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Husband and Marriage need diviine intercession

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Posted by: Desiderata

I have been married almost 8yrs. For the most part the marriage has been filled with grief. My husband is verbally abusive and controlling. He is a recovered alcoholic in the sense he no longer drinks but he is a dry drunk. Meaning his temper is as if he was drinking. He is very short fused and just down right mean. Three years ago we separated and I was starting to move on. It was his choice to leave. A couple months later he came to me filled with sorrow. He'd started going to church (on his own!), had quit drinking and was attending AA and Overcomers in Christ. He took total responsibility and was the husband I had prayed for. For close to a year I had the man back that I married and life was happy. He listened to me when I spoke and we prayed together. However, the devil struck and his work hours began to interfer with his recovery meetings and then on top of it all our church ended the Sat night service (he worked Sunday) and things began to spiral down. Things have gotten increasingly worse. My husband has come close to cheating or possibly has. I am not sure. He tells me he only wants to stay married for financial reasons and treats me as if I have the plague. No matter what I do it is never good enough. I could breathe wrong and he'd start screaming at me. I'm so tired and sad over what has happened. Our marriage needs prayer desperately or I'm going to have to give up. The stress is taking a toll on my health. Please pray for my husband to be drawn back to our Lord. That the light of Jesus shines on my husband and he realizes how he has turned away from the word. Pray that he draws near to Christ and that he remembers his commitment to his marriage and the love we have for one another. If you could pray for my peace and wisdom in all of this that the Lord guides me in the direction he wishes me to go if I am not to stay married to my husband so that I can move on and let go if that is what I am to do. I very much appreciate your prayers as this is all that is left to save my marriage. Thank you


Posted by: Christian Commando

Desiderata-

Speak to your Pastor about re-instating those Sat. Services and speak to him about approaching the AA group if can start an extra meeting or change original ones to another time for your husband's sake.

People need to know when help is needed when changes have interfered with the helping of those in need. Surely something can be worked out to give him the support needed to return to recovery.

Your husbnd may be seeing as his suport net is collapsing, an inabilitity to hold out on his own. He's right. He needs God and the support of the Church fellowship and recovery team help. I know, I'm a recovered alcoholic and drug user myself. And God has used me in return, to help those who were caught in the same bondages to be delivered.

Where bondages are strong, they are very difficult to overcome on "man's" end of it. A severe trust in Christ and someone tangible to help support them be forever rid of the bondage is sometimes needed.

Yes, he screams and yells at you, yes, he has a short fuse, but thats from fear of dropping back fully into the darkness and being lost for good. Any other actions he's taken that are not of God, may be side effects of trying to put aside the original problem.

Remember what the Apostle Paul declared, that he lovingly and by God's Grace, accepted the stripes of his service for God, knowing he was doing it for Christ's suffering being greater for him, than his was for Christ.

Paul still loved all people, but he kept in mind, the battle was of the spirit, not the flesh, therefore, he knew these people were influenced by Satan, not of thier own. And so those attacks were against God seen in your marriage, not against you personally.

You will need to be in close prayer with God, to know if God wants to keep you two together yet to work this thru, or seperate you for a time to help you both individually. This does not mean divorce, but a time away from each other if you cannot handle this situation. You need to stay focused on God and Christ, to keep in mind how to deal with your husband, and seek God's Strength to hold out or let go for now, as God guides you to do.

Do not go according to your feelings or emotions, but as God would have you do. Faith is a belief in things unseen. Therefore, you must have the faith by belief, God can and will work this out for both of you as He knows best, and you must set your mind to accept this as already answered.

I know for the tough times you are suffering ths is hard, but it must be if you desire it to be an obstacle overcome in God thru Christ and by the Holy Spirit.

Lord-

We pray for this husband, that you remove all temptations of Satan and put a hedge of protection around him. That you would replace this darkness with your Light thru ways he can recieve the support and be at peace once again to know you are answering his cries for help. Give this wife the peace, love nd compassion she needs to see the desires answered for this marriage and her husband, that this marriage could be an incredible testimony of your healing, deliverance and love for us and what you bring together will not be torn asunder. In Jesus Name- Amen!!


Posted by: Desiderata

Thank you for your response. The church will not reinstate the service. I'm not sure my husband would go even if it was...He has totally walked away from AA and any support group claiming that he doesn't need any of it. He says he is cured. I believe my husband may be bipolar and that was what caused him to turn to alcohol. There is more to this then emotion and feelings though I admit mine are very hurt. His words are very mean and cruel and they have been against my children (his step children) which is something I can not tolerate even though my sons are now in college and no longer living at home. My blood pressure has been out of control and I am not a likely candidate for high bp. The doctor has told me I need to make changes in my life or I am going to end up having a stroke or dead. I'm sad and tired and want to do things God's way but this is just to hard on me much of the time. Nothing I do is right and the smallest mistake can cause me to be cussed out and verbally abused as if I had killed someone. If I put a dish in the dishwasher in a way he doesn't like he will scream at me. I'm not sure these are stripes that God really wants me to tolerate. My husband needs our Lords touch and guidance that he be reminded of the word and nudged back to where he belongs. I'm trying to stand for my marriage but it is getting harder and harder as my heart is aching more and more for the husband I use to have who seems to have totally disappeared. On top of all of this I believe my husband has cheated or is near cheating. Sigh... Prayers for my husband are very much appreciated. Thank you


Posted by: BrendaMagana

Father God, in the Name of Jesus Christ I claim the blessings listed in Deuteronomy 28:1-14 for Desiderata.

I command her husband and marriage to line up with Your powerful Word.

Bring this man back to his knees and to close fellowship with You.

Lord may the blessings contained in Your Word bring love and harmony essential for re-establishment of a stable marriage and peaceful home.

Ancient of Days, may Your Word not return to You void. Grant that it shall accomplish that which You please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto You sent it.

In the Name of Jesus Christ. Amen


Posted by: rainbow788

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Originally Posted by BrendaMagana
Father God, in the Name of Jesus Christ I claim the blessings listed in Deuteronomy 28:1-14 for Desiderata.

I command her husband and marriage to line up with Your powerful Word.

Bring this man back to his knees and to close fellowship with You.

Lord may the blessings contained in Your Word bring love and harmony essential for re-establishment of a stable marriage and peaceful home.

Ancient of Days, may Your Word not return to You void. Grant that it shall accomplish that which You please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto You sent it.

In the Name of Jesus Christ. Amen


Standing in agreement for this husband and wife and their marriage. In the name of Jesus i pray, amen.


Posted by: eagle4him

Lord only You know what is best here: best for each person. Lord, not our will but thine be done, in Jesus mighty name.