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Prayer for Don and I and remove my husband from the o/w house and bring him home to u

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Posted by: ltny

Hello I am new to the form. My husband and I will have been separated for 1 year on December 16, 2006. He has been dating and living with his girlfriend since March of 2007. It's been terrible. He met his girlfriend from his mother's job and she and my mother in law are freinds. His mother and family has no respect for our marriage and his mother has a hold on my husband. So does his girlfriend. Lately through God prayers my husband heart has change but this woman seem to have some type of hold over him. He came to visit the kids and I on thanksgiving and as soon as his girlfriend called he lied and told him that he was going to the store and that he was sleep that's why he didnt answer her phone call. Well right after that he left our house w/o saying goodbye. Needless to say I have forgiven him and we have talked since than. His mother told me she doesn't want my husband to come to visit our house and he does w/o her knowing. He is not allowed to pick up our son and take him to his mother's house because he is afraid what his mom, girlfriend, and family might say. He also says he doesn't want to come back to the marriage however when it's time for us to be together intimately he comes around. I fulfill my vows as his wife not because he want's to but because I want to as well. Everyone calls me stupid but I love my husband and want him back. I am standing for the restoration of my marriage eventhough I was the one to ask him to leave due to him committing adultery a year ago with another woman. My husband asked if my son can come to his house for Christmas but I do not want my son to spend Christmas with the Taverna. Mind you she and I have peace orders against one another. She lied in her police report and said I tried to beat her up with a deadly weapon which was a lie. I truly need your prayers. I have been binding and loosing my husband from this woman to no avail. Please somone agree with me. I know my marriage will be restored in God timing because God's delay doesn't mean God's denial. I just cant understand why he is still living with this female and calling her house his house and that is where he is staying. My husband use to go to Church when we first got married in 2004 and then suddenly he stopped going. Please pray for him. His name is Don.


Posted by: Christian Commando

Lord-

We pray that this turn around that was first seen would be complete in this husband's heart, to come back to his wife and you would strengthen thier marriage and and thier conviction for each other and for you. That these worldly attractions be cut off from him and replaced with that which Glorifies you in all things. In Jesus Name- amen!


Posted by: JeriRose12

If he is having sex with this other woman, you could be endangering your life. Who knows who else SHE has had sex with and what kind of STDs she might have, thus that your husband could get and bring to you? So, you need to consider your safety above all.

By allowing him to have sex with you and HER you are hurting your cause. As long as you allow him to have you, he is probably going to do so, but because you refuse to give him an ultimatum, he will keep having her, too.
You aren't given him any good reason to quit having two women at once. It is like you are condoing what he is doing.

What kind of example are you setting for your children? They will think that his behavior is perfectly okay because you won't tell him he can't have both of you. You have far more things to consider right now then your "love" for him. You have children who need to know the clear mandates of scripture regarding marriage and sex.

What is love? Love is wanting the best for the other person. Is it best for your husband to get sex when he's with you? He obviously thinks he can get away with what he's doing, because you won't stand up to him and demand the respect you deserve. It can still be in a gentle and quiet way, but you can make it plain that he isn't going to get cake at two houses.

Here is what the Bible says about love:

4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8Love never fails.
(1 Corinthians 13:4 - 8)

I do not see anything in the above passage that says you have to give your husband sex to prove you love him. Though by your own admission you do it because you "love" him. I think it's not the kind of love from 1 Corinthians 13, but an eros kind of love, an emotional kind of love.

Even God divorced his people when they were unfaithful to Him (see Isaiah 50:1 and Jeremiah 3:8). I am not saying for you to divorce your husband, necessarily (though, this is Biblical grounds according to the words of Jesus). I am saying that you it is not a proof of love for him to give him sex right now.

Your ultimate concern for your husband has to be his relationship with God, not his relationship with you. As long as he is separated from you (as his sex with another woman proves), you can be sure he is separated from God. Your concern seems to be in keeping him (and yourself, too, since you obviously enjoy sex with him) happy, not in seeing him get right with God.

I suggest you abstain from sex with your husband as a fast before God. Tell God you are serious about him getting right with God. It is only when he gets right with God, that he will even consider kicking the other woman out of his life once and for all and getting right with you. God has to come first on your level of priorities and on his. As long as he is allowed to continue getting cake in two houses, he will see no reason or need to change. He has it too easy. He will not look seriously at the SIN he is comitting until someone makes it plain to him it IS a sin.

Dear Lord, I pray this husband will love the Lord his God with all his heart, soul, mind and strength and will love his neighbor (wife) as himself. Show him plainly his need for You. Send a mighty hand of conviction of Your Holy Spirit over this man. I pray his wife will be of help in this, by saying plainly to him that what he is doing is wrong and that she is cutting off his sex supply from her end. Let her stand up to him in a gentle and quiet manner, that shows love and respect for herself. I pray she knows that God prizes her too much to let her continue being used like this. Give her a HUGE dose of self respect. Let her know how to say "No" to him, regardless of how much she craves, desires or wants sex with him for whatever reason. I pray it is plain to her that God does not require her to give him sex to prove she loves him. True love would put his VERY BEST above what she wants. Help her to know his very best is NOT in having two women. I pray, God, that you will show this couple all the ways and areas they are off and wrong in the way they are approaching You and this relationship. Bring healing and restoration to YOU, first and foremost, then to each other. I ask and pray these things, in Jesus Name, amen.

~JeriRose~


Posted by: KishahasFaith

You will be in my thoughts and prayers. I feel your pain Im going through a similar situation however my husband is living with his mother. We share custody of our son who is only two years old and this whole thing has been extremely hard on me as well. I am standing for my marriage as well and I can assure you that this is the right thing to do. It is the right thing to continue your wifely duties. It may seem wrong to the world but the world is not who we have to face. however, i would pray about possible STD's etc. I would use protection whether its visible or not. THis is something you and you only with the help of God can continue to do or choose to stop. I just gave my opinion from God's word in the above statement about wifely duties. Keep the faith. Stop worrying about the other woman(I cant believe Im saying that). I know it is hard but ask God to restore you as well as your marriage and pray for your husband for EVRYTHING! Also ask God to recognize your downfall(as we all have them) and help make you the wife you want to be and that your husband wants you to be. Something I have learned not too long ago is..Win him without words. Let your faith and your committment to God shine through and not only will it be visible to him, his mother, the other woman, but to the world. Be blessed and I will continue to pray for you!

Kishahasfaith


Posted by: KishahasFaith

Just wanted to clarify my previous post. Nowhere does it say that you have control over your body(sexually) when you are married and seperated. Now if you were divorced that would be a totally different thing! Be blessed and let these post be an inspiration but foremost follow the word of God!

Kishahasfaith

1 Corinthians 7:4 (English Standard Version)

English Standard Version (ESV)
The Holy Bible, English Standard Version Copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a division of Good News Publishers.


4For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.


Posted by: ltny

Thanks for your replies. I will earnestly pray and take your advice to prayer


Posted by: Christian Commando

ltmy-

Your quite welcome for the prayers and sharing. But heres more understanding.

Sometimes, God will allow us to go thru trials, that in the end, after He brings us thru them, we will be stronger in Him, the situation will be muc better than was before and Blessings go beyond that which we expect if hold out with faith and patience in God.

And whatever way God decides to take us thru trials, we may not understand, but need to trust, believe and know, as He tells us, we will be Blessed more if do so for Him thru trials.

God Bless!!