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So many arrows are hitting me
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Posted by: magdalene
Not very long ago, I requested intercessory prayer for my troubled home situation. My husband of less than a year, started a new job in November of 2006. He works in a metal manufacturing company around alot of younger guys, some of which are not married, others are. They are pot smokers, stop by bars on the way home from work, and are less than desirable's for a 48 year old married man to associate with.
Last year, my older son asked to move in until he could get his life together and gain some footage toward a better job. He, has wasted this year, smoking pot, working at low paying jobs, refusing to go back to school and my husband has tried to encourage him to move into a trade that will be with him throughout his adulthood.
I'm caught up in the crossfire, and believe that out of my husband's frustration with it all, has begun seeing another woman, one from which a friend at work has possibly introduced him to.
First of all, I've stuck by my husband, helped him at every interval to build his career to what it is today. He makes very good money, which he did not before he met me, and is very selfish.
He has been very cruel hearted to me in the past few months, shows me no affection at all, even after I try and come to him.
How could a person hold my hand and pray the sinners prayer with me less than two weeks ago, and turn around and be so hate-filled to his wife.
I believe someone has involved themselves in my marriage, they have seduced my husband, and he has fallen weak out of his frustration and sick warped mind. He is obsessed with cars to the point that he is worried that our cars will not run and talks about it incessantly. My nerves are very very very bad, my stomach stays sick, I have not been on blood pressure medication in over a year, and I've had compounded stress on me as a result of all of this and I'm actually scared that it's going to escalate in a major health problem for me, if something doesn't change quick.
I'm working from home and really trying to deal with this and I pray oh how I pray but I just don't know what to pray for anymore. I love my husband, I want him to be the way he used to be, he's so obsessed with money, cars...and he's changed into something that is very ugly. His mouth is filthy and everything I say he trys to turn into an argument.
Please help me get a breakthrough, I feel like there are battalions of demons attacking the very core of my being, my home, my husband and my children...and me. This is a request from the bottom of my heart and the depths of my soul for the power of prayer through this board.
I am very afraid, actually, I'm living in the terror of what could happen next...as I feel like every minute the worse has already taken place....if there is more, I don't know how I can take it, in the state of mind that I'm in right now. I've tried everything I know...have asked him to be honest with me, and I am having a difficult time believing him....and he thinks I'm a basketcase because he says he is not cheating on me.
Please Please Please help me break through this horrible thing that is happening to me and my family.
In Christ
Posted by: Rachel R
Magdalene, your first responsiblity is to get that son out of your husband's house.
Your nerves and panic are contributing to the chaos.
Can you get some help, some counseling yourself?
Please try...
Lord, please give her the courage to do what she needs to do.
Rescue their marriage and heal their lives.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Posted by: Lynn7
Magdalene,
Have you asked God to reveal to you? Have you been quiet and allowed Him to answer? Are you prepared for the answer that He gives you? Sometimes it so much easier for us to want to change others but it is us who God wants to deal with. I tell you this out of love...if you ask God to work on you. To build you up as a wife than He will work on your husband. Also remember that when you marry your foresake all others. If you have a grown son that is coming in between you and your husband you must rememdy that situation. Remember that everything must be in order...God, your husband, your children....
I am praying for you
Posted by: Rachel R
She said it SO much better than I did!
That's what I was trying to say.
Start with you and get peace IN the storm.
It will be hard to send out your son, but it will help him also...
Still praying for you, magdalene...
Rachel R
Posted by: FriendOfGod
O dear Lord I ask that You would break this bondage that is taking a hold of this family. I ask that You would intervene and interject. Please convict this husband of his wicked ways. Please deliver him from sin. Please have Your will and Your way in this marriage and family. Please by no means allow any more to happen to this dear wife than she can bear. Please give her hope in the midst of this storm. Help her to keep her eyes focused on You O God. I ask of You in Jesus mighty name I pray, Amen.
Posted by: magdalene
To all of you that have considered my family and I in your prayers, I thank you very much. The events have changed drastically concerning my son, who will be moving away in the next few weeks.
Last week, my ex husband's wife passed away, but not before I had a chance to meet her for the first time. She had been suffering from Cancer for over two years and died in her sleep only days after my visit.
My older son was very young when his Father and I ended our relationship, and his absence from my son's life caused my son alot of pain. His Father is the apple of his eye, so to speak, and last week he attended his stepmother's funeral which is in another state, and has decided to move in with him. Although I will miss him, I feel that is where he should be, as his father needs him right now and I know that deep down he wants to be with his Dad. I feel very hurt and sad for the events concerning my husbands wife, that have resulted in this move so suddenly, but I know that she is in a better place, free from the horrible suffering I'm sure that she endured for the past 2 years. Please pray that my ex husband will be comforted at this most unfortunate loss of his wife of 18 years.
My husband and I went for a drive Sunday to visit my younger son, and it was rather nice. There are still problems with his inability to open up and show affection, but I love him, and pray that God will soften his heart, heal him from past hurts and wounds that I feel he is carrying deep inside. There have been a few moments, which he has shown a twinge of tenderness, so I know that your prayers are breaking through this stronghold.
Please pray that my blood pressure will be alright as I am having extremely high elevations, and I don't have a medical doctor in this area yet, as we are waiting for our insurance to come into effect.
My husband seems to think that all of my worrying about my son's has contributed to the extreme blood pressure elevation, but little does he know that I have been stressful over his actions as well.
He works 2nd shift and when my older son leaves in a couple of weeks, I will be alone most of the time. I will then, have no family here, and my other son is 2 hours away. My husband doesn't want to leave his job because he makes good money, likes his job...but said he would consider another job if he could get a day job that would offer him a closely compatabile wage increase with overtime. For some reason, it seems that all of my life that men to include my Dad have always worked at night and now at this stage of my life, I need companionship...and due to my age, and health I do not want to be left alone. I'm not sure if I'm being unfair, selfish or not. Just very alone in this place.
Posted by: Forgiveness23
Dear Lord, I pray for magdalene's health. Please get her through this hard stage of her life. Take care of her son when he goes and lives with his dad. Please I ask that you help her husband find a day job so both of them can be together in the evenings. I also pray that you will deliver her husband from sin. Please Lord I ask that you help her with her health. Thank you Lord..
Posted by: Rachel R
Do I understand that you are asking him to give up his job to stay at home with you?
Maybe I misunderstood.
Lord, I thank you for moving her son out of their home.
Please bring their marriage into a new season of love and caring.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.