when my thougts get on that, I just turn my thoughts to You, start focusing on You, meditating on You, praising You.... And, truly, it is the tesitmony of my life, that my thoughts get off that subject. Help my fellow singles and myself to be able to do this. Put on Christian music, a preaching or teaching program, a Christian movie with wholesome principles, read the Bible, pray and talk to God.... all of these things are great tools to help us refocus on things above, not on things of the earth.

So many are with someone who treats them horribly or is unsaved. This, I do not understand. The Bible says woman are to have a husband who loves them as Christ loves the church. Men are to be with wives who have a gentle and quiet spirit in The Lord. If that person is mean or unsaved neither of these is happening. Poeple will ask prayer to be with someone who is treating them poorly, and that person does not at all match up to the Biblical standard for a husband/wife. Or they are with the unsaved, possibly a nice person, but by no means someone God would call them to be with. Your Word says we should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. So why do people ask for prayer for their unsaved boyfriend/girlfriend or fiance? Why would they date, or even worse, be engaged to someone who does not share their faith in Jesus Christ? Help these people who do not trust You enough to bring someone better, who treats them with the respect they deserve IN THE LORD, to leave these wrong people and live in trust that You WILL bring someone better.

There is the related issue of those who come on here asking for prayer when they are living with someone. They want that relationship blessed, yet You can not and will not bless it. Poeple who are living together out-side of marriage are going to go to hell unless they repent and get right with You. They often get mad when we quote those scriptures to them. The Word of God says this, yet they say "Who are you to judge me?" Lord, bring these people to repentance. Let them get saved, healed and delivered. Let them be sanctified and filled with Your Holy Spirit. Let them set themselves apart from relationships with the opposite sex and wait until You bring someone who is right for them.... I pray that they will be patient. I pray they will fall deeply in love with You. Give them second virgintiy and purity. Perhaps, they will be single and celebate until they go to heaven. Let these people know they can survive without a person. Let them know they can survive without sex. Help them to know that IN YOU they can be happy, satisfied, fulfilled, FREE!

I pray that singles everywhere will put You first in all things, will fall deeply in love with You, will endlessly chase You...until they find You. And, in the process of pursuing You, let them also find that person that You have called them to be with...or let them discover that they are called to be single. Maybe only single for a season. But if today, as they seek You, they are called to be single, let them just enjoy seeking You and relax into their singleness. Do not let them worry about whether the future holds someone. Let them find that happiness and satisfaction that You alone can provide. Let them rest in YOUR ARMS, not be seeking the arms of a person. Yes, I know we sometimes crave that "Jesus with skin on," that touch of a man or woman. But let us love and crave YOUR TOUCH only. Let us make YOU everything. Let us truly come after You in a passionate, relentless way! Let us not seek and pursue a person or relationship with a perosn. Let us seek and pursue YOU!!!

Father, I ask and pray these things, in Jesus Name, amen.

Also, Lord, it just came to me, don't let singles be "dating around." Let singles just wait for the right person or be content to be with no-one unitl heaven if that is what they are called to. Don't let them become emotionally attached or phsycially attached to people who are all wrong for them. Let them GLADLY remove themselves from the dating game, which really only leads to broken hearts. Let them wait patiently, loving You and trusting You in all things.

Again, I ask and pray, in Jesus Name, amen.

~JeriRose~
Finding YOU in 2006


Posted by: Rachel R

Coming in complete agreement with you...

Many hearts have been broken. If only they all knew these truths.

God bless you, dear. You are a wise woman of God.


Rachel R


Posted by: Chimbamu

I agree with this and with this prayer.

We pray for those of us who are single and who desire to be married for the Lord to lead them to their husbands or wives, We pray for strength during the time of singleness, to love God with all of our hearts, our minds, and our strength n (soul) and to love our neighbour as ourselves, and take care of others.

I pray too for those who are married that they may remember the needs of others today. In Jesus' name we pray. Amen and Amen


Posted by: JeriRose12

Thank you for praying with me. This is so much on my mind after praying with so many who want to be with someone not chosen by God for them.

Lord, send REVIVAL to singles. We get self-centered, often, and that is why we are looking for someone to make us "happy." Lord God, wake us up to YOU and to the happiness YOU give.bring! I pray that singles lives are radicalized by You! Let them be sold out to Jesus Christ! And, yes, let us love our neighbor as ourselves -- help those You bring us to help, and not think that it isn't as good as helping a mate and children. The Bible says the baren woman will have more children than the married one!!! I claim that for my life! Send me spiritual sons and daughters or real ones in the sense of helping them socially. Lord, I pray that singles are not in a hurry. Give them peace and contentment in You, today. In Jesus Name, amen.

~JeriRose~
Finding YOU in 2006


Posted by: ninababy73

Wow, sis! God bless you for this. I pray that many read and receive this prayer in their spirit.

Father, I don't have much to say except that I pray in full heartfelt agreement. Amen


Posted by: eagle4him

Wonderful prayer. I heard it said by John Bevere that Christian dating is nothing more than preparation for Christian divorce. No more dating! Wait upon the Lord to bring to you the desires of your heart. Prepare yourself now, for the mate that the Lord has chosen for you.

Throw out your checklist, lift up your shield of faith and count your blessings now while you are single and free to worship the Lord in all things.

Be careful who you get "yoked" to. A mountain climber has to be able to trust the ones that he is tied to. One slip and they all fall off the face of the cliff.

So too, watch out that the one you get tied up with doesn't slip--or the two of you just might end up in the ditch (Matt 15:14--blind leading the blind)


Posted by: JeriRose12

Thanks, Nina and Bruce. Sometimes, I honestly feel like one of few Christian singles who knows RIGHT from WRONG in how to live for the Lord when single.

Lord God, You know everything I just typed, that got lost....flew off to who knows where? But I believe an angel carried it to heaven, right up to Your throne. Or perhaps it was carried on the wings of wind of The Holy Spirit. But You heard EVERY WORD.

Lord, my heart was meditating on so many other heart braking aspects of what goes on in the church with singles. With the attitudes that have crept in, how can I even believe they are SAVED? Seeking after every pleasure the world has to offer, when at Your right hand our pleasures FOREVERMORE? Why do Christian singles not know YOU as their source of pleasure? And treating churches as a social club? Going to a church based on what it has to offer -- or to find a mate. NO, NO, NO!!! Church is about YOU, not US!!! The reason the Christians (in The New Testament) met was to learn about Christ and how to follow Him. I even heard one lady say she wasn't attending the singles meeting, because she wanted to stay home and watch the last episode of a television show that glorified sin and sex. Lord, how do Christians ever hope to live right if that's what they are feeding their minds with? It has become common place for "Christian" singles to sleep with those they date. One request was about this single man who was the music minister in his church but had slept with many women over the years.... but the prayer request was for us to pray as to whether she should marry this man. I have heard this and know it to be the truth: "Christian" singles read porn, and they commit that sin that many won't call sin, that begins with M. On and on.... Seeking after everything but YOU to satisfy them! Believing the lie the world keeps putting in our face -- that sex will make us happy! AT YOUR HAND OUR PLEASURES FOREVERMORE!!! The eternal truth of scripture!!!

I pray, Lord, for REVIVAL in our churches, and let one of the evidences be that singles are TRANSFROMED INTO THE IMAGE OF CHRIST, Who was the ultimate single!!!

I ask and pray, these things, in Jesus Name, amen!

~JeriRose~
Finding YOU in 2006


Posted by: Lynn7

An absolutely wonderful book for singles in Christ to read is No More Sheets by Juanita Bynum (now Dr. Juanita Bynum-Weeks). It is real, exact testimony about her life as a single in Christ. She illustrates wonderfully the struggle that single men and women go through. She even outlines some rules for dating while single. She also explains wonderfully what we do to our bodies, spirits, and souls when we become tied to someone through sex before marriage. She speaks to both the man and the woman. She even talks about porn, and "the m word". I suggest every single Christian read it. This is her testimony! When I read it I thought praise God someone understands exactly what I am going through. Bless the Lord for testimony.


Posted by: JeriRose12

I have heard Jaunita preaching on this subject. It is powerful stuff. As one who is still single, I wish I could get out and tell these truths to more singles. Praying for openings to do so.

~JeriRose~
Finding HIM in 2006


Posted by: JeriRose12

On an interesting/amusing note, I just received and email called, "Still single" that was for a website for singles called "Dream mates." Ever since getting my most recent email address, I seem to get a ton of these single site ads. It is a temptation to go over there and see if this just might be the one that will match me up with the elusive "Mr. Right."

I tried the eHarmony site. I just couldn't seem to find anyone with the number one thing I am searching for. After a while, I decided it was a drain on my finances, so I canceled my membership. It was a fleece issue, as I feel God has told me some things about the person I will marry. I went there to see if God might possibly bring him to me through eHarmony. So, nothing against eHarmony, per se, if was just that later I figured God wasn't using that method to bring me the man I think He promised me.

I went back to the "Search for God, and in the process you will find your mate" motto of life.

~JeriRose~
Finding HIM in 2006


Posted by: Lynn7

Something that I have determined is that we cannot rush God's hand in anything. We cannot force Him to come through with the rent money when we want Him to. We cannot force Him to give us the precise job that we want Him to when we want Him to. Our testimonies has taught many of us that God's plan for our lives in everything else is so much better then ours. When we turn left because we want to and He is urging us to go right in a matter of time we find ourselves praying and begging God to get back right. I am not ashamed to admit that over the years I've done something (pick a subject) without consulting God and then I found myself on my face begging God to fix what I could've avoided. When I gave my life over to Him everything started to go some much smoother. I remember the day I said "ok God you when I keep making the wrong decision, Your will for my life not mine". What is so beautiful about that is when I started to serve Him, our wills matched. I wanted to please Him so giving up was very satisfying. We learn this lesson with everything else so easily except for when it comes to finding a mate. I determined that I wanted my husband to love me like Christ loves me. I wanted him to fall in love with my spirit. I threw out all of the height, career, body type, etc requirements and finally got it. Learning how to be led by the spirit is wonderful. That "holy radar" warns you when a friend is not a friend, when you should keep your mouth shut, when and where you should move to, you begin to acknowledge God in all of the details even the small ones. You recognize His voice and His urgings. So much like the other areas of my life, I said God I want a godly ordained marriage. I give this area of my life to you. I trust that I will hed your urgings. If it is this person then praise God, if it is not then praise God. Because God I trust you. You have been exactly where I am and have walked out my walk. If I give it to you then I know that I will not mess it up. I am giving it to you and I am not going to continue "checking in". Every once in a while I say thank you for preparing my mate for our ministry together. Thank you for the desire to be married. But most of all thank you for delaying my requests to be married. I can see how if I would've gotten what I wanted when I wanted it I would have made a mess out of things. Another wonderful lesson the Lord has taught me was learning the difference between my spirit, my body, and my soul. When my soul cries out in loneliness, when my emotions bring tears to my eyes, when my heart is breaking, or when my body is crying out for human contact (a hug, or hand holding etc) I reach out to the ultimate lover with my spirit. He loves me in a way that no man could satisfy. He whispers the words that speak to my very spirit. Tears of loneliness become tears of worship. I have met Him as brother, Father, Friend, and now lover. "Falling in love with Jesus is the best thing that I've ever done". I am patient with those who are not here yet because God has placed a desire for human contact within us. He has placed a desire to love and be loved. Unfortunately the enemy has taken that perverted it. Women and men who have been sexually involved have to go through a purification process. Soul ties have to be broken and it is not an easy process. You have to have people who love you who are willing to pray you through when you are weak. Many tears will be shed and at times it is physically painful. But you have to rid yourself of all of the spiritual deposits that your partner (or partners) have left inside of you. Your warfare is unique.

Jeri, singles is also an area that is near and dear to my heart. I am currently writing a book (actually I should say that Holy Spirit is using me to write a book) for single women. I understand your passion. Bless you.


Posted by: JeriRose12

Thanks for the encouragement, Lynn. Some think I am saying never marry or that I will never marry. What I am saying most of all is: Fall in love with Jesus! Closely related is: It's about what HE wants, not about what I want. If I am praying for MY will to be done, I will most likely make a mess of my life. So, just be patient, love on HIM, and wait for His best.... or never get married, if that's what He asks of you.

Since I've been single this long, I feel God has some plan to use my singleness. I think He promised someone to me, but since I am not with that someone yet, then surely he has some plan for my single years.

I know it can sound pat, but truly Jesus can become your EVERYTHING. He has become mine. Well, being single, I had to let Him be EVERYTHING to me. I guess I have always sought Him from the early years and wanted to be close to Him, but as the singleness progressed, I just sought Him more. Jesus is the only way I have survived the single years with any sense of sanity. You can't stay pure or keep celebate without pressing, hard, into Jesus. If you get lax and coast.... well, it isn't a good plan. When these kind of temptations come at you, the best thing to do is focus on Jesus. I am setting a standard with the things I watch, read, listen to, etc. Movies with sex scenes.... VERY BAD PLAN!!! Etc. I know Christians who say this stuff is OK. I say "No way!"

Anyway, I really wish to see a huge transformation in the lives of "Christian" singles. I am happy that in my church the singles group does not seem to exist to make matches. It is truly for fellowship and friendship. I have not attended, though older singles do go. There current session is on prayer, so that would be right up my ally. I don't drive, so it's hard for me to get to there. But I feel that singles groups need to be sure to focus on how to help Christian singles live single successfully, rather than just existing to match singles up with someone.

~JeriRose~
Finding HIM in 2006 (The Year Of The Double Portion!)


Posted by: Nessa

Thank you, JeriRose. Relationships of any kind, even those the Lord has brought together, are never perfect and never completely easy because they bring together seperate, individual human beings who live in a culture that ties that human being to others (parents, siblings, children, etc.). And we are so, so imperfect. One thing that does grieve me, like it does you and Lynn, and some others is promiscuity. If you read my original "introduction"/testimony and the one, a couple of months back, about my ex, then you know, I still pay a price for earlier promiscuity (healthwise and emotionally). Oh, if someone had only told us (my ex pays a price too) and if we had only heeded the Word. Romans 1 and I Thessalonians 4 are very clear about that and the ramifications thereof. I guess I am just appalled that we take the Word seriously about "answering our prayers," but not about living Godly lifestyles. And the Lord will NOT bless over sin. As you know, Jason has been in for two weeks on leave and I can tell you it is difficult to send him "home," to his momma, but do you know how embarrassing it would have been, as a known believer to do the opposite? Difficult? To a degree, but if two become one without COMMITMENT it cannot last and then what happens when the other is gone? Do you know how many believers, who go to Bible Study with me every Monday, assumed he was staying with me? I was stunned and they wanted to know "why not?" Why not! Friday night, at his leaving party, I had to explain that 3 times and each time to believers not unbelievers! They haven't read their Word, nor has "sin" been preached. It doesn't just harm us but it harms our testimony and our Lord, it puts a stumbling block before others. From codependency to media, keep raising the standard of sanctification (yes, I know it is an old timey word but it is a GOLD standard), JeriRose. You are appreciated.


Posted by: Beverlyjoy

I'm in agrement wwith all of the above. Having been a widow for the past six(6) yrs and having been married for fortytwo (42) loneliness all of a sudden has tried to over take me. However I'm not asking God for a Spouse becauseHe knows what's best for me. My Pastor taught me to learn how to be content wwith my life. Therefore I'm focusing more on Christ and His will for me. I stay busy in many ways which has caused my loved one's to call me the ''ant''. Sometimes we may feel like we want to/need to get married. But is that God's will. Are we ready to give up our "independence"?. I'm in agreement that there are wolves in sheep clothing who prey on those who are desperate for a mate and that results in terrible relationships. I encourage all singles that we lift one another up in prayer that God will strengthen us in our weak moments. I advise all of my young spiritual daughters to wait on God. A brother stated to me the other day that the young ladies should work for the Lord and if there is a Boaz in her future he will "find " her. I also remind those who tell me that" God is my husband" that is a statement that is so untrue (to Me). He is my source, my provider, my peace, my happiness etc. We can't listen to every statement that comes from others who think they are giving words of wisdom, but it is really the enemy who would try to trick us into demeaning ourselves. Thank you everyone for your stmts and be reminded that your prayes and stmts can help singles of all ages. I am 69 But I thank God for being a Holy woman of wisdom and Honor and full of Godly energy. God bless you all


Posted by: JeriRose12

Yes, someone asked me if I lived with my boyfriend once, having no concept I would NEVER do that (I didn't even have a boyfriend at that time). But this was the Pastor's son-in-law and I thought he would just know I wouldn't do that. He asked so kind of casually, like there was nothing wrong with it.... though, I know he waited until he was married for sex, from what I heard. I wanted to say something forceful, like "I don't believe in living togehter!" I can't remember what I told him. But I was offended he would even think that. So.... I guess it's so common place, that most people just assume that. That was a number of years ago, too.

Thanks for the strong stand Nessa! You have blessed me with that!

Thanks BeverlyJoy for not being focused on the "need" for a new man.

I prayed for years for a man, often begged God.... but now I have realized that a man is not going to solve my problems. It would be nice to have a companion, one who is strong & independant and will not lean on me for happiness but is already happy in God. It would be awesome to be in ministry together. I have waited long enough to find out WHO I AM, and now I am looking for man who knows WHO HE IS. Most of all, I am looking for a God chaser, who hungers and thirsts for God's Presence. That must be thing he can not survive without -- God!!! If he acts as though he can't survive without me (co-dependancy), I have no desire to be with him.

Anyway.... time to get ready for work.

All the support is a HUGE encouragement, as I feel so many singles today have no concepts of right and wrong regarding single life. Another awesome book, and the one I realized I am practicing is, "I Kissed Dating Goodbye." It may be for a little younger audiance -- as Joshua Harris starts with his high school dating around. But that book put a lot of hope back in my heart that there ARE Christians out there preaching the truth about relationships. Someone clearly DOES know right from wrong! I praise the Lord that James Dobson is everlastingly at it, too! And others come to mind.

~JeriRose~
Finding HIM in 2006 (The Year Of The Double Portion!)


Posted by: JeriRose12

Lord, bless and strengthen my single brothers and sisters to live successful Christian lives. I pray that they do not fall to the pitfalls of sin. Show them the way of escape whenever temptation knocks. Let them not give in, but look to You to lead them AWAY from temptation (Lead us not into temptation). I pray, Lord, that we will know that the steps of a righteous man are ordered of The Lord, and we will rest in that truth. Let us not be impatient and stressed that we are not married. I remeber some days when I was nearly frantic because of the hormones -- yet, I had no husband. Lord God, truly give us ways to deal with these and other frustrations of being single. Whatever happens, do not let us give into sin because we get weary in well doing. I am sure we all think at times of throwing the whole thing over.... just going out and following the whims of the flesh. Why live this way? Etc.? Lord, continue to uphold and make us strong! Let us continue to fight the good fight of faith. Let us trust, whether we continue single or find someone, that You know what is best for us. And that You will give us the strength to be single in purity if that is the call on our lives. I thank You and praise You for answering these prayers. In Jesus Name, amen.

~JeriRose~
Finding YOU in 2006 (The Year Of The Double Portion!)


Posted by: JeriRose12

Father, please change the hearts and minds of singles. Transform them into the image of Your Son. Let them walk pure and holy before You. I pray they will put away worthless idols. As singles we can go after so many things to fill the lack of having mate and children to do things with. Lord, help us to live as YOU would have us live, seeking after You and serving others. I pray that we can see our lives as You see them -- with great value. Our value is not attatched to having a person of the opposite sex to love. Remind us of that DAILY! Show us plainly how much You love us and how much we can love others. Make our lives meaningful and fruitful. Give us more sons and daughters than the married. Send those into our lives whom we will minister to and help.... Perhaps, even an overwhelmed mother or a couple who needs a break from their children. Set the solitary in families. Do not let us feel lonely, but surround us by good, Godly friends who do not seem to think we are less because we are single. Father, send us those who will not pressure us to get married, but will understand that we are on a journey of becoming complete in You, just as they must be in order to have a successful marriage. Let our lives be mighty witensses for You in this single state or should we get married. Let us always be in a progression of getting nearer and closer to You. Do not let our focus be on finding humans to get close to, but as we get close to You, let us find those people who also simly disire to get closer and closer and closer to You. When that happens, we will find those quality friendships and that possible marriage minded relationship. Lord, give us strength for each day to remain right before You. Do not let us pursue relationships as the world pursues. Let us PURSUE YOU!!! I pray and ask these things, in Jesus Name, amen.

~JeriRose~
Finding YOU in 2006 (The Year Of The Double Portion!)


Posted by: Nessa

Lord thank You for being our all and all. Lord we praise You for the fulfillment You give to our lives. Help fellow believers, Lord, to see You are the only "soulmate" humankind has. Lord all others are "helpmates," and unless the other is doing something to "help" them with no one can be a "helpmate" to them. Help us to know Your Word and live by it. Lord thank for for control of our flesh and control of our lives. We will not fail to give You the glory. In Jesus Name. Amen.


Posted by: firekracker

Father, whole heartedly praying in agreement - for all of us singles and for those who aren't single to realize being single is OK.


Posted by: JeriRose12

Father, send us understanding -- the single and the married. Let the married not pressure us to be married, and let us not pressure ourselves that we should be married. I admit I have felt there is someone for me, and I ask (less frequently now) what I have done wrong not to be with him yet. Help us accept that singleness (even if we do marry some day) is OK. It is not just a wiating period. Help us see it is a time to minister to You and for You.

Lord, I thank You for the independence, the time to be able to pray long hours, to wait on You when I want.... Some day, when I marry, this will not be possible. Help me enjoy this and thank You for this now. Remove the longing for marriage that keeps me from enjoying and appreciating the now.

Cause me/us to be faithful to whatever You are calling us to do in our single lives. Help us to be tuned into You and what You are telling us.... not selfishly looking for ways to satisfy and please ourselves. Let us pursue You, not the things of the world.

I pray that we will spend our days loving You and becoming the best us we can be in You. Let us be the bride (of Christ) that makes herself ready for the marriage supper of the Lamb. As we develop the character of Christ, then we will develop what it takes to make it with an earthly mate. Help us to prepare ourselves for YOU and YOU alone, then we will be ready for the earthly person You may bring for us to love. As we are filled with You and the fruits of Your Spirit, then we will have the attributes that will make marriage successful -- love, joy, peace, long suffering, gentleness, goondness, faith, temperance, meekness. Work these things into our lives. Work Your character into us, that we may be to the praise of Your glory, single or married.

I ask and pray these things, in Jesus Name, amen.

~JeriRose~
Finding YOU in 2006 (The Year Of The Double Portion!)


Posted by: JeriRose12

Lord God, I lift up singles to You today. Let us honor You with our lives. Let us reject the ideas and things of the world and set our hearts to seek You. You are asking us to come apart and be seperate, and be santified unto You.... Your desire is that we seek YOU, not a significant other. When the time is right (unless we are called to be single), You will bring that person. Right now, this is what You are asking of us....


Posted by: JeriRose12

Lord, let us seek YOU, not what You can do for us (including asking You to bring us someone). My prayer, Lord, is that singles will know the simple joy of waking up in the morning in YOUR ARMS and talking to You early in the morning (Early in the morning will I seek You -- Psalm 63:1 and Proverbs 1:28) before they start their day. Continue to call us into that secret chamber, alone with You, where we will have every desire of our hearts met -- for YOU ARE EVERY DESIRE OF OUR HEART. And, if we do not view You as that, then show us this truth. YOU TRULY ARE ALL we need! Not to be trite, because I have found it to be true. Whenever I am not at peace inside and feel disastified it gets back to a realization that I haven't been seeking You as strongly as before. Father God, continue to woo us by Your Holy Spirit to the side of Jesus. Let us taste and see that the Lord is good. Do not let us give up during spiritually dry times and do not let us go seeking for other things to make us happy. Even when we don't "feel" it, let us continue to seek You, knowing that love is about T-I-M-E, not about feelings. Let us give our T-I-M-E to You, not to the worthless pursuits we so often get caught up in. I ask for hearts dedicated and set apart to You. Bless us in our pursuit of You. Show us Your Glory!!! These things I ask and pray, in Jesus Name, amen!!!

~JeriRose~
Finding YOU in 2006 (The Year Of The Double Portion!)


Posted by: JeriRose12

Continue to help and strengthen us to seek You, Lord. You know the thoughts of my mind and the longings in my heart earlier.... Help me to rest in You and know it's in Your timing. Give me patience. Let me fall in love with You all over again and quit wanting the elusive "him." Father, I need to be saturated in Your love. In Jesus Name, amen.

~JeriRose~
Finding YOU in 2006 (The Year Of The Double Portion!)


Posted by: JeriRose12

Bumping this up for people's attention. Kind of tired tonight, but want to keep this going. Give us the strength we need in every area in every temptation we face, whether it is to get depressed, to feel desperate, to have sex, to view/read porn, the M-word sin, to veg on TV/movies, to go out with the wrong person or friends (because we're lonely). Whatever our particular need as a single is, help us to find the satisfaction in You, so that we aren't filling the void with the wrong things or people. Teach us make You are everything, so we quit looking to relationships to make us happy. The relationship with You must be the top priority. Fill us with Your Holy Spirit so we have the love, joy, peace, long suffering, genteness, goodness, faith, temperance, meekness. Help us not to play pity party. Help us to strengthen ourselves in the Lord. Help us to see this thing clearly -- rather than crying that we aren't with someone, let us think of all we will give up. May we count the blessings of being single.

In fact, here I go. Why I'm glad I'm single:

More time to seek the Lord

More time to pray on anointed.net

Only answer to the Lord, not a person who I have to constantly consider his needs and wishes (and, of course, the spiritual authorities God puts over me)

I know more who I am in the Lord than ever, and I know I will only marry someone who also knows and appreciates who I am.

I have developed a beautiful relationship with the Lord.

Don't have to spend all my money to keep a family going.... can use some of it to go places, do things, etc. that I otherwise maybe couldn't.

Don't have to fight with someone over what to watch on TV or listen to on radio or CD.

Can do things on a whim, because no-one else's time schedule has to be considered.

Don't have to work hard at making a marriage work.

Can be devoted to the Lord without trying to please a husband (which devides your attention).

I have had awesome times in God's Presence, because I had the TIME to seek Him for hours.

Don't have to decide between responsibilities to husband/chhildren vs. God

It keeps me more focused on God being my Provider (not viewing my husband as that, since I want to be a stay-at-home wife should I marry).

Oppuritunities to serve others without considering the time it takes away from my family

Can sit quietly in my room without a husband or children coming in demanding something of me

Have had long, uninterrupted times of writing -- though haven't focused on it much lately

Able to read a book without being constatnly interrupted

Etc. Can see the pattern developing here.


Not that marriage is not wonderful, Lord, when one is with the right person. I just want singles to consider how blessed this time in life can be. I want them to consider the cost of marriage, so they don't sit around whining about not having someone. Help singles to realize we will give up so much independance when we marry. I pray that we can focus on what's good not the negatives of being single. It seems to narrow down to: I feel inferior or incomplete without someone.

Lord, help us to realize we have an oppurtunity like married people don't. If they have a good marriage, they can make their mate their god, in the sense that he/she makes them so happy, they quit looking to God for their satisfaction and fulfillment. If they are in a bad marriage, they can get so disastified that they start to think that if their mate would just do what's right, they would be happy. Thus, rather than remembering that God should make them happy, they keep expecting their mate to make them happy. In that sense their mate becomes their god. They put their expectation for happiness on their mate rather than on You.

But, Lord, as singles, we have the prime oppurtunity to focus on YOU as our God. I know that many singles don't do that, and that is why I started this thread. Many singels are making their future mate their god already. They talk about their Jesus with skin on (even I have said that before), how they would be happy if they got married, how they are not complete or whole as a single. Etc. Father, my prayer is that singles will realize this awesome oppurtunity they posess: the chance to be close, close, close to You, closer than many may ever become.

Lord God, many are pining over those they wish to be with or are with. I pray that You will show them plainly to quit wishing on the wrong people. Please set these singles free from wrong relationships! Many would never even come in this thread or at least admit to it. But, Father, I pray for the deliverance of singles, so they can be IN YOUR WILL for this season of their lives. Show them the light; show them the path to freedom. Show them the trouble they have brought into their lives by being in unecessary relationships. Please set those free that are trying to hold onto or get into a relationship that You have no desire for them to be in or remain in.

I ask and pray these things, in Jesus Name, amen.

~JeriRose~
Finding YOU in 2006 (The Year Of The Double Portion!)


Posted by: JeriRose12

Father God, keep us from loniness, unhappiness and desperation. Let us learn as Paul did to be content in whatever state we are in. Don't let us pursue a person whom we think will take away our lonliness, but let us pursue YOU alone. Do not let us look for a person to make us happy, when only YOU can make us happy. I ask that we will let go of deserpation and be flooded with peace. Lord, teach us to look to YOU to be EVERYTHING to us. Don't let us pursue relationships not of You, but let us pursure YOU only, and in that process, You will make plain if the right person is in our lives. Help us, Lord, to be faithful to pursue You! Give us a wild passion for You, and let us chase after You relentlessly. Make it so we don't even have time to pursue a relationship, because we are SO BUSY chasing You! Let our eyes stay upon You, and when that right person is in our lives, they will direct our eyes and focus right back to You. Let it be so! In Jesus Name, amen.

~JeriRose~
Finding YOU in 2006 (The Year Of The Double Portion!)


Posted by: JeriRose12

Lord God, be LORD of our lives. If any singles ou there are dating people they should not be with, people You have not put in their lives, I pray that they will let that relationship go. Do not let us entangle ourselves in the affairs of men, thinking we have to be with someone to be happy. Help us to know that to be WITH YOU is the greatest happiness on earth! How single minded toward You we can be! Help us to embrace and celebrate that, not be continually searching for someone. The Bible is plain, one who is married looks to how to please their mate, one who is single looks to how to please God with undevided devotion. Neither is better. But as singles, we must not be in a hurry to be with someone because we think it's what we need or want or what's right. The world, and even the church, pushes this idea about being with someone. That "Are you ever going to get married?" question gets old. Maybe we are not called to be married, and what's wrong with that? The church acts like their is something wrong with being single. They always want to match you up with someone. They think if your a "nice girl" you should be with a guy. Oh, Lord, cause us to be single minded, whoely devoted to You! Remove that insatiable desire to be with a significant other. YOU are to be our signigicant other! I pray that You would deliver singles today from the person they are with who is not right for them, and deliver us who aren't with someone from the idea that something is wrong with us because we aren't. Make us patient to await Your timing in ALL things. Let us get out of wrong relationships and not rush into relationships not of You. Give us wisdom, Lord! Give us YOU! I ask and pray, in Jesus Name, amen.

~JeriRose~
Finding YOU in 2006 (The Year Of The Double Portion!)


Posted by: JeriRose12

Lord, I know and am sure that I am going to marry the man described in Psalm 112. It is not an issue of preparing for marriage, though; it is an issue of being the best child of God I can be, single or married. I will wait patiently for such a Godly man, so I wait....

Help us to be satisfied in You, as singles. Help us not to be expecting to meet a man/woman who will make us happy or whole. We must rely on You for that, and we must ask You to heal us.

We must continually come to You so that we may become Christ-like. Fill us continually with Your Holy Spirit, that we may have love, joy, peace, long suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, temperance, meekness. Let us have the character of Christ coming out in us, not because we want to be a good husband or wife, but because we want to be the BEST individual we can be. May we becoem daily more Christ-like.

And rather than whining that we are alone or expected to remain celebate, let us know that serving and loving You is the greatest life we could chose and that at Your hand our pleasures forevermore. Let us know the beautiful, awesome, special reward that is ours for remaining sexually pure. Father God, transform us into the image of Your dear son, the ultimate single. His purpose was to do the will of The Father Who sent Him. So let this be OUR will.

~JeriRose~
Finding YOU in 2006 (The Year Of The Double Portion!)


Posted by: JeriRose12

Father, encourage singles who so want to be married. Be their satisfaction. Be the fulfillment for which they seek. Make them HUNGRY for You and THIRSTY for You. Fulfill that hunger and thirst that You give them. Let them quit seeking a mate and start seeking You. Keep them from pursuing people for their happioness -- whether opposite sex or friends. Let them not be looking for a mate but be looking for You.

Lord God, help us to know plainly what we want in a mate. Let us search Your Word to find the character traits that the person we marry should have and let a person with those traits be what we want. Don't let us find someone we like, who does not have Godly character, then pray that they get it.... Let us not become emotionally attached to such a person! Let us look for YOU, and in the process we will find You in a person, and then, we can pray as to whether that is the one You have for us.

Lord, give us patience. As long as a Godly person does not come across our paths, let us be patient as we wait. Let us be filled with The Holy Spirit, thus the fruit of The Spirit of patience. Even those who say they are Christian, often by no means live like it.... Let us not just grab unto someone because they SAY they are saved. Let us wait for someone who lives their faith out day by day, someone who models Jesus Christ. I pray that You would show us that one with Christ-like character and that is the one will begin to get to know.... all the while asking if that is the one You intend us to marry. If not and before such a one manifests, give us ample patience to wait Your timing in the matter. Show us that waiting is NOT bad, that the wait will fade from memory when we truly meet the one that marries us to our purpose.

Send us someone strong and independent, wholey complete in God. Let us be with a person who is not looking for their "other half" but who knows they are not half a person walking around! Send us someone who is not looking for a SOULmate, but one who knows Jesus as their SOULmate. Send us someone who knows that God, not a person must fill the empty plces inside us. Lord, fill us up with Yourself, that we may be overflowing with Your Holy Spirit, that we can be that WHOLE person that another is looking for.

God, my heart aches for those singles who are obsessed on a particular man or woman or they on obsessed on not having someone. They feel they will never be happy without that ONE person they are fixated on. Or if they have no particular person in mind, they feel they can't be happy single. Lord, show them that happiness is a state INDEPENDANT of another. If we are waiting for another to make us happy, it will NEVER happen. For if that person does something that disappoints us, we will be sad. If that person does something we like, we will be happy. Our emotions will be a roller coaster based on whether that person is being nice or mean to us at the time, doing what we like or don't like at the moment.... That puts that person in control, not God. And God MUST be the one who controls us. We must find our happiness in YOU and YOU ALONE. Explain this in a way that they understand to my single brothers and sisters. Deliver them of the "need" for someone of the opposite sex to be in their lives.

I ask and pray these things, in Jesus Name, amen.

~JeriRose~
Finding YOU in 2006 (The Year Of The Double Portion!)


Posted by: JeriRose12

Father, comfort my single brothers and sisiters. Even if we are getting married some day, we are single now, and we need comfort as we wait. Fill us and surround us with Your love. Give us the patience to wait. Let us make You our FIRST LOVE, now and always. When we do meet that special somone let us keep You first, let us worship You only, not that person. I thank You that whether single or married You give us grace to endure. We don't have to go out and do what we think will satisfy and fulfill; we can trust and rest in You to satisfy and fulfill. I thank You we need not grab someone who shows interest in us, just because we are desperate. I thank You we can have the strength and patience to await the very best that You have for us....even if that very best is to remain single until we leave earth for Heaven. I thank You that Your grace is sufficient for us no matter what state we are in -- single or married. I thank You we can learn to be content in this state we are in now. Lord God, may we BE ANXIOUS FOR NOTHING regarding not having a member of the opposite sex in our lives to spend our future with. In everything may we bring our prayer and supplications to You that we may have the peace that passes understanding. Lord, I have found Your peace regarding my singleness. Bring that peace to my single brothers and sisters. I ask and pray, in Jesus Name, amen.

~JeriRose~
Finding YOU in 2006 (The Year Of The Doube Portion!)


Posted by: JeriRose12

Father God, encourage the singles among us. I pray they will clearly understand that single does not mean insignificant. Remove from us that desire and idea that without a partner we are less. I pray that we will focus on loving You and making You everything.

It is not easy, and I speak from experience. So give us strength for each day to stay strong on the resolve of not just grabbing the first or next person interested in us....unless that person is Your will for us. I pray Your very best is all that we will settle for. NOTHING less! Help us in this endeavor and to this end.

In Jesus Name, amen.

~JeriRose~
In YOU in 2007


Posted by: JeriRose12

I am so glad the Lord means so much to you. It is SUCH a hard place to get to....Prayed through many years of being desperate for someone and the hormonal urges as well. Today, I am becoming WHOLE in Him, and I do believe He has promised me someone, yet I know I won't be happy with that person until I am totally happy in God.

Lord, bring singles to wholeness and complteness in You. I pray for their deliverance from all the temptations and issues they struggle with. May they hide themselves in Shadow Of The Wing Of The Almighty, so they are not affected by the ungodly ideas about singleness that swirl in our world. Let them seek YOUR FACE and nothing else and no-one else. Put them in Your Glory, so that they walk in such mighty power, nothing in this world can deter them! Let Your Glory flood them and flow out of them everywhere they go. Bring them to their destiny, that Destiny, first of all, being YOU. Draw a group (of singles) unto Your side that is a strong, end time army, active in service for You. Renew us in our sense of destiny and let us move towards it with unswerving devotion. I ask and pray these things, in Jesus Name, amen.

~JeriRose~
In HIM in 2007


Posted by: JeriRose12

I honestly can not imagine waking up in the arms of an earthly man.... I like waking up in Jesus arms. I pray for every single to come to the place where Jesus is enough and they quit wanting someone. Jesus is the most precious gift one could EVER have, yet I know so many singles who can not grasp this or are clueless about this. They think a PERSON can make them happy (even if they have come out of a bad relationship). They are just looking for someone....but forgetting that Jesus is supposed to be that Someone!

To all singles: a person can not make you happy, satified, whole or complete. Only JESUS can do this. Stop searching for this in a person, and start searching for this in JESUS. A person can not heal you; only JESUS can!!! Jesus has GOT to be first, has GOT to be our priority! We have got to STOP replacing Jesus with people. We are called to love the Lord our God with all our heart, soul, mind and strength....NOT a person. Yet, people say as to how they love someone with all their heart....

Father, bring these truths home to the hearts of single Christians. Let them put YOU first, ALWAYS!!! In Jesus Name, amen.

~JeriRose~
In HIM in 2007


Posted by: JeriRose12

Lord, really and truly be my significant other. Because sometimes I do want "him" too much, this person I feel You promised me. And even if you have promised me someone, YOU have to be THE ONE for me. I can not let him be more important than You. I pray You are always my first love, always my top priority. We learned in church today that where it says to hate our family members, this word means to love in a lesser way than we love You. Our priority must be YOU. I pray that it will be. You know the struggles. You know the longing for that someone I can talk to and share with. . . .Let me find YOU to be that Someone! I ask and pray, in Jesus Name, amen!

~JeriRose~


Posted by: JeriRose12

Thank You, Lord, for being my significant other! What can I say but that it is a WONDERFUL relationship! Teach this to all Your single children, and let them still have You as their TRUE significant other even after they marry. I LOVE You, Lord!!!

~JeriRose~