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Please pray for marriage restoration
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Posted by: Adrian Paul
My wife Sarah is so adamant on divorcing me, she was raised up in a Christian family and her parents are in no way in agreeance with her ending our marriage. I emigrated here from England, we have known each other for over 4-1/2 years and been married for 2-1/2. We had a few fights along the way and during that time I did get physical with her on several occasions. I accepted that I was very wrong in my actions, I am in no way a violent person we just struggled to communicate at times and she was very verbally abusive towards me. Her parents had us sat down together Feb of this year and she wanted to leave then but decided we will try and work this out. We have been counselling once and it was real hopeful, she does not want to go at all now and I just cannot understand why she does want to end the marriage without even trying counselling. I have recently found out also that she has been cheating on me and I have valid grounds to divorce but I do not want to because I love her so much. I have told her this and she does not want to listen or believe me. I am crushed and heartbroken, she is so cold and her heart is so hardened at the moment. Since she left me to stay with her parents I ran towards God and I have got so close to him, Sarah on the other hand has ran the opposite way. Please pray for me and my marriage, it doesn't look hopeful but I know with God anything is possible. I just want Sarah to find her way back to God, she is so far away from him at the moment she is making terrible choices and only God can fix this and our marriage. My prayer is for me also so I have the strength to trust in the Lord throughout this. We have both made mistakes now and even though she has commited adultery I forgive her of her sin as Jesus forgave me. Marriage is sacred and a commitment and promise to God and with that alone I stand and fight for this mariage. It is very hard at the moment because she is going out and staying at this male friends house and Satan is prowling over me waiting for me to react. I am clinging onto God through all of this but it is very, very hard. Her parents have been so supportive to me and they think she needs this time to see that I have changed and grown stronger in the Lord, I agree to some extent but it does not take the pain and suffering away. Thank you so much for listening and any advice or prayer I would really appreciate....God bless!
Posted by: Christian Commando
Adrian Paul-
She has at some point, lost her "first love" for you in the marriage. Something has hapened that she is no longer sure if wants to stay married to you. She cheated on you and marriage and God, because she is looking for that, in others, she is not getting from the marriage now.
This needs to be found out first, what she seeks, and if wants to honestly try to make marriage work. The fact God shows, as His True children, we still battle the "carnal nature" in ourselves, shows we still can be attracted by outside influences when the situation is right.
At this point, it might be better, since you've both demonstrated some negative reactions and both are strained in communicating, you each get seperate Christian Counciling, in order to work at ending or changing individual negatives evidenced in your relationship over to positives, and be reading God's Word on marriage relationships and seeking the Holy Spirit for guidance of each of you to raise you up as the mate God wants of you, not what you or her want of the other and be taught how to be forgiving, accepting and loving of each other and ech other's faults.
Lord-
We pray you would intercede in this marriage and restore the "first love" they had, both for you and each other. Drive off Satanic influences towards negative actions and reactions and speech, that outside attractioons shall not be noticed and all thier attention be turned to Glorifying you and edifying each other. In Jesus Name- Amen!!
Posted by: eagle4him
Adrian,
You are responsible for you thoughts, words and actions. So is your wife. You cannot do anything to change her That is the Holy Spirit's job. In the meantime you must dedicate yourself 100% to the will of God for your life. You are not responsible for what she does to you, but you are responsible for how you react to it.
Forgive her from you heart. Pray for her that God would touch her life and prosper her in everything she does. Turn her over tto the Lord completely.
Get yourself grunded in the word of God and regular attendance to a Bible based church. Seek support from men of God warriors of the faith.
Lord I pray in the name of Jesus that You would take control of this situation Shake out what needs to be shaken, bring repentance into their lives, and show You mercy and truth through these trials. In Jesus name.