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At Last A Praise Report

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Posted by: Genna

Well a shocking turn of events to which the Glory goes entirely to God!

Raymond has not yet moved out, I was sick all day Saturday, because the kids were fearing his departure and both left home for time away. Nicole went to the movies to see "Little Man" with Heather and Midget went to Joe's house just to hang out. Raymond left and announced that he was going to meet "Uncle Bubba" (His brother Noel) to get his van. My heart sank!

Now the kids are gone and I'm home alone and I didn't want to be there when he left! I cried and cried and talked to God and said PLEASE change this please.

Well Raymond came home (NO VAN PLT) and he said where are the kids (DUH... you gave Nicole money to go to the movies) and Raymond is at Joe's. So we sat together on the porch and talked and I yelled at him for smoking, and he looked at me and said I know, this is the last pack and YOU should talk, I said I know. So for almost 45 minutes we chatted and laughed... and then his cell rang and he got all stupid on the phone, giggling and acting like a child and then apparently the flavor of the week said, what are you doing and he said just sitting here talking to "THE EX" and I looked at him and said loudly, "DON'T you ever call me that again" and quickly he said I'm sorry, I really am, he hung up the phone and then about 5 minutes later he left to pick up his truck (which had been in the shop since Monday) He came in and I was leaving to get midget, I asked him to hang out for a few minutes as Nicole was on her way home, he asked me if we were going to church tomorrow and I said yes why? he said No reason. I told him to be safe and I'd see him later and left.

Well when midget and I came in Nicole was home with Heather and he had left, for the night. I tossed and turned all night long and the Lord woke me up many many times to pray for Raymond and I did so. Got up Sunday morning made the kids breakfast and headed out to church, service was great and I got prayer directly for my family and felt so much better. When I got home I pulled in the driveway I noticed that my stove was outside in the driveway. So we went inside and he bought a new stove! (PTL) he was all excited that he installed it himself and I was all excited that I had a new stove! As the day went on Naturally I was feeling like the bottom would be dropped out from under me at any moment. so I went upstairs and laid across my bed and I was praying and midget came in asking me if I could take him to the store so I did, came back and resumed my position on my bed. NOT 10 minutes later, Raymond called me and said "Gig (his pet name for me) tell the kids to be outside in 5 minutes to get the groceries" I said ok. Well let me tell you that Raymond hasn't bought groceries since 08/04! Well we unloaded 270.00 worth of food (PLT) , mostly meats, all on sale so we got tons! Not only was I shocked the kids were too! Raymond bought food that he would eat ONLY if he were staying at home! (PTL) And said to me, leave my chicken breasts in the fridge and I'll take care of them when I get home. I said Ok...

Then Midget said to him we are still going to the game tonight right dad, he said yup! So Raymond and Midget went to a local minor league baseball game (midget got free box seats) and off they went!
Midget came in all smiles he said we had a great time and dad even ate a sausage with peppers and onions! Raymond chatted with the kids and I for a few minutes and then I said I opened your chicken and placed 1 breast in a zip lock sandwich bag and stacked them in the fridge is that ok?, his eyes popped wide open and said that's what I was going to do! but yeah great thank you!

He said good bye to the kids and left for the night, said he was going to his "Friend's house"
Then one of the pastors at my church called me "just to check in" and I explained what was going on and how the Lord moved Raymond today and she prayed for him with me over the phone...I finally finished the laundry and went to be when at 12:45 I was JOLTED out of my bed with PRAY real loud. So I flew up and began to pray, went down stairs, smoked a cigarette, folded the laundry and went back up stairs, hit my knees and finished praying for Raymond. Then I prayed for ALL, all those standing and running...when I felt finished I asked if I could go back to sleep? and no kidding within minutes I was out like a light until 4:30 where I did the entire prayer again!

I told you about the stove, I told you about the groceries... well last night he came in and I was putting dinner on the table for the kids and I said to him, Real hot out there. He said yup it is. I said You know what would be SO cool? he looked at me and smirked and said What Gig? I said how about you take me for a ride on the motorcycle. He said NO... and headed up stairs, so I followed him and we kept going back and forth (in a joking way) then he is back down stairs standing in his boxers (OMG>>> :-) ) in the kitchen ironing his shorts and I started washing the dishes. He then said ok, 1 ride you got seconds to be ready! I shut that water off SO fast, flew up the stairs and got dressed, Levis, ankle boots, clean shirt, brushed my hair and was standing in his face with helmet in hand BEFORE he had finished ironing! So off we went out there together riding for 2 1/2 hours (WOOHOO) It was beautiful. He knows I'm horrified of the highway on the bike (first experience was REAL bad) but I was prepared, I just knew thats where we were going so I prayed. We get to the on ramp and he grabs my knee and pats my leg and I held on completely smushed up against his back... (LOVING IT) and I stayed there praying...

We came in last night and while I was in the shower he split, I was hoping he'd stay at home but one day at a time I guess right?

So hows that for a praise report!



That's my update... what do you think?


Posted by: christythompson

I think You are hanging on to straws of kindness
because you have had so much pain
I am so sorry for your pain.
I think you are "still" letting him have his cake and eat it too.
He doesn't respect you any more than months ago.
He is happy with his dual life

I pray for him to be saved
Without Christ he is still hell bound
I pray you keep your kids faithful
to the Lord during this time


Posted by: JeriRose12

I think you need to set boundries. If he was talking on his cell to "the flavor of the week" and told her he was spending time with the ex.... It's time to say, "You can not have both of us! Choose!" If he chooses to leave, let him go. He can not have TWO of you. He must make a choice. As long as he can take advantage of BOTH OF YOU, he will. Someone has got to stand up to him and hold him accountable. Someone has got to say, "No more -- or the door." Don't allow him to conitnue such irrespposible behavior. Definitely, don't let him have sex with you. You could end up preganant (and he will leave you with yet another child) or with an STD.
Also, you seem to be telling your children such behavior on his part is acceptable.

Do not be desperate. The only one we are to be desperate for is God. You must seek and pursue GOD, GOD ALONE, not a man. A man is not and can not be the source of your happiness. Don't you see what is happening? When he treats you "right" (or the way you want), you are happy. When he treats you wrong, you are sad. You are allowing this man to control you and chose your emotional state. DO NOT allow him to control you in such a way. God ALONE should control you. First, you are upstairs crying your eyes out, then you are on the bike ride, all happy.... See, how he is controlling you -- or you are letting him control you? As long as this dance continues, your emotions will continue to go up and down on this roller coaster ride. Only you can determine when this is going to stop.

It is OK to pray for your marriage to be healed, but don't accept these disrepectful actions of Raymond as the answer you are praying for. Only when he has quit having affairs and is totally committed to God, you and the marriage is it evident that the marriage is healed.

Pray, rather, that YOU and the children get healed and whole. The individual comes before the marriage. God can only make the marriage work, if the indiviuals are whole. Being healed and whole would REALLY be something to praise the Lord for!

Here is what God did to His wife, Israel, when she was unfaithful:

This is what the LORD says:
"Where is your mother's certificate of divorce
with which I sent her away?
Or to which of my creditors
did I sell you?
Because of your sins you were sold;
because of your transgressions your mother was sent away.
(Isaiah 50:1)

And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also.
(Jeremiah 3:8)

Here is what Jesus said regarding marital unfaithfulness:

32But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

(It was the action of the one who who was fiathful to put away the one who committed adultery. It is not a sin to divorce him for his unfaithfulness.)

~JeriRose~
Finding HIM in 2006 (The Year Of The Double Portion!)


Posted by: Rachel R

I praise the Lord with you and we will keep on praying...

Rachel R


Posted by: Genna

I dont feel like I'm hanging on to staws of hope, I feel like I'm hanging on to God to restore all that the enemy has stolen.

I Love Raymond and I know that this is not him but the enemy. So many of you have told me to look behind Ray at who is controling him and not to look at him, this is what I'm doing.

I'm standing on the promises of the Lord, I was hand chosen for this task and just as much as I hate being here, suffering and doing this, this way, I know I cant have a testimony without a test!

Thank you all for praying and rejoicing with me!

For my private IM's Thank you! I have printed out the 700 club service and will read it during break!

Blessings All...


Posted by: christythompson

The enemy tempted
but it is Raymond...
Raymonds choices that he will be answerable to God for
not the enemy
so saying its not Raymond is not correct.

This may have come to an end quicker
and your marriage completely restored
if you would demand him to choose and place limitations
on him for acceptable limited contact
because you respect yourself
and want a good example for your kids.
I know that its scary to trust God
with him
but I can't say that you are trusting God
because "You" won't let go.
I said straws because you are reciting
these moments
which are nothing but straws in the big picture.
Anything but 100% is a straw
I can't be excited about a man who
rides a motorcycle with you
and sleeps with another only hours after that.
I want... what you want...a restored marriage
but would love to see you
put your hand in the Lords hand
trusting him truly enough to let Raymond
Go...
without...You... without the kids...
until he comes home 100%

It seems you are afraid to not have these little
moments, little straws to hang on to.
You'd rather cling to this than walk away hands off
and then tell God....I trust you to do the work.

Genna, Why are you afraid to follow this advise?