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grandfathers suicide
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Posted by: faithnhim
I would like to ask you all to help me pray for my gradfather...my Paw Paw. THis is an unusual request because he has just passed. I am so very concerned about him and his salvation. He was such a loving, gentle person. He was so strong and handled every problem that ever came before him with such pride, dignity and strentgh. I guess that is why it was so hard for him as he became ill (congestive heart failure) in his late 70's. He didn't have his independence any more and he couldn't do the things for us...his family...that he felt like he should be able to do. He so badly wanted to be there for us..solving our issues, fixing our problems, and loving us unconditionally. He didn't want us taking care of him because..in his loving mind..he was the one who should take care of us. He didn't want all of his and my grandmothers money to be spent on his medicines because he wanted my grandmother to have what she needed in her last years. These are his reasons for committing suicide last month..not out of his own weakness--but in his view out of strength and love for us so that our lives would not be changed by attending to his needs. Needless to say we wanted to love him until his last "natural" day on earth--we would have done anything in this whole world for him. He was the rock of our family. PLease understand his mind thought he was doing this out of love for us. I am so worried for him now. I think that he is saved by grace--not by works--therfore even though he could not ask for forgiveness for this sin his soul should still be in Heaven right? No matter what our views, I ask you to help me and my family pray for his salvation even though it is after the fact. I know that prayer works and even at this late point I want him to have all the prayer possible. Could you please also pray that my mom and her siblings be given a sense of peace concerning my Paws Paws death. They loved him greatly!! Thank you for giving me a place to turn to with all of my difficulties and needs for prayer friends.
Posted by: JeriRose12
This is a horrible time you are facing -- devistating. But we only have our life time to decide "Yes" or "No" concerning Jesus. Once someone dies, we can not pray for their soul. He already made that decision of whether to repent of his sin and get saved before he died. I know this is painful, but this also Bible truth. The idea of praying for someone's soul after they die is not truth. I will not give you false hope or pretend otherwise. There isn't really a gentle way to say this.... 
Paul said that when he died, he went straight to be with the Lord. There is no in between time, after one dies and before he goes to heaven or hell. Prayers now can not save his soul.
The Lord can comfort you all, and for this I pray. It may be tough go for a while; I know that it will be. Look to Jesus to comfort You. All I can say is, it's like the "Footprints" poem. At such times, even though we aren't aware of it, Jesus wants us to know.... these are the times He carries us.
~JeriRose~
Finding HIM in 2006
Posted by: Rachel R
Oh, dear Nikki, how tragic for you and your family.
I am sorry to say that we make our decisions in this life and nothing can alter that for him now.
Praying for someone who has passed is not the right thing to do.
I would pray for the living and thank God for the time you had with him.
I always grasp on to the hope that they may be with the Lord.
Remember: God isn't trying to keep people OUT, he is trying to bring them IN.
Lord, I come to you in prayer for Nikki and all who were impacted by this.
Hold and comfort them and please use this to help others come to know you.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Posted by: horsegirlmegan
Dear Jesus
I pray that you will
help Nikki and her family
in this tragic time.Let them know that you are with them
every step of the way.
In your beautiful name I pray
Amen
Posted by: christythompson
Jesus
This is a terrible loss
Unnecessary...
Wrong
Painful.
God I lift this family up to you.
I pray they heal from this enormous pain
and all the unanswered questions.
Lord I pray for Grandma
and the lonliness she feels
being abandoned
Money means nothing to her, being alone.
God let someone in her family take her in
so that she is close to the love ones
she has left...
God you would have provided for them
and made a way for them
to have their needs fulfilled
God forgive the lack of faith
and let no one fall into the same.
You will make a road
where there is none
God fill them with that trust
God I know you are merciful.
We can not know the choice of Grandpa's heart
not can we change the end result
for we are each saved by our own choice.
We can say, Take this father from me...
Take the pain, the worry, and we give this burden to you.
We can make the choice to walk in faith
and hold close to you
Hold close to hope