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PREGNANT & ALONE..NEED PRAYER FOR RECONCILIATION.PLEASE HELP ME!

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Posted by: belongstogod

I am 5 months pregnant with my third child.My oldest is from my ex husband and my youngest and the baby I'm carrying are from my recent ex-boyfriend.We were together for 3 1/2 yrs. and were going to premarital counseling during the summer. In September I found out I was pregnant with our second child and he was very upset as he was not ready or wanting any more children at the time. In late October I found out he had been chatting online with oter women and was trying to hook up with them. I was beside myself because I had caught him chatting on sex sites in May of last year and he swore he would never chat or visit inappropriate websites anymore. Well when I confronted him about the chatting he said he wasn't doing anything wrong because he no longer cared about me. I was crushed and that day we split up. Despite what he did I was still willing to work things out if he was willing to get his act together and go to counseling.... I gave him time to sort through his feelings and didn't bring anything up in regards to us getting back together because I wanted him to know in his heart if he really wanted to be with me.Two weeks after we split up we finally talked about the whole situation. He told me that he had REALLY only started chatting online because he thought I was "snooping" through his things and he wanted to make his point that he didn't approve of that... ( I hadn't snooped through anything. I came across a list of womens user ID's when I was looking for a piece of paper to write him a note to tell him I loved him) Any how he told me that he loved me but he couldn't be with me "at the time" and that only time would tell what the future would hold for our relationship. I was crushed but I clinged to God knowing that He would work all things unto good according to His will. Six weeks have past since we split up.Only his mom and sister know we have seperated and the rest of his family have no clue we are not together or even that I'm pregnant... He has been inviting me places and when we have hung out everything has been great between us but the next day will come and he is very blunt to let me know that we are "friends" and the only reason he calls me is to check up on our son.I am so taken back by all his mixed signals he has been giving me..when we spend time together it seems like he really wants to be with me but at the same time he only gives me enough hope to get to the next day... I am so tired of the run around he's giving me.I don't know how he REALLY feels or what his real intentions are.It's like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. He has been partying alot and I know he has been talking and seeing other women. I love him with all of my heart but I don't know how much more of this I can take from him...I know he loves me but I dont think he's ready for the committment to be the boyfriend and father me and our kids need him to have in order for us to be happy and have a healthy relationship.... It breaks my heart to know I am going through this pregnancy by myself and raising my kids on my own..They are so young and deserve a chance to have the family me and their father never had growing up.Please if anyone has any encouraging words of advice I would greatly appreciate it if you would share it with me as I am at a total loss for what to do anymore other than cling to God!!! Please pray for healing in Mike's and my heart and for God to be with Mike to open his eyes to God's will.Also please pray for all of the negative influences and distractions be taken from Mike's life so that he may see clearly what God has in store for him and our family.Pray for God to reveal His will to me so that I may either move on or hang on to the hope that God is working behind the scenes to bring reconciliation........ Thank you so much for your prayers!I am greatly appreciative.


Sister in Christ,
Stacie


Posted by: Lynn7

Stacie sweetie, God intended us to marry not be in uncommitted relationships. My heart broke as I read your post. God wants you to have more than this. We roll the dice when we go outside of God's word and do things our way. God does not want us to have sex outside of marriage. I am saying this to you speaking from experience (I have an 8 year old son out of wedlock). Yes being a single parent is hard and we have to do the job of both parents. Right now you are a single parent. If you would allow God in He can give you exacty what He has intended. Give it completely over to God and be prepared for what He might do.

Father in the name of Jesus I come to you asking you to move in this situation. Father I ask that you soften both hearts and prepare them to receive your salvation. We know that our blessing starts when we accept you as our Lord and Saviour. Father you know what you have planned for Stacie and Mike. Father I ask that your will be done. Father bless the children that are involved. Keep them Lord. Bless the child that Stacie is carrying Lord. I thank you Lord that your vision far extends what ours does. I thank you for your perfect will Lord.


Posted by: Samuk

I am in agreement with the friend above and life up this family to God. I also think you should not beat yourself up or feel guilty because it will not solve the situation or make it right with God by YOUR doing this. It's not your fault now and you cannot change the past. You need to give yourself a lot of love and forgive yourself and all around you unconditionally though it may seem hard. If God's love can be sent out to all including your boyfriend/ex-boyfriend as much as possible through you despite when the opposite comes into your mind I believe this can solve your problem. Love is the answer in this situation, not anything else. Jesus tells us the 2 greatest commandments are to LOVE ONE ANOTHER and to LOVE THE LORD THY GOD........God stand by this woman. Lord if she has been in disobedience or deceived by ignorance and the Satan, then Lord heal her heart and soften it into repentance for unlove and unforgiveness. Help her to choose LOVE and to choose GOOD which is to choose You Father. It is such a better choice than to choose the wickedness of Satan and his awful tricks and lies and shame. But this shame is NOT her shame o God. It is not her sin she must pay for because JESUS has paid the price on the cross AMEN! Help her to focus on loving and forgiving herself, the man Mike and her children and you so that she knows she is forgiven and can set an example of your life and live in paradise with you on Earth from now forth getting glimpses and moving towards with knowingness. Lord I pray that her boyfriend would see the light now and they would excercise caution in their thoughts so that they are not deceived and make steady progress through obedience to your word and command from now on. Lord by Your stripes these people are healed henceforth. You declare this in your Word. I pray that all wrong thinking be eliminated and that the hearts of all the people involved be changed God in Jesus name right now, right now O God! Let not the eye and the thoughts of the world deceive any longer this family, but let the everlasting eternal love and peace of the Father flow to them and through them if it be Thy Holy Will. Lord you have a plan which is a families plan. I believe that you can restore ALL RIGHTEOUSNESS wherever there is even sin and discord. Do it now O God and let your Holy Spirit of LOVE fill this woman and her family. Lord Perfect Love Casteth Out Fear. Dispel This Fear by these Words in Jesus Christ's name and for His sake in this Amen.


Posted by: sonrise

I was once in your position. I was engaged to be married and found out he had been stepping out. When confronted, he explained he had to sow his wild oats before we married so that he would remain true. He wanted me to wait for him and not see anyone because we would still get married but did not want to be henpecked. That was it, I was not going to be used. Then I found out I was pregnant.

I stuck to my guns and raised my son myself. I learned to take back my self esteem. I learned not be unequally yoked. And I learned it was not my fault for the relationship failing, and refused to let him make me the fall guy.

You have to get yourself together for your sake and the sake of the children. Yes, cling to your heavenly Father and keep focussed on Him. Do not buy the excuses for his (ex-boyfriend) behavior. More than likely from the sound of it, he is addicted to pornography and likes the rush he gets flirting with what should not be. It will take more than councillling to change this behavior. Does he know Christ as Lord and Savior? If not your relationship will not fly as you will be tested daily to remain faithful to your walk with Christ.

In an ideal world two parents are best, yet given the circumstances it is best not to be together at this time.

Unfortunantely, you are finding the consequences of your choices hard to face, yet God will provide a way through. It made me stronger and leaned heavily on Father.

Can you step back from your situation and thru scriptural principals applied and say this is the man God would have me marry at this time or if ever? If you belonged to Christ when you entered into this relationship, you knew his intergrity was questionable. How did you validate your relationship knowing what is scriptural and what is not? Love is not a feeling, it is commitment and hard work, and wanting what is best for the partner,even at the expense of oneself. He has not cared about your integrity as a christian, so I question the love he has for you.

I am sorry if I sound harsh, yet I am concerned more for your relationship with our heavenly Father, then your earthly boyfriend. Your children will benefit more with you in a strong relationship with Christ, than with the boyfriend. You owe your children, to come back into right relationship with Christ first and foremost. They did not ask to be born into this, they were born out of your decisions to ignore Godly principles.

I speak from experience. My son, because of my choices was raised for the first 5 yrs. without an earthly father and he noticed it and asked many questions. I was honest with him and God walked me thru it so that he understood what was appropiate for his age. Then as a teenager we had to face the emotional turmoil that came from my decision years ago. Yes, God brought us thru it, but it was not easy. Yes, I was forgiven, praise God. The ones who pay the biggest price are the children. At what price to your children are you willing continue in this way?

Get back to your pastor and get some Godly councilling. There are many solid christians that will walk this out with you and provide solid support.
blessings!!!


Posted by: mariposa

Stacie, you aren't alone in this. You have God, who is a father to the fatherless and husband to the widow. Mike's online chatting and seeing other women is all about him, not you. You're two born kids and the baby you are carrying need, and deserve you, more than Mike does right now. Give Mike to God and take care of yourself and the kids.

Heavenly Father,
I lift Stacie, Mike and these 3 kids to you in prayer. Whatever Your will is for Mike and Stacie, help them to be the parents these kids need. Give them the strength, godly role models and wise counselors to help them walk the path which You designed for them. I ask this in Jesus' name. Amen.


Posted by: JeriRose12

You want us to pray to God, but are you on personal, speaking terms with Him? In the Bible Jesus says, "My sheep hear my voice, and they know Me." Do you know Him? Your prayers will not be heard by a God who doesn't even know you. There is only one way you can know Him. Jesus said, "I am The Way, The Truth and The Life, no man comes to the Father but by me." Have you come to God through Jesus Christ? The way we enter boldy into The Throne Room Of Grace (as in praying), is by Jesus blood. Are you covered by Jesus blood?

According to how you have lived your life so far, I would say you are not living for Jesus, so I ask the most important question that needs to be asked here: Are you saved? Have you asked Jesus to forgive your sins and write your name in the Lambs Book of Life, so you can spend eternity with Him? This is what most needs to be asked and answered. If you do not know The Father, personally, how can you ask for His help? And you can only get His help through knowing His Son, Jesus.

I am praying, first, that you come to a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ. Only, then, can the rest of your life begin to resemble what it should. In order to move on from your sins into the best possible situation, you need God helping you. On your own, you will just keep floundering and going back around to the same sins. Only Jesus can free you from the law of sin and death. In your own effort, you can do NOTHING. The Bible says, "I can do ALL THINGS through Christ who strengthens me." But if Christ is not your Lord and Savior how can HE strengthen you? When we continue to repeat the same sins, it simply means we have not made Jesus Lord in that area of our lives. God, alone, is your hope of success. And, rather, than just asking us to pray or praying yourself, you need to be in a realtionship with Him, relying on His strength to help you do what's right.

The Bible says if we walk after the Spirit we will not fulfill the deeds of the flesh....the deeds of the flesh would include sex outside marriage. By the Spirit (capital S), I mean The Holy Spirit. You can only get the help of The Holy Spirit by knowing Jesus. Jesus says to his followers, 16"And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Counselor to be with you forever— 17the Spirit of truth. The world cannot accept him, because it neither sees him nor knows him. But you know him, for he lives with you and will be in you." (John 14:16 & 17).

So, I urge you to search the Bible and to ask yourself if you have made that initial decision to follow Christ and let Him lead you. If you just put up prayers to God, with no connection to Him, the phone will not ring on His end. Jesus is our go between -- our phone line if you will. Jesus bridged the gap (which was sin) between us and God. Now, we can have a direct relationship with God and ask for His help and aid, but we have to come through His Son, Jesus. We can't get to God, The Father, any other way, as some religions would lead you to believe.

I am praying that your are really and truly saved. That would be the first step to getting to where you need to go, in order to be a mother who does right by her children and respects herself as she should. You see, God loves you SO MUCH, and He would NEVER want you to be with such a man who has no respect for you and no respect for himself. But this knowledge and wisdom will only become real to you as you learn to love God, then yourself, with the love God loves you with. Once you are loving God and yourself, you will be free to love your boys and put them in the right place of importance.

Without Jesus as Your Lord and Savior, you will just end up repeating the same sins, making your situation worse. You need God's help. You can not do this on your own. Is he The One you are submitting to in every area of your life, as best you can?

Lord God, let The Spirit Of The Sovereign God anoint me....

Lord, I speak SALVATION to Stacie.

I speak HEALING to Stacie.

I speak DELIVERANCE to Stacie.

I speak TRANSFORMATION to Stacie.

I speak JESUS IS LORD to Stacie.

I speak LOVE GOD, HATE SIN to Stacie.

I speak OVERCOMING POWER to Stacie.

I speak WALKING AFTER THE SPIRIT to Stacie.

I speak THE MIND OF CHIST to Stacie.

I speak GODLY WISDOM, INSIGHT AND KNOWLEDGE to Stacie.

I speak RIGHT THINKING and RIGHT CHOICES to Stacie.

I speak NOT MY WILL BUT YOURS (LORD) BE DONE to Stacie.

I speak LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, SOUL, MIND AND STRENGTH to Stacie. Then, she will love others correctly.

In Jesus Name, amen.

~JeriRose~


Posted by: His Image

Father I come into agreement with JeriRose for Stacie and her children. Forgive her sin and help her to cry out to You for Healing, Deliverance and Salvation. Show her Your goodness and bring her to repentance and a real and abiding relationship with Jesus. Thank You Lord Jesus! AMEN!


Posted by: BrendaMagana

Dear Stacie, I can see from your mail that you have still not decided to take up Jesus Christ as your Saviour.

The crucial question is whether the kind of the life you are leading is what the Lord desires for you?

Is this the man the Lord would like you to have as a husband? Or is he the man you yourself wants to have as a husband? Remember the Lord does not approve of sexual unions before marriage.

The advice I can give you is that you invite Jesus into your life to straighten out everything that is going wrong therein. Invite Him to make away for you and the children to lead a life that He destined for you and them right from the begining.

There is no way to sort out this problems except through Jesus Christ.

It is only Him that will instruct concerning the way to go. It is only the King of of kings that can comfort you and set your feet upon a firm rock again. He will patch up your wounds, He will touch Mike's heart and bring about mighty changes in him if this is the man Jehova our God predestined for you as a spouse.

If not, it is also Him that will cause the right man to burst forth into your life at His appointed TIME.

It the Ancient of Days that will also heal your hurting children as well and secure their future.

I challenge you today to roll over the burden to Him. But before you do this, take a bold step and make him the Saviour of your life.

Test Him this way and be assured that we shall soon be reading a hefty PRAISE REPORT from you.

Psalm 32:8- I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye.

John 14:6 Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.

John 15:4-5 Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, except it abide in the vine; no more can ye, except ye abide in me. I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing.

Isaiah 43:18-19- Remember ye not the former things, neither consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert.


Posted by: guardianangel

Stacie,
I will not stand in judgement. I am not your judge. I will pray for your needs unconditionally. The Lord loves you with all His heart. He will do for you what you ALLOW him to. He is a gentleman, He will not force Himself into your life.

Father, I ask You to draw Stacie to Yourself in love and mercy. Show her what You would have her life to be. Provide for her and her children their needs both physically and spiritually. I ask these things and stand in agreement for her salvation in Jesus Name. Amen.


Posted by: FriendOfGod

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Originally Posted by belongstogod
I am 5 months pregnant with my third child.My oldest is from my ex husband and my youngest and the baby I'm carrying are from my recent ex-boyfriend.We were together for 3 1/2 yrs. and were going to premarital counseling during the summer. In September I found out I was pregnant with our second child and he was very upset as he was not ready or wanting any more children at the time. In late October I found out he had been chatting online with oter women and was trying to hook up with them. I was beside myself because I had caught him chatting on sex sites in May of last year and he swore he would never chat or visit inappropriate websites anymore. Well when I confronted him about the chatting he said he wasn't doing anything wrong because he no longer cared about me. I was crushed and that day we split up. Despite what he did I was still willing to work things out if he was willing to get his act together and go to counseling.... I gave him time to sort through his feelings and didn't bring anything up in regards to us getting back together because I wanted him to know in his heart if he really wanted to be with me.Two weeks after we split up we finally talked about the whole situation. He told me that he had REALLY only started chatting online because he thought I was "snooping" through his things and he wanted to make his point that he didn't approve of that... ( I hadn't snooped through anything. I came across a list of womens user ID's when I was looking for a piece of paper to write him a note to tell him I loved him) Any how he told me that he loved me but he couldn't be with me "at the time" and that only time would tell what the future would hold for our relationship. I was crushed but I clinged to God knowing that He would work all things unto good according to His will. Six weeks have past since we split up.Only his mom and sister know we have seperated and the rest of his family have no clue we are not together or even that I'm pregnant... He has been inviting me places and when we have hung out everything has been great between us but the next day will come and he is very blunt to let me know that we are "friends" and the only reason he calls me is to check up on our son.I am so taken back by all his mixed signals he has been giving me..when we spend time together it seems like he really wants to be with me but at the same time he only gives me enough hope to get to the next day... I am so tired of the run around he's giving me.I don't know how he REALLY feels or what his real intentions are.It's like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. He has been partying alot and I know he has been talking and seeing other women. I love him with all of my heart but I don't know how much more of this I can take from him...I know he loves me but I dont think he's ready for the committment to be the boyfriend and father me and our kids need him to have in order for us to be happy and have a healthy relationship.... It breaks my heart to know I am going through this pregnancy by myself and raising my kids on my own..They are so young and deserve a chance to have the family me and their father never had growing up.Please if anyone has any encouraging words of advice I would greatly appreciate it if you would share it with me as I am at a total loss for what to do anymore other than cling to God!!! Please pray for healing in Mike's and my heart and for God to be with Mike to open his eyes to God's will.Also please pray for all of the negative influences and distractions be taken from Mike's life so that he may see clearly what God has in store for him and our family.Pray for God to reveal His will to me so that I may either move on or hang on to the hope that God is working behind the scenes to bring reconciliation........ Thank you so much for your prayers!I am greatly appreciative.


Sister in Christ,
Stacie


Lord, in your mercy, have Your will and Your way in her life. Please help her to know of your everlasting unfailing love as well as what You command in Your word. In Jesus mighty name I pray, Amen.


Posted by: Rachel R

Lord, I come to you in prayer for Stacie and her children.

I bless them with wisdom and prosperity.

I bless them with health and wholeness.

Please surround them with practical help.

Please show Stacie the way to go.

Please knock some sense into this man's head.

Bring healing and untie the knots.

In Jesus' Name, Amen.

Dear Stacie,

It is old but it is true.

He won't buy the cow if the milk is free.

He is treating you this way because he can.

Please respect yourself and your dear children.

Rachel R



Posted by: Prizm2

I am praying for you and yours. God wants us to pray for ALL the lost. I also pray that once your boyfriend has given himself to the Lord, that our Father will bless you both, and your child, with restoration, marriage, and a legitimate family. Always remember that God is not a respector of persons. It is His will that all be saved and follow Him. Do not despair in negative responses to your situation. God does love you and wants the best for you. Have faith, be faithful, and believe that God loves us all; even in our imperfections. My dear, if we were all perfect, there would be no prayers needed. God is the only perfection. Keep believing!


Posted by: Beverlyjoy

Lord move in the behalf of Tracie and her children. Comfort her heart and give her inner peace and strength. Guide ,lead and give her direction in the days and months to come. Bless her to have a healthy baby,in Jesus name.


Posted by: diamondcreates

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Originally Posted by Lynn7
Stacie sweetie, God intended us to marry not be in uncommitted relationships. My heart broke as I read your post. God wants you to have more than this. We roll the dice when we go outside of God's word and do things our way. God does not want us to have sex outside of marriage. I am saying this to you speaking from experience (I have an 8 year old son out of wedlock). Yes being a single parent is hard and we have to do the job of both parents. Right now you are a single parent. If you would allow God in He can give you exacty what He has intended. Give it completely over to God and be prepared for what He might do.

Father in the name of Jesus I come to you asking you to move in this situation. Father I ask that you soften both hearts and prepare them to receive your salvation. We know that our blessing starts when we accept you as our Lord and Saviour. Father you know what you have planned for Stacie and Mike. Father I ask that your will be done. Father bless the children that are involved. Keep them Lord. Bless the child that Stacie is carrying Lord. I thank you Lord that your vision far extends what ours does. I thank you for your perfect will Lord.


FATHER GOD I STAND IN AGREEMENT WITH THIS PRAYER FOR OUR DEAR SISTER IN CHRIST. ANOINT HER FOOT STEPS DEAR LORD THAT SHE MAY KNOW THE DIRECTION THAT YOU WANT HER TO BE GOING IN. THIS I PRAY IN YOUR HOLY EVER LASTING NAME DEAR LORD, AMEN, AMEN, AMEN... BE BLESS.


Posted by: MarkSentMe

Praying in agreement with the above responses. I cannot add anything to them.

Father God,
You know these two people's hearts. You know the situation surrounding them. I ask You to shine light on the truth. If these two people and their children do not yet know You as Lord and Saviour in their lives, I ask that You send a witness who will share Your Word and the Good News with them. I ask that they seek You in their lives. Please burden their hearts for Living Water that only Jesus Christ can provide. Please draw them close to You and heal their hurting hearts. Thank You, Lord. Amen.

Sharyn


Posted by: diamondcreates

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Originally Posted by MarkSentMe
Praying in agreement with the above responses. I cannot add anything to them.

Father God,
You know these two people's hearts. You know the situation surrounding them. I ask You to shine light on the truth. If these two people and their children do not yet know You as Lord and Saviour in their lives, I ask that You send a witness who will share Your Word and the Good News with them. I ask that they seek You in their lives. Please burden their hearts for Living Water that only Jesus Christ can provide. Please draw them close to You and heal their hurting hearts. Thank You, Lord. Amen.

Sharyn

FATHER GOD, I CONTINUE TO STAND IN THE GAP OF AGREEMENT FOR THIS COUPLE DEAR LORD. BLESS THEM WITH GRACE, MERCY, LOVE, UNDERSTANDING, RESPECT, COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, CONSIDERATION,HAPPINESS. THIS I PRAY IN YOUR HOLY EVER LASTING NAME DEAR LORD, AMEN,AMEN,AMEN... BE BLESS FAMILY OF GOD,FOR THROUGH HIM AND WITH HIM ALL THINGS ARE INDEED POSSIBLE WHEN WE CALL ON HIS HOLY NAME.AMEN!!!


Posted by: Forgiveness23

I stand in agreemnt with ALL THE PRAYER WORRIORS. I will also like to know how your doing. Seeing that you havent post anything..